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[awordifyouplease]

For the ones who are into more severe and extreme impact play, don’t forget that soaking your rattan or bamboo canes in water for several hours provides a heavier swing and greater flexibility, thereby rendering the impact more severe and extreme ❤️

[awordifyouplease]

If you have any questions or would like more understanding about things, it doesn't seem unreasonable to assign homework. Perhaps it's an essay about how his cock works (so you can gather knowledge on how to best manipulate him), his thoughts on reward vs. punishment, or a self-analysys relating his kinks to his past and how he discovered them♥️

[awordifyouplease]

In the warm summer months, there's no reason your fun might extend to the backyard. For example, instead of having him shower, you can lead him outside by a leash and instruct him to bathe as you hold the hose and taunt him♥️

[awordifyouplease]

If you're feeling like eforcing your abject power in the relationship AND pegging him, it's enjoyable to restrain him so completely that the only option available is taking it like a good little set of holes for your use. In this respect, planning tension on parts of his body that can be stretched to their limits using rope or chain attached to some piece of equipment guarantees any movement will be more unpleasant than the overall abuse you imagine♥️

[awordifyouplease]

Aaaahhhhh summertime fun...

Restrain him outside in the heat off the day, naked and in full sun. You're safety minded after all, so you make sure to alternately Slather him in sunscreen like it's a marinade and he's a juicy steak (giving gentle, extra attention to the most tender parts making sure you don't accidentally squeeze out the juices😈) , then frequently cool him down with icy water from the hose so he doesn't overcook♥️

[awordifyouplease]

FLRs can be weird, and if you're confused, I can understand, but consider this:

Nothing says 'I love you' like immobilizing him, removing his cage, and slowly, torturously edging him while you watch "The Great Muppet Caper"

♥️

[awordifyouplease]

It's not always easy to put our best energy into everything, but FLRs offer many oddly desirable tools to that end. If you're mad at him and you know it's not his fault, try banishing him to the closet, playroom, dungeon, what-have-you- and giving him coursework: captioning pictures for you; writing how he would like to see the conflict play out; researching new things, or seeking out porn (residually if it's other than his usual) to watch together♥️

[awordifyouplease]

There’s a lot to digest, so start with one thing at a time. Set aside an hour, one night a week in which you discuss issues you’d like you see corrected or improved by strapping him tightly to a table or stool and speak clearly about your thoughts while emphasizing certain points with the punctuation of a swinging paddle, cane, or strap❤️

[awordifyouplease]

Well. As a person with experience in this realm, it’s lovely to find publicly accessible information to support what I have always known.

[awordifyouplease]

If you fancy roleplay, consider a simple direct reversal. You strap one on and be the man, wear a pair of jeans and a wifebeater, or a suit with a tie you can use to restrain him and a belt that can be a leash and collar or strap. Or both.

She’s going to be caged and done up in sexy lingerie, maybe stockings or fishnets. You can make sure the makeup is as much or as little as you like.

Now here’s the fun part: think about all the things that felt bad, were demeaning, selfish, callous, or inappropriate.

Show them to him(her)❤️

[awordifyouplease]

I’d really like a full-time lifestyle FLR with chastity, sph, cbt, behavioral training, corporal punishment and humiliation. I’m not sure, but petplay sounds so demeaning and hot… A little feminization and forced-bi and bi-encouragement, even if it’s only roleplay and imaginary ‘bulls’ in the form of huge toys that are bigger and better than me.

Only problem is our busy lives and demanding jobs make it hard to establish a baseline. Do you have any advice for me? For my Goddess?

This is so common an ask- frequent and very real- and even the most experienced lifestyle players have trouble sometimes.

I definitely recommend setting aside a time to discuss everything clearly and openly before anything else. Make sure you’re aware and understanding of each other’s goals. In the meantime, use the understandings you share to act on your own as a pathetic bitch slave with a caged clitty might do. Work some submissive behaviors into your everyday displays of admiration and service, like preparing a massage or footrub, pedicure, or make a nest with supplies for Mistress’s ‘private time’ and include favorite toys, fresh fruit or snacks, a cocktail… and queue up a video clip that matches her tastes.

Make up a sample schedule of everyday actions that display your desire for subjugation and wish to serve. Present it to her and request review and guidance. Take on as much as you can handle, and be conscious not to overwhelm or request what may feel like more effort than schedule allows.

