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My top 12 photos of 2024 (originally posted on fetlife)

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[THIS USER UNDERSTANDS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN DOM/SUB AND TOP/BOTTOM]

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Some tips for a Daddy/Caretaker:

Always take her hands while walking near streets ( and pls walk on the side where the cars are coming, so babygirl is safe)

Always remind the names of her stuffies!

Help her making important phone calls, she is to shy and dumb to do it!

Always help her dressing up, put on her socks, shoes and everything!

Remind her to drink water every day!!

Cook for her, everyday!

Aftercare is so fcking important, do it!!

Go shopping with her! She needs new stuffies and some cute clothes

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What's It Really? (Redo)

It is Never Weak.

Submission is multi-faceted.

Submission is never weak.

Submission is not surrender.

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text and layout by me

models:  K, @tardiscunttreasures, @camdamage​, @ropebaby​, @jewelryandfire​

Nerve Injury Reference Card from frozenmeursault.com

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Why is it so hard for subs… good subs to find good doms?…

This question is more deep than it appears.

There are multiple reasons why that happens, first of all you must remember that a lot of people call themselves “dom” just for hide their marked mysogyny and that is the worst thing can happen.

It brings toxic relationship out not based on the Three C:

-Consent

-Communication

-Care

And of course you can understand why good subs can’t find good dom in this case.

The other reason even if they follows the Three C, not every real dom and real subs can fit together due to the fact every person is different and want experience different kinks.

Finding the right dom or the right sub is a journey through the bdsm world and it’s part of the pleasure.

Give yourself time. Don’t give up.

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Some people need a reminder of this.

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That cum-hungry porn star you want her to be for you can only be accessed through sincere effort to make her feel safe, make her feel comfortable being vulnerable and fulfilling her sexual AND emotional needs.

Anything short of this is undeserving of her time, let alone her effort.

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Yes, Aftercare. Incomplete otherwise.

That's the energy equation. It's incomplete otherwise.

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How to make a girl squirt

There are many steps which describe the process about how to make a girl squirt, but all is needed are fingers and oral job. The best advice is to try with exploration in different things, different numbers of fingers, different parts of her pussy and ass. Most important is to be innovative and inventive.

Surely, some of the best fingering comes in conjunction with oral, but there is a little secret that gives to any women best orgasm of her life.

Here are step by step instructions how to make a girl squirt:

You can start by performing oral on her inner thighs, clitoris and labia especially, to start getting her relaxed and wet. You must continually suck and lick the clitoris throughout the duration of the whole oral act, because oral increases power, pleasure and increases chances of female ejaculating orgasm.

With the hand you write with, take two fingers closest to your thumb (pointer and middle finger) and make them wet with her pussy juice or with your mouth. The most important thing is to make sure your nails are trimmed and not sharp, because you could hurt her.

Slide those two fingers in, with the fingerprint part of the fingers facing up (nails down), slide them in firmly but slowly, as far as they will go without using too much pressure. If she is really tight you may need to start with one, and if there is a lot of wetness but resistance, you may need to tease and taste her pussy some more. Once you get those fingers in, tease her inner walls slowly with the pads of your fingers, and get her even more juicy. When you think that she is ready to have the orgasm of her life, you may begin:

Now you will maneuver your fingers to find her g-spot. Yes, it exists, and yes, every woman has one. Slide your fingers in about 2 inches, UP, and then BACK towards the front of the pussy (like you’re going up behind her clitty). Her g-spot is actually a patch of her inner walls which is on the FRONT INNER WALL of her pussy, above the hole itself. So, in, up, and back towards the entrance. You should feel, on that wall, a very rough patch of skin rougher than the rest of her smooth inner pussy. You’ve found it. Congratulations.

By making a beckoning motion with your two fingers (a come hither, bending fingers motion), you should be able to pull the fingerprint/pad part of the tips of your two fingers against that spot. Try it. Pull back against it with your two fingers and press a little. Tease it, stimulate it with your fingers. Make her feel good. She should be squirming and breathing very heavily by now.

As you start to rhythmically tap/press/pull your fingertips against the g-spot, she should start getting wetter. If you’re doing it right, and she’s comfortable with it, you’ll start to hear squelching, sponge-like sounds. The g-spot is like a sponge, it contains a lot of liquid, and feels rough. Keep pressing your fingers against it, over and over, rhythmically, with the same kind of rhythm as if you were sliding your cock in and out of her pussy.

