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tbh I really dislike how aphobia tends to be discussed whenever there's some kind of incident that makes it visible to general society. The most common response seems to be some variation of "why would anyone hate asexual/aromantic people, they aren't even doing anything" and it just always sits wrong with me. It paints such a passive picture of our existence and feels like a comment influenced by the level of invisibility that aspec people have in society. Why would you be annoyed by someone who is practically invisible? Just go back to ignoring their existence, it's easy!

But despite the invisibility, aspec people are actually doing quite a lot of things that will piss off queerphobic, right-wing and religious people (and hell, even left-wing people). And the most obvious point is that we are actively not performing heterosexuality the way they want us to. People who's entire world view is "cis men and women should be in monogamous, heterosexual marriage and have (white) babies" are not going to lean back and say "oh but those asexuals and aromantics are fine". They will also hate our guts, and they will come up with all sorts of reasons, including insinuating we're all secretly into bestiality, or mentally ill, or not human, or attention seeking children. It's just plain old queerphobia, and like all queerphobia, there's no inherent logic to it which you can worm your way out of by "not doing anything".

And like, there's a lot more that aspec people do which people hate. Raising awareness about amatonormativity? People feel attacked, they hate it. Asexual people having sex? Or not having sex? People hate it! Aromantic people being in (seemingly) romantic relationships? People fucking hate it! Aromantic people having sex? Ohh people hate that!!

I guess the existence of aphobia can be confusing when you haven't spent much time thinking about asexuality and aromanticism, but in the end, these are identities that aren't heteronormative and they will be hit with the same or similar bigotry as any other queer identity. I just get tired of this response after seeing it recycled for 10 years without ever seeming to go any further.

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felt only right that i put my first mpreg edit here

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Oh I am not immune to good OCD rep 🥲

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‘im a girl’ ‘im a boy’ well ok i wake up on ur sofa and walk out 2 ur balcony and i wonder if east croydon would ever stop 4 me

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[holds your hand and looks into yr eyes lovingly]

hey, dont worry. i just wanna find the perfect placement of my voice within your song.

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something about the captain knowing havers for two months before he left and being willing to commit crimes to see him again vs aziraphale and crowley being in love for 6000 years and aziraphale still isn't ready to sacrifice his faith in heaven for a relationship out of fear

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i think we shouod terraform earth to make it completely flat because itd be fun

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how to build an ocean only having one fuck in it and it's "can everyone shut the fuck up for a second" they get it

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straight up blimpin it, and by it, well, let's just say, my boy

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[lying through my teeth] I am normal about bears in trees hit new album how to build an ocean instructions

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footage of me at the bus stop when this FUCKING song came on shuffle

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IM GONNA DIE BEFORE YOU ITS THE FIRST RACE ILL WIN CAUSE I WAS SO SLOW IN SCHOOL BUT NOW IM HECTIC BABY SO CAREFREE LATELY YOU CAN CALL ME MAYBE BUT I DONT TAKE MY PHONE OFF SILENT ANYMORE I CUT MY HEART OFF OF MY SLEEVE SO I CAN PATCH IT ON MY JACKET NEXT TO MY ROBIN AND SOME MATCHSTICKS WHEN INSPIRATION COMES ILL IGNITE IT I CANT HE EVERYTHING TO EVERYONE BUT ILL BE EVERYTHING TO SOMEONE YOU CANT BE EVERYTHING FOR EVERYONE BUT YOU CAN BE EVERYTHING TO SOMEONE

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jesus no

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Today they are dino🦖

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hello history tumblr k thought you would like to see this 16th century, Turkish umbrella hat

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Honestly Ben, that was so rude of you to leave us pining for years, YEARS.

"Havers is just humoring him." "He's just sad to be leaving Button House." "It's just a silly crush for Cap." "Havers is just waving goodbye to his friend."

And then swoop in at the last minute like, WRONG. They LOVED EACH OTHER SO MUCH. Ben where can I send my therapy bills.

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david jenkins said "have y'all ever tried imagining if legendary historical figure blackbeard was a catboy?" and then didn't wait for an answer.