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Strict Chastity

Here is a post from altarboy’s website. The author seems to have lots of experience with chastity. She recommends starting with a YEAR of lock up.

http://www.tpe.com/~altarboy/nt080109.htm

The Wives’ View

Submitted by: Mistress Angela

Chastity is something that Mark, my husband of 12 years, and I have had an interest in for some time. It became an important part of our life five years ago. I work in the insurance industry and have to travel a lot. He often has to work long hours. We realized that our sexual life was fading away. After Mark gave me a strong nudge to consider using chastity for him, I decided it was worth looking into almost anything to put the spark back into our marriage. Since Mark was an executive at an engineering firm, I let him do the initial research on finding the right chastity device, while I put a lot of effort into researching how to make chastity work for us.

I have always felt that being well informed about something enables you to do it well. Whether you are reading this to help you do your own research on chastity or your partner gave this to you one thing is apparent, you obviously have some sort of interest or you wouldn’t be taking the time to read about the amazing concept of male chastity and its benefits. There is a lot on the internet on chastity including a wonderful commentary by Marie which I took as a starting point, and there are several internet support groups and chat rooms which seem to startup and die down as people move around. I have communicated over the years with over two dozen wives who keep their husbands chaste. I have met several of them in person and the one thing they all agreed on was that the benefits of chastity for their husbands were incredible. It may amaze you, as it did me, to find out that so many men and women use chastity as part of their relationship, really more than you could imagine. There was a newspaper article a while back that stated that well over a million of the plastic CB2000/3000 type chastity devices have been sold. This just goes to show that male chastity is less bizarre than you probably thought and there is a lot of it being practiced, probably by some of your girlfriends. This document is a summary of what I have found out talking with many other women and practicing chastity with Mark for several years. I hope that it will help other wives considering a chastity lifestyle for their husbands.

Before you embark on considering putting your man in a chastity device, you need to ask yourself the following questions. Are you unhappy with how much attention he now pays to you? Do you think that at least part of the problem is that he is paying too much attention to pornography or other women? Has he admitted to you that he masturbates too much? Would you be willing to give up intercourse, if you got a lot more attention including a lot more oral sex? Do you recognize that you too have also let your relationship dwindle over time as he has grown more distant? Are you willing to take control and put in the effort to make your relationship work in a new and exciting way? If yes, you should consider chastity for your husband.

To put this in pop psychology terms, Mars and Venus were attracted to each other, romanced each other and fell in love. Mars and Venus got married. Mars eventually retreated into his cave as men are apt to do and while there found it convenient to masturbate rather than be with Venus. All too rarely does he emerge to pay any attention to Venus. Venus thought that with marriage Mars was hers and that life would be a forever version of their fairytale courtship days. She ignored the advice of wise mothers to daughters for generations that if you want to keep your man you have to keep making him want you because it sounded sexist and not needed in the modern world. What is a wise Venus to do if she wants a happy lifelong marriage? She has to stop passively letting her marriage pass her by. The first step is that Venus needs to take control by keeping Mars from masturbating in the cave by locking him in a chastity device. The second step is for Venus to enthusiastically embrace her biological and psychological role in keeping Mars turned on. The third step is for Venus to get Mars’ problem solving nature focused on how he can please her and for her to stop thinking the answer is to their happiness is to figure out what she can do please him.

To make chastity work you need to first develop a plan and then whole heartedly put it into action. I read a lot and communicated with many others and the strong consensus was that chastity to change your marriage has to be real and not a game. It has to be a 24/7 part of your relationship. 24/7 is the foundation; it is what changes men for the positive because they shouldn’t have the opportunity to control their sexual release. This is one of the areas that the goddess, lady, mistress, keyholder or whatever you prefer to be known as must have absolute control of. Although the woman remains in control it is very important to remember that you and he are still a couple in a relationship, he is still your husband and that shouldn’t be forgotten, your relationship only changes once you close the bedroom door. Life goes on as it always has, employment, financial, family issues and decisions are all still there. Your dominance should not interfere in other areas though you will find he will react differently, often positively, as his feelings and emotions change.

Whether this is something that he initiated, the two of you mutually agreed upon or something that you requested from him – one thing is a necessity, there needs to be something for him to gain. He is giving up something that is a very important part of a male’s life, his sexual abilities – and for that you need to realize that he should be rewarded as you will be, but obviously in a much different way. You know the things that he likes, that arouse him and put a smile on his face. Often times we find that these are things that really do not interest us but considering the sacrifice that he is making you too can make sacrifices. Like marriage, chastity needs mutual rewards and often you will find those things that you reward him with will lead to an increase in his being aroused and enhancing his over all demeanor. It could be giving massages or trying sexual things that he likes but you never desired to try. You know how to dress to turn him on and you need to find out his fetishes if you don’t know them already and indulge them. All of this will heighten his happiness and arousal. He is making a permanent change in his lifestyle and you too may need to make some permanent adjustments so that he feels things are fair.

All men, given the ability, masturbate and way more often than most women think they do. This is something that is difficult for him to control and even more difficult to part with. Young men have an abundance of testosterone so masturbation doesn’t seem to interfere with their pursuit of young women. However, as men grow older masturbating usually translates into the husband ignoring his wife for at least a couple days. Chastity puts a stop to the masturbation and works in many ways; it changes his mood, demeanor and libido. Most importantly it changes his desire to please you. It is not the goal for him to do the cooking or the cleaning or the laundry but you will find that it will happen, not routinely but it will happen because as he continues to build up his sexual energy that he no longer has the ability to release as he pleases he will divert that energy towards pleasing you. Your being the source of his sexual pleasure will change his feelings, he will adore you, love you in a way that you desire and he will be eager to please you because you are, as I said, the source of his release. He will find, over time, he is happier and that will be because you’re happier. He will love the emotional boost the two of you share.

How to do it, that is an extremely important decision. Developing the correct plan, one that would work for my husband, was the most detailed part of the research process. By taking the advice of many other women, I was able to put a well informed plan together that I was confident that would be successful. I followed this plan from day one and still, do to this day. I have found it works. At least a dozen other ladies have also utilized variations on this plan successfully. We must always remember that sexually we are always in command and that first and foremost we will always be sexually satisfied. This is the cornerstone to happiness for both you and him. Keeping you sexually satisfied is your husband’s job. Mark does so anywhere and anytime I say and by any means that I demand. His not being able to experience the pleasure of an orgasm only means that I experience many more than ever before.

You may think that this works only to your advantage and that is a common misconception. It is just as advantageous for him. He must keep you satisfied to eventually get his release and every time he satisfies you he is happy because he has made you happy. It is important to instill to him that his primary means of sexual gratification will be through yours. Eventually every time you experience an orgasm he will have a sense of sexual satisfaction. How you will accomplish this I will explain in a moment. What could be better, your being pleasured any way you like and experiencing wonderful sensations. He can not have an orgasm but he feels satisfied because you are and he will maintain a high libido. Although you’re still equals outside of the home you are the queen of the bedroom and he is your slave. To enforce that you do have a certain amount of control it is important that he is forced to do and maintain a change in his appearance, something between you and he. This must be something that would be embarrassing for him when out in the general public so it should be concealed. Generally something under his clothes; replacing his underwear with ladies panties or requiring him to wear a girdle if he is overweight are popular examples. Some of the women think that a man’s feet are best, easily covered or uncovered based on your orders and modifications could be removed when you feel it is necessary and reapplied when the time is suitable. In my case, Mark wears a gold ankle bracelet and must paint his nails with clear polish except for occasions that I instruct him to do something different. With the exception of work and exercise he must wear whatever footwear I designate. High heels are a particular favorite since he likes these on me and he looks so funny when he tries to walk in them. I find this does absolutely nothing for me sexually but it re-enforces to him the fact that I am in control.  

Achieving your desired results is easier than you might think. It is an empowering experience. Depending on your situation there will be differences but there are parameters that should be followed to achieve the greatest results. The most important step is always the first one. This is where he is made to understand that you control his sexual pleasure from this point forward. Most of the women I have talked with agree that it is best to lay out the terms of your new relationship with him in the strongest possible terms. Most favor a written contract, which I followed, so there is no room for confusion. My terms and the consensus advice from those women I talked with are that he agrees to having his penis pierced and permanently locked in a chastity device of your choosing, that you alone have the power to grant him an orgasm and that you may decide never to allow him to have another one, that he agrees perform all services, domestic and sexual, that you request, that he agrees to being disciplined in any way you deem appropriate, and that because he is locked in a chastity device that you may need to find other people to meet some of your sexual needs. Anything less than this and he has either not admitted that there is a problem, that the solution has to be permanent and completely effective, or that he has to give up total control of his sexuality and yours to you.

Your having other sexually partners or cuckholding as it is called is a controversial issue. A couple of the women I communicated had long had many partners in addition to their locked up hubby. A couple of bisexual women had female partners but only their hubby on the male side. A nice arrangement if your proclivities run in that direction. A few of the women have had a fling or two and maybe their agreement with their husband made them more comfortable doing this. Most of the women I talked with, though, did not carry on with other sexual partners because once their hubbies were locked up they were getting all the sex and attention they could ever want. Some of them do tease their husbands about the possibility of seeing other men. A few of the women I talked with volunteered that if things had kept going like they had been in their marriages they would have to had sought out an affair because they felt so unloved.

It is almost universally held by women who seriously practice chastity for their male that initial enforcement of chastity should be at least three months of continuous wear without relief after you go through the break in period of getting a device that fits. Preventing him from having an orgasm for three month period may seem a bit harsh but it is paramount to your success as it allows his body and mind to adjust to the lack of masturbation and sexual pleasure as desired. Enforcing the first three month period will allow him to get in to the proper frame of mind and make him understand your desire and your commitment and your determination to his being chaste; it will also give you the chance to develop the strength to say “no”. He should be made aware of the time frame immediately upon his being secured in his device, this allows for a clear understanding of the initial commitment of time. If he is at all uncooperative during this first three months, you should add additional time to his lock up. I gave Mark a one week extension as a warning about whining about getting out and a one month extension the second time he more bluntly told me he needed out. After that there were no more incidents but I was seriously considering three months for the next offense. I tend to agree that with the more experienced women that I talked with that you can not be too strict with respect to the initial lockup period if you want to achieve the triple goals of getting yourself past feeling that it is your duty to give him orgasms, getting him focused on his new role of pleasing you, and your becoming comfortable with being in charge. If you haven’t achieved these goals then lengthen the time. In retrospect, I think that I came down hard on Mark and added the extra month because I felt myself falling into the trap of feeling that I had to let him have an orgasm since I saw him so frustrated by the chastity device. I am glad that I did. When I finally let him out it was on my terms.

After my experience and talking with several other women, I have come to strongly hold the view that it would be even better if the initial chastity period is set at one year with further extensions for any serious misbehavior. After three months of being locked up your hubby would be willing to do almost anything for a release so in that sense the chastity device will have done its job physically but mentally some men can hold out for three months and bounce back to their old ways once you let them cum and they expect future orgasms on a regular basis. He will have signed a contract with you saying that you can deny him permanently but believe me there is a big difference between telling a man that he can have an orgasm at the end of three months and telling him that it will be at least a year. A year’s time horizon puts an end to all the fun and games and excitement he may associate with chastity. It makes your agreeing to lock him up permanently the very serious proposition that it is. A year’s initial lock up tells him that you are committed to making your relationship work long term and that once he hands you the keys there is no turning back. A chastity lifestyle will be very hard on him initially and a year without a release will make that very clear to him. You will have put a permanent end to his days of masturbating behind your back. His life will never be the same after. Rather than pleasuring himself when he wants, he will become dedicated to pleasuring you when you want it and how you want it. Some of the women I talked with said their males initially back down from their wanting to be put in chastity when faced with a year’s lock up. If so he is not yet willing to surrender the control to you necessary to make the relationship work through the use of chastity. Don’t push him, just gently remind him whenever he brings up the topic of chastity that you will only do it on your terms. When he agrees, he is ready. You will need to be strong and keep up your end of the bargain. You too also need more time than three months to explore how make his chastity work best for you. I was counting the days until I could have intercourse with Mark again. If you know it is going to be at least a year you will start to experiment and think about how to train him to pleasure you without worrying about his having an orgasm. When you can do this it will have change the dynamic of your relationship in a way that set you and him on the path to long term happiness.

Upon completing his initial confinement period I assure you that you can give him an experience like he has never had before, this is a reward for the couple. You will have a sense of strength for enforcing it and him for getting thru it. You should make his orgasm a slow drawn out one with lots of teasing. It will be all too easy for him to cum very quickly. You may need to tie him down to keep him on edge but when you finally do let him cum it will be almost too much for his body to handle.

Once you allow him his first release it is entirely up to you how many sexual experiences you allow, how they occur and how the ejaculate is disposed. A very important step during any release period is to ensure that you will get him right back in to his device. Some of the women do this by always tying him down before the device is removed. While this has its old school charms, there are lots of other options. Locking his hands behind his back in a pair of steel handcuffs is a quick way to keep him from grabbing his penis if you are teasing him. I also have a waist belt with a pair of leather cuffs attached which is easy and fun to use. You can get something similar for cuffing his hands to his thighs. A wonderful device called a humbler works well if you want him to have use of his hands to pleasure you. If all you are doing is inspecting penis and making sure the device is cleaned then I just put the handcuffs on one of his wrists or ankles prior to removing his device. Before the cuff comes off he has to be secured back in his chastity tube. I am confident that he would not be willing to go to work with the dangling cuff. Several of the other women have tried this trick and found it works well. The less that you have to worry about his arguing that the device doesn’t have to immediately go back on the more likely you are to take it off frequently which promotes both teasing and keeping the tube and his penis clean.

There were a number of different views about how often a male should be allowed to cum after the initial denial period. Some of the women with younger males let theirs have an orgasm about once a week. I suspect that they were masturbating a couple times a day before this so that once a week is a big reduction. Most of the women I talked to though thought that it was best to strike a balance between keeping them completely denied and giving them some hope of gaining a release. You will need to experiment and ultimately you will need to do what works best for you, recognizing that the less often for him the better. The most common belief was that it was not good to allow their male to achieve an orgasm more than once per month but most thought that his orgasm should not very often be withheld for more than three months unless there was a good reason for doing so. Several women who I have become friendly with though believe that once a year is the right number. Some of the women liked to think about how often hubby could have an orgasm as a small fraction of the number of orgasms they had. A hundred to one ratio was popular but you can pick the number to suit your needs and gets the time between releases just about right. This approach gives him a strong incentive to initiate sex. I suspect that Mark would be unbearable and unstoppable if this was the rule but you know yourself and your hubby and can always experiment.

Some of the other women like to set goals for their hubbies where they be allowed an orgasm earlier than scheduled if a big goal was met. One of the women I talked with wanted her husband to lose 40 pounds. After he completed the initial three month lock up, he was given a mind blowing orgasm that seemed to make all worthwhile to him. She brought him back down to earth by telling him that their relationship was so much better with him locked in his chastity tube that he would now get out only once a year for a release. She then told that she would let him out early one time during the year for each ten pounds that he lost and that for each five pounds he gained he would get three months added on to his lockup. She was thrilled with the results. He got fifty pounds off during the year and got five extra orgasms. Now, he is right where she wants him, fifty pounds lighter and locked on a one year interval with the threat that it will be over two years if he gains back even half the weight he lost.  

Males who had cheated with other women rather than by being chronic masturbators usually got very harsher treatment meted out by their wives. The other wives are quick to talk a newcomer out of any thought of leniency for her husband if had sex with another woman. Several of these males are locked up permanently in some very mean devices with no chance of release ever as a condition of not being divorced. I have told Mark that he is lucky that he is locked up and cannot stray because I now know what can be done to an adulterous husband to make him suffer evermore. He knows he would get the full treatment and then some.

I personally have found that a good baseline is to not allow double digit releases, meaning less than ten per year. You may find that you allow him to be released monthly and then decide that you would enjoy making him go for a longer period. It is alright to suddenly increase the time. He might ask why and you simply need to tell him why; I have responded with “because I am in control of your sexual abilities and I enjoy denying you, the longer I deny you the more you become frustratingly horny and thus I feel a sense of satisfaction”. Right now I am following the advice of several of the women I am friends with to have Mark go an entire year without an orgasm just to see how hard I can push him and how well he can handle it. We are eight months into it now and it has been wonderful. I have really stepped up the teasing and managing Mark takes more time and discipline. The payoff is that I have had more great sex than I have ever had and Mark has become sweeter and more devoted to trying to please me than I ever thought possible. He has done this without any whining since I told him that I would happily add on another year if he did.

The most common question women new to chastity ask is what type of device to put him in. The consensus advice, which now unfortunately now with too much experience I have to concur, is to prepare yourself for some frustrating trial and error to find the right device and the right fit. There is no right device for all males. It is a bit like finding the perfect pair of shoes. The chastity device needs to be custom fit. It has to be comfortable if he is going to live with it on 24/7 and it has to be completely secure and effective if you are going to be happy with it. There are two basic types of devices, chastity tubes and chastity belts. The chastity tubes usually have the tube attached to a ring that goes over his cock and behind his balls. The belts go around the waist. They also have a tube which is attached to the front shield part that forces the penis straight downward. With a narrow tube, a good belt is very effective at preventing erections. Some of belts come with attachment points so you can hook a dildo to the front shield for you to use or to insert a dildo into his anus. The main drawback with the chastity belts is that they are expensive, bulky and much less comfortable than the tube devices for many men to wear. They also need to be sent back for waist adjustments if his waist size goes up and down. Most of the women I have talked with use tube type devices but there are some women with custom made belts by Neosteel (neosteel.de) that love them. I have two chastity tube devices from Mistress Lori (chastitytube.com), a woman on a mission to put an end to male erections, masturbation, and cheating. I have her number 7 which is a short straight steel tube which has a ring that goes behind the balls for normal use, and an acrylic number 14, which I use on Mark when he travels and has to go through metal detectors. Many of the other women have tube devices from Lori. Once you have get the right fit in one of her tubes you could lock your  hubby up forever and he will never been able masturbate again. There are men who have been locked in her tubes that have not been allowed to cum for over a decade.

It was not easy though getting a belt or a tube to fit right. Many of the women have had to go through several devices or alternations to finally get the right one.  A few got lucky the first time but don’t count on it. The best advice here is to be patient and let your hubby put in most of the effort into getting a device that fits right. He is the one who has to wear it all the time. Have trial lock ups until he is ready to be locked down permanently. Don’t be surprised even then if you have to stop a week or two into the lock up to get something fixed or let the piercing tough up some more. If there is a problem take off the device and see if it can be quickly fixed. Sometimes there is just a spot that has been rubbed raw and needs some ointment or the device left off for a couple of days..  If you have to send the device back to be altered, start the clock over when it comes back and you lock him up again. Eventually, the device kinks will get work out. I just wish I had been aware of this when because there were some discouraging times until Mark was able to wear the device without problems for over a month. I slowly came to terms with being able to permanently lock him up and the satisfaction of knowing that his days of masturbating behind my back were finally over.

For both kinds of chastity devices, there are three things to remember. First, his penis needs to be pierced so that a bar or loop can be put through it and locked to the device. Otherwise, as many of the women I have talked to found out the hard way with CB3000 type devices, he will eventually figure out how to pull his cock and whack off behind your back. Once he can do this chastity is just a game for him. It is not real and he not you is in control. A lot of the women I talked to balked initially at getting their husband’s penis pierced. Some of the women were turned off by the thought of the pain in having it done or by the look or what they thought it would feel like inside of them. Not a single one of women I talked with regretted having their hubby pierced once he had been securely locked down tight in the chastity device for a while. Getting the piercing doesn’t hurt him that much and if you don’t like the look or feel of the piercing jewelry then don’t use him with it in. I just leave the rod from the chastity tube on the table next to the device when I take it off. With the device off, Mark has two small holes on the underside of his penis that are not very unnoticeable when the rod is out.

The usual comment I got from many women I talked with was that they were sorry they had wasted time playing around with toy chastity devices like the CB3000. They felt a sense of betrayal when they finally figured why chastity no longer seem to be working – their hubbies had figure out how to secretly pull their cocks out of it and have fun on their own. The advice of the other women when this sort of cheating was uncovered was always to take the male to get pierced immediately and then to lock him up after the piercing was fully healed for a year rather than three months because of the dishonesty. That is was one of the ways several of us started to notice how much better a year’s initial lockup worked than three months.

You can get him a Prince Albert or PA piercing which is a single hole (6 or 8 gauge) through the underside of his penis and out though the pee slit or a frenum piercing (6 or 8 gauge) which is sideways piercing on the underside behind the head of his penis. Both have their advantages and problems. A lot of men do not want to get a Prince Albert piercing since they now spray pee out of the bottom hole as well as the slit. This means always having to sit down to pee but they will have to do this anyway since they once they are permanently locked up in a chastity device. I think the women of the world would rejoice if all males were chastised and no more toilet seats were left up. A PA piercing is almost painless to get and heals fairly quickly although it can be painful for him to pee the first couple of times afterwards and it can bleed a fair amount for the first couple of days. It is best to wait at least three months to make sure it is healed before putting the chastity device on and, if it seem tender then after some trial break in days, you might need to wait a month or two longer.

The frenum piercing that Mark has is less conspicuous than the ring that usually goes through the PA since it is a bar that goes through the skin underneath the penis. Its main problems are that it does not heal as quickly and the first time it is done the piercing often does what is called migrating. That is it moves forward through the skin until it breaks free or has to be taken out because it will break free. This happened to me with Mark and several of the other women I talked with had the same experience. The usual suspect for causing this problem is putting the chastity device on before the piercing has fully healed, but I think that having the first frenum piercing migrate out is almost inevitable for many men. Fortunately, he can be pierced again with another frenum behind the first one. The second one is usually charmed. It is likely to hold if you wait about four months until it is fully healed since scar tissue from the first frenum usually prevents the second one from migrating. I think that I might have gone with a PA if I had known about the problems the first frenum caused even though Mark was very reluctant to get a PA.