Communicate, and be Safe, Sane, and Consensual ❤️

[awordifyouplease]

From a follower:

I was wondering if you have any suggestions for FLR couples who have busy lives add have a hard time fitting play and lifestyle into it? Thanks so much

This is a common bump in the FLR world. Since I don't know you or your schedules, I can give some vague tips:

Plan times on weekends or days off. I know of couples who transform into lifestyle practicioners at the end of the workweek, then resume normal life at the beginning of the next. If you like dress-up, roleplay, or power dynamics, change into your maid uniform or assume your lifestyle role, keeping in character all weekend.

I recommend some simpler possibilities for weekdays:

Chastity? Edge him three nights a week; more if you can

Plan at least three or four nights of sleeping apart- sub in it's 'quiet place,' and Dom[me] in bed with toys, etc.

Plan set or specific days for acts of service, with punishments and rewards, accordingly. Massage, foot rub, and more edging.

You've got to work it in somehow, outer it gets stale, disappointing...

Good luck!♥️

[awordifyouplease]

Consider planning and scheduling weekly chores, tasks, and acts of service for yourself.

For example, you could choose Tuesday for spa treatments, like massages, pedicures, or finding a hot candlelit soak waiting. Wednesdays could be dress-up. Maybe Thursdays are movie night and an on-call, uniformed servant. The final day of your work week might be when you are guaranteed privacy- whether brief like a siesta or complete like relegating him to his ‘quiet place’ leaving the bed at your disposal alone. Sundays might be housekeeping and maid service for him, while you may choose to masturbate in front of him, Chase after him with a crop, or interrupt his work to be your chair

[awordifyouplease]

Edging can be tedious and sometimes time consuming, and it’s the most effective and reliable tool in your FLR arsenal. In order to reap the full benefits, consistency and frequency are key, but those benefits far outweigh the inconvenience. My personal opinion is that 20 minutes is sufficient two or three times weekly, but when Dommy is needing, there’s no reason you can’t do it as often as…you want to feel certain things, like the power of saying no, coercing obedience, or behavioral changes, or if you simply want to get off while making him suffer❤️

[awordifyouplease]

If you like your plaything well groomed and smoothly shaved, don’t forget that snuggly fitted clothing helps provide friction that Keeps hair thin and short between shaves, including thongs…❤️

[awordifyouplease]

1.) Dom, but I love feeling the forceful, capable manipulation of a dominant man from time to time

2.) Pup once gifted me an entire month of complete service and subjectivity to my experimentation. He spent it in corresponding attire of my choosing and endured the tasks and treatments without question, even the ones that he didn’t enjoy.

3.) I would love to take him, caged, to a glory hole, fully feminized in makeup and a wig after removing every last trace of a hair from his body, and watch him suck an unknown dick as I berate him and force his throat down onto it until he can’t breathe

4.) A gangbang where I’m submissive; I’d be tied up; maybe four big, muscular men with big, fat, veiny cocks. He would be knelt next to me dressed as a pathetic feminized sissy, fluff each one before they tore my holes wide, lick their cum from wherever they deposit it, and I’d tease him about how he’s incapable of taking a woman with such power.

5.) He would be a full-time service slave. Rules, chores, on-demand service and tasks would be his entire life. He’d have things prepared for me according to schedule, care for my home, and serve my friends and lovers as a nameless, eager, pathetic ball of shame and inadequacy

@ (Your dream Dom/slave’s handle here)

Let’s try a little experiment.

Lots of the folks seeing this post have partners who enjoy this platform as well. Answer the following questions in a reblog, using the question number to indicate what you are answering. When you’re finished, tag your partner so they can see your answers and share theirs with you. I’ll reblog right away as though I’m answering.

1.) Are you Dom or sub?

2.) What is the hottest, most arousing experience you can remember?

3.) What fantasy is possible in your lifestyle that you would most like your partner to know about?

4.) What fantasy is [probably] off the table, but so hot you can’t let go of it?

5.) If you could have the ideal seed life, even if it’s only fantasy, what 5 key points would you want to include?

Maybe we can let our partners know about some kinks to share together ❤️

[awordifyouplease]

Let’s try a little experiment.

Lots of the folks seeing this post have partners who enjoy this platform as well. Answer the following questions in a reblog, using the question number to indicate what you are answering. When you’re finished, tag your partner so they can see your answers and share theirs with you. I’ll reblog right away as though I’m answering.

1.) Are you Dom or sub?

2.) What is the hottest, most arousing experience you can remember?

3.) What fantasy is possible in your lifestyle that you would most like your partner to know about?

4.) What fantasy is [probably] off the table, but so hot you can’t let go of it?

5.) If you could have the ideal seed life, even if it’s only fantasy, what 5 key points would you want to include?

Maybe we can let our partners know about some kinks to share together ❤️