As she starts to get wetter, and enjoy it more, start doing it harder. The more she thrashes from side to side, the harder you do it. Eventually, you can replace the tapping/poking of the g-spot with an outright speed-sliding of those two fingers in and out of her hole. Do it faster and faster, maintain the rhythm, but increase the force. Even when you’re slamming them straight in and out of her hole, try and maintain an upward, outward force with the fingertips, so you’re still pressing up against that g-spot even as you’re slamming her with your fingers with reckless abandon.

Through all of this, she should be squelching, squirming and OBVIOUSLY loving it. If she’s not, you should stop. If she says it hurts (especially if she says it more than once, you might want to stop or at LEAST slow down or not do it so hard. Make sure she’s always wet, not dry for any period of time.

Now here’s the crucial part. When she gets close to ejaculation, she will say that she needs to pee. SHE DOES NOT NEED TO PEE. It’s just a temporary sensation that will pass, but you have to make sure she knows about it beforehand, and you have to make sure she does not stop you, and you do not desist in your slamming. Hold her legs apart with the other hand, if you have to. You can even use your head or knees or whatever to hold her legs open, but make sure she stays relatively still (or she might get hurt on your fingers) and that you KEEP GOING. In fact, when she needs to pee, that’s when you should start doing it harder, cause orgasm is around the corner.

10-50 seconds after the pee sensation begins, she will start to cum. When she does, DON’T STOP. Just do it harder and harder and harder, pressuring the g-spot upwards all the while. Now she should start to ejaculate. She’ll scream, and her pussy will start shooting clear (transparent), odorless liquid all over the place. There could be a lot of it, it might soak you completely and soak the sheets and everything around her, so make sure you’re prepared.

I guarantee you, if she’s never had one before, the squirting orgasm will be the best orgasm of her life. In my experience, 97% of women are capable of having them, and in certain circumstances, I think it’s more like 99.9%. If you want her to ejaculate in great volumes, have her drink lots of water before you do it, and stay well hydrated. Once she’s finished squirting, SHE CAN SQUIRT AGAIN. Especially if you didn’t do it too hard, and still got her to cum, you can usually start all over, and between one and ten minutes later, she’ll be squirting again. Usually, you have to do it harder each time. My record is seven. The girl that squirted seven times in 45 minutes passed out for 6 hours afterward (it’s physically exhausting and dehydrating) so be careful if you try more than 2 at once.

Most girls pass out after a couple of them. This can make a girl fall in love and at the very least want to fuck your brains out, so use it wisely rather than to your advantage. Don’t take advantage of people using this. If you do it wrong, or if she’s on her period, she might bleed. That’s usually okay, but just make sure you don’t hurt her, and you stop if she’s screaming with pain, rather than pleasure.

You should always have a safe word with your partner, and you should always make sure she knows what you intend to do and that she’s fine with it. Enjoy this, and I hope it works out for you; I hope it works out for HER, even more so. If it does well, just wait and see. I’m jealous of women because of g-spot orgasms! There’s NO male equivalent it’s just absolute ecstasy, nothing less. Remember there are at least fifty ways to make a woman cum (actually lots more) and at least five different types of orgasms so don’t limit yourselves to this whether it works or not.

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Hard Dom vs Soft Dom.

It's kind of a given that most people (both Subs and Doms) assume that in order to dominate someone you have to be Hard, or basically, in layman's terms, that you have to be this imposing rule enforcer that talks down to people. And yes, you can be that... But there's an art to it, you can't just bark orders and expect to have the Sub go with it. You have to measure the strength of your Voice™. Meaning that you have to know when your sub needs you to push on her, when to release, and when not to do so.

Also, there's one secret that sadly I see most Dominants, specially online, don't get the grasp of: Soft Domination.

Orders doesn't have to be told directly to be an order, casually mentioning your sub what you want them to do (or what you want to do to them), in a calm, warm voice, will make most subs melt. Having a moment of tenderness while you degrade them, mixing up pleasure signals in their brain, and affixing the idea that whatever you're doing is good for both of you.

Domination also means to be a guiding hand in their life outside of kinky stuff, and many Doms forget that, or just set out rules for their Sub's behavior and enforce punishment as negative reinforcement. But there's so much to that.

You can be a guiding hand while being soft, making them rely on you for asking you things, big and small. You are there to be their Pillar after all, it does not mean you have to just sit there and Lord over them.

True Domming takes effort, takes trust and needs to be tempered with the ability to flow into a more imposing form of dominance when your sub requires it, it's like a martial art, movement flowing like water, passing through everything and changing form as it goes... But also molding and shaping everything around it.

A Dom's word can bring someone to their knees by making it feel that they have no choice bu to obey... But great Dominants know that there's a big difference between "I gave them no choice but to submit"... And "when I gave them the choice, they chose to submit".