The frenum though does have three advantages. The big one is that inflicts much more pain when his penis tries to become erect than the PA. This is because, as the penis gets hard, the frenum rod digs deeply into the bottom of the penis right behind the sensitive head. This makes the deflating pinch a Lori’s tube is designed to deliver much nastier. All in all a Lori’s tube with frenum a much more severe chastity device than one with a PA. Mark has now tasted this property of the frenum many many times and I suspect if given the choice over he would jump at the chance to have a PA rather than a frenum. I have really come like this feature of the frenum though because I don’t want to Mark to be able to hard at all even in the confined space of his chastity tube unless I decided to let him. I also think that a frenum helps to reduce your hubby’s wanting to be all over you physically. This is a problem most women have once he is in chastity which is a little odd after years of little physical affection from him. This problem has to be dealt with by your being firm about what you are willing to allow and where. When I deliberately tease Mark, I sometimes pull the frenum rod out of the chastity tube as a signal that it is ok to now try to get an erection without being punished for the effort by the frenum rod. You don’t need to worry though because the tube will still stop the erection from going very far and increase his frustration. One of the women I talked with, whose hubby had a problem with his PA piercing, got him pierced the second time with a frenum and put him in a tighter Lori’s tube. She said that with his PA tube on he still looked at porn all the time, although the PA tube had prevented him from successfully masturbating so the porn just made him hornier. The much greater pain the smaller frenum tube inflicted on any attempted erection, however, put a stop to his porn habit. Another upside of the frenum is that the PA bar can have a mean pinch for some men if their penis shrinks too much but the pull on the frenum is quite mild if the tube is short enough. The last advantage is that the two holes that the frenum rod goes through will close up much like an earring hole if it is not used whereas as the PA hole is more or less permanent. This would not be an issue for me now that I have seen the benefits of permanent chastity and would never go back to letting Mark freely masturbate. It might be though for a woman who initially wanted to try out a serious chastity program but was not sure it was going to work.

One of the questions that is often asked is what should you do during while the piercing is healing. During the first month his penis should not have sex of any kind but after that it is ok with a condom. You can use the time period when the piercing is healing to get him started on pleasuring you. Some of the women also bought a CB3000 chastity device to help get the process started of hubby’s being in chastity started. This seems to work well. The CB3000 will toughen up the skin behind where the teste ring will fit on a Lori’s tube and if you get him an insert for CB3000 from keptforher.com or luvtolock.comit will be very difficult for him to pull out and almost impossible for him to get his penis back in. These inserts can cause edema or swelling so I don’t think they are a good long term solution. I have a CB3000 with an insert and it works well for a few days. I still use my CB3000 occasionally when I want to give him a break from his Lori’s tube without letting him out of chastity. All chastity devices can some time rub spots in the wrong way occasionally so it is not bad to have a couple which fit differently if you can afford it. If you cannot afford a custom fit device it is possible make a CB3000 secure if you lock his piercing to it. This is not good to lock his penis to a chastity device until it is fully healed no matter how much you want to get started. Long term a custom fit device is going to be more comfortable for him to wear and will prevent erections which a CB3000 does not. I think it is worth the investment.

The second thing you need in a chastity device is to get him in the smallest tube his penis will fit in while soft so he can not get an erection in the device. Because a small tube quickly limits the growth of his penis it also keeps the pressure off the piercing. Often the original tube ordered turned out to be too wide or too long because of the male’s optimistic measurements or fear of being too confined. After a while in a chastity tube, the penis has a tendency to shrink a bit which makes the getting the right sizing initially difficult. Males who are what is known as growers, their penis get much larger when excited, are much harder to fit than those who are showers, those whose penis gets hard but not much larger. If you get the tube too small his penis will get fluid retention which is called edema but otherwise, smaller is better. You want him completely dependent on you for getting an erection and a smaller tube will actually be more comfortable after he has adjusted to it. A loose tube can also allow enough growth from an erection that with sliding the tube up and down or using a vibrator on it some males can successfully masturbate.

The last thing is that the device needs to prevent him from rubbing his penis particularly the head. Many males if they can rub the head can cum although it is a pretty frustrating orgasm almost akin to milking and hence not much to worry about except that you want him completely under your control. Chastity belts work best on this account since they completely deny access to the penis. If you get a Lori’s tube or one its competitors make sure you get it with extra bars over the penis head area. I don’t know why Lori doesn’t do this automatically for all of her devices.

Lori does make short device in both stainless steel and acrylic without any hood she calls a wedding ring that attaches with a frenum piercing. Several of the women I talked with have one. Some use it full time and some put it on when they want to engage in really heavy teasing. If you get this narrow enough he cannot get off a real orgasm but can get off what is a very painful version of what is sometimes called a ruined orgasm where his body thinks it is going to cum but then the semen just dribbles out without any sense of relief. I don’t want my hubby to have any access to his penis much less be able to do this on his own. However, some of the women like it though since it tends to make their hubby even more frustrated. Lori’s wedding ring is lightweight and has no teste ring so it is much more comfortable for a male to wear. I have been thinking about getting one but just for teasing since it allows you to get at all the most sensitive parts of his penis without worrying about his being able cum.

From time to time you might find it necessary to punish him for what ever reason, he might refuse to provide you with sexual pleasure as instructed or he spoke to you in a negative and degrading way; there are certainly many possible infractions. The most effective punishment is to increase his time of confinement; this should always be done in at least a week increment but you will probably find that additions of two weeks or a month will be more effective unless you like having him continually testing you which I don’t. As an example let’s say he was tired or in a bad mood and failed to enthusiastically provide oral sex to you one evening. If this happens it is imperative that you do what he would not. Masturbate yourself to as many orgasms as you like, he may then attempt to provide for you but you must not allow him to. After you have satisfied yourself let him know that his refusal requires that he be punished and that you have decided that an additional month will be added to the time that is already required. If he gives you any argument, add two or three months to his lock up time. You could also be creative by locking him up for one month for every time you orgasm and really go to town.

Different from failing to do something is a sort of agitation that many males including mine sometimes get when they are in chastity as a result of their sexual frustration. Most of the time this finds a positive outlet in terms of showering you with attention, but sometimes your hubby will just need to be toned down. Good old fashion discipline in the form of corporal punishment is what many of us have found works well. Almost all the women I have talked with know their husbands are submissive to them but they are not wimps. In other parts of their life they tend to be dominant A-personalities types who exert lots of authority and are often high strung. Many have masochist tendencies as well. You can beat them yourself or it is easy to find a professional dominatrix who will do it for you. If you decided on the latter option, pro-doms are easy to find in most major cities and advertise openly on the internet. Look for a no-nonsense disciplinarian type rather than a sensuous or man hating type. The disciplinarian types almost all believe that married men should be locked up in chastity devices and know that if they deliver a well whipped hubby back to you that they will have a long term client. This has become an increasing part of their business as the number of chastity devices sold increases since some wives no longer fear that the dominatrix would have sex with their husband if he is sent to be disciplined locked up. This is probably the last thing you need to worry about though since the last thing a well established pro-dom wants to do is have sex with a client.

If you think you might be tempted to let your hubby out early have the pro-dom hold the keys until the anniversary of his lockup and tell her to talk you out of earlier relief when you have those thoughts. You can always pick up the key from her for a scheduled teasing or inspection. You can also send him to the pro-dom to have his tube and penis inspected if he complains that he is having problems with his tube. Having her administer severe punishment if the request is not justified should nip this type of behavior in the bud before it gets started. You can also have a girlfriend you trust hold the keys. If you think a little humiliation would do him some good, send him over to clean her house and let her increase his lockup time for less than perfect work. He will never get out.

I use to think that disciplining my hubby was a chore. Now when I beat him long and hard, though, he sometimes just melts under my cane and breaks down and cries. Afterward, I hold him tight in my arms for a long time and then have him go down on me. The feeling I get is hard to describe. It is almost magical. I now feel sorry that most wives will never experience moments of this intense closeness with their husband.

There are times when Mark does something that really makes me mad. When he does I send him to a great pro-dom I found. She usually starts with milking him, because when this happens he always gets at least a month added to his lock up. She really works over and he is always on his best behavior for quite a while after he comes back. I recommend this strategy for any woman who wants to separate out the loving discipline that their husband occasionally needs from them and the serious punishment he sometimes richly deserves, which can be contracted out to a merciless third party.

Prostate milking is a necessity if your male is locked up for over a month otherwise his prostate can get clogged up and his chance of getting prostate cancer increased. Milking causes a release of semen clearing out the prostrate but provides none of the satisfaction of an orgasm. A male is usually even more frustrated after a milking than before because he has been stimulated similar to an orgasm but not allowed to have it. Milking also helps to prevent nocturnal or spontaneous orgasms which can happen if he is locked up long enough without being milked or allowed to cum. You can look at prostate milking as a necessary procedure, a form of punishment or just fun. There are a number of ways to do it and milking is psychological more effective if done with the chastity device on. Some of the women use a rubber glove or anal probe specially designed for the purpose. This works but is slow and tedious. Using a strap-on and taking your man anally also works well if you go at it long enough and figure how to stimulate his prostrate. This is a favorite of many of the women I have talked with. They find it most amusing to orgasm themselves while forcing the semen to drool out of hubby’s chastity device with each in and out thrust. I give it a go every so often particularly when I want some penetration with a great arched doubled sided feeldoe dildo that some clever woman designed.

You can also use an electrical stimulation device. This is usually a quick and almost clinical procedure if done right. It is what I typically do since I usually like to think of milking as something that should be done for medical reasons without even a hint of sexual enjoyment for him. I have a PES unit which requires two attachments to complete the circuit. One of attachments is an anal probe that slides right in with some lube and hits the prostate. The other is a strap that goes around his balls. I put him in a humbler on his hands and knees. Then, I turn up the dials to the right frequency, which I had to experiment with some to find, and the semen just steadily drips out. A professional dominatrix is also usually happy to milk hubby if you don’t want to and corporal punishment administered after a milking is more effective. Prostate milking is a wonderful thing to do and it is hard to over do. The semen drooling out will reduce the male’s testosterone level though so he will be more mellow and docile after the milking. If you think that he is getting testy just put him on the milking stand and pump it out. Many men do not enjoy being penetrated rectally and they all really despise seeing their ejaculate expelled dripped out slowly without any sense of pleasure or release. Milking is a great way of reinforcing your complete control over his sexuality.

There may be times where you feel you have to unlock him to use his penis. Fortunately, there is a way to do this without letting him orgasm by using elamax numbing creme and a several condoms. This usually works but there is always a small risk that he will cum especially if he has been locked for a long time. There are other alternatives that allow penetration without this risk. The easiest is to use is a strap-on dildo. There are two models, the feeldoe and nexus that were designed by women that will give you great stimulation while allowing you to taken him anally. The Tickleberry and Good Vibration’s websites are good places to look. There are also a number double sided penis gags that you can use to ride his face and there is even a dildo you can strap around his thigh. The most fiendish devices are those that fit over his penis. Lori sells a dildo sleeve that fits over her tubes. A chastity tube does not have quite the right shape so it is not the most comfortable ride for you, but if you really want to get to him on the tease side it is hard to beat. He will be a wreck as there is no way the Lori’s tube will let him get erect but his mind and body will just keep on trying. Somewhat better for your pleasure is a new device called Her Delight from the keptforher.com company that makes an insert to help prevent males from pulling out of their CB3000. This device uses the CB3000 teste ring to anchor a dildo that slides over hubby’s penis.This dildo is harder than Lori’s sleeve, but not too hard. Although he can get reasonably hard in it, he will get very little in the way of stimulation that might lead to an orgasm. You on the other hand can keep at it as long you want with no worries that he will cum at all, much less too soon.

Every so often I and many of the women I have talked with want the real thing. To make these rare opportunities for him to have intercourse with you work for both of you, you need to recognize that after being locked up for a long time he will cum with a hair trigger. He is also unlikely to get as large as he did before long term chastity unless you take him out of the tube and get him hard on a frequent basis. You can avoid disappointment if you stimulate him to orgasm in some way other than intercourse when you first let him out of the tube. After he cums give him a Viagra and wait an hour or so before you use him for up. It is good for about three hours or you can give him a Cialis if you want to do an all day thing. Once he has cum the first time and recovered by the time the erection drug takes effect, he will not orgasm nearly as easily and either of the two drugs will get and keep him really hard even if he has another orgasm. Some of the women use their hubbies for intercourse for several days in a row treating the whole event as a single release period before they lock him back up for a prolonged duration.

The big changes that you must make in yourself to make a chastity relationship work is to commit to frequently teasing him, like you no doubt did when you first dated, and to having much more frequent sex yourself. The two can be one and the same thing. Having him perform cunnalingus on you while locked up is almost guaranteed to drive to the edge. Fortunately, for you the chastity device will keep him from going over. Just think the more sex you get without letting him cum the more he wants you. If more women knew this secret there would be a lot more locked up husbands and boyfriends. Remember you have all the time in the world to train him to do the way you want without any need to worry about getting him off. Once locked all he does is fantasize about you. You will need to decide if you want to be the one that initiates sex or whether you want him to. My usual rule with Mark is that I will tell him when and how I want to be pleasured and he is expected to drop everything when this happens. This is clearly a control issue for me but your tastes may differ. One of my friends likes to have her husband instigate elaborate romantic seduction rituals. She never unlocks him during these events but on the rare occasion when he really out does himself, she gives him an orgasm the next day. The bliss point is when you get your hubby to the place he gets pleasure purely from your pleasure without thinking about his cock. Mark is not quite there yet but he is getting there.

There are almost an infinite number of ways that you can tease him. There is the classic tie him down to the bed, take off the tube and work over his cock for hours. Every time you feel him close to an orgasm stop and straddle his face and have one or more yourself. Stay with it as long as you can and you will leave him a marshmallow. You may find that you have to ice down is penis to get back in the tube. Dress up in the way that drives him crazy and stand him at attention nude in his chastity tube while you softly stroke him all over except for ignoring his cock. He will struggle to stand tall as his cock struggles to grow in the chastity tube. Every woman needs to develop her own style. You can keep things fresh by continuing to experiment. It may seem like a lot of work but he will shower you with attention. The hardest thing will be getting that much attention again.

If he doesn’t already, he will want to workshop you as a goddess after you have locked him up for a while. This initially bothered some of the women I talked with who felt their hubby’s new found attention to be artificial. It is driven partially by his newly increased testosterone level but that is what also drove his courting of you. Most often he has agreed to being locked up because he desperately wants to want you that badly again. You need to reciprocate by demanding that he worship you as a goddess but you also need to figure out how to channel his attention in directions that are good and work for you. Those may be very different from his ideas of how he should worship you, but this is an area where your desires come first and you need to maintain strict control if you are going to be happy with the chastity arrangement.

While it is hard to do too much physical teasing, conversation, by far, plays the bigger part. It takes very little energy and allows you to increase his frustration without having to do anything. Telling him what you like about his predicament, letting him know how much you appreciate what he has done to become a better spouse, partner, friend and lover. Let him know how his being chaste turns you on, if seeing him struggle thru sexual frustration entertains you let him know. Maybe you enjoy his not being able to touch himself, whatever it is communicate it. You should also not forget that all of those things that use to drive you crazy like porn and ogling pretty young things can now be used against him. There is nothing like knowing that the chastity tube is really biting as his favorite eye candy passes by. The beauty of a good chastity device is that not only does it prevent him from getting an erection and masturbating but that the device is always working for you. It stimulates him at the first sign of arousal and then quickly constraining the budding erection. You should never miss an opportunity to point things that might arouse him. You might even pick up a copy of his previously favorite masturbatory reading material and thumb through it with him.

It is understandable that there may be days that you want to ignore his situation. It is alright to not care that all the time that he is not no longer in control of his manhood and you can let him know that you don’t. Still you should not let this go more than a few days without making positive comments about his being locked up for you. The main thing if you are going to lock him up is that you need to make a commitment to yourself and him to make this work. I have told women who were thinking about chastity that if they were not willing to take control of the teasing, discipline and the frequency with which they had sex and the effort this entails that they might be better off in their old relationship where he ignored you and you ignored him. There is a way to get what you want but it will not happen by itself. He cannot change himself, but a chastity device and a lot of hard work on your part can mold him into the husband you have always dreamed about.

As the endeavor in to chastity continues you will be able to add ideas and musings to your relationship that you find works well. Remembering the basic principles of how to keep your hubby under your spell will let you, and him, discover chastity’s amazing rewards. Always maintain the upper hand, do those things to show both you and him that your requests are nothing less than a requirement for him. You will never want to let things revert back to his self “lack of” control again. Believe me, the routine is effective and over the long term you’ll not regret it even though at times it seems like a lot of work.

There is an old saying among those wives who adopted a chastity lifestyle because their husbands encouraged them – be careful what you wish for. I think some of the husbands would given a choice go back to their old ways, but none of the wives would. I think that deep down the men are happier because they wanted to be sexually controlled by their wives and now they are. Their new reality is often much different than their original fantasy because it is now your fantasy not his. I know the wives, who stuck it out through the trials and tribulations of finding a chastity device that worked and figuring out how change their mindset from a need to give him orgasms to one of deserving all the orgasms they could ever want, are all much happier.

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How to fully control Your sub in 9 steps

1:  You  need to get into his head.

-Learn his fantasies and what turns him on.  Use this information against him and to Your advantage.

-Find out what humiliates him, and to what level.

-Make him show his loyalty to You regularly.  Reward him, even if it’s just with positive attention when he does.

- Aside from family, close friends and work, give him 0% privacy.  Don’t hide this process from him, make him partake in handing it over to you in ways that demonstrate how he is “losing the privacy.”  

-Make him need You for everything.  Point out how You help him, how You guide him, and how You accept the negative things about him that others may not.

- Hypnosis, especially while they are sleeping can help transfer messages, ideas and ideals about You deep into their faggot head.

2:  Punish him often for everything, no exceptions!

- Don’t let him get away with anything!  When You let your sub get away with something. You are telling him that You don’t care for him and that what he did was ok.

- You can Spank, paddle, or whip him.

- Humiliate him past what is easy for him.

- Long term bondage

- Corner time

- Food restrictions

- Writing standards/lines\

- Write a book report or essay.

- Ground him/take away privileges.

- Wash his mouth out with soap.

- Make him do anything he hates.

- Get creative and make the punishment match the crime.

- Never use separation or the threat of leaving/ending Your control over him as a punishment.  That is counterproductive to the end goal (trust and service) and is detrimental to the faggot.

3:  Routinely discipline him.  This is different than punishment.

- Spank him once a week, just because You can, not too hard, not too soft.

-Humiliate him often.

- 5-10 minuets of corner time a day can do wonders for him, like a sub’s meditation.

- If he is stressed, give him a break and put him in some comfy bondage for a while.  You may or may not want to integrate impact play with this.  For lots of subs, some pain can really help elevate their mode for the rest of the day or longer.

- Routine discipline will save You time and energy in the long run.  You will have to punish him less as a result.

- Taking care of You can be part of his discipline.  Have him do Your laundry, cleaning, etc.

4:  On some level, even if it’s small, keep Your sub horny for You.

- Talk sexy to him.

-Sexualize non sexual things/activities You are interested in. He will see whatever it is You’ve sexualized as such and be more interested/eager to engage.

- Have Your sub do some or all of Your body grooming. This can be Your baths, Your nails, shaving, trimming, waxing, etc.

- Scare him by telling him when and what You’re going to do to him in the near future.

- Send him text messages with orders to do something sexual.

- Make him give You orgasms.  This is different from sex.  This is a service.

- Let him rest on You to smell You as You watch TV or read.

- Give him underwear/items of Yours to smell as he sleeps.

- Hypnosis, especially while Your sub sleeps can help with this too.

5:  Control Your own feelings of guilt.

-      Your sub needs You to be strong “with” him.  You may show vulnerabilities in Yourself for other aspects of Your life. When it comes to him and Your control over him, be firm!

-      Some meanness and cruelty will be needed from time to time to help break Your sub down.

-      Your sub may not want everything You give him/ do to him, but he needs it.

-      Letting Your sub get away with insubordinate behavior because You feel guilty adequately and severely addressing it is weak.  You need to control that shit.

-      Sub faggots need a real man who is close to them to guide them.  Sometimes real men need to show the fag that they are inferior.  This can’t always be done by talking.  And if it is done my talking, the talking can’t be politically correct/kind.

-      Humiliation/breaking him down, teaching him to serve long term, these are all things he needs.  You are filling his needs.

-      Remember, You both need to be happy.  But happiness comes from different places for different people.  If there is communication, and Your sub has communicated that he needs this life to be happy, then You are doing him a service and loving him by breaking him down and controlling him.

-      A good sub is hard to find. Don’t let the guilt of giving him what he needs stop You from doing so. What he needs may be overwhelming for him and he may break. If he does be there for him.

6: Humiliate/degrade/break him down on some level daily, some days more than others.

- Have him wear a small butt-plug for a time, wifi enabled if possible.

- Have him be naked or close to it, around You and or Your friends.

- Make him wear a collar or other symbol of inferiority.

- Make him wear a chastity device sometimes.

- Teach them “tricks” like sit, drop to their knees to kiss Your crotch, etc.  In public or with friends randomly call out a trick every now then. Make sure Your sub does this flawlessly without hesitation.

- Make him masturbate for You.

- Slap him in the face.

- Spit on him.

- Treat him as an inferior in public.  (Ex: he carries all bags, opens doors, eats Your leftovers, holds Your drinks, tie Your shoes  etc.)

- Make him eat his own cum sometimes.

- Talk down to him in front of others

7: Rearrange his life/time to better serve/please You.  Make sure this does not interfere with his time with loved ones or work.

- If You want to change his body to Your liking, do so.  Control his workouts, diet etc.  Make sure and be realistic with this one.

- Make sure he is available during some of Your leisure time each week so he will be able to serve You during those times.

- Put him on a sleeping schedule.  Lots of fags are not able to adequately manage their sleep times.  The better rested he is, the better he will serve You.

- Go through his closet/things and throw away/put away any clothing You don’t like him to be wearing.

- Sign him up to learn new tasks or prefect tasks/skills that will help You.  (Ex: massage classes, cooking classes, pet care, etc.)

- Change their grooming habits to Your liking.

8: Help Your sub be grateful for everything he has.  Make sure You are at the top of that list.  One great way to do this is to deny him things.  Yep, it’s time to say “No.”  Subs need boundaries, and saying “No” is a great way to help them with those boundaries.

- You can take away certain foods, comforts, leisure time, sex, masturbation, etc.

- Make him show his gratitude to You often.  Faggots will show this to You in their own way. Most faggots will need some help/instruction on exactly how to show their gratitude to You.

- Make him explain why he deserves something. If he can’t explain why well enough. Then take it from him.

- You can take things/items from him that You know he does not need, but likes.  (Make sure he can afford for You to take them and that they are not of an additional value such as sentimental etc.)  Let him know from time to time that You enjoy something that You took from him.

- Offer him a reward of getting to have something back. Make what you give him back relevant to what You make him do. This could be sort or long term.  

9:  None of these actions will work without real trust.

- If Your sub is Your partner, let him know how much his sub-ass completes You and Your power.

-  If Your sub is not Your partner, make sure You two are real friends. That You appreciate how his inferiority completes you.  The more You two know about and do with each other. The more thoroughly You can control him.

-Part of trust on the subs part is trusting that You will follow through when You say You are going to do something to him or are going to make him do something.  Follow through always.

-  When a sub fully trusts You. He can submit to You his mind and privacy. Letting You go in and re-arrange/manage his life.

- Subs need constant reassurance.  Let him know that no matter what, he is Yours.  If a serious sub feels disposable. He will look for another Dom who appreciates his surrender.

