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The progress of my dave armors over the years!

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9. 11, and 24?

9) I don’t really have a very strong opinion on ships tbh? Idk never really been that interested in that aspect of media. I do like rosemary tho. and callierox. and and probably a lot more i’m forgetting rn.

11) I do. I’ve got it bad. it fucks with my perception of myself a lot. The worst is for the stuff I can never hope to change, specifically my hip bones which my brain makes me think are way wider and feminine than they probably actually are. Which is a really weird thing to worry about for anyone who doesn’t have this specific type of body dysphoria but its the fucking worst because my brain is constantly yelling at me that the entire world can see them. My facial structure also stresses me out a lot because I always see it as feminine which makes me feel like shit even though growing up I was always told I look exactly like my dad and my brother. My chest and social stuff also bother me but those are getting less and less prominent because I have a plan for top surgery and I’m ‘passing’ more and more. Dysphoria sucks and is stupid and wrong but you can’t help but believe it.

24) I’m Agender. To me it means I’m kind of just nothing and don’t want to be anything. I tend to lean really far away from femininity and am far more comfortable being assumed to be male than female by random people because of my dysphoria, but I am no more man than I am woman. I thought I was a trans man for a while because I lean so far away from femininity, but I realized at some point that I’m not a man. I just really really am not a woman. So Agender fits me best. I do still use He/Him pronouns because I feel they fit me better than They/Them, but those are okay too. Especially if I see someone being enbyphobic I’m feeling particularly abrasive.

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1,2,3,4?

1) I’m aroace and agender. he/him are my pronouns.

2 and 4) It took me so fucking long. I have probably thought i was every letter anyone has ever put in the acronym before finally settling. I first thought I was a lesbian in middleschool because I mentioned I had never had a crush on any boys and a girl I was friends with said that meant I was a lesbian so I identified as that for a while.

When I went to highschool, I sort of realized I felt the same for everyone, so I started identifying as “demisexual”(which…. i thought meant what pansexual means because someone i met at camp ided as demi-pansexual and i got them mixed up LMFAOOOO).

After that, I stopped thinking about my sexuality and kinda just was like “no i’m cishet” because I was in a really shitty position surrounded by a bunch of “ironic” lgbtphobia.

Then I learned about asexuality on a forum my friend at the time ran. She immediately started mocking and laughing at the person who was asexual in the mod chat and talking about how it was fake, how it was a disorder, and how people were so stupid that they can’t realized how fucked up they are and shit. 

Despite her reaction, I started considering that was what I was. But I also started iding as a lesbian again, instead of aromantic or just asexual, because I didn’t want to be “completely fucked up” in my own words because of her reaction to it.

This was also around the time I first tried to come out to someone. It was to her. We were getting lunch together and I only subtly hinted at my orientation and she immediately started mocking me and telling me I should ask a doctor about it. That was when I stopped iding as asexual again and kind of forced myself into a few bad situations online to try and “help fix” myself. Don’t force yourself into sexual situations, kids.

After a while, I stopped talking to the people who where this toxic and left the school club I was in that was filled with them. A few months before I left, I started IDing as a lesbian again, not asexual this time. Once I was finally out, I started questioning my gender. The first thing I Ided as was agender, but I was kind of still “testing the waters” with it and still used she/her pronouns and didn’t tell anyone about it for several years. I also started IDing as demisexual again(I had the right definition this time) because I still considered asexuality to be “fucked up”.

After a little while, and one of my new friends mentioning asexuality in a positive light, I started IDing as asexual again, and mentioning it to them. That was the first time I ever heard someone say something positive about asexuality. I was still iding as a lesbian at this time.A couple years passed, and I slowly started Iding as a biromantic asexual because I felt the same for men and women and was still terrified of being aro/ace and fucking ace discourse was picking up which definitely contributed to this lmfaoooooo. There’s a very specific kind of dread that comes with never having seen any positive mention of your sexuality, being given one sliver of hope, then being thrust back into the cold hard reality that even the people you hoped would understand fucking hate you that definitely can cause you to misidentify. I also started using he/she/they pronouns at this time, still IDing as agender. I call this the “natter” phase because this was when fucking natter was popular.

