badbitchesanonymous

[badbitchesanonymous]

you know i don’t think we often talk about how difficult it actually is to suddenly realize that a belief you thought was good and moral and correct was actually really fucking toxic. how you have to look at something and go ‘oh shit, oh i fucked up. oh this is going to take probably years at minimum to deprogram from my brain because of all the little ways this shit pervaded the rest of my beliefs’

so. to all the people picking up all the pieces of a recently shattered world-view and trying to figure out what is safe to keep and what has to be thrown away and started over

to all the people having to relearn how to even listen to other people

to all the people putting in the work to do better while struggling with the guilt that comes from finding out you were the asshole

i’m proud of y’all.

it’s hard to admit being wrong and even harder to change in the aftermath. just keep doing the best you can and just know that the effort is appreciated. everyone can change. everyone can do better. keep fighting.

[badbitchesanonymous]

"Sex is humiliating!!! Love is humiliating!! You have to get over your pride in order to truly embrace love!!!" This frame of thought makes me so mad and I know it's because ive had the wrong kind of people misappropriate it to reframe abuse and r*pe but like... from now on I am never debasing myself for a glimmer of human connection or intimacy!!! Do not fucking touch me. Don't look at me. Anyone who's ever seen me naked should be turned into a deer and ripped apart by dogs

[badbitchesanonymous]

also can we drop the idea women who are sexually assaulted are taken more seriously? real life isn't law and order SVU. a cop called my mom hysterical when she called 911 due to my dad with a record of violent rape trying to get in our house. they fucking sided with him every time. people only care about women being raped when they can make a political argument just like with child abuse.

and even though this post mentions a very personal event it's ok to reblog

[badbitchesanonymous]

My therapist is going to connect me with a sexual violins support group and told me to read the body keeps the score. And also to buy a calico critter

[badbitchesanonymous]

I'm in here I'm in here!!!

[badbitchesanonymous]

There's a really freeing and radical aspect of being casual 'indecency'. Like yes I'm not wearing a bra and everyone can see that but like it's nothing special. Everyone has boobs. My body is normal and quotidian. Quite boring actually. Grow up and get over it