- If Your life is getting too hard for a bit or You need help with something. Trust that Your sub will be able to take over for You and act in your best interest until You are back in shape.  Giving  sub this responsibility will either make him feel trusted and good, or upset that You are not actively controlling him 100% of the time.  If he gets upset and does not step up and take over for You. Then drop him like a hot potato.

-Talk to Your sub often.  Ask him how he is feeling, and let him honestly know how You are feeling on anything and everything.

- By taking things away from him, You are in a sense rewarding him when You give them back.  Also, nothing he has is his forever.  You need to re-take things and privileges away from him periodically so he knows they are a privilege and not a right.  Think of it like taking a food bowl away from a dog.  Your sub needs be docile enough that You can take his food bowl away from him as he is eating. He will not make a fuss and patiently wait until the food is returned

-Please note: Do not ever deny him from being with Friends or family.  Make him realize that the only reason You allow him to have constant contact/interaction with good friends and family is because he “helps” them by being a good friend or family member.  Make sure the he understands that the happiness that comes from being with them is “second” to the happiness that he brings them.  Basically, he needs to understand that if he pulls away from loved ones. While he is under Your control his loved ones will suffer. That is why he is allowed (and encouraged) to keep and/or strengthen the bonds he has with them.

Please note: The following is a list of things to control a sub only. Please do not implement these ideas if You do not care about and are not committed to Your sub.  This list is not all inclusive of how to treat Your sub.  This list leaves out the important kind necessities that Your sub needs such as reassurance, love, respect, being protected, allowed to be protective of You etc.  These ideas are for a long term 24/7 arrangements, not a scene.  Not everything will apply in every case, and there may be things on the list that will work for You.

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The complete training guide for adult babies (ABDL)

A consequent and full-time adult baby training is one of the most dominating relationships possible. In hardly any other the submissive part gives up so much, and in the end is just a dependent person, who needs the assistance of another. It can lead so far that the personality is changed and the baby has no more willing

Even though an adult baby can be a woman, or a man trained to be a baby boy, I strictly describe the training of a male person being transformed into a baby girl, sometimes called a “sissy baby”. Therefore, the trainee is referred to as “she”. Nevertheless, many things were written also apply to female adult babies and age regression of males as baby boys.

Baby training has four groups, which I each explain in a sec. For each, I inserted ten important points.

Goal

The overall goal is to transform a grown-up man into a little baby girl. This means, he must act and behave like a baby and will be treated accordingly. A training program is defined, to reach this double target of feminization and age regression. If necessary, measurements will be enforced.

1. From the start, he will be a little girl. Therefore, he will be addressed as “she”. (Example: “Now be a good girl, and finish your milk!”) The same applies when the talk is about a baby. (Example: “Isn’t she cute!”)

2. At the end of the training, the baby will be incapacitated. She will be completely dependent on her Mommy. Alone she would be helpless. From her behavior, she acts like a little girl. For her the baby way is normal and natural. Also being treated as a little girl is normal for her.

3. The baby must give up her will. All decisions are taken by Mommy and are final for baby, no matter how unpopular or humiliating they are. Mommy knows best. Nevertheless, the measurements may be uncomfortable, but never shall they hurt. Since baby is helpless, she needs protection, and pain should be avoided.

4. Most important is that baby undergoes consequent diaper training. She will wear nappies 7×24. It might not be realistic, that the program as such can be done full time, due to a job that Mommy or baby may have, or for other reasons. Nevertheless, this does not apply to the diapers. An adult baby always has to wear nappies. This means that a baby, who has a job, must also wear nappies to work under her everyday clothing.

5. Another aspect of diaper training is that baby will reach 100% incontinence. She will have no more control over her bladder. At night, she will wet her diapers without waking up. At daytime, the baby will not be able to willingly hold it back and will leak. It is one of the biggest challenges for Mommy to have baby immediately urinate, and not have her trying to hold it back, not even for a short time. This way, the bladder itself will start to shrink. This process is irreversible. In addition, not to wet her pants or bed, baby will have no choice and must wear diapers full-time.

6. These are some other goals of the adult baby training that must be met. The baby must do these things herself. That means that she acts as baby girl.

* The baby must use a pacifier all of the time. She must feel uncomfortable without.

* Only crawling is allowed.

* When talking, only baby-talk is allowed.

* The baby must play with dolls and other toys for little girls.
This list may not be complete. Actually, it is most likely it is not complete.

7. Here are some treatments that will be used on the baby, since she now is a little baby girl.

* An infant has baby-smooth skin. Therefore, the body hair (including the pubic hair) will be removed as permanently as possible. Where applicable, waxing is preferred. If there are no better options, baby will be shaved.

* The baby will be breastfed.

* The baby will be bottle-fed.

* Baby will mostly eat baby food.

* The baby will be spoon-fed.

* Baby gets her meals sitting in a high chair.

* When eating, the baby wears a plastic bib.

* This is an absolute must:

For an additional sealing, the baby will always wear plastic pants over her diapers. At the same time, the feeling of the smooth plastic arouses her.

* The baby will sleep in a baby bed. This can just be a bed with bars. Better would be to have a lockable cage bed or a bed, where the baby securely can be fixed with straps. It must be prevented that baby leaves her bed at night. At least the sheet over the mattress is of plastic, which protects it and is easy to clean. You can also add a waterproof pillow and blanket cover.

* Baby is bathed by Mommy.

* Mommy dresses baby, mostly as a sweet, cute, little girl. To give Baby that being-helpless-feeling, stick her into spreader pants quite often! This has many advantages, especially when the crotch has a width of 38 cm (15″) or more. Your little darling will not be able to move properly anymore; well she will really be like a baby! She cannot walk and definitely not change position, like rolling over from her back to tummy. If you put her on her belly, she can crawl through, but also that will be done very clumsily. At the same time, this spreading position of the legs weakens the control over the bladder. My conclusion is that serious baby training is not possible without this marvelous device.
Make sure you use a lockable version, so escape is impossible! Since this is a training method and not a punishment, lock her into her spreader pants for a sensible amount of time. It may be a little uncomfortable, but keep that inconvenience limited. Extended time use is reserved for another purpose (read more about that on the page “Methods”.
This list may not be complete. Actually, it is most likely it is not complete

8. This training is serious and there should be no possibility for baby to escape her predicament.

9. The training should be done in a subtle way. Just by the authority of Mommy, baby should co-operate. No punishments should be necessary.

10. Baby should be brainwashed, that everything concerning her training is to her best. She MUST really believe, how lucky and privileged she is, that Mommy takes such good care of her. (Which, of course, is true!)

Mommy

Every woman can be a Mommy. Though, since a training program is used and perhaps has to be enforced, not every woman brings the requirements to do this in the most efficient way. Characteristics are listed, which make an ideal Mommy.

1. Mommy has a pronounced motherly instinct, which she wants to live out on her partner.

2. Mommy loves her baby. Even though the baby undergoes this degrading treatment, a lot of motherly care and according to nurture is always involved.

3. Mommy ensures that all baby needs are met. Nothing should be missing for being a little baby girl.

4. Mommy has a dominant character and enjoys applying this shameful treatment to her husband or boyfriend.

5. Mommy is very resolute. She leaves no doubt that she is serious about adult baby training. Every resistance from the baby will just be ignored.

6. Mommy takes all decisions. The necessary measurements to reach the goals are imposed upon the baby.

7. Mommy is responsible that the training program is carried into execution, and progress is achieved.

8. Mommy is never angry or mad. She does not curse and is not loud. If the baby did something wrong (and the only thing she can do wrong, is not being baby-like), Mommy just intensifies the according to training. Of course, that is a necessity to reach the goal and not a punishment.

9. Mommy has big breasts. Best would be at least D-cup size. For women with a bigger figure, the bust size can be substantially more. Even though breast enlargement would mean a sacrifice for Mommy, this may be considered. That way Mommy would have something she can use towards the baby. She can always argue that she only did it for baby and somehow give baby the feeling of being in debt of Mommy. (A subtle way to enforce the baby training!)

10. Mommy always has her fingernails conspicuously painted. Best is shiny bright red, but for a change, it can also be wine or cherry red. To draw more attention, she may even use neon nail polish. Her nails must be very eye-catching. Baby will be attracted by them at most activities, especially when being bottle or spoon-fed. Mommy exposes her fingernails whenever she has the occasion. This is done in a manner, that baby cannot avoid focusing on them. Additionally, she uses her fingernails to caress, where this is visible for baby, especially on the cheeks. In this way, baby permanently is reminded that she no longer is a man, since Mommy as a woman and sexual partner is completely out of reach.

Humiliation

Adult baby training without humiliation is not possible. That is why I give this aspect an own chapter. Even though humiliation might not be the main motive of the Mommy having her partner undergoing this treatment (may it be maternal instincts, domination desires or just wanting to have fun), it is essential. Humiliation is part of the training and definitely not a form of punishment. For the trainer, it is much fun. The baby, even though feeling very much ashamed, will nevertheless gain thrills and erotic pleasure out of the situation.

1. Already the entire situation as such is very humiliating. Alone the fact that a grown-up man is being incapacitated in all ways and gradually being transformed into a female infant is extremely shameful and can hardly beat. The age is regressed to that of a pre-schooler, even pre-kindergarten, and her manhood is entirely denied.

2. No matter what treatment is applied to baby, it is done in a most shameful and humiliating manner. For instance, when Mommy changes the diapers,

3. what she is doing. In this way it is implied, that baby needs Mommy and is dependent on her. She could say something like: “Oh! Did my little darling wet her diapers again? You are so lucky that Mommy takes care of you.” This goes for everything like bottle feeding, or generally feeding, bathing, bringing to bed, whatever. Independent how humiliating or unpopular a measurement is, Mommy always states it from a positive point of view. Everything that is done to the baby’s discomfort – in order to enforce a habit – is a necessity. Spreader pants or chastity belt, a ridiculous outfit or an enema, all is only for the best of the trainee. This is communicated to the baby in a most convincing way.

4. Each praise, big or small, is humiliation in itself. This is due to the fact, that Mommy only praises her girl when she has done something in a correct, baby-like or girlish, and not grown-up or male manner. This can be anything, like, when being bottle-fed, drinking the whole content, or properly sucking on the dummy, or just wetting the nappies. At the same time, this is a confirmation that the baby gave up some grown-up habit, that the training program is having progress.

5. Baby is dressed in a half infantile and half feminine way. Even a cute baby outfit looks ridiculous on a grown-up man. Though, for an extra humiliation, Mommy can choose something really farcical.

6. Baby is always surrounded by an intense odor of powder. Sometimes she has the smell of ‘fresh’ plastic.

7. Babies don’t stay up late. That is why the bed-time of your baby should not be later than 8 o’clock in the evening. And this is not just done once in a while; this is a daily routine.

8. An extra humiliation is to arrange a date with one of your girlfriends or have a ladies’ evening. Go dining, to the movies or some other entertainment, while your baby stays at home! If you cuckold your sissy baby, let her know you are looking forward to having a long night with wonderful sex! Let her see, how you get styled for others in an attractive, perhaps even erotic outfit! But while being full of desire, she will just be prepared for an early night time. Let her know, while you will be out enjoying yourself, she will be securely in her bed, laying in the dark, just sucking her pacifier and holding her favorite doll! Make sure, she cannot leave the bed and do something else than being a baby trying to sleep!

9. You can even increase this humiliation by organising a babysitter for her. It can be one of your female friends, an acquaintance, or perhaps your sister or cousin. Ideally, she is a convinced feminist. While you prepare yourself for going out, have the babysitter get her ready for bed! Best is, if the babysitter is amused by the situation, enjoys humiliating your baby, and makes her comments about the necessity of baby being diapered, in chastity and being patronized all of the time. She shall have her fun to dress the baby in cute attire, something like a Disney princess motive.

10. This is my favorite: Baby is presented to the female friends of Mommy, to baby’s shame and ridiculousness. Curiously, they observe everything, make their comments and participate. They have much fun in joining the babyfication, even bring up their own ideas, how a baby must be treated. She is pampered, changed, fed, dressed, and perhaps even made a sexy Lolita. She is just a plaything at the mercy of the women.

11. Baby is humiliated outdoors. This has many aspects and is up to the fantasy of Mommy. Nevertheless, the following should be exercised in public. Some are for beginners; others are for babies, where the age regression has already progressed substantially:

* Having baby packed into extra thick diapers, which is obvious to other people.

* Having baby suck her pacifier.

* Having her on baby reins.

* When buying diapers, having baby accompany Mommy, and expose her in front of the sales personnel.
Having baby soil her nappies at the wrong time; this can be enforced by giving baby a suppository before leaving the house.

* Changing the diapers in the baby station of a department store.

For these outdoor humiliations, an exception can be done, and the baby is allowed to walk. Nevertheless, a clumsy pace should be enforced.

Sex

“Sex and adult babies” is a special topic. While some Mommies occasionally want intercourse with their baby, for others it is absolutely out of the question. Anyway, it definitely is not up to the baby to ask for sex with the Mommy! So what is there to say about adult babies and sex? As you can see, plenty! Both, Mommy and baby have a sexual urge and want to be satisfied in one way or the other. Though, this is distributed very unevenly, because Mommy gets all the sexual pleasure and baby gets none! Real babies have no sex and so adult babies are not entitled for sex either. Anyway, baby is involved in satisfying Mommy.

1. Since babies have no sex, our adult baby also gets no sex. She doesn’t even get an orgasm and remains unsatisfied.

2. To ensure that baby will not have an orgasm, she will securely be locked into a chastity device. This has to be worn all of the time, even when the program is interrupted for whatever reason.

3. Baby is permanently held in a state of high sexual arousal without any chance to cum.

4. When Mommy wants to have sex with a real man, baby will be aware of this. The best is, if the baby, from her room, can hear the other two being intimate. She shall hear the entire sexual activity, the kissing, the moaning, the ecstasy, and the climax; just everything.

5. Baby must satisfy Mommy with her tongue, whenever this is desired. Mommy decides when, how often and how long baby must give her a licking.

6. When Mommy satisfies herself, baby must be present and watch.

7. By touching baby, Mommy sexually stimulates her little darling as much as possible. There are always enough occasions since most of the activities involve skin contact (changing diapers, washing, breastfeeding, etc.). Even though Mommy does this intentionally, especially in sensitive places, she gives the impression of accidental bodily contacts. Additionally, she kisses and caresses her baby, like mothers do to their infant children or a bit more for a better stimulating effect.

8. Mommy likes to dress sexily and presents herself in a way that baby can see it and is full of unsatisfied sexual desire. It is deliberate that baby can touch Mommy’s feminine attire (garter tips, high heels, etc.), which is irresistibly brought into reach.

9. It is also desirable that baby stimulates herself by touching the soft surface of her clothes, or looking at herself as she is dressed in a sexy baby outfit. Depending on what material baby is turned on, she has dressed accordingly.

10. Concerning the locked up genitals, Mommy comments this to baby as a necessity. Baby must learn to behave herself and this is helping her. This way she will always be a good girl. By sliding over the plastic pants and diapers, Mommy often checks with her flat hand, if everything is still okay if baby is safe. With a tender pressure, Mommy can feel, if the chastity device still is in place.

Training methods

It is quite easily said, to have your baby become incontinent, or to have her suck her pacifier. But what options are there, to achieve the results wanted, especially if baby resists? For some misdoings, you can just intensify the training, by using some special gear. I describe more detailed according methods below my thoughts about punishment. In the title, you’ll see, what in particular is trained.

Punishment

In the previous part I have written that punishment should not be necessary and it ought to be enough just to intensify the training. Nevertheless, I like to give a few examples of real punishment, I consider appropriate when baby really does not co-operate. Anyway, I don’t believe in corporal punishment. Though, some mommies and some babies might like that; but that has nothing to do with training an adult baby as such. That is just an additional aspect in the particular Domme/sub relationship.

When I talk about punishment, it must be effective, and not just done because the baby is into having her bottom treated with a firm hand. I also don’t like to use humiliation as punishment. Humiliation is fun and part of the training. When baby does something wrong, we need a measurement, that baby will think twice next time and rather not provoke mommy. Everything I suggest though has to do with a baby.

As punishment I can imagine, that baby is brought to bed already at 6 p.m., instead of 8 p.m. as usual. Tell her this is her punishment for an entire week, and if she behaves, she then can stay up until eight o’clock again! A further punishment is to exclusively feed her the baby-food she likes least for a week. Or have her soil her diapers for a week, instead of having it done controlled to avoid the mess.

Also quite efficient are spreader pants. While your baby regularly should be locked into them anyway, to give her that really being-helpless-feeling, they can also be used as punishment. The difference is the duration. Extend the time, perhaps to as long as an entire day! She might enjoy her spreader pants for an hour or maybe even two, but already quite soon she will feel uncomfortable. Such sheer endless inconvenience is pedagogically very corrective.

And for babies, that have their allowed grown-up phases, I suggest to refuse them internet access, or watching television for maybe a fortnight. You can combine that with an early bed-time. Also quite effective is to deny them their next orgasm. Either delay it for eight or ten days, or skip it entirely!

Punishment tough should not be the main method to enforce some training aspects. It should only be used, when you have no other option, and your baby is unwilling to accept her place!

Incontinence

One of the most difficult tasks is to get your baby incontinent. What we are aiming for is to have her pee naturally like a baby. That means, when her bladder is full, it will just “happen”. She will wet her diapers automatically, uncontrollably, and without any effort whatsoever. The bladder though will continue to function like the one of a grown-up. The difference is that the trainee will not be aware when it is due. Not before it starts to drain, she will realize what is happening and she will be unable to stop it running.

Okay! But how in particular do you get your baby to urinate like a baby? I suggest you start to get her incontinent at night. Before you bring her to bed, give her plenty to drink! Have her final bottle of warm milk laced with a mild sedative and diuretic! It will only be a matter of time until she wakes up, because she has the urge to relieve herself. Since she is quite drowsy and knows, she is securely diapered, she will just let it flow, and then continue to sleep. Already after a few days, this will become a habit, and eventually, she won’t even wake up anymore. In the morning she will just be in wet nappies and does not remember anything. That is exactly what we want. And… Your little darling will love it. It is amazing, how well she will sleep.

There are some mommies though, who want immediate results. They use a catheter. Of course, such a baby will be leaking without any control. But that is not the baby-like way; it rather resembles old and senile people. In addition, it has several disadvantages. First of all, due to the constant dribbling, she will be in wet diapers all of the time. Even if it is your hobby to swaddle, do you really want to do that all 30 to 60 minutes? Day in and day out? And what about the night? Must your baby already be in wet nappies when going to bed? I say: “No, definitely not!” The next problem is even worse because it is irreversible. With time the bladder will atrophy. Then, with or without a catheter, she permanently will have wet diapers, for the rest of her life, and no chance to do a successful potty training again. Sorry, but that is irresponsible!

Another possibility for your baby to reach incontinence is through hypnosis. There are some sites, where you can buy an unpretty training program. Have her listen to it several times each day and perhaps when she is sleeping as well! In the internet there is also an erotic hypnosis mistress that gives live sessions to condition the mind to any fetish; why not to become a real diaper wetter?

Perhaps it is enough, when your baby is only incontinent at night, or if she wets her nappies without being incontinent. Since she wears diapers all of the time, she has no choice anyway. This might give you more flexibility for the case, you want to give it a break in-between, or interrupt the training for some time. It is up to you.

Crawling

Something many adult babies have difficulties in understanding is that we expect them to crawl all of the time. No walking is allowed. The best way to enforce this baby-like movement on all fours is to have your baby wear heel-less ballet heels. Walking in these is prevented efficiently. It doesn’t even help when she holds herself on any object or railing. Even standing is impossible when wearing such shoes.

The most efficient to train your baby to crawl is to have her wear such ballet heels without heels. It is impossible for her to walk in these! For best results get a lockable pair or construct your own locking mechanism.

When your trainee forgets about being a baby and rises, pack her feet into these training shoes! Since she definitely will not like these restrictions, make sure, she cannot remove them! To achieve good training progress, have her locked in them for an entire day! Only remove them, when she is in bed for the night! The next day she has a new chance to prove she is a good girl. Another option you have, when she does a wrong step, is to immediately lock her in her training shoes for full 24 hours. Believe me, concerning this aspect, you will soon be proud of your little darling. The heel-less ballets are not very far waiting for their next use.

Using Fingers

A real baby is not able to use the hands like a grown-up. We also don’t want our little trainee to have that precise co-ordination of her fingers. It is most unlikely though, she will constantly adapt that clumsy baby-like way. Nevertheless, there are situations, we want to enforce it. Perhaps you want your baby to be able to answer a phone call, but not to call anybody on her own. Imagine, you are out shopping, and baby is home alone! That might be such a situation, where you want to know how she is doing, but without giving her much freedom. I found out that certain bondage mittens fulfill this purpose. It is impossible for her to dial a number, but with some effort, she can press the button to establish the connection.

Since we expect our baby to have her pacifier in the mouth all of the time, she will not be able to talk. But she can always reply to your questions either with “mm-hmm”, “uh-uh” or other sounds indicating her answer.

Of course, you can have her wear the bondage mittens when you are at home. That way you can be assured, that baby only uses the hands the way they are meant for her. I very much enjoy watching her play with her dolls and plush toys she has with her in the playpen when she can’t even grab them properly. Just seeing her according to inept attempts always gives my maternal instinct an extra boost, and I am emotionally filled with affection.

 

Originally, also an own group was planned for baby. After a closer look though, no requirements were found for an ideal adult baby. When Mommy wants to have her own adult baby, then it is up to her to enforce it to her husband or boyfriend. Baby will not be asked. Depending on the resistance, Mommy has to use a more or less subtle method to reach her goal. Perhaps she will start in a very harmless way, only talking about some role play to spice up the relationship a bit, and then slowly takes full control.

Adult baby training is hard work and, in most cases, cannot be done full time. The following chapters give ideas, how to maintain the highest level of babyfication, even though the trainee has an ordinary job. The first part covers the morning until baby leaves the house. The second part is a description of the evening, from the moment baby returns home.

A Regular Morning in the Life of an Adult Baby

The ideal constellation for a consequent adult baby training would be that this is done full-time; 24 hours each day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year; permanently and always! So that the Mommy can concentrate on the training, she would have at least one maid taking care of the household. Of course, the Mommy deserves spare time, time for herself, and time for her hobbies. Therefore, also a Nanny would occasionally support her with the babyfication, be babysitter, when Mommy attends some social events or is absent for another reason, or even take over entirely for a longer period of time, when Mommy, for instance, needs a vacation without her baby. While baby full time is a baby girl, Mommy also has other needs, which must be honored.

In most cases though, already from the financial point of view, this is not realistic. It is most likely that the baby has a job and is responsible for a regular income. Mommy might also be working. Perhaps she takes care of the household; perhaps this is split among the two of them. Anyway, in this chapter a normal day is described, when the baby goes out for work and Mommy stays at home according to duties. Same as specified in the guide, a grown-up man is trained to be a little baby girl.