Anyways, after that, I slowly started Iding as A trans man for a while because I realized a lot of my body and social issues were SEVERE GENDER DYSPHORIA(transmeds fuck off that’s not what made me trans. I knew I was NB before I realized how bad my dysphoria was) lmaooooo. I came out as one to my dad, picked a name, etc etc etc. All of THAT stuck, I’m still going by the same name, pronouns, etc. For a while then, I also started considering myself aromantic and gay. because I was okay with sex and for some reason, aromanticism felt ‘safer’ than asexuality.

Then finally, started IDing as Agender again, still transmasc, he/him pronouns, still on T, still ‘medically transitioning’. Plus, I pulled my head out of my ass and stopped trying to label my sexuality on what I think is ‘less fucked up’ and actually label my actual orientation.

I still definitely struggle severely with hating my sexuality. My nervous system and cardiovascular system make sure that whenever its even mentioned my heartrate spikes and chest physically hurts and it doesn’t appear to plan on getting better any time soon. So that’s that. But at least I’m not trying to put a bandaid on feeling fucked up anymore.

tl;dr: I ided as everything but aro/ace for a long time because I thought aro/ace was bad and broken and fucked up because i first learned about it through someone calling someone who ided as aro/ace as bad and broken and fucked up.

3) This is kind of a short one after that massive fucking rant but I get misgendered a lot and usually I just fucking ignore it lmao

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Lgbt+ ask game

What do you identify as and what are your pronouns? 

How did you discover your sexuality, tell your story?

Have you experienced being misgendered? What happened and how did you overcome it?

Who was the first person you told, how did they react?

Describe what it was like coming out, what did you feel?

If you’re out, how did your parents/guardians/friends react?

What is one question you hate people asking about your sexuality?

Describe the style of clothing that you most often wear.

Who are your favourite lgbt+ ships?

What does makeup mean to you? Do you wear any?

Do you experience dysphoria? If so, how does that affect you?

What is the stupidest thing you’ve heard said about the lgbt+ community?

What’s your favourite thing about the lgbt+ community?

What’s your least favourite thing about the lgbt+ community?

Have you ever been to your cities pride event? Why or why not?

Who is your favourite lgbt+ Icon/Advocate/Celebrity?

Have you been in a relationship and how did you meet?

What is your favourite lgbt+ book?

Have you ever faced discrimination? What happened?

Your Favorite lgbt+ movie or show?

Who are some of your favourite lgbt+ bloggers?

Which lgbt+ slur do you want to reclaim?

Have you ever gone to a gay bar, or a drag show, how was it?

How do you self-identify your gender, and what does that mean to you?

Are you interested in having children? Why or why not?

What identity advice would you give your younger self?

What do you think of gender roles in relationships?

Anything else you want to share about your experience with gender?

What is something you wish people know about being lgbt+?

Why are proud to be lgbt+?

♡ Happy pride from @hogwartsonline ♡

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would you be willing to do a nonbinary calliope?

^u^ sweet callie

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hey could i get uhhh,,,, bi or trans dave please?

how about BOTH

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May I ask for a lesbian Feferi? 38o

Lesbifin!!

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Could you draw Nepeta in front of a trans pride flag?

purrfect

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oh if its not too much trouble could you do uhh,,,, lesbean vrasks

die are gay culture

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OMG OMG OMG your art is just so clean ans pleasant and wonderful i love it so much!!!!! Your stule is just beautiful i cry everytime i see your art it is just marvelous!!!!!!! Ooof gorgeous !!!! Like that Kanaya?? God am i just in love!! Could i please request a lesbian rose lalonde pride icon?

:000!!! 

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Could you please make a Lesbian Kanaya pride icon? That would be just absoluetely fantastic!!

By popular demand: Her…..

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cam I get somma that sweet sweet bisexual pyrope? (any)

RADICAL!!!

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Can you do a pansexual meulin? :0

absolutely 

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Oh okay cool! Can I get either a bi terezi or damara?

She deserved better

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Could you draw Aradia? (Pride bonus point for ace Aradia)

SAME HC!!

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hey neon can i pwetty pwease have a gay john

anything for you jules