First thing in the morning, Mommy checks if the baby still has her pacifier in the mouth. If this is the case, she praises baby for being such a good little girl. If not, she tells her darling to make an according to effort. Next she checks the diapers. It is expected, that they are wet. Praising, in general, is very important, and must be given for every action the trainee lost or gave up some grown-up behavior, and for everything, which is done in a baby-like manner.

Mommy hugs baby, caresses her, and kisses her tenderly (of course not on the mouth, which still suckles on the dummy). This may be done in an erotic way; it is desired that baby is sexually stimulated. Anyway, orgasms are to be prevented. Therefore an adult baby should securely be locked into a chastity device. This must be worn permanently, even if for the periods of time when the training is interrupted.

Now baby will be breastfed. She gets each of Mommy’s tits at least five minutes. While baby suckles the boobs, Mommy talks to her little darling, using baby-talk, according to names and expressions, and praises her. At the same time, she may caress the cheeks of baby. Next, if Mommy desires, baby must lick her to orgasm. After that, the pacifier goes back to her mouth.

Since baby has a job and will soon go to work, it is time to prepare her accordingly. The diaper is removed, and to avoid soiling during the day, an enema empties her bowel. Afterward, baby is allowed to take a shower, only wearing the chastity device (and with pacifier). In the meantime, Mommy prepares breakfast, perhaps some porridge or other baby-food, and she warms milk.

When baby is clean and dried herself, she goes back on the diaper changing table. Mommy thoroughly powders the genitals (as good as the chastity device allows) and the anus. Then she puts her infant child into a fresh diaper. For additional sealing, plastic pants are worn above. This now bears the risk, that when baby is out of the house, she uses a toilet, removes the diapers just to reapply them afterward. This is exactly, what we do not want! Therefore, baby additionally will wear a silk romper with a zipper at the back. Such a romper can easily be modified, that it can be locked with a small padlock.

Anyway, before the romper goes on, Mommy has baby wear a garter belt or an open bottom girdle over the plastic pants. Stockings are attached to the straps. The reason for this is obvious. When she follows her job, camouflaged as man, she nevertheless is a female infant. Therefore, we must have her wear some definitely feminine underwear, to remind her of that fact during the day. But there is more to it; read about that later!

Now it is time to feed the baby. First, a plastic bib with crumb tray is brought in place. We don’t want the nice romper to get dirty. She is bottle-fed, and on the high chair mommy spoon feds her little darling with the soft baby food, which hardly needs any chewing. Also here baby must be praised; first, for properly sucking on the bottle, then for finishing it. After each swallowed spoonful, she can be told, what a good girl she is. Mommy might also like to comment the whole feeding process. Anyway, the trainee now really is a baby, and this, for a grown-up person humiliating situation, is reality. The food contains a  lot of moisture, which later will help her wet the nappies. Nevertheless, Mommy might additionally let her drink one or two glasses of water. After feeding time is over, the pacifier goes back to the mouth.
Finally, baby is being dressed in her street or working clothes. Depending on the profession, a shirt, trousers, perhaps even a suit goes over the plastic-covered diaper, the romper and the lingerie. Mommy hugs her baby in disguise, brings her lips close to an ear, and, while she searches and finds one of the suspender tips with her fingers, she whispers: “I expect my little darling to play with theses during the day. This will remind baby of Mommy.” In fact, the plastic knobs in the clasps somehow feel like hard nipples.

Mommy removes the pacifier and puts it into the pocket of a piece of clothing, ideally of the jacket. An intense hug, encouraging words to be a good girl, perhaps some touching in sensitive places to arouse baby, and the last smack on baby’s diapered bottom, then baby is out of observation.

At work, she will try not to be discovered wearing nappies, a romper, stockings and even a chastity device. She cannot help touching the suspender tips with her fingers, and she is ashamed. And when she wets her diaper, this effect will be increased even more. Even though out of the house, she remains under control. That is essential for an adult baby training!

Mommy on the other hand, has the freedom to do whatever she likes. She might go back to bed to get some additional sleep, or she might start with the housework. During the week it should not be necessary to restock food or diapers. This will be done on Saturday when baby is present and can be showed up in front of the shop assistants. The highest priority has the continuation of the baby training in the evening. Perhaps a few things must be prepared, especially if Mommy is not at home when baby arrives from work. Read about that on the next page…

A Regular Evening in the Life of an Adult Baby

When work is finished for the day, baby must return home at once; no hanging around with the colleagues, no beer, no extra tour for whatever reason! Already standing in front of the door of the house or flat, she must put the pacifier in her mouth. Baby is not allowed to unlock and enter immediately. She first must ring the bell. If Mommy is at home, it is up to her to open or not. If nothing happens, baby may get in on her own.

If Mommy is not home or just busy at the moment, baby by herself must slip in her role at once. In such cases, it is standard, that Mommy prepared the clothes for baby to wear after removing all male clothes. It is highly recommended that spreader pants are also ready, and baby must lock herself into them. This way, baby has no chance for other – not allowed – activities. In addition, a toy like a doll is there for baby to hug. When Mommy also returns home, she will find baby in this helpless state. If not, well that is another story!

Now it is time for Mommy to take over again, either already when opening the door, or taking care of the (in spreader pants) helplessly waiting for baby. Since baby has been in her wet diaper for quite a long time, they must be changed. This needs no precise description. It must just be ensured that baby is thoroughly washed and powdered.

Next, our AB will be breastfed. Baby should be allowed to gently suckle Mommy’s tits for up to 15 minutes each. This shall relax baby, and let her forget the working day. She fully is baby again! It now is up to Mommy, if she wants to have her pussy liked and be brought to orgasm. This is her right and privilege at any time.

Of course, Mommy decides what is to be done. The following activities belong to a baby’s life. Being bottle-fed, playing with dolls or other toys, watch children’s TV channels, or being dresses as baby, little girl, or Lolita. Dinner also is a highlight of the day.

It is always fun to tease an AB and have her sexually aroused. Being locked in a chastity device, this adds up to the helplessness and keeps baby reminded, she no longer will have any sexual pleasure. Teasing has many aspects and can be done implicitly, in a rather subtle way, like giving the baby all maternal love, be cuddling, caressing, and kissing her; touching her more coincidental, but nevertheless in an erotic manner. But it can also be done straight forward, by undressing and dressing in front of baby, showing sexy lingerie, high heels and other provocative feminine

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Femdom experiences, ideas, and suggestions

I’d like to share some experience, ideas, and tips I’ve put together after about 4 years of dominating my BF. This is all my personal experience, so it won’t apply to everyone.

Firstly, I need to share that we aren’t in a 24/7 Domme-sub relationship. That doesn’t interest me or my BF. My BF came to me about 4 ½ years ago and confessed some of his desires for femdom sex, and I decided to entertain it with him. It’s been a lot of fun, but I’m not making it a “lifestyle”, although we do have some “extended” sessions, which I’ll detail later in this post. Its something we do for fun in the bedroom (well, not always in the bedroom). We still have frequent “vanilla” sex, he’s actually quite good at it. :) That being said, I’m not here to pass judgement on anyone else, or pretend to be an expert on the subject of BDSM. My current BF is the only person I’ve played with like this, but we’ve learned a lot about femdom by experimenting, reading, and talking to each other. A good portion of these ideas and suggestions were his idea, and many are mine. Some may think that this is topping from the bottom, but I don’t take it too seriously. This is all just in good fun for us.

Also, even though I talk about some of the stuff below being “forced”, that’s not to imply he hasn’t consented. We always have a safeword, and we discuss generalities before we decide on trying something new (although I do definitely surprise him with new activities to push his limits). Also, keep safety in mind with any activity. Not all of this is safe for every couple or every person. So, with all that out of the way, lets get to it!

I approach femdom by classifying activities into 4 categories, then I put them together for an experience. The categories I use are: Degradation/Humiliation, Pain and Control, Frustration/Teasing, and Service. I’ll go over activities in each then describe how I put them together.

DEGRADATION/HUMILIATION 

This is a very fun category and can include a lot of different things. Here’s a list of activities that I enjoy inflicting on him.

Forced feminization - I frequently make him wear women’s clothing during our sessions. This can include lots of different outfits. Feel free to mix and match to your taste. Amazon is great for getting lingerie on a budget. I like to go with really girly colors and patterns for my guy. My favorites are:

High heels. These are an absolute necessity. You don’t need to spend a lot of money on these, but you might want more than one pair if you insist his outfits match.

Lingerie. This can include teddies, stockings, babydoll, fishnet dresses, etc.

Just a pair of panties. This makes him feel very exposed. I like ones that ride up his little butt (cheekies, thongs), but still cover his entire penis. Don’t let him wear anything else.

Pasties. This is very, very fun. Pasties are cheap, and not something you ever see a man wearing. A pair of high heels, pink thong, and some pasties is great outfit for him to wear while he cleans the bathroom for you.

Schoolgirl outfit. This is a classic, and can lead to some incredible role-playing situations. The skirt should be short enough you can see his little white panties peeking out without even bending over.

French Maid. Another classic, useful for the Service category I’ll go into later.

Makeup. This is a favorite activity. I love giving him a makeover. Super slutty makeup is the best and can be combined with any outfit.

Tight jeans, yoga pants, leggings. Pair these with a skin tight top and you’ve got a great outfit for lounging around the house.

Short shorts. These can be cut off jean type shorts, yoga style shorts, or anything you like. The shorter the better.

Corset. Use this to give him a girlish figure!

Women’s bodystocking. These are hilarious. They come in all kinds of patterns and colors, and are really cheap.

Halloween costumes. Great for any time of year! Amazon has cheap playboy bunny outfits, tinkerbell costumes, sexy nurse, etc. There are so many to choose from!

Pegging/dildo play - This falls into the pain category as well depending on your mood. I really feel that in order to make this act as degrading as possible, its important to get a dildo that looks and feels like a real penis. It should have balls and be a realistic skin tone. It should also be at least slightly bigger than his own penis (within reason). A big aspect that makes pegging so humiliating is the mental side to it. Obviously, there’s some physical to it as well, but just being forced to “deal” with a dick is mortifying to most straight men. Some activities involving your strapon or dildo:

Deepthroat training. Let’s eliminate that gag reflex ladies! Seriously one of the most degrading things you can do to your man is fucking his face. I like to recreate positions from porn in this activity. Relax on the couch or chair while wearing your strapon. Put him on his knees and make him get to work. If he’s not going deep enough grab his hair and force his face down on that dick! Trust me, he can take it. Don’t be gentle. Make sure he maintains eye contact like a good little porn star! I also like to have him lay on his back on the bed or couch, with his head hanging over the side and cram my dick down his throat. Do this until he gags, over and over, he’ll be drooling all over himself soon enough. Have him lie down on his back, then straddle his upper chest/neck area so the only thing you can see is his face. Put your dildo in his mouth and jackhammer that thing down his throat. Don’t be scared of hurting him, even if your dildo is on the large side of realistic. he’ll eventually be able to take it balls deep. He might complain that it doesn’t fit. Well, its your job to MAKE it fit. Yes he’s going to cough and gag, a lot, yes he’s going to have a lot of drool and mucus coming out of his mouth. That’s OK. Don’t be deterred by any sounds, drool, or complaints. Also give him instructions and compliments when appropriate (“yeah, show me your tongue” “hands behind your back and open wide bitch” “give me that throat” “that’s a good little cocksucker”)

EDIT: I’ve received several questions about this point. I’ll clarify exactly what were doing here and why. When I make him suck my dildo, I’m not getting any physical pleasure out of it and neither is he. This is not meant to be physically pleasurable to us, it’s meant to make him feel like my bitch. When you do this, make it an ordeal he needs to suffer through. When he’s on his knees in front of you, fuck his mouth hard and fast. Really make an effort to get your entire dildo down his throat as you thrust in and out. Make him suffer here for quite some time, 5, 10, 15 minutes even. Don’t let him get away with pulling his head away or anything either. Make him keep your dick in his mouth, see how long you can keep it buried balls deep in his mouth, lock your legs around his head if necessary. His jaw and throat should be very sore after this ordeal, and his face should be a mess of slobber and spit. Once he can take your whole dildo down his throat without gagging, its time to upgrade to something longer and/or thicker. Your goal should be to have him performing at THIS LEVEL and he won’t get there without proper training.

Butt fucking. Work up to this using your fingers, plugs (he should wear a large sized one for a while before a pegging session), and other toys, but eventually your goal should be forceful pounding. Make him feel what its like to really get fucked. While pegging him, yank his hair, push his face down into the bed or floor, slap his ass. Be creative with positions and locations. One of my favorites is the tile kitchen floor, he doesn’t have to be comfortable while getting fucked. Use lots and lots of lube here, it makes getting your dick in a lot easier on both of you.

Dildo masturbation. Make him suck and fuck himself with a dildo or other toys for your amusement. This one can be done with very minimal effort on your part. Just give him a toy, order him to the corner, and tell him to get it up his ass.

Using other objects to fuck him with. This can be a lot of fun, but be careful. Some items I’ve fucked him with: Beer bottle, drumsticks, vodka bottle,

Forced Nudity - This one is simple, but you can spice it up with toys if you like. Simply order him to be naked while you remain clothed. If you like, make him wear a butt plug that you can smack and wiggle around while he gets you a drink. Put a collar on him if you want, or combine this with forced feminization from above (for example make him wear only high heels, lipstick, and a chastity cage for the evening). Sometimes its fun to combine this with pegging. I’ll strap my dick on over my jeans, while he’s completely naked. Its a very humbling experience for him. I also frequently have him sleep naked.

Forced Performances. This is very entertaining and again a low-effort humiliation. Sometimes I like to put on some music and have him dance for me. I’ll make him perform a little strip tease, twerk, etc. Sometimes I will have him masturbate for me. I’ll give directions. (these are great times for video recording)

Spitting. We’re getting a little more extreme here. Don’t be afraid to spit on your male. This can be especially degrading during pegging, even more so during deepthroat training. While he’s making eye contact, just launch a huge wad of spit right in his face. He’ll love you for it! It can also be degrading while you’re criticizing his performance to spit in his face.

Golden showers. We haven’t worked our way up to here yet, and to be honest, I don’t know if I want to. Something we have tried in this area though, making him lick me clean after I take a piss.

Verbal humiliation (Disclaimer: Talk to your partner about this first if you’re worried about crossing a line with him, because this can be emotionally charged.) I really like this, and to me, there are two components. 1. You degrading him with words. 2. Making him degrade himself with words.

You degrading him.

Name calling. Call him degrading names. This can include the following: Bitch, sissy, cunt, slut, whore, piece of shit, stupid, worthless.

Penis humiliation/emasculation. This is common on femdom porn sites. Make fun of the size of his dick, his sexual ability, the things he lets you do to him, etc. Terms like shrimp-dick, bitch boy, butt boy, fuck-hole, cum eater, cum dumpster, cocksucker, limp dick. etc.

Combine insults. Example: “You’re a little limp dick cocksucker.” “You’re a little cum eating bitch, aren’t you?”

Being forceful and insulting with your directions. Example: Instead of saying “get on your knees and suck my dick”, say “Get on your fucking knees and get this dick down your throat you little bitch.” Instead of using his name and telling him to bend over the kitchen table for his pegging, say something like, “Hey shrimp-dick! Get in here, bend over the table and get fucked.” Instead of saying come here and lick my pussy say “get over here and make me cum you little piece of shit”.

Tell him what you’re going to do to him later. Send him a text letting him know you’re going to make him eat your pussy and send him away hard and frustrated.

Order him to do things for you. *MOST IMPORTANTLY: Don’t be afraid to raise your voice, or even yell. Its encouraged in this situation that you will be very forceful with your voice. Yell in his face if he isn’t licking your pussy correctly. Yell in his face after you cum and tell him to get the fuck off the bed and do the dishes.

Making him degrade himself. This can be really fun.

Make him beg. Use this for anything, make him beg to fuck you, beg you to peg him, beg you to let him masturbate, beg you to let him eat his cum, beg you to spank him, etc. It doesn’t even have to be something he wants. The key to this though, is to make sure his begging meets your standards. If you don’t believe he really wants it, punish him and make him try again, and again until you really believe him.

Make him apologize. Maybe the orgasm he gave you was mediocre. Maybe he didn’t take your dildo up his ass with enough enthusiasm. Maybe when you told him to deepthroat your strapon, he couldn’t get his nose to touch your stomach like you insisted. He should be punished for such infractions, but he should also tell you how sorry he is first. (maybe after his punishment too.) Make sure he apologizes sincerely for any shortcomings. Shit, sometimes I make him apologize for having a small dick (even though he doesn’t).

Make him thank you. Did you let him have an orgasm? Did you fuck his little butthole really well? Did you let him lick your asshole? He needs to thank you for the privlege.

Make him confess. Make him tell you his fantasies. This works especially well if you have him on the edge of orgasm. Make him confess a deep, dark fantasy that he’s never told anyone before. (He’ll probably run out of ideas at some point, you can punish him for that)

Public Play. There are some really fun ways you can take this play out of the house for some really great humiliation that doesn’t involve violating other people boundaries.

Clothes shopping. I enjoy taking him to stores, wal-mart, target, etc. and picking out some really girly panties and outfits for him to wear. If there isn’t anyone around, I’ll occasionally make him go try them on in the dressing room.

Wearing plugs or other toys in public.

And finally, for one of the most humiliating things a man can ever do……

Swallowing cum and/or getting a facial. He fucking hates this, which is why I love it. Any time he has an orgasm during any femdom activity, he’s eating it or its going on his face. I don’t care where it lands, how he came, if it was an accident, or if he really doesn’t want to. That cum is going in his mouth and down his throat. There are a lot of ways to accomplish this, but I really enjoy planning ahead for it. Its also a huge turn on for him, knowing that he’s going to be forced to eat it, even though immediately after he cums he’s absolutely repulsed by it. Some of my favorite ways to do this are:

Make him cum into a condom, then empty it into his mouth.

Make him have a ruined orgasm (I’ll explain later) onto the tile or hardwood floor. Then make him lick it up. If he resists, shove his face in it. If you have carpet, that isn’t a problem. Make him suck the cum out of it until its all gone.

If you let him cum inside you or on you, make him suck the cum out of you or lick it off of you.

While he’s wearing a pair of panties, rub his dick until he cums in them. Then peel them off and make him lick it out, or smear them all over his face.

Flip his legs over his head into the piledriver position (good for pegging also) and make him shoot his load all over his own face. This is a favorite of mine, simply because of the role reversal mind fuck going on in his head. I also like making him leave the jizz on his face for the rest of the day.

Make him cum into a glass and then pour it into his mouth, or pour it all over his face and/or hair.

However he gets the cum into his mouth, occasionally I’ll have him “play” with it. Gargle it, show it to me on his tongue, drool it out and then suck it back up like a porn star.

EDIT: Ladies, he’s going to be much more compliant with eating his semen if he has had a ruined orgasm instead of a pleasurable one. I mention this below but I’ll go into some more detail here. When your man has an orgasm his sexual desire drops off a cliff. He won’t want to eat his cum and will resist. But if you give him a ruined orgasm, he doesn’t get much pleasure at all, and his sexual desire remains high, but he still can expel a good amount of sperm. The goal here is to make his semen come out of his dick without pleasure, but for most men, the pleasure and orgasm actually begins several seconds before he ejaculates. So I like to have fun with this. With him on his knees and his hands restrained I’ll stroke his dick until he gets very close to orgasm, and then when I think hes right on the edge, I’ll let go and watch. I’ll wait about 20 seconds and if no semen comes out, start again. If you’ve done this perfectly, his semen will leak out about 10-15 seconds AFTER you stopped stroking it. He’ll be left sexually frustrated, but you actually DID give him an orgasm, its not your fault he didn’t feel it! He’ll be much more compliant in regards to consuming semen in this way. I like to combine this with chastity sometimes too. I’ll have him locked in the cage for a few days, give him a ruined orgasm and then put him back in. Its wonderful!

ADDED HUMILIATION BONUS!

For added humiliation, I frequently take pictures and video of my pet during these humiliating sessions. I keep these and then use them later for addiitonal humiliaiton. Seriously, having a video of him, with his face covered in his own semen, apologizing for not deepthroating my strapon well enough, all while dressed in daisy dukes and a bikini top….well that’s just good entertainment. Sometimes I make him watch some of the videos with me and laugh at him. It always results in a giant erection in his pants, haha.

PAIN AND CONTROL

DISCLAIMER: It seems online, many people are nervous about this category, and with good reason. Its sometimes hard to tell what your partner is comfortable with, and they may not even be sure of it themselves. So take all of this slowly at first until you and your partner can figure out what works for you. That being said, I seek to push right up against my boyfriend’s limits here. This is where the “forced” part of the humiliation listed above becomes more real.

There are several ways to inflict some pain on your male, here are some of my favorites.

Face slapping. I really enjoy this. Nothing gets his attention so quickly as a pop to the side of his cheek. Several (5-6) in quick succession create a look of fear in his face that I love. He can take a lot of punishment here too, just watch out for his eyes and ears. This is an especially good thing to practice while you’re fucking his face or he’s licking your pussy and/or ass. Use your slaps to get his attention, give direction, and have fun. “I slap told slap you slap to slapfocus slap on slap my slap clit!! slap”

Hair Pulling. Grab his hair and yank his head around. Do this while pegging (in any position), while he’s giving you oral (or sucking your dildo), to lead him where you want him, to hold his head in place while you slap him, to force his face into a puddle of semen, etc.

Spanking/whipping. The most common. I like to use a belt, flogger, occasionally a cane.

Cock and Ball Torture. Another common theme on femdom websites. Here’s a list of techniques I use.

Squeezing/Pinching. Grab his balls and squeeze. Pinch the head of his dick.

Slapping. Simple. To make it hurt worse, you can grab his balls into one hand and hold them tight and steady while you slap.

Punching. Same as above but creates a lot more pain. :)

Kicking. Kicking him right in the balls after you just fucked his ass can be quite the experience for both of you. Take this one more slowly haha.

Nipple Play. Most people know about this already. Use clamps, clothespins, pinches, flicks, twists, and scrapes to inflict some pain here. He can take more than you think.

Chemical Play. Ok, we’re getting to some more extreme areas here again. This is not to be taken lightly, as many people’s bodies react differently. Here’s a list of things we’ve tried.

Ice cubes. Rub on his penis, balls, asshole, and nipples. This can sometimes eliminate a pesky erection in a pinch. I’ve inserted cubes into his anus as well, he doesn’t like that lol.

Ben-gay/Icy Hot. Rub this on the penis balls, taint, and anus. This creates a very unpleasant burning sensation. My pet feels very intense pain for about 10-20 minutes. It then subsides to a mild cooling sensation.

Tabasco/hot sauce. Same as above, rub on genitals and asshole. Your man’s experience will vary here depending on the type of sauce you use, the duration you leave it on, and the amount you use. I reserve this for serious punishment. I once poured some hot sauce on the dildo I fucked him with. Let’s just say he didn’t have a great night.

Electricity. You need to be even more careful here. My only experience is a dog shock collar. I attach the collar around his penis and testicles. It has a vibrate function (for when he’s been a good boy) and 8 levels of shocks. We’ve gotten up to level 6. He really hopes I don’t have to use 7 or 8 on him. You can experiment with the position of the collar on his genitals. If the contacts are touching his balls, he’ll feel it throughout his sack and his perineum. If you flip it over and the contacts touch the base of his penis, shocking sensations will affect his entire penis, all the way to the head. We’ve experimented with different levels here, and it seems his penis is much more sensitive to electricity than his balls are. Your man’s experience may vary. This collar also has a sound/beeping function that I use as a pager when I need him. If his balls beep, he has 10 seconds to be on his knees in front of me, regardless of his prior activity, or else he’ll face punishment.

Bondage and Restraints. I keep this simple as I don’t enjoy taking the time to set up intricate bondage situations. I’m sure my BF would like it, but its just too much effort when I can use simpler items to accomplish the same things. I own a few types of gags, a collar and leash, handcuffs, bed restraint system and, my favorite, a spreader bar (bar with cuffs for hands and feet).

Control. A lot of the more severe pain and control items above are essentially just a method to get my guy to do what he’s told. This is where the “forced” aspect really comes into play. For example, he absolutely hates eating sperm. But if I want him to eat sperm, he’s going to fucking eat it. So I use pain to get him to do it. One way I do this is with the electric dog collar and handcuffs. After he cums, and there’s a load of sperm sitting there on the floor, I give him a choice. Either put your face on it and suck up all that lovely sperm, or, get shocked in increasing intervals and strength. Eventually he’ll do it. This is an area where we’ve both agreed that he doesn’t get a choice any longer. He submits to being forced to lick his jizz off the floor.

Another example is dildo play. If i instruct him to deepthroat my strapon, and get the entire 7 inches down his throat while maintaining eye contact, that’s his job to do. If he doesn’t, I inflict pain. For example, I might start by slapping his face as a warning if he’s disobeying, increasing the strength and quantity of the slaps as I try to work the dildo down his throat. If that doesn’t work, I move on to other means. I may whip him with the belt, or punch his balls a few times then give him another chance. I increase the pain until he obeys. Its really fun to give him tasks that are hard to acheive. I also use pain as punsihment for failure. If he can’t make me orgasm in a certain time period, or its less pleasurable than what I expected, I may attach the spreader bar to his ankles and wrists, gag him, slather his cock and balls with ben-gay, and then go have a glass of wine while he contemplates how he can improve his performance next time.

This doesn’t mean I need a reason to hurt my toy. When we’re playing, I may slap him for fun or for no reason at all. If he’s getting pegged, he should expect to get popped in the face a few times just because I fucking feel like it. Maybe I’ll kick his little blue balls afterwards while he’s still on all fours on the kitchen floor, just because I want to be a bitch.

FRUSTRATION/TEASING

This is really quite simple. When we’re playing, I cum when I want, he cums when he’s allowed to. I enjoy making him suffer in this way, its honestly the most fun part of all this. There are a lot of ways I enjoy teasing and frustrating him and I’ll go over some of them now. There is one hard and fast rule in this game for us. He must always ask permission to ejaculate, no exceptions. He’ll be punished severely for an unauthorized orgasm or ejaculation.

Chastity. This is a must for us. While we don’t play 24/7, I enjoy making him wear a chastity device frequently when we’re apart. I work nights, so if I’m at work, chances are he’s locked into “The Vice”. This is a locking chastity cage, similar to others, only this one has an anti-pullout mechanism that makes it very difficult to remove without the key. Basically “The Vice” (available at  www.lockedinlust.com ) is a plastic sheath for his dick that attaches to a ring around the base of his balls. It prevents erections and masturbation very well for the price. I don’t want my man’s dick mangled by a piercing for this game we play, and some of the other devices out there require that to be secure. The Vice keeps it secure and out of his (or anyone else’s) hands. Its so empowering to be able to restrict access to his own dick. I have the power to grant him erections and orgasms, he can’t have them without me or my approval. The length of time he wears the device really changes, but is up to me. I usually don’t keep him in it for more than a couple days, but we’ve had times that I left him in there for over 3 weeks. He really wasn’t happy about the time I had to leave town for 4 days and took the key with me, AFTER he’d been locked up for a week already.

There are a log of fun chastity games you can find online. Some fun chastity games we play:

Try to cum. I enjoy leaving the device on him, and tell him to try to have an orgasm with it on (no vibrator allowed!). Its fucking entertaining to see him hump his hand, finger his asshole, shake the cage around, pinch his own nipples, etc. I like to offer some cheering words of encouragement here for him. Usually I have him do this on the floor in the middle of the living room while I sit on the couch and watch. He hasn’t been able to cum yet, but maybe one day he’ll get there. (Another great video opportunity)

Coin flip. If he’s been locked up for several days, I’ll strap him to the bed or handcuff him to remove the device. Then I’ll start stroking his dick until he’s very close to orgasm, right on the edge. Then I flip a coin, heads I finish him off. Tails, I immediately stop, put an ice pack on his dick and lock him back up once he’s soft again. Better luck next time honey.

Roll of the dice. If he rolls a six, he gets to cum. If not, that’s the number of days he stays locked up until he gets another chance. This went on for over 3 weeks for us at one point. He was really on edge lol.

Chastity can also play into the control aspect as well. Sometimes when we play I don’t take the cage off. For example, he doesn’t need an erection to get fucked in his ass or to use my dildo and vibrator on my pussy, so why take it off? If he starts giving me a bad attitude, I’ll simply add another day or two to his lockup time. I use this as punishment for disobedience when playing, so it gives me more control.

One of the big things you’ll notice if you start incorporating chastity into your sex life, is that he will become more and more agreeable and obedient as time goes on, if you restrict his orgasms. If we’re playing with chastity more seriously, I like to make him wait 1 to 2 weeks between orgasms. He has a high sex drive, so when I do this, he gets so horny he’ll do anything to get out of his chastity cage. Its really entertaining to see what I can get him to do. Once, after 13 days locked into the Vice, I insisted he detail my car if he wanted out of the device. He whined and complained, so I told him that he just earned himself another 3 days in the device, and I still expected the car detailed.

The MOST IMPORTANT thing when incorporating chastity into your sex life is this. SAY NO. Don’t be swayed by his begging, whining, or complaining. Firstly lets get this out of the way, no one NEEDS to have an orgasm. He wants to cum, he doesn’t need to. So lets get that little idea out of the way immediately. We have a rule, when he’s locked up, he gets to politely ask for an orgasm once per day. If I feel like it, I’ll have him earnestly beg me. This is great for extracting promises from him. But if I say no, he needs to shut the fuck up about it immediately. Occasionally I’ll say yes, but most of the time I’ll say no as I’ve already decided on how long he’s going to be locked up. Do not feel bad about this. In fact, relish your power here.

I get off on having him go down on me right after I tell him “No, you’re staying locked up.” While we both agreed to incorporate chastity devices into our sex life, the lockup duration is my decision alone. Use the device to modify his behavior to your liking. If you want something from him, sexual or not, give him the order. If he doesn’t comply, add time in the device. The power is intoxicating.

Teasing. Sometimes he wears The Vice around the house, sometimes not. But regardless I like to wear skimpy clothing, rub up against him, feel and squeeze his balls, ass cheeks, and body just to see him get a boner (or try to, hehe). I’ll take this a lot further sometimes, stroking his dick until he starts leaking precum, getting him close to orgasm, only to stop and tell him to calm down. Sometimes I even let him fuck me until I have an orgasm or two, then tell him to stop. This is delightfully frustrating for him. Other times I’ll leave him in the chastity cage and masturbate right in front of him. One of my favorite teases is to use his mouth to make me cum and send him away completely denied. Sometimes I tell him I’m going to make him cum, only to stop at the last second and tell him I changed my mind.

Ruined Orgasm. By far the funniest aspect to this whole femdom thing. Its really an artform. The basic idea is that you get your man very, very close to the point of orgasm and then stop all stimulation. If you do it right, he’ll just tip over the edge, and his semen will dribble out of his dick with barely any force, and next to no pleasure. This works best with his hands restrained so he can’t try to finish the job himself. I like to pair this sometimes with the shock collar to make it completely miserable.

SERVICE

So now we get to the fun part. A lot of the above is playing into my man’s fetish, and that’s ok. I do love him, and I don’t have a problem doing stuff for his enjoyment. But you can be sure I’m going to be getting something out of all this! A big part of femdom is serving the woman in the relationship. And I’ll detail how that all works for us now.

Sexual Service. This encompasses everything. If I want my ass eaten out for 2 hours while I watch TV, he does it. If I want a full body massage from a muscled, naked man, that’s what I get. If I want to fuck and get off two or three times, I get that. If I want my nipples sucked while I use my vibrator on myself, that’s what I get. Nothing is off limits to me sexually. I speak, he obeys. That’s just how it goes. I typically don’t orgasm from oral sex alone or penetrative sex alone, and sometimes it can take quite a while for me to get there. The point is, I get what I want. Not that I want him eating my ass for 2 hours necessarily, but I’ll make him do something like that sometimes just because I can. (Then sometimes make fun of him for it.)

Facesitting. I love sitting on his face. Its a great experience to cum all over his face. Sometimes I use just his tongue, while other times I’ll shove a dildo in his mouth and ride it while using my vibrator. I also have a gag that has a dildo sticking out of it. Whatever I’m using, its important that I’m only concerned with my own pleasure during this experience. Don’t worry about whether or not he’s able to breathe, if his tongue is tired, if his neck hurts, etc. In fact, its quite enjoyable to put him in intentionally uncomfortable positions for this. We have a hard wooden chair that I like to use for this. He’ll be required to sit on the floor and lean his head back onto the seat of the chair. This hurts his neck and head when I really start riding and bouncing on it, but who gives a fuck? He needs to focus on my orgasm, not his temporary discomfort.

As part of the sexual service aspect of femdom in our sex life, we’ve decided that he no longer decides when and where he gets to orgasm, when and where I get to orgasm, and he doesn’t decide on when or where any other sexual activity takes place. That’s up to me now. This doesn’t mean that he doesn’t initiate sex any longer, far from it. But it does mean he doesn’t get to complain, and he doesn’t get to turn me down when I want it either.

The goal of sexual service is two-fold. One, for you to get all the pleasure you want. Two, for him to feel completely objectified. When you are using him sexually, think of him as just another sex toy, a dildo that you can use up and throw away when you are finished.

But this isn’t limited to sexual service only.

Domestic Service. Basics. When we’re in femdom mode, he does the chores. All of them. We get to spice up mundane things like cleaning the bathroom and vacuuming in easy ways. For example, if the dishes need washed, and the kitchen mopped, I tell my bitch to get his maid outfit and shock collar on and bring me the large butt plug. While he gets dressed I may watch TV, text friends, do some shopping online, or anything else I want. When he’s ready, he lubes up the plug and I put it up his tight little ass. He then goes off to do whatever I’ve told him to do while I relax. After he’s done I may or may not inspect his work, if he did a good job then he may get a reward. His reward may be the privilege of kissing my asshole for example. If its not up to par he may get punished. This can be implemented immediately, or added to a play session later. If you are going to go this route though, I would suggest using punishments he really wants to avoid (extended chastity time, severe spankings, etc.) or else you may find him purposefully messing up in order to get some “punishment” he wants.

This applies to any chore we need completed. My laundry, dishes, car washes, lawn mowing (its funny seeing him on a riding mower when I know there’s a plug up his ass), cooking, etc.

Personal Service. These are generally intimate things that I want done for me. They can really play up the tease element as well. Some examples: 

Shave me. In the shower or bath, I like to have him shave my legs and pussy.

Toenails/pedicure. I pick the color, then he massages, moisturizes my feet. Then polishes my nails for me. He’s also responsible for removing any old polish from my nails. 

Massage. Sometimes just a shoulder rub, other times I’ll be nude and he is required to give me a full body massage with oil. I like for him to be nude for this as well. It’s really torture for him to give me a few orgasms afterwards and stay denied. 

Body worship. It can be really relaxing to have him kiss and nuzzle my thighs, feet nipples, and pussy. I especially enjoy having my asshole worshiped though. Just light kisses, licks and nuzzles. Basically he’s making out with my asshole. It’s a serious power trip to have him do this while I watch TV or play games on my phone, ignoring him except to give instructions if I want something done differently.

PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER

I’ve outlined several ideas and topics here, and now I’ll give an example on how I’ve put all of it together. Remember when reading this, its all in fun, and it doesn’t necessarily have to make a lot of sense. Remember, if your guy is into femdom, he likes a lot of this kind of stuff already.

I like to choose something from each category when we play, just to round out the session. Not always, but frequently.

For one session I decided we were going to do some pegging, so before I got home I told him to get himself cleaned up, naked, and get a plug in. I got home about an hour later, so he’d been stretched out for a little while. I got home, grabbed him by the hair and dragged him into the garage. I told him to get on all fours in the middle of the floor and wait. He waited there for 20 minutes. I know he was scared, he’d never been fucked on the garage floor before. It wasn’t clean, and he was completely naked except for the plug in his ass.

I came in turned all the lights on and started taking pictures. I was already wearing the strapon. I made him smile for the camera, and pose for me. It looked like a really trashy photoshoot. I took several pictures in varioius positions and then I told him it was time to get busy.

I lubed up my cock, slowly pulled out the plug and got to work. I fucked him on the floor of the garage for about 5 minutes, eventually really pounding him. I pulled him up by his hair, bent him over the hood of my car and pounded some more. I insisted he fake an orgasm like a girl. It was reallly funny listening him attempt to moan and scream like a woman orgasming.

Once he was done, I pulled him around by the hair and spit directly into his face. I told him that was the worst fuck I’d ever had and told him to “go clean my fucking bathroom”. He stared at me dumbfounded, so I slapped him hard in his face and repeated it louder. He quickly scurried off to the master bath. About 5 minutes later I came in and threw the strapon and butt plug on the floor and told him to clean up my toys as well. When he came and reported that he was done, I went to inspect his work. It was spotless.

So I told him to get himself cleaned up and ready for bed. As a reward I let him go down on me for a while and then use my vibrator to give me an orgasm. He didn’t get to cum that night. (but we did cuddle and watch a movie)

There are many more ways you can mix and match categories, and many of them run together. For example, you can facefuck your man with your strapon, while you rub his dick. Once you’re satisfied he’s learned how to deepthroat, pull him off and make him beg for the privilege of masturbating in your presence. You can record this on video if you like, then, make him eat his own cum on video. The possibilities are endless! Again, I know a lot of this isn’t “authentic” if you’re doing it for your submissive partner, but that doesn’t really matter to me. What matters is that we’re having fun, and I get what I need out of it too.

Amazing add from one or the subscribers! Thanks for that!

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OMFG!!! I LOVE HER!!!

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CUCKOLD SHOCK

So me and my hot-girl are sitting at home Netflix and chilling. I’m obviously in my panties and chastity, with Tshirt and shorts over them. She’s in one of TJ’s big T-shirts and her panties. That’s pretty normal for us.

She has her long naked legs over me and I’m in heaven. Then there was a knock on the door. It’s 9pm. So I look through the spy hole and answer it.

It’s TJ. He’s here unannounced and roughly barges past me in to the house. I worry suddenly about what’s happening, but my girlfriend has this look in her eyes like it’s not that unexpected, like she’s pretending to be surprised.

“Sit down cuck!” He suddenly said to me and pointed to the floor at the far end of the room next to where I was stood.

Then he takes her by the neck! By the neck and she just lets him!!!

Then he turns her around and pulls his Tshirt off her and takes her big tits in his hand, still clutching her neck too.

Then he bends her over my side of the sofa takes his keys out of his pocket, nicks her panties. Puts his keys away then grabs her panties by the pussy and rips them clean off her, tearing them as he does.

She just yelped and looked back at him with a surprised kind of awe and horniness.

From the other side of the room I can see she is wet. He shoves her face down into my seat and plunges him cock into her stretched pussy. Her tits are huge for such a slender waist and look great when they are squeezed into perfect round balloons underneath her as she’s shoved face down by another man. First thing I noticed oddly was just how tight and large TJ’s ball sack was. Mine hangs down, much further now that my chastity has been stretching them for over 2 years. They hang like sad little bags with one orange in each. His were full and tightly stretched around one big melon in each. They rode high and tight behind his cock. I was reminded of a loaded cannon.

She looks straight at me and smiles, then moans, still looking right at me as she does. He starts fucking her hard and places his foot on her head like in the porn movies she likes. She’s so wet that it’s running down her leg as he’s ruining her pussy. He’s spanking her ass and she’s saying things like.

“Fuck yes. Make me your little bitch.”

I’m ignored other than she keeps looking at me. Not because she wants to include me as such, but because she likes being watched.

He shoved his big thumb into her asshole and she immediately started cumming on his cock. Her whole body was shuddering. He pulled her ass wider with his thumb as she came, his cock still in her, bringing her body to a higher orgasm like he was a skilled craftsman manipulating her like she was just a tool.

I’m desperately tugging on my cage in futility and doing it silently as this was the first time TJ ever really let me watch her with him longer than a few seconds.

He was still being very rough with her. I’d never dare be half that rough. But I’m a white weakling though, so I guess that’s to be expected.

He roughly pummelled her asshole as he shook out the last of her orgasm. Then he picked her up. He lifted her clean off the floor!!!! It was like she weighed nothing and held her, her back to his chest, her knees up near her shoulders, then he sat down on our large foot rest and slowly lowered her gapping ass towards his massive dick.

Then he yelled at me to come over. I confess I hesitated for a second, thinking I’d misheard him. He told me first not to touch him at all anywhere. Then he said to put her ass down on his cock.

So I kinda aided her butt down until it touched the tip of his cock and then watched in close proximity as my girlfriend’s ass sank slowly down on another man’s cock, sliding 2 then 4 then 5 inches deep on his dick. She put her arms back to hold herself there, fixed in place and he pounded her ass really fast.

As he did, she slapped my face with her foot deliberately and laughed. A few furious minutes later he lifted her up and off his cock and jerked himself off onto her tits, but his cock was so powerful that most of it hit the floor in front of me. She held his balls as he did and then between kissing his nuts said to me.

“Mop that up loser”

I scrubbed the floor as she made me thank him. She’d wanted to do a home invasion style fuck for ages.

I said. “Thank you for fucking my girlfriend and for permitting me to watch. I’m really grateful.”

He just laughed.

I got no chastity release until he left and I had to cum on my face whilst she took a shower. Rejected cuckold.

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RISKY CUCKOLD LOSER

There is a part of cuckolding that is dangerous. What if she leaves you for her Bull? What if you get turned on by her leaving you for her Bull? Could you even hope to stop her if you tried?

It’s not like you could compete with a man you already admitted to her is better than you. Especially one you’ve spent a year being told you could never compare to in bed and knowing it’s really true. Bad ideas can start to play on your mind. But they also turn you on. The idea of being left, still locked in chastity, so you can’t get another girlfriend, imagining her living the life with her big muscular Bull; it kinda turns you on.

I got a flash of that this weekend. It was erotic and terrifying and the ultimate humiliation. It was the ultimate defeat when I thought I couldn’t be more humiliated than I have been. I’ve been force fucked and cummed on by a tiny cuckold cock whilst my girlfriend had a girl guy threesome in another room. I’ve stood naked in just chastity at the foot of my own bed an thanked TJ for fucking my girlfriend whilst they lay naked in bed together.

This was worse.

Friday night TJ called her. She seemed surprised by something. Turns out, he was outside already and he told her to come out. He told her to bring me too.

We get to the front door and there he was. Leant against a brand new Ferrari 458! Look it up, it’s a hot car. I knew he was loaded, but I had no idea it went this far! It was a beautiful vehicle. Matte black with pale gold wheel trims, tinted windows, smoked light fittings etc. It looks bad ass.

Then he tells her he’s bought a trip for her to travel with him to the party destination of Zante for the weekend! She wasn’t sure at first as she looked straight at me.

I wasn’t invited.

He’d even packed her a range of clothes he’d bought for her, so she didn’t have to pack! Evening dresses (v short ones he said), lingerie, bikinis, tiny shorts and skimpy Tshirts. She would look like a slut, but she didn’t care about that. He’d bought hair strainers, phone chargers etc etc. All she had to do was grab her makeup and toiletries.

She looked at me and asked me if she could go! Think about that question seriously!

How do I say no to that? How do I compete with a customised Ferrari 458 and a 10 inch cock as wide as a red bull can? If I’d said no, would it have changed anything? If it had, she’d have resented me for it and I’d have displeased both of them. I didn’t even want to say no. I didn’t even know what he’d do if I said no. I said yes.

Then she said to me.

“I know you’ve been fantasising about me going away without you and cuckolding you whilst you squirm at home in your sissy lingerie. I saw the pics you downloaded with the captions. I want you in panties, stockings and bra, the ENTIRE weekend I’m away fucking his huge cock.”

If I’m honest, I wanted to accept the deep humiliation of it. I wanted to imagine her sucking and fucking his huge cock in a fancy hotel room whilst I squirmed at home in my tiny chastity that I now know IS shrinking my cock. It has reduced in size by 1.5 inches since we started chastity!

She left in his loud, aggressive sounding car, my chastity key visible around her neck. I confess the first thing I did was go put on the lingerie she told me to put on. It’s a good thing I did too, because only 8 minutes after leaving, she text me to demand a pic of me in my lingerie in the next 30 seconds or I wouldn’t get a release for another month! I made it in time because I’d been obedient. Then nothing, no reply to my texts. I tugged furiously on my cage imagining them laughing at my pic whilst they drove to the airport, in total ownership of a pathetic loser.

First thing she texted me after a 4hr pause was:

I’m at the airport with him. I want you watching big black cock porn right NOW. White girls fucking big black dicks for the next hour! Imagine, that’ll be me all weekend baby. XXXX

I was feeling like I might actually lose my girlfriend to him with all his money and cock. But the fact she kept me involved helped calm me down. How sad is that?!

I watched the porn. Black guys fucking white girls in exotic locations and nearly came in my cage.

Then the next text:

“We’re here. OMG this hotel is AMAZING! Why are you such a loser?”

Gulp. Then:

“Loser. Reply. I want you to text me a list of reasons you’re a loser.”

No Ferrari, small cock, weak body, pasty skin, chastity locked shrinking cock, no stamina, no dominance, sissy, taken cock.

I started the list, but half way through she video phones me. But it’s not her.

It’s him holding the phone pointed at her as she is begging for his massive black cock. Literally begging, pleading him to let her suck him and saying he can fuck her ass if she just lets her suck his cock. Then he just hangs up.

Nothing for 14 hrs.

Then I get a text at midday on Saturday replying to my dozen texts to ask what’s happening. It’s a pic of her body at the beach in the smallest bikini possible without public exposure. Sinks right down to JUST cover her pussy, string thong at back. Bikini top just covers her nipples and part of her breasts.

She tells me they’ve met some people and are going out tonight. She demands that I put in a butt plug until she texts me again to say stop and expects a “sexy” ass pic off me EVERY hour until she does. She says they had a good laugh at the other one I sent.

All that took her was a 20seconds of typing and I spent the next 14 hours in a butt plug sending pics.

She eventually admitted she’d forgotten to text stop and only realised when she saw 14 pics sent by me.

She said she’d kissed a girl but gave no extra details, even when I asked!

Then there was nothing again until Sunday lunch. A pic of her in a flowery floating dress that only just covered her ass and showed off her long legs. Then a second pic to show her smooth shaven pussy had no panties underneath it. No text.

My girlfriend was actually off on holiday with another man. Fucking him and living without me. Sure she made me do tasks to keep me involved, but I was the third wheel. My chastity was so tight. But so was my heart. Such a big hard throbbing cock inside her, stretching her, physically demonstrating my absolutely pointless male appendage. A flash car and free clothes that made her his slut.

I was very involved at first but she was slowly forgetting my loser ass for her amazing holiday.

She didn’t reply to me then until she got home.

She gave him a deep kiss on our front door and he lifted her skirt to grab her thong clad butt cheeks.

The first thing she said to me when she finally saw me watching her and his finger on her ass hole.

“Well, bring my bags in from the car loser!”

I brought them in like a good little puppy. Then she said.

“Life is so much fun with a cuckold slave. Don’t ever leave me will you! I don’t know where I’d get this kind of treatment from anywhere else”

That’s all she had to say and I was her obedient happy cuck slave again.

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SUPERIOR BLACK BULL

I asked my girlfriend why she enjoys fucking TJ so much and she emailed me her answer.

This is it. (With some boring personal parts trimmed off the start.)

Baby, the reason I measured your balls last night was because I’ve long suspected something and now I know it’s true.

You don’t need your balls. Hahaha.

Just kidding. You need to be frustrated so your balls are vital. No I measured them because, as I suspected, I’ve discovered that just one of TJs balls is larger than both of yours!!

When he cums! OMG. It’s like 5 of your best load, minimum. He can blast that cum from my pussy over my body and onto my face. He usually launches at least 3 strings over my whole body!

And you’ve seen his cock. It is actually the width of a red bull can. All veiny and muscular like the rest of him. He has 10.2 inches of pure fuck meat. Compare that to your 3 inch mistake that’s only as thick as two of my fingers! Add to that the chastity shrinking and the fact you cum in a dozen strokes.

His arms are like warm, brown, steel tree trunks. Just seeing them makes me wet. Touching them whilst his huge hands are around my ass makes me literally soak my panties.

He had to leave early on Wednesday remember. He got as far as taking my skirt off and had to leave. My panties were soaked through from the top of my pussy to the start of my ass. I rang them out in the sink!

When he lifts me up with those huge arms like I weigh nothing more than a blow up doll I’m so wet that his huge tip always slides straight inside me. Then, as he’s stretched my pussy with all this fucking we’ve done the last year, my pretty pussy always opens really quickly for him, until he’s almost balls deep straight away. 10 inches is a lot for a girl to accommodate. I feel like a cock puppet. Like he’s possessed my whole body.

Then his strong arms lift me so easily up and down on his massive cock. The top of his dick actually rubs my Gspot and the base of his cock, when he’s got me at the right angle, rubs my clit. He fucks my weightless body like this and I barely last a few thrusts the first time. He makes me cum as quick as you cum jerking off.

But Oh God. With my Gspot AND my clit AND my pussy all getting rubbed I have a FULL orgasm that shatters my brain. But he keeps fucking me in that state and somehow it prolongs the orgasm! I’ve had an orgasm last over a minute before. It feels like my whole body has become an extension of his magnificent cock. I spray all that built up lady cum all over and over and and over and over again, thrashing on his cock.

Of course part of the reason I cum so hard is because he has one finger in my ass too. His middle finger is longer than your dick. He stretches me out and with all the lady cum and pussy juices, he sits me down in the puddle I made and pulls my ass open. I love anal so bad I open really quick. Whilst I’m coming down from my orgasm he transitions his dick to my ass. Tip at first, then up to 3-4 inches as he fucks me. I always prepare my ass for him in the bathroom before he comes. I feel so enslaved when he takes my ass like I’m a cock toy for his fun.

I love it when he blasts his load deep in my ass, then seals it in with my jewel butt plug. I clean his cock thoroughly, then he’s back inside my pussy and then we can ride for longer.

I can focus on his body more. His thick arms, broad chest, defined 6pack. All whilst your jelly tire and puny arms are making us drinks in the other room. I sometimes remember your pink chastity cage around that tiny dick as I hit my third orgasm.

He likes to cum on my face like in porn. I like to see him enjoy his fantasy of fucking a girl like he’s in a porno, so I live up to it and play like I’m desperate to feel it on my face. Like I want to be demeaned and dominated by his gallons of manly seed.

I rub it over my face and mouth. I savour it and thank him for giving me his tasty load and body rocking orgasms.

As he leaves I see your timid little shape poke out from behind a door and I make sure you see my sexy ass getting held by his powerful hands. I like it when he spanks me infront of you. I nearly came when he bent me over his knee and spanked me repeatedly infront of you that time. Laughing at you when you asked if I was ok!

Then I kiss you. Because I love you, you pathetic fucking loser. All his cum spread over my face and in my mouth and you kiss me back. I cup your half sized balls and grip that tiny plastic cock prison as you moan in pleasure. So easy to entertain. Then I smack your balls a bit and rub your cage on my ass crack until I can tell you are super hard in your cage.

Then I just leave you like that and walk away to rub my body slick with soap in the shower whilst you make me a snack.

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Being a cuckold

It’s 1pm on a Saturday afternoon.

I’m here in a frilly school girl skirt that my girlfriend demanded repeatedly that I wear. It doesn’t cover even half of my smooth shaven bum. I’m in chastity, of course, the pink plastic squishing my cock and making my balls so tight that they bounce off my legs as I walk. They look like they’ll burst, they’re so full and tight. I have a pair of crotchless pink panties that my girlfriend bought without even telling me and insists I wear them. My chastity poking through the hole as the g-string rides into my ass. I have shaven legs and white thigh high socks and a small pink jewel butt plug deep between my cheeks.

The rest of me is naked and shaven. I am listening to my girlfriend giggling and laughing in the bedroom. When she went in there with TJ she was wearing a sheer/black teddy. Backless with high arches at the hip and a steep cleavage that made her tits look like the best 34 D you could stick your cock between.

I can hear him spanking her and her saying “Thank you daddy” because that’s what he likes. “Your cock is so big daddy”.

They’ve been in there for over 4 hrs and I’ve heard her cum 5 times. She’s always been able to cum lots, but I’ve never been the cause.

My cock has shrunk from 5.9 inches to 2.9 in 14 months of hard chastity time. Hard, my cock looks like a joke version of itself. A little squit of a stalk with an oversized head that looks out of place like it belongs to a much bigger dick. It’s required me to get a smaller and smaller chastity cage. And now I may need a HT nano to keep me adequately crushed.

I just heard the bell ring. Which means I get to see my slender goddess and the man who is fucking my goddess as I take them both a drink. The man who’s cock was made into a dildo that my girlfriend pegged me with, so I know what his cock feels like in my ass.

I’m back from taking them drinks. She looks surprisingly not dishevelled. The room smelled of perfume and cum and was flooded with bright light on our white sheets. They both laughed at me a called me “The cuckold loser” as I put down the drinks.

“The cuckold loser is in her school uniform so she can learn why she’s a silly bottom fag sissy cuckold”.

She asked me what I’d learned. I had to come up with something.

“I have learned that my inferior shrinking cock could never satisfy a woman.”

These are genuinely the words I used. I was dismissed amongst laughter that made my cage tighten whilst hearing her tell TJ how my dick really had shrunk. He snorted a short laugh, then flipped my girlfriend over on to her knees and took her ass in his hands, she arched her back, but I had to leave the room.

This is my life being a real sissy cuckold white boi, replaced by superior black cock.

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Should white men just accept their girls cheating black?

Yes.

But why and what should you do about it? Don’t let jealousy and anger cause you to break up with the girl you love just because she is cheating on you with black men! That’s just stupid. Instead try to understand and accept it.

Why is she cheating?

Your penis is too small and you don’t last. Good sex requires a large cock and simply put you are not giving your girl the orgasms she deserves. You can’t do anything about your small penis but she can, that is, find black men with big cocks to fuck.

You might be satisfied with boring sex and masturbation but she isn’t. She needs real sex from real men. You can’t blame her for wanting to have a full sex life. You are not as tall, athletic, masculine or dominant as a black man can be. Do you even lift?

Interracial sex between white girls and black men is being promoted everywhere. Films, TV shows, advertisements, etc. Your girl will feel like she is missing out. Even if it’s subconscious at first, interracial sex fantasies will creep into her mind. You can blame whatever conspiracy you want but it is happening. It’s almost impossible for a normal person to fight against the billions of dollars being spent on this push.

Cheating is commonplace and the incidence is increasing. Girls tend to be open to cheating if their boyfriend or husband isn’t giving them what they need. Girls are discussing their sex life with each other, supporting and encouraging each other’s infidelity. Once one of them has gone black it won’t be long before the rest of them do. You don’t want your girl to be the only one in the group that isn’t cheating with hung black guys.

Websites and blogs are much more extreme that the mainstream media. Porn also of course. Girls are being exposed to this daily. The message they are getting is that not only is cheating acceptable, but that it’s desirable, and even that white boys secretly support it. The idea that going black is a sexy and hot way to spice up a relationship is gaining ground. Some girls even think their boyfriend or husband will be disappointed if he finds out they aren’t cheating with black men. Perversely her love for you could be the ultimate reason why she cheats black.

How to deal with it

Start using interracial porn. Avoid any porn with white men. You need to change your idea of sex from whatever it is now to big black cocks fucking white girls. Giving yourself orgasms to those images and videos helps to form a positive association. Many white girls already see getting blacked as the only real sex that counts and you need to think the same way.

Consume as much cuckold propaganda as possible. Just as with interracial porn use masturbation to train yourself to fall in line. Join in if you want. Help other white boys to understand.

Focus on her pleasure rather than being selfish. You love her so much that you want her to enjoy sex. Imagine her powerful orgasms pushing her into a state of bliss. Think about how happy and fulfilled she is.

Big cocks are hot. Stop denying this. You don’t watch porn with small penises. You want to see girls sucking and fucking big impressive cocks. You want to see big cum shots. Imagine her doing the sucking and fucking. Imagine those big loads pumped over her pretty face and breasts or inside her pussy and ass. So hot. It’s nowhere near as sexy if you replace those big black cocks with your unimpressive penis. Admit it: if you get off on masturbating to big cocks then it’s ok for her to fuck them.

She will start withholding sex from you, not because she doesn’t love you, but because sex with her black boyfriends is so much more satisfying. This is big hurdle to overcome but every cloud has a silver lining: it allows you to focus more on masturbation. It’s a virtuous circle as the more you do it the more you will accept her cheating and the lack of sex. You will learn to enjoy her coming back to you with a cum-filled pussy.

You are a good provider. Your hard work keeps her in the lifestyle that she deserves. Your money is buying all those sexy clothes and lingerie that she uses to seduce black men. Let yourself be turned on by that. When she models outfits for you imagine how hard it will make them and just how savagely they will ravish her. You should be proud of that.

The result

Your relationship will be radically improved. Both of you will be happy and sexually fulfilled. You will have great masturbation sessions while she is out having amazing sex with dominant black men behind your back. No more arguments, stress or frustration because of rubbish sex!

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Real Talk About Denial

While I may not always like it in the moment, I will confess that I find orgasm denial and ruined orgasms really hot. For this reason, I read a fair amount of content about denial (yes, making myself cum to ideas of not being allowed to cum). But this is one area where fantasy and reality can clash hard. So while I recognize that every woman* responds a bit differently, I want to share a few misconceptions I’ve seen. 

Denial does not have a linear effect on desire. Denying me for longer isn’t going to make me get even hornier. In fact, sometimes it can even decrease sex drive. For me, I’ve learned I can go about a week of edging and denial before my sexual desire starts to decline. Then it tanks pretty quickly. If your goal is to deny a woman until she’s crazy with lust, make sure you check in periodically to see how she’s feeling. 

Denial can make it hard to have an orgasm when it’s time for one. There’s a lot of mental conditioning that goes into denial, especially denial during sex. I can get myself into a place where I just know I won’t cum. If I know (or suspect) that I’ll be denied, I find it nearly impossible to cum. I’ve also seen women struggle to have an orgasm without permission at the end of a D/s relationship. This conditioning can be powerful, and it can be hard to undo. So basically, if I’m being denied for an extended period of time, I am not on the edge constantly. Because my body has built a brick wall between me and the edge. 

Denied women are not wet all the time by default. This one likely differs a lot by woman. But I read all these posts about how she was denied so long that she started constantly dripping. Like a faucet. Down her leg. And listen, maybe it works this way for some women. But most women have jobs and friends and pets and kids and lives. And they are not in a state of arousal all the time, even when edging a lot. There are in-between times where their vaginas are just, like, a normal state of wetness. So don’t assume you need to increase the intensity if she’s not in a puddle all the time.

Sometimes it can make you really fucking depressed. I always tell people with mood disorders to be really careful with kink activities that mess with brain chemicals. This includes impact and other endorphin-giving activities, but it also includes long-term orgasm denial. For me, orgasms are more than just sexual. They are stress relief. They are a dopamine boost. And when your brain isn’t great at the dopamine thing, denial can be tricky. 

Every person responds differently to denial. And it also matters whether it’s denial during masturbation or sex, whether there’s edging involved, how emotionally connected you are, and where you’re at in your menstrual cycle. For me, I find that denial works best intermittently and in the relative short-term (a few days or so). But in any case, denial often doesn’t work the way it looks in erotica (as with most things). It’s often a trial-and-error process to find what triggers the right arousal and feeling of control while maintaining a person’s wellbeing. 

*I’m writing about this specifically from a cisgender woman’s perspective, based on personal observations and my academic knowledge about sex research. I don’t really know how denial impacts other sexes, but if hormone cycles are different, I’d expect the effects of denial to differ as well. 

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A week ago as they laid in bed her husband had finally worked up the nerve to confess to his wife his desire to experiment with chastity, giving her complete control over his pleasure and orgasms.

In their normal sex life teasing was already a familiar element, his wife often drawing out his pleasure until he was begging for release. On rare occasions she would even deny his release altogether, leaving him to find a way to get through the night dealing with his aching frustration until she would eventually put him out of his agony the next morning.

But the more they continued with this sort of play, the more curious he became about what it might be like if they went further.

If he had to wait even longer.

If he surrendered even more control to his wife.

She could tell from the tone of his voice and the look in his eyes how difficult it had been for him to confess this desire to her. Being the open minded woman that she was and wanting to encourage him to be equally open she smiled approvingly.

"Oh honey, of course we can. If the thought of that turns you then I'd love to try it too. I'm so glad that you told me and honestly, I think that idea is hot."

"Really??," he replied in relief.

"Mmm hmm, very...," she purred in a seductive voice that made his face flush.

He exited the room for a moment then returned, handing her the chastity device and key he had already purchased, just in case. In a nervous voice he said, "I was thinking, maybe we could try it for one week and see how it goes?"

She could already feel her own lust elevating at the thought of how much power and control she would soon have over her husband's orgasms. After a brief pause, she countered, "I don't know, baby. I'm more than happy to try this with you, but that doesn't seem all that long to me. If we really want to find out if we like it I think we need to try this out for two weeks."

His eyes widened in surprise, clearly not expecting this turn of events. But, if that's what it would take to try this out, then so be it.

"Uhhh, well..... sure. I guess we could try for two weeks," the apprehension already apparent in his voice.

"Perfect," she smiled. "I think we should start right now, don't you?"

She was amused at how his cock was already beginning to stiffen from the thought of this.

Ok, things were moving at a much faster rate than he had anticipated. Trying to slow things down a little he stammered, "Well, uhhh.... yeah, but I was thinking. That before we started this that we could first.... you know...."

With a knowing smile she teased, "Aww, you were thinking.... I could give you one last orgasm before we locked your poor cock away?"

"Yessss," he exhaled gratefully.

Laughing softly, she purred, "I suppose that's a good idea, I mean, can you imagine what it would be like for you two weeks from now if we don't?"

Shaking his head he answered, "Definitely not."

"Mmm, then lay back baby. Relax, let me take care of you. I want you to enjoy this."

Stretching her soft, naked curves against him she reached down and began to softly stroke his already excited cock. For 30 minutes she gently teased, tantalized and tormented his cock. Her knowing touch had it steely hard with need, yet her experience with his body allowed her to keep him teetering on the edge without going over.

Finally, whispering softly in his ear she purred, "Are you ready baby?"

"God yes..... please!"

"Mmm, me too. Then let's get you locked up now, honey."

His mind could barely comprehend what he was hearing. "W-what??"

Chuckling she repeated, "Let's get you locked up."

"But I thought that....."

"You thought that I was going to make you cum? Aww, I'm sorry baby, but no. We must have had a little misunderstanding. Our little experiment will be so much more fun if we go in to it with you like this. Of course, if you've changed your mind and don't want to try this....."

"Oh god," he whimpered softly. "No, no.... I haven't changed my mind. I still want to."

Ten minutes later when his erection had subsided enough that she was able to secure his cock within the device he was safely locked away.

******************

Now, a week later the effects of the chastity device on her husband were far more exciting to her than she could have ever imagined. With each passing day he was looking at her like she was more and more of a goddess, his longing and desire for her so painfully apparent that it had her in a state of constant arousal as well.

And unlike her husband, she could do something about hers.

While over the last seven days her husband had endured nothing but arousal and frustration building up like a pipe about to burst, she had been enjoying countless orgasms. Her husband had always enjoyed pleasing her with his mouth, but now his only way of releasing his lust was by bringing her to orgasm, which cruelly had the side effect of making him ache for his own release even more.

Now, lying in bed after he'd brought her to three shuddering orgasms she could sense it. He was beginning to break. The cumulative effect of a week of arousal and frustration was starting to wear him down.

It was so fucking hot.

She could see that his longing for her had reached it's peak since their experiment had begun. Rolling over to her side she wound her arms around his neck and wrapped her legs around his waist.

"C'mere baby," she purred sympathetically.

She smiled when she felt his arms wrap around her, clutching her to him as if she were his own personal life preserver. This poor man was literally trembling in her arms with need for her and she absolutely loved it.

"Oh honey, you poor thing," she murmured sweetly. "You need it so bad, don't you?"

Wickedly she thrust her hips gently forward, pressing the heat and wetness of her pussy against the outline of his caged, aching cock trapped in his shorts. Slowly, her hips began to roll, causing her wetness to erotically grind and press against his desperately frustrated cock.

She smiled at how agonized his whimper of frustration was and the way his arms clutched her to him even more tightly.

"It's ok, honey," she whispered reassuringly, her legs holding him captive to her wickedly grinding hips.

"I understand, but you're doing so well for me. You're half way there honey. You only have one more week of this to go. You can take that for me, can't you baby? One more week of staying hard and locked up for me?"

His affirmation was soft, weak and adorably pitiful. And although she couldn't be sure, she sensed her husband was trying to conceal that his need to for her was so intense that he was softly crying in frustration.

The corners of her lips curled up in a wicked smirk, her voice murmuring, "I'm so glad you came up with this idea, baby. It's so hot, I absolutely love it. I hope you're enjoying it as much as I am."

[bamparbam]

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Me and Megan sitting on the couch. Rose finishes work and comes over. She's wearing the clingy pants I bought for her that show off her ass. I also konw she's wearing the panties she first cucked me in because I saw her put them on that morning. She sits down next to Megan and swings her leg over her lap. Looking at me from behind her, she mouths, "kiss her". I look confused. She stares at my eyes, and again mouths, "kiss her."

So I do. I nuzzle my nose up against her cheek, kissing her lightly. Thinking about everything that's happened. She kisses back, hard, the woman who sleeps with my fiancee, who's been, who'd been, who's been my best friend for many years. Her hand slips down to my thigh, then between my legs. I flinch, but only a little. Rose starts squeezing her breasts. "I'd forgotten how good real breasts feel". She's panting, kissing more aggressively, touching more aggressively. Rose is staring at me kissing Megan every time I look up. Megan bites my lip. Rose's brushes mine down onto Megan's thigh. Megan shifts so it's between her legs instead, starts grinding against it. Kisses harder. Cums. Again. Again. Again. Biting my lip. Rose is watching, smiling. She puts her hand down Megan's shirt.

Afterwards, I buy dinner. When I get back, Megan has moved to my spot. I sit in the wet spot on the couch. We eat dinner, and Rose and Megan get in the car and drive away, three hours before Megan's flight.

[bamparbam]

Neko was so fed up with boring business trips. Days away from her partner listening to guys who were full of themself go through dull report after dull report. It made her zone out and daydream of being far away from those airless meeting rooms, being used and fucked, hard. She got so tired of spending 4 nights a week in a hotel on her own, horny and in need of kinky fun. That's when she had a delicious idea.

She began bringing some of her bondage toys with her on each trip, ropes, gags, cuffs, vibrators, and after each monotonous day of meetings she would slip out of her office attire, either into sexy lingerie or just naked, and try out various ways of tying herself up, keeping a vibrator in her while she squirmed in place.

On the 3rd night of the 2nd week of her little self bondage hotel adventures, Neko arrived back at the room in a hurry. Sexy texts from her partner had teased her all day so she quickly ran over to her suitcase to get her toys. She was planning to try a new rope bondage design she had read about during one of the more particularly dull meetings. It was meant to be great for self bondage, and she hurried into her routine, preparing herself by teasing her pussy with her favourite vibe, before sliding it deep inside her and adding a cute butt plug to keep her feeling filled.

She decided to skip the ballgag, and checked her door was on the latch. Last thing she wanted was to be found like this, but she also didn't want to get stuck here with no one able to help her. Safety over humility she thought. If she can cry for help then a good Samaritan will be able to untie her so she wasn't trapped all night waiting for room service the next day.

The design was a simple hogtie that wrapped the rope around her legs first, binding her ankles together, and then created a looping knot that she would be able to bind her wrists into after. The feeling of rope wrapping her soft skin, coupled with the vibrator now pushed deep inside her, was making it hard to focus. She struggled with the wrist ties at first but once she had them loosely made in front of her all that was left was to tighten them behind her back and then bring her feet up and fiddle around until the loop of rope slipped in place to lock her wrists and ankles in a hogtie.

Neko felt her thighs soak as she gave a gentle tug and felt her binds hold. Already her orgasm was building, the new rope configuration was so simple but it left her squirming on the bed and moaning in pleasure as her pussy leaked with arousal.

After 20 minutes and now sated from her orgasm, Neko lay in post orgasmic bliss for a moment before rolling on her side to help herself pull at the binding that would loosen the hogtie. She scrambled to find it at first then gave the rope a soft tug. Immediately the hogtie seemed to tighten a little. Confused Neko felt around, to see if she had got it wrong. She scooted over to the side of the bed with a mirror to try and see what was wrong, but couldn't get an angle.

Neko felt the panic set in. She began frantically tugging, rolling around, twisting her limbs to try and get something to give. She felt the rope tighten and grunted. All the while the vibrator inside her kept her lubricated and horny.

She paused to catch her breath, and tried to think methodically. There must be something she hadn't thought of. But all that squirming had only made her less flexible, the binds now tightly locking her in place in a way that restricted almost all movement. Her muscles were aching. Neko hated to admit it, but she was defeated, her only saving grace was her planning before, so that she can be rescued, albeit in a very embarrassing way.

She waited for what felt forever before the first set of footsteps drew near. She cried out for help but it came out meekly. She blushed, knowing she was going to have to actually cry for help if someone else didn't come by soon. She listened to the foot steps fade away and then waited again. This time she heard a lighter set of feet walking, and a woman's voice calling to someone down the hallway. A woman would at least be more understanding and less perverted about the predicament, so Neko took a deep breath and yelled.

"HELLO! SOMEBODY PLEASE COME HELP ME, ROOM 412, IF YOU'RE OUT THERE, PLEASE I AM STUCK!"

Neko panted, out of breath from the outburst while trying to flex in the tight restraints. She heard the foot steps stop by her door, and slowly the door handle turned. Fear, elation, embarrassment... a whole cocktail of emotions flowed through the girl as a beautiful blonde woman in a red cocktail dress, red heels and bright red lipstick walked in the door carefully.

"Hello? Said the woman, cautiously stepping forward until she saw the tied up girl and froze. "Oh" The woman hesitated, taking a step back from the door, unsure of the threat, before Neko realised the woman might run and reassured her.

"Hey sorry, it's OK, just me in here, I put myself in this predicament and can't get out. Rope got too tight so could you please untie me, I'll buy you a drink and we can maybe forget anything happened here. Please?" Neko added the plea in desperation, and sighed in relief as the woman walked over to the bound girl, looking over the sight.

"Oh you poor thing, you did this to yourself with nobody to enjoy it or help you get free after?" The woman looked over Neko, the young helpless girl suddenly feeling very uneasy in this woman's presence.

"Yeah, stupid I know, chalk it down to learning or whatever. Please just help me with these knots and then we can both go our separate ways." Neko began trying to tug again to show her frustration. Enough bullshit from this woman.

"Don't worry, I'll help" reassured the woman, and Neko let relief sink in as the woman's hand leaned across the bed. But the hand was not going for the rope around Neko's wrists or ankles. Instead it found the ballgag Neko had left on the bed when she opted to play it safe. Far to quickly the gag was pulled up to Neko's mouth, cutting her protests off mid sentence.

"No what the fuck, get away from meeughh mppphh mpphhh mph mmmmph"

"Shh now girlie, you hadn't finished your little game, now it's a little more complete, and you have someone to enjoy it, isn't this secretly what you wanted?"

Neko began thrashing around wildly, but it only lead to the bonds tightening more, as she looked over to the door and tried to scream for help.

The woman followed Neko's gaze to the door and stood up. "Good idea, we don't want anyone finding you like this do we now? Who knows what would happen if someone utterly evil found you like this, hmm?" The woman slid the locking mechanism in place.

When screaming didn't work Neko began to quietly sob. Muffled pleas of help went unanswered except for to have the woman wipe tears from the girl's face and show a crocodile's smile of compassion for the helpless captive.

"Shhh shh, there there" mocked the woman "I have just given you what you really wanted no? Now let's see what other toys you forgot to play with silly."

The woman began going through Neko's toys, pulling out various things that intrigued her. The nose hooks were laid next to Neko, causing a grunt of disgust from the girl, along with a large, thick rubber dildo.

"Almost as big as my husband's" giggled the woman, waving it in front of Neko. "Speaking of which, I should let him know where we are, I think I just found him the perfect early anniversary present."

Neko shot an expression of pure venom at the woman, but it went ignored as the woman hit dial on her phone while idly running fingers over Neko's butt, before sliding down between soaking thighs to find Neko's dripping pussy. Neko blushed as the woman looked at her with a wicked grin, knowing how aroused Neko was, before she turned away to take the call.

"Hi darling, it's me, yeah I know, sorry, but I had a little opportunity to get you an early wedding anniversary gift you are going to LOVE. No, no I didn't spend a penny. Look just come to room 412 down the corridor and knock 3 times, make sure nobody sees you. OK hun, see you soon."

The woman hung up then turned back to Neko with a sadistic grin. "Now, let's get you properly ready."

10 minutes later there was the distinct sound of 3 individual knocks on the door. The woman's eyes lit up as she finished her work and admired Neko. The helpless girl now had nose hooks attached pulling her face up uncomfortably, looped into the hogtie knots. The vibrator had been removed, and replaced with the thick dildo, which had slid into Neko with ease thanks to how soaking wet the girl had become from the fear and humiliation combined. Neko had given up trying to escape, or call for help, instead letting the arousal of being used like this sweep over her until she bucked her hips and moaned as her pussy wrapped tightly around the larger dildo.

The woman hurried to the door, leaving Neko to rock her hips on the bed, while she heard a conversation before the door quickly closed again. "Close your eyes" said the woman to her husband, before leading him into the bedroom area.

"Now open them, and enjoy!" the woman giggled, biting her lip as she looked at the surprise on the man's face.

"Tara what the fuck? How? Does anyone know -" the man said before his wife pressed her finger to his lips and interrupted.

"No silly, of course nobody knows, I found her like this practically begging for it. Silly girl was trying to get herself off in a little self bondage but got stuck. Luckily for us I found her before she got free. Unluckily for her I guess." Tara looked down at Neko before pulling herself into her man, running her hand expertly down his chest and slipping her hand down his jeans, giving his quickly hardening cock a few tugs of encouragement as she whispered in his ear.

"Nobody knows Alex, she's so ripe to be taken. What do you say we enjoy for a bit here and then..."

Alex wasn't interested in 'and then'. He looked at the submissive girl on the bed and wanted her right now. His wife could be trouble, but she had one her due diligence. He trusted they wouldn't be interrupted and wasn't about to deny himself the chance to fuck some hot little slut his wife had prepared for him.

Neko let out a moan as she was pulled to the edge of the bed, the woman quickly pulled the thick dildo from her soaking sex with a 'phlop' sound as her needy pussy now felt the cool air of the room on her inside. It made Neko shudder.

Tara loved the look of hunger on her man, she almost envied the poor girl as she undid his belt and pulled his trousers down. Alex was in no mood to remove them completely, and instead just gripped Neko by the bindings around her ankles. Tara took his thick cock in her hand and guided it into the dripping submissive sex before him, playing with his balls as she ensured Neko took every inch.

Neko's world was spinning. Her pussy suddenly felt fuller than ever before. Alex had used his strength to tug Neko back onto his cock, forcing it deep inside her. Then he began to plow her. Forcefully, hungrily, without compassion. Pumping his cock, using her like a toy.

Tara knelt beside the bed, with one hand still massaging her man's balls the other ran fingers over Tara's cheek, then down her chest to pinch an already rock hard nipple.

"You should be glad we found you slut" Tara said as she watched Neko grunt with each thrust of the cock between her legs. "If someone else had found you they might have just let you go, you'd never learn your lesson." Neko could barely comprehend the malicious words this woman was saying to her, with her mind being broken by the pleasure of her totally submissive fucking.

Alex was already close. He could feel his balls tighten. His wife noticed it too, and leaned forward to whisper in Neko's ear.

"He's about to cum slut. Be a good girl, grip his cock as tight as you can with that needy cunt of yours. Make sure you empty his entire load in that nasty hole."

Neko felt her own orgasm wash over her at the humiliating comments in her ear. She gripped his cock and felt warm goo shoot inside her as she twitched in her restraints and moaned a long, deep purr into the gag. The pumping slowed, each thrust now joined by a spurt of his creamy spunk inside her, filling her, leaking onto the bed.

Finally Alex pulled out, not saying a word to his conquest, letting his wife do the talking and admiring the way she had with words.

"Such a good girl, so obedient. There' doesn't that feel good?" Tara stroked the submissive's hair before reaching between the helpless girl's sex and scooping a thick blob of her husband's cum in her hand, before wiping it over the helpless girl's gagged mouth and lips.

Tara then moved to her husband, taking his still engorged cock in her mouth, savouring the taste of Neko on his shaft as she licked it clean.

Alex finally spoke. "We'll need to get rid of the sheets. Wrap her up in them I reckon. Get her back to our room then we can pack her up neatly and wheel her out in your suitcase. You grab her belongings and put them in her case, we need to make it look like she checked out without telling anyone."

Tara unwrapped her lips from Alex's cock and grinned. "We keeping her then?"

"For now" replied Alex, already stepping away from his doting wife to assess the mess on the bed. He pulled the sheets up and wrapped them around Neko's helpless body. Neko barely made a sound, she was still coming down from her orgasm and barely noticed as the sheets engulfed her.

Tara got to work piling all of Neko's belongings into her suitcase and moved it to the doorway. She opened the door, checking the coast was clear before stepping out and moving Neko's case down into her own room. Shortly after Alex followed. Neko had no idea what was going on, her head still spinning, the sheets disoriented her, and she lacked any energy to fight it. In moments the couple had emptied a large suitcase and were lowering Neko inside. Padding it with the bed sheets.

Moments later Alex was rolling Neko out of the hotel lobby and over to the parked Mercedes he had driven in, hidden away in a large suitcase of luggage. She put up no fight as he ensured she was able to breathe while secured in the boot of the car. He then got in the driving seat and waited for Tara to tidy away the loose ends, destroying Neko's phone and throwing in the trash as she left, wheeling Neko's belongings out as if they were hers.

The bored assistant at front desk barely gave a glance at the woman as she signed out and handed over the keys to the room.

Tara threw the luggage on the back seat of the car and got in next to her husband. "Sorry we had to cut our holiday short baby" she pouted. Alex smiled.

"At least there's one perk of booking these cheap-ass hotels on a trip." he said. Tara raised her eyebrow.

"No fucking CCTV to spoil a plan." Alex said as the black Mercedes pulled out into the night, with Tara letting out a mischievous giggle. Her hubby had had all the fun so far, but once they had the girl trussed up in the play room at home she could enjoy the little bitch too.

[bamparbam]

"The Pleasure Trap"

Although Most Females Are Truly Unaware of It at the Conscious Level, Subconsciously Most Females Understand the Following Fact “Innately” when it’s Rationally Exposed to Them:  A Man is Much More Obedient, Kind, Nurturing, Loving & Generous with his Woman, When he is “Yearning” For Orgasm – Rather than After He’s had One. This is Due Primarily to the Unconscious, Involuntary Neurochemistry of His Male Mind.

Neurochemistry is Quite a Fascinating and Intriguing Science, But also quite simple to summarize to get that “Aha!” Feeling About Male Orgasm Mood Change “After” Orgasm/Ejaculation. To understand what is going on, You need to look into the Three Powerful Neurotransmitters - Oxytocin, Prolactin and Dopamine that all interplay while a Male is Visually as well as Sexually Aroused and Stimulated. Feminine Sexual Attention (Teasing & Edging) Serves to Naturally Heighten Male Dopamine Levels - The Powerful Reward Chemical that is at the Very Heart of All Human and Animal Behavior. Along with the Dopamine “Increase” when a Male is Highly (Hyper) Aroused is also Heightened Levels of Oxytocin flooding his bloodstream, often colloquially referred to as the “Cuddle Hormone” that is responsible for “Bonding” not only between couples but between siblings, children etc - and produces that warm wonderful afterglow after sex. Interestingly, (Both Genders Produce Oxytocin), But these levels Fall away Rapidly in Males after they have an Ejaculative Orgasm. Whereas A Woman’s Oxytocin Level Stay Naturally Elevated and Her Dopamine Levels Stay Elevated As Well, Which is Probably One of the Major Reasons Why Women are Naturally Multi-Orgasmic.

So What Is Dopamine You Ask:  It’s at the Very Core of ALL our Sexual Drives and Survival Needs, and it Motivates “All Of Us” to Do Just About Everything in Life. This mechanism within the Reward - Pleasure circuitry of the Human Brain has been around for millions of years and has not changed.

In the Male Brain, Dopamine is “Go & Get it!” and Prolactin is “Whoa!” Learn all you can about the Incredibly Addictive Pleasure Drug Dopamine. It’s Incredibly Strong and can Control a Guys Devotion, Veneration & Ultimate Subjugation (Mystically) if Properly Exploited. Think of the Subliminal Programming Possibilities here Ladies, as You Read the Rest of This Excerpt.

Few females Fully Understand or Appreciate the “POWER” in their Hands, in that All Males have an “off switch”, which kicks in - right AFTER they Orgasm. It is Generally NOT Understood that Guys have the Rare, Basically Unknown “Potential” for on-going, Intense Dopamine-Driven Sexual Desire, If their Naturally Occurring Self-Regulating Production of Prolactin is Eliminated and/or Avoided. When The Male Orgasmic Nerves “FIRE”, The Explosive Male “Orgasm” produces a Sudden Massive Increased Wave of Both Chemicals (Dopamine and Oxytocin), But at the Same Time, Applies the Sexual “Brakes” by Producing Increased Prolactin Levels. Prolactin Functions to Effectively Shut Down Their Intense Sexual Desire and Prolactin Remains Enhanced / Elevated in the Male Brain for up to “Two Weeks’, as it takes a while for the levels of Oxytocin and Dopamine to Return to Previous Levels. Therefore Ladies…, Daily Tease, Denial and Firm Sexual Control of a Males Joystick, Means that a ”Trainable“ (Orgasm Managed) Male Will Be Operating Daily, on Heightened Levels of Both Oxytocin and Dopamine without the Undesired, Destructive and Unwanted rush of Prolactin into his bloodstream produced by Male Orgasm. Thus, Keeping in mind that A Man is Much More Obedient, Loving, Nurturing & Generous with his Woman, when he is Desperately “Yearning” For Orgasm (High on Dopamine)- Every Ladies Secret Programming Goal Should Be to Carefully and Meticulously “PREVENT” the Dopamine and Oxytocin Level Plunge from Occurring, and the Natural Easy way to do this is by Prolonging and Preserving his Raging Erection, While Restraining & Preventing him from having an Ejaculation. Precious Dopamine and Oxytocin (Again The Bonding Drug) Can be “Kept” at Peak Levels While You Easily and Secretly Influence his Vulnerable Psyche.

As for Easily and Covertly Influencing his Vulnerable Subconscious), The Best Time to Whisper your (Will), Desires into his (Ear), Subconscious Mind, is when he is Lost, Floating in Subspace, Blissed Out AND Ultra Rock Hard - “Held” Totally Captive & Imprisoned, Deep up Inside the “Paradise” of Your Glorious Heavenly Womanhood. It Is At This Divine Moment, While His Eyes Are Rolled Back Into His Head and you are Skillfully Delaying & Denying Him Orgasm (Edging), that He is Most Naturally & Helplessly under The Intrinsic Power of Your Will/Suggestion. Imagine the Programming Possibilities Here Ladies - His Vulnerable Open Psyche Will Be Naturally Unprotected, Extremely Susceptible to Your Complete & Total Feminine Control !!!

When His Dopamine (Reward) and Oxytocin (Cuddle) Levels are Routinely and Habitually Maximized - Improved, More Affectionate & Loving Male Behavior, Naturally brings about an increased level of Reciprocal Behavior from his Sensual Nurturing Woman - Creating a Virtuous Subliminal Self-Perpetuating Feedback Loop Deep Within Both the Male/Female Mind & Psyche.

{Visualize or imagine the following scenario… A Man and Woman Laying in Bed, Both Watching The Movie 50 Shades of Grey. The Male on his Back , propped up by pillows (completely naked of course), While the female lays her head (resting it) on his lower abdomen, faced towards the TV screen. For the Entire Length of the Move, the Lady holds Captive and Still, in her Gently Nursing Mouth, the first 2 or 3 inches of the Males Raging Hard - Desperate Erection. She Knows That Not Only is he Feeling “Ultra Male” in this Extremely Rock Hard Condition, But that she is also Flooding his Helpless Brain with Steady and Consistent Levels of Dopamine and Oxytocin. As his Joyful Hyper-Sensitive Manhood Pulses with Each Heartbeat, She is Ingeniously Re-enforcing her Natural Feminine Dominion and Authority - Deep Into the Depths of Her Males Defenseless Psyche. By Tenderly & Carefully “Teasing” Him in This Powerful but Nurturing Way, She Can Make Comments and Plant Her Thoughts and Desires (about Certain Key aspects of the Movie) Easily into the Subconscious of Her Entranced Male}.

In Conclusion, A Males Orgasm / Ejaculation / Sexual Energy - Should Be Routinely and Habitually Managed, ”Saved“, Restricted & Preserved (Karezza); Causing Not Only His Healthy Libido / Yearning Desire to Naturally Explode, But His Loving Devotion & Bonding as Well. The whole point of Prolonging & Preventing his orgasm, is to “Accumulate” and Build the Sexual Energy or nervous Energy called “Ojas”, which is Wasted the moment the Nerves Fire During Male Ejaculation. It is not his semen loss that’s the problem, It’s actually the Firing of the Male Nervous System During Sexual Stimulation that Needs to be Avoided and Retained. The more you Conserve this Reservoir of ENERGY, (His Battery “Joystick” Fully Charged) The Stronger the two of you will Bond & His Desire to Pleasure “His Goddess” in Every Aspect of Life Develops Beautifully.

Nurture  What’s  Natural  -  Ladies Are Multi Orgasmic - Males Are Not !!!

While A Males Precious Sexual Energy (Ojas) Should Be Routinely And Habitually Conserved, Preserved and ”Saved“ (to Increase Dopamine / Oxytocin – While Minimizing Prolactin) , A Lady on The Other Hand Should ”Fully & Freely” Bask in Feminine Orgasmic Bliss, As Often As She Desires !!! Nature Intended it Like This Ladies - Don’t Fight Nature, Learn from it, Exploit It and Revel in It !!!

Thus, A Female Led Relationship (FLR)… Keeps “The Passion”  Alive in The Relationship, With The Seductive, Tantric “Femdom“ Art of Karezza…

Secretly, Carefully & Strategically…. Take Him to the Dark Side (Femdom) - Show Him What His Male Body, Was Truly Made For (Karezza) !!!

His Entire Function and “Design" as a Male is Ultimately For Your Total Exploitation, Entertainment and Gratification, Not Just Your Sustenance and Sanctuary …

In Review, Routine & Habitual Karezza “Training” of the Male (Mind & Erection), Beautifully and Naturally Increase “HIS” Libido, Passion, Devotion, Desire and Virility as well as his Subjugation and Veneration. Creating Once Again, A Wonderful, Subliminal, Self-Perpetuating (Feedback Loop), Deep Within BOTH The Male & Female Psyche…

With this Powerful Femdom type of  “KAREZZA”, The Woman’s Love Life / Sex Life - Naturally Improves Exponentially…

Imagine the Connection, The Prolonged Bliss you Both Will Experience - Him Being Perched Everlastingly Right on the Very “Edge” of Orgasm, And You Perched Right “On Top of Him” Having Quivering Full Body Orgasmic Bliss to your Hearts Content. Take Breaks Frequently - Sexual Fulfillment, Is Most Assuredly Made “Sweeter”, By The Prolonging of Desire… In this Way, You Can Both RIDE The Exquisite “Edge” For as Long, and As Deeply as you Both Breathe Properly.

Although this Might Sound Torturous to Some (a Good Kind of Torture) Trust Me, it’s Pure “Euphoria”. By Harnessing, Channeling and Absorbing His Pulsating Sexual Energy Consciously Into and Through Your Consuming Womanhood; That Divine “Accumulated” Flow of Precious Sexual Energy will spread into Everything That You Do. You will Feel Revitalized, Connected and Tuned into the Rhythms of Life and He Will Absolutely and Utterly Worship You…

Note: Depriving a man of the use of his Erection while he is Utterly Helpless & Completely “CAPTIVE”, (Imprisoned) Balls Deep Inside of the Paradise of Your Heavenly Vagina, is a Most Wonderful Form of Obtaining Complete Sexual Dominance / Control over him, Especially If U Freely Orgasm - While Deftly Preventing Him from Doing So .

Having him sit upright and then wrapping your legs around his back is one of the Best Possible Positions for Prolonged Tantra & Karezza Lovemaking, Especially in the Hyper-Sensitive State He Will Undoubtedly Be in After Your Interminable Edging… The Wise Woman, Skilled in her “Art” Must Retain Control of “ALL” Movements, Thus Beautifully Controlling Herself & Her Subordinate Male… Until Her Stud Has Not Only Attained Complete and Deepest Union With Her, But Has Also Become Acclimated to His Secure Enveloping Captivity.

Then….and Only Then….Slow, Rocking (Karezza) Style Intercourse – Will Lead to a Woman’s Complete Discharge of Her Nervous Surplus, Complete Relief from All of Her Sexual Tension - Due to Intense Orgasmic Ecstasy - And More Prolonged BLISS, Satisfaction and Fulfillment for Him than any 15 Second Ejaculation Could Ever Provide… Due to his elevated Oxytocin Levels…

Remember, The Key to Teaching A Male ”NEW BEHAVIOR” (How Not To Cum) with the Hypnotic Powerful Neurotransmitter Dopamine, Requires Frequent Repetitive Training !!!!!   If You Learn To Exploit The Powerful Processes Neurochemistry (Dopamine and Oxytocin) Have on the Psychology of the Vulnerable Male Mind - You’ll Be Able to Easily “Train” Your Male To Respond To You, With Virtually Any “Conditioned” Behavior You Desire…

(Karezza)… Ladies Cum  - MALES DON’T (Tease & Denial)

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Of all the things You can “Do” when You Tease, “Edge” & Torture a Man, The One Thing that will Ultimately give you the Greatest Dividend – Will Be - Ruining His Orgasm.

How many Ladies reading this are Familiar, Comfortable and/or Titillated with the Concept?

Ruining Your Males Orgasm is Always Done by Abruptly Abandoning the Stimulation of His Penis (Joystick) Just Prior to the Point of No Return, Thus Minimizing his Pleasure, But at the Same Time Magically Making Him Hornier & Hornier & Hornier; The Purpose Being, Driving his Libido, Dopamine and Desire for your Femininity Up to Absolutely Peak Levels.

Learn to Always Say, “Aww, Did I Ruin that Honey?” Many Ladies find that they get a Real Power Thrill when they See their Studmuffins Imminent Ejaculation, Utterly Stopped in it’s Tracks. Virtually All Women Become Absolutely Delighted In Just  How “Horny & Rock Hard" Their Males Stay Immediately Afterwards !!!

Once Again Ladies, Here’s the Paradoxical Secret of Habitually Ruining Your Guys Ejaculative Orgasm; His Libido & Desire for your Femininity Will Multiply Beyond Your Wildest Imagination, Such a Win-Win Situation for Systematically Subjugating Him!!!

Within Every Woman there is a “Domme” - Waiting to be Discovered, Nurtured, Worshiped and Served !!! 

It takes Practice to get Really Good at Ruining a Males Orgasm. Probably the Single Most Often Asked Question in a Woman’s Mind, Women who Really Want to Subliminally Dominate, Subjugate, as Well as Perpetually Tease and Deny Their Stud Muffin “Properly”, Want to know How to Ruin a Male Orgasm The Right Way. Here is a Quick and Sadistic Outline of How You can Learn to Habitually Ruin your Guy’s Orgasms & Make him your Totally Subservient, Subordinate, Lusting Sex Slave (As He Should Be). Remember, every Man is Different and You will have to Learn the Signs Your Man Unwittingly Gives when He is Reaching The Point of No Return. That is, the Point at Which He is Going to Erupt & Explode no Matter what You do. You Can Only Learn these Signs and Signals by Watching Him Closely and “Practicing” Daily. Watch his facial expressions, his body, his feet, his movements, which muscles tense and Watch His Breathing .

You Need to Get Him and “Keep” Him Ultra Aroused Obviously, and then You want to Bring him as Close to Orgasm as You possibly Can, Without Allowing Him to Actually Cum while You are touching him. I emphasize this because in order to ruin his orgasm Properly, You must stop All Physical Stimulation “Right Before” The Last Possible Second. Always Remember, It’s Better to Stop Stimulation 15 Seconds Too Early, Than 1 Second Too Late !!!

I recommend that you Stroke or if you Prefer - Nurse on his Erection Very Gently, and with a good amount of lubrication. Although You can do this without lubrication if your sucking on him, Males Last Longer when they are Well Lubricated, And the longer you KEEP Him Rock Hard in the Peaked “Edged” Phase, the Higher his Dopamine Levels Will Ultimately Be. Give him four or five strokes, fast or slow doesn’t matter. Alternate between fast and slow if You like. The Key Is In the Pause Between these “Elongated” Never Ending Sets of strokes. You Must Pause However  Long Enough to Allow Him to Relax and Recover Just a Little Bit, Before You give Him His Next “Set” of Blissful Hypnotic Programming Strokes. The Longer You want to Tease Him, and the More Dopamine/ Oxytocin You Want in His Brain (while you whisper your desires into his open ear), the Longer Your Torturous Teasing and “Pauses” Should Last. Remember, His Impressionable Mind is Quite Open in this Condition to Your Hypnotic Suggestions, So Be Sure To Exploit this Vulnerability Ladies …

Watch him Very Closely !!! When You see the signs of his Impending Imminent Orgasm, Remove your hand or mouth and Stop touching him Immediately!!! Wait at Least Ten Seconds Before You Touch his Hyper-Sensitive (Straining) Erection Again; Fifteen to Twenty Seconds Even Better. Any less time, and You may trigger a Full-on Orgasm the Instant You start Up Again. Many men unconsciously try to hold back their ejaculation, especially if You’ve Properly “Trained” them with Karezza Not to Cum without Your permission, or if they feel they might cum while You are not directly touching them. This a good thing, encourage this behavior & Exploit IT… Once You’ve reached that all important point of no return, they will most often trigger their own miniature ruined ejaculation by just trying not to Explode.

Many Men hold out, for as long as, eight seconds before they Finally Succumb to a Helpless Joyless Ruined Orgasm. That is, eight seconds after You stop touching, sucking & stimulating them. That is why I say, The Astute Lady Should Wait at Least Ten to Fifteen Seconds before she begins stroking her Stud Muffins Hypersensitive Joystick Again. The Longer the Breaks are between stroking stimulations, The Better!!!

What You Ultimately Want to See and Trigger Ladies, is your guys “Creaminess” begin to slowly flow out of the tip of their penis head “smoothly”, like a miniature oozing river - AFTER You’ve Stopped All Stimulation. The Cum will NOT Explode Out with Force as you “and they” are typically used to, Thus in this Way, You Ultimately will be Saving, Accumulating and Preserving Your Lovers Precious Sexual Energy from Being Wasted, and this Sexual Energy Once again Beautifully Builds Upon Itself. The sadistically fun part is, that no matter how hard they try, they will be unable to pump their own cum out with any pressure, But They can try. They can flex their “Kegel” muscles that usually make their cum squirt, spurt, or shoot out, but it will not work :))  Most Importantly, They’ll be Hornier and Harder than Ever…

——- In Review, Ruined Male Orgasms are Just That, Totally Unsatisfying!!! They involve stroking, sucking, stimulating & masterbating an erect penis, Right UP to the Point of No Return, “ALWAYS” After Interminable Edging. And Rather than Milking the Erection Through the Blissful, Cherished Orgasm, a Couple of Subjugating Femdom Techniques can be Used to Properly Ruin the Male Orgasm & Reinforce To His Unguarded Psyche, Your Ultimate (Feminine) Control.  A Quick Summary of the Most Effective, Femdom Techniques are Summarized Below.

Abandonment: Through extensive experience, the Mistress identifies the point of no return (PNR) for the Erection being Subjugated and Totally Ceases Any & All Stimulation, “Just Before” His Ejaculation Spasms Begin. Simply sit back and Delight in Watching the Silly, “Straining”, Pulsating Appendage Struggle to Expend the Unstoppable Pressurized Cream Inside of it, which is Gut Wrenching and Totally Unsatisfying. The Victimized & Totally Stunned Manhood will (Almost Always), Paradoxically Remain Fully Erect and Extremely Rock Hard Following The Ruined Orgasm & Immediately Feel the Oh So Desperate Need to Cum Again.

Keep in Mind Ladies, Your Routine & Habitual Goal is to “Prevent” his Orgasmic Nerves from Firing “Completely“…Thus Retaining Over 95% of His Precious & Priceless Sexual Energy from Being Wasted… A Small River of Cum Slowly “Oozing” Down His Bursting Hard, “Straining”, Vein Filled Cock Shaft is What You Want to See Happening Repeatedly…

Taking This Subliminal Programming & Subjugation A Step Further !!!

Bleeding: An advanced Technique With Extremely Wonderful Libido Building Effects.  Rather than bringing the Desperate, Throbbing Erect Penis Up To the Point of No Return (PNR), Stimulation is Abruptly Stopped JUST Prior to This Point, Causing “Your” Play Toy to Leak Out (Ooze) a Small Amount of Precum, but Still Remain, Right on the Verge (Edge) of Orgasm.

Due to The Wonderful Involuntary Neurochemistry of his Mind, A Males Dopamine Levels Will Again “Be Peaked” at This Point. It’s at this Exact Point in Time that His Mind & Psyche is Most Vulnerable to your Comments, Suggestions and Subliminal Programming, So Exploit This Omnipotent Gift….. Firmly “Command Him” Not To Cum, Tell Him He’s Never Allowed to Cum Without Your Permission and Praise Him What a Good Boy He Is for Obeying You.

After a Short Pause, Once “Control” is Again Regained over the Straining, Throbbing, Desperate, Hyper Sensitive Erection, This Procedure can be Repeated Over and Over and Over Again, Drawing Small Oozing amounts of Cum from the Screaming “Joystick” Each Time.

At Some Opportune Point of Your Choosing, His Vulnerable Bursting Hard Joystick Can Then Be Stimulated to a Maddening, Straining, Painful Dry Orgasm He Will Never Forget.  If the “Domme” is Feeling Particularly Sadistic, the Dry Orgasm Can Then Also Be Ruined, Most likely Leaving the Possessor of the Tortured Dominated Cock Sobbing and Writhing, But Advantageously Hornier and Harder Than Ever !!!

This is the Perfect Time – After “A Series” of Exquisite Ruined Orgasms (RO) – For The Astute Lady To Mount Her Guys Now Supersized, Traumatized, Totally Subjugated and ”Drained“ - BUT Extremely Horny Stud Muffin, in order to Delight in a Rock Solid “Ultimate” Multi-Orgasmic Ride of Whatever Duration She Chooses !!! – Which Normally He Would Be Unable To Endure For Any Extended Length of Time… The Beauty Of This Viagra Induced (Femdom) Subjugation Is, Even With His Raging Accumulated Sexual Energy Carefully Preserved, He Won’t Be Able to Cum, There Won’t Be ANY Cum Left Inside Him !!!

You Will Now Completely OWN Him, Physically & Psychologically !!!

In Review - Eventually the Males Balls can be Completely “Emptied” in this Most Advantageous “Bleeding” Type of Way, While Retaining & Harnessing All Of His Oh So Precious Sexual Energy. Some Very Smart, Liberated & Skilled Women Use Tease & Denial, Along With “EDGING”, Followed By A Series of Ruined Orgasms, as a Wonderfully Sadistic Method of Totally Draining Their Dominated Husbands / Boyfriends Balls, Before They Mount Their Insanely Horny Bull.

Remember, There is a Major Difference Between Male Ejaculation and Male Orgasm; While usually occurring simultaneously, they are NOT THE SAME THING … Male Orgasm is the Pleasurable Rhythmic Muscle Contractions that are the result of Prolonged Mental & Physical Arousing Stimuli (Thus the “Trainable” Multi Orgasmic Male). Ejaculation However refers to the “Out of Control” Firing of His Male Orgasmic Nerves and the Energy Draining Explosive Expulsion of His Pressurized Ejaculate Which Must Always Be Properly Managed, Controlled, Restricted and Purposely Avoided by the Dominant “Ruling” Female of Course !!!.

Remember Ladies, Practice Makes Perfect…

If he isn’t Totally Emptied/Drained of Semen Every 10-18 Days, Forbidden Accidents May Happen, And this is Definitely a No-No if your Properly Harnessing, Absorbing, Managing and Restricting All of his Sexual Energy and Ejaculated Orgasms As You Should Be !!!

Remember Ladies Your Orgasmic Bliss Will Become “Maximized” …The More Your Dominated / Subjugated Males Orgasms ARE Routinely “Minimized”…

Through a Man’s Passion & Libido, Nature Has “Given” Man INTO Woman’s Hands, and The Woman who Does Not Know How to Make Him Her Subject, Her Slave, Her TOY, and How to Thoroughly Control Him with Her Femininity in the End is Not Wise.

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Princess Ivy gets her way (Part 1)

Mark and his long term girlfriend Jennifer loved their new house. Sure they were only renting, but it felt like the first big milestone of their lives together. It was a small 2 bedroom place in the suburbs, within a quiet cul-de-sac, perfect for their needs, with the extra bedroom being made into an office for when Mark or Jennifer needed to work from home. Both were in their 30s and enjoyed fairly successful careers - Mark's in marketing and Jennifer's in accounting.

They moved in on a chilly autumnal Saturday, unpacking boxes themselves from a van they rented for the occasion. Jennifer was just about to lift a large box up to carry it in when she heard a sultry voice behind her. "Need a hand?"

Jennifer turned to see a 20 something year old raven haired beauty with luscious lips coated in dark red lipstick and a black skirt that hugged her figure perfectly. Jennifer felt entirely under dressed in her dungarees and sweat shirt, and blushed a little.

"Oh hi ahh, no it's fine I think we got this" stammered Jennifer, unsure why she suddenly felt so embarrassed. "I wouldn't want you ruining your lovely dress. I'm Jennifer by the way, just moving in here, in case that wasn't obvious." Jennifer let out a nervous giggle.

The woman smiled, seeming to enjoy the way Jennifer was fumbling through the conversation. "I'm Ivy, I guess we are neighbours. And don't worry, I'm just coming back from brunch with my friends and about to grab a shower so really don't mind."

"Oh well, if you're sure, maybe just take these suitcases, they are kinda light, if a bit bulky." Jennifer handed her a suitcase and Ivy took it without a struggle, following the other woman into the house.

Ivy admired the way Jennifer's ass swayed as she carried a heavy box in, and bit her lip. She could tell a submissive from a mile away, and she wondered which of the boxes might contain some fun little toys.

"So who's the lucky guy? and where is he?" asked Ivy, enjoying a little flirting, mostly just to see if she could make Jennifer squirm a little.

"Oh Mark, he's just upstairs I think, putting the wardrobe together. He won't be long, can I get you a coffee maybe? It's the first thing we set up."

"Oh no it's OK, I really should be going, got a hot shower waiting for me. Was it Jennifer, or Jenny, or Jen?" Ivy asked, taking a small step closer to the startled girl. Jennifer couldn't help but notice Ivy's eyes seeming to wander over her body hungrily before looking deep into Jennifer's with a piercing gaze.

"Oh, ah, umm, whatever you want, Ivy was it?" Jennifer stammered.

Ivy smiled, yup, this one was definitely subby. How fun. "That's right, see you around Jen, and if you or Mark ever find yourself needing something, just come see me, I'll be right next door at number 28." With that Ivy left, leaving Jennifer feeling a little flushed. It had been a while since anyone had flirted with her like that, let alone another woman. She spent the rest of the day wondering if she should tell Mark about the slightly strange encounter, and decided to do so at dinner, leaving out the obvious bit of flirting.

Over the next few days the couple settled in at their new home. Mark finally met Ivy when he was taking the bins out. Less elegantly dressed but still beautiful in jeans and a loose shirt, Ivy had been happy to introduce herself to Mark, and he was left blushing after receiving similar flirtatious behaviour from their neighbour. Mark ended up pretending he was in a hurry to avoid spending too long in the intoxicating gaze of the woman next door.

Ivy felt something evil inside her stir, was it possible both Mark and Jen were both submissive? What a delightful catch that would be.

By Wednesday Mark and Jen had most of their things unpacked but were still waiting for their new router to arrive to set up their internet. When Jennifer next bumped into Ivy she plucked up the courage to ask if they could borrow access to Ivy's router while they waited for there own to arrive.

Ivy seemed only too happy to help, quickly writing her password down and winking as she gave it to the nervous girl. Ivy then felt that little evil feeling in her stir again, as she returned to her home and went straight to her laptop.

With a few permission changes on the router it would require file access on any device connected. With this in place all Ivy had to do was play the waiting game.

That evening while Mark and Jennifer were watching TV, and idly scrolling on their phones, Ivy logged on her computer to see what juicy prey was in her web.

She noticed 5 new devices connected, including a TV, iPhone, Samsung Galaxy and 2 laptops. Feeling her own heart beat quicken with the rush, Ivy tried to open the iPhone first, but found he software wasn't much use and couldn't gain the access she needed. Instead she tried the Samsung Galaxy, labelled MARKSPHONE and within moments was scrolling through the 1000s of images in the gallery.

Ivy had been scrolling for 10 minutes and growing increasingly frustrated. Boring holiday snaps, pics with him and Jennifer, it was enough to dull her initial excitement. That was until she found images from 2 years ago, where she finally struck gold. Pics of Mark naked, a video of him masturbating on a bed, some of him tied up with panties in his mouth. Clearly from some hotel on a trip away. Then she saw some of Jennifer, nothing kinky, just showing off her juicy little ass and playing with herself, teasing the camera on all fours. Ivy licked her lips, not so much turned on by the pictures themself but of how she might use them, she slipped her manicured fingers down between her thighs to tease herself as she saved the files. It was a good start, enough she could start leveraging the pretty couple, she was sure of it. Who knows, maybe if she got access to the iCloud account she would find even more treasures to use.

The next day Ivy watched Jennifer head to work, and put on her black little number she liked to wear when she was seducing some poor submissive to be her toy. Black heels and hold up stockings completed her outfit.

Confidently she stepped out and knocked on the door, which Mrk quickly answered with a surprise. "Oh hey hun you forget some- oh... Ivy! Wasn't expecting you here this early." or dressed like that, he didn't add, trying not to stare at the bombshell woman before him.

"Sorry to bother you Marky, it's just I need some help with some stuff I found, wondering if you might know what to do with it?"

Mark was confused, the request didn't make much sense but she was already stepping into the house.

"Do you have a laptop?" she turned around and bit her lip, using every ounce of her seductive charm.

"Yeah sure, what's this about?" Mark asked, grabbing his laptop from the office and heading back to the lounge, where Ivy was still waiting. She held up a USB stick playfully.

"It's on here, just open it for me will you?"

Mark took the stick and plugged it in. The file directory showed an exe and a folder, with 'For Mark' on it. Ivy leaned over the couch behind him, her voice sensual, but dripping in wickedness. "Open the folder Mark."

Mark felt his stomach turn as he clicked on the folder and was met with a whole gallery of exposing images of him and Jennifer. He recognised the shots from their time away. Had he really not deleted these? How had she got them?

"How... what do you want?" Mark asked, fear sweeping over him along with embarrassment.

Ivy ignored him.

"Such a cute little cock you have Marky, does Jen feel it when you fuck her?" Mark stood up, putting the laptop down and stared at Ivy, who was still leaning over the couch, giving Mark a good view of her cleavage.

"What the fuck are you doing Ivy? What is this game you are playing?" Mark demanded, feeling himself go giddier still at the sight of the predatory woman before him.

"Shhh Marky, just what I do to all little flies who get caught in my web. And it's Princess Ivy to you now." Ivy walked over to Mark, who seemed frozen on the spot. She put her hands around his waist sensually, leaning in as if for a kiss, only to whisper just millimeters from his face.

"Please... whatever game this is I want you to stop." Mark's eyes began to well.

"No you don't Marky, I know your type, you need this, so you're going to be a good boy for me aren't you? Or else I share these photos with your work, your friends, anyone on the internet who likes to look at dumb men with panties in their mouth." Ivy wrapped her arms around Mark's neck now, and pulled him in so her lips were next to his ear.

"If not for you Marky, then for her. She has such a pretty cunt, doesn't she? I bet the internet will love seeing that video of her juicing her fingers and moaning like a slut won't they?" Ivy was whispering, and it was like venom, melting Mark's resolve as he conceded he couldn't let that happen.

"You'll go to prison, they will know you did it." Mark tried, his last defence against the absurdity. He pulled away, pointing his finger at her.

"Oh will they? I cover my tracks so well, I'm a pro. They won't find anything on me, and your desperate little story will just look like an excuse, not sure you or I want that. Besides, by then your pretty little minx will be a porn star in the making. Do you really want that?"

Mark dropped his head. "No." he conceded.

"No Princess Ivy" corrected the dominant woman. "Now, I'm a reasonable woman, all I want from you today is a little help. Can you help me Marky?"

"Yes... I think so." Mark replied.

Ivy strode up to him, grabbing his jaw in her hand and squeezing his cheeks. "I'm not fucking playing Mark. It's Yes. Princess. Ivy. I have to tell you again and those pics are going up on the net, under-fucking-stood?" Ivy unleashed her malice on Mark, speaking with such venom that spit flew onto the poor submissive man's face before she angrily pushed him away.

"Y-yes Princess Ivy." he managed, feeling utterly defeated. Ivy's features softened, and she returned to her flirtatious ways.

"Good boy. Now, pick up the laptop, switch off your anti-virus and click the little exe and accept all the permissions it asks for."

Mark wanted to ask why, but thought better, and did as told, watching the machine whir into life as various loading bars began running. Ivy began tapping on her phone and moments later looked up, satisfied.

"There we go, that's one, where's the other laptop?" Ivy was again looking at Mark with malice, the demanding tone returning to her voice. Mark pointed upstairs, barely able to speak from fear.

"Well... fetch Marky. Then once we are all done I can tell you all about the fun we are going to have together, and give you a little reward." She winked as Mark dashed upstairs to the bedroom, returning with a pink laptop.

"But it's Jennifer's" Mark said, his half assed complaint getting ignored.

"Open it, take my USB, plug it in, disable anti virus and run it dummy. Quickly." Mark obeyed, letting out a little "Yes Princess Ivy" that made the dominant woman's pussy twitch in arousal.

They waited in silence as the laptop took its time running the software, before Ivy checked her phone again and looked at her new submissive, satisfied. "Good boy, all done. Just one little thing extra and then you can have your reward."

Mark looked at her, head bowed, unsure what to think. Clearly some software now was running on both their laptops.

"Log me in to her iCloud." Ivy handed Mark her phone, with the login page up, waiting for input. Mark gulped. He knew that's where they kept their most intimate pics and images. He tried to think up an excuse, anything to stop her.

"I don't have the password, she never gave me it." He lied, hoping she would buy it.

"That's OK" Ivy responded, calmly, leading Mark into a false hope she would drop it. "Call her and ask for it, I'm sure you can think up a reason."

Mark felt his hands shaking as he pulled out his phone, staring at it for a moment before feeling the piercing glare of Ivy on him. He tried to compose himself as he found Jennifer's contact details and hit dial.

"Hey babe" she answered in her cheerful voice "What's up I have a meeting in a moment can it wait?"

"Uh hey uh yes I mean no, I umm lost some old pics from our holiday in Malta last year, can I have your iCloud password again sorry."

"Jeez Mark why do you sound like you're asking me to prom, you know it's just peach tree inn 2018 with a capital p and t. Gotta go, bye love you." Jennifer hung up, and Mark looked up at Ivy, who held out her hand, passing Mark her phone to enter the email and password.

Mark slowly did so, before handing Ivy the phone. She watched the loading icon before photos began to pull into the device.

"See you can be such a good boy for me can't you baby? You got me so wet how you lied to her like that, all to let me get what I want. All to help me fuck you both over. Pleasing me feels good doesn't it?"

Mark felt guilt and shame wash over him, but not only that, he felt arousal too. The way this evil seductive woman treated him burned with humiliation, but also arousal, unlocking those deep submissive tendencies he thought he had buried long ago.

"Why are you doing this to us?" is all he could manage, falling to his knees, weak, dizzy, defeated. Ivy walked over to him, feeling herself tingle with the thrill of wrapping this cute couple up in her web.

"Because I can Marky, because I get off on taking total and utter control of inferior dumb people like you. I want your life in my hands Mark. I want Jen's too. I get wet knowing you will both soon belong to me, and the best thing is Mark, you're going to help me. You've already helped so much, but I won't be satisfied until you're both in matching collars, serving me, giving me everything I desire." Ivy was standing over Mark now. Savouring his defeat and submission.

"Now... time for your reward, but only if you ask nicely for it."