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let's tell mama about my first day at school

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things to script about your s/o!

here are some things i always script to make sure my relationships are always supportive, non-toxic and just generally wonderful <3

they always think you’re pretty, weather you’re wearing makeup, no makeup, pajamas or a fancy outfit

they can always sense when you need space and when you need them to talk to you or distract you (when you’re upset)

they are good at communicating their needs and if there is any problems, they also understand and make sure to actually listen when yoy communicate your needs

their mouth doesn't taste bad (dude i am NOT kissing you if you have horrific breath)

you are saved as a cute nickname in their phone (if you have phones) - idk i just think this one is cute

they are really patient with you when trying to teach you stuff

if they tease you or you two have sarcastic banter as a part of your jokes they never take it too far and know when to stop

You only have PDA when you are both comfortable (and they can tell when you aren't!!)

they won't keep any bad secrets from you (only fun things like surprise parties or surprise gifts)

they are comfy (this one may seem weird but like, if you're planning on laying on their chest or resting your head on their shoulder you don't wanna feel like your head is on a rock)

they have good music taste (requirement for my irl relationships)

they won't smell bad

they always have the physical stuff you need - weather that's a spare key when you can't find yours in your pockets, a straw at a restaurant, sugary snacks when you're tired, ect. (for my current s/o i scripted that he has a spare eyeliner in his bag because i always complain about forgetting mine when we went places)

they can cook (no matter how much you love take out, nothing is better than a home cooked meal. unless you wanna be the cook in which case go off queen)

if you sleep in the same bed - they won't take up too much of the bed/ duvet or be too warm/too cold in the night, they don't snore or drool, non gross sleeping please.

they listen to you talk about your interests and actually care (instead of pretending they do)

they let you spend time with your friends without being too clingy or annoying

they have good friends that won't be mean/ annoying/ inappropriate with you

they are really sweet at all times

they always have the best compliments for you

your love languages match up

they never mock you or your beliefs (unless it's like a joke that you are both comfy with and know is a joke)

they are willing to share their clothes (i will slowly steal all of my S/O’s t-shirts and hoodies)

this list is forever expanding, but here are just the ideas i have for now. some of these are specific to me so if there's anything that doesn't work you don't have to include it! it's your script for your dr.

happy shifting!! <3

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i wanna look like this in at least one of my drs 🙂‍↕️

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loa is your best friend, not your crush

tldr: stop seeking loa’s validation, trust in your friendship and the love you share

so we’re gonna need a bit of backstory for everyone as to how i reached this epiphany which i could only articulate this well thanks to @faeriemarie letting me ramble on discord thnx bby

anyway, backstory :

i have a wonderful best friend from high school and she is someone that i’ve scripted into many realities (she’s one of the members in my kpop girl group dr, i love her sm). but in my cr, as can be expected, life hasn’t been easy and we hadn’t talked for quite a while.

sometimes i’d remember her with so much warmth and fondness and reminisce in the times we’d shared, the love that was so real and so precious to me, the way i’d literally see her five days out of the week and still never feel tired of her presence because at a time where i was struggling (high school) she got me like no one else did

and afterwards, after losing so much time to life and university and careers and new friendships, most of which could never even hope to reach her level, i was pleasantly surprised when she reached out to me.

two text messages later and we’d slipped back into the same energy that we’d always shared, like nothing had changed, because nothing had changed

we very quickly organised a lunch, no fuss no rescheduling, nothing blocking our paths back to each other and right now, as i type this, i’m cuddled under a blanket after a lovely meal with her and a warmth in my soul.

because she single-handedly changed the way i view loa

something about me and her — in my eyes she was always perfection and me being the anxious fool that i am, sometimes i’d spiral and convince myself that i’m not worthy of being her friend

today, at lunch, sitting right across from me, she burned those burdens and alleviated each and every facet of fear i had about it, about us.

she said “you mean so much to me, i value us and our friendship so much. i know that we go a long time without speaking and i really miss you but at the same time, i just know that i can reach out whenever, for anything, and you’ll be there for me. because you’re so genuine and so authentic. this kind of friendship is something i’ll always cherish”.

aside from the fact that i’m getting teary eyed as i remember her words, i have a point with all of this rambling and exposition — as soon as she said this and helped me rid myself of all that stress, it felt like i’d just slipped into my better cr

a reality where i’ve always scripted this kind of energy, this kind of vibe, with her

at that moment, shifting wasn’t on my mind bcs i felt like i’d achieved it ?? i felt like i was there, in my better cr, getting lunch with one of my most cherished friends, just like those scenarios i’ve scripted

and her and i have even planned another meet up pretty soon with our extended group and i cannot explain how refreshing it is to feel zero social anxiety about this plan

usually i’d have inklings of fear and doubt but right now? nothing !! absolutely nothing

i am so at peace and i haven’t felt this way about a friendship in so long ???

having lunch with her and speaking with her affirmed to me that my fears of losing our friendship were unfounded, because how can you lose something so genuine and so real?

i’ve finally learned to trust in our friendship and the love we share and dismiss my irrational fears that are baseless and are a result of my own overthinking

i don’t think you guys understand how incredible this is for me because i am without a doubt one of the most anxious people in existence it is disgustingly debilitating

but i’ve won this battle and there are gonna be more battles that i’m gonna win (anxiety-wise ahdhdhsh)

and i know i’m gonna win those because meeting up with her affirmed me of my own capabilities and my own manifestations

i’ve learned to dismiss unfounded fear and trust in my friendship with this person

why don’t we think the same way about loa???

we need to trust in your friendship with loa, one of the most genuine friendships you can ever have

the universe can throw as much at you as it wants but loa always has your back

we need to stop thinking of loa as this unresponsive crush, always seeking its validation, in need of constant attention and interaction and hoping to “run into them” to “share a moment”

stop. stand up.

loa is not your crush, for fuck’s sake, loa is your life long soulmate friendship

a friend like loa? you don’t need to talk to them 24/7 to know they love you and value you and care about you and will provide for you

that’s what loa should be, a true genuine friend who you can hit up for whatever you want (manifestation) and they’ll follow through (materialisation)

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my internet is so ass 😕

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“Candle shopping?” Jane Doe questioned. I asked her to go candle-shopping with me because I knew she had an affinity for scents. “Sure, why not? I’m sure I’ll find something that suits you—something unbelievably sweet,” she smiled.

fragrance notes — top: bergamot, citrus, blackberry middle: cashmere vanilla, powdery rose, tobacco flower base: amber, cocoa, musk

I got Jane Doe a candle called “Soft Blanket,” because I know how much she loves calming scents! When I handed it to her and told her this would be perfect for her, she smelt it and said she loved the cozy scent it gave off.

fragrance notes — top: vanilla icing, malted sugar middle: cake batter, chocolate base: cocoa, vanilla bean

Jane Doe handed me a candle called Vanilla Cupcake and told me I didn’t even need to smell it, she knew I would like the sweet scent it gives off. I trusted her word and didn’t until I got home and lit it, instantly falling in love with its smell—it smelt like cupcakes being baked.

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i really enjoy when shifters write about what would be considered the "mundane" aspects of their drs. fond childhood memories, holiday traditions, the color of your bed sheets, your spotify — literally anything that would be called mundane. it feels so real and it is. when i see these posts on shiftblr it's almost as if i'm reading a daily blog. it genuinely warms my heart so much. just a little flicker that reminds me that this is all truly real ♡

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everyone talks about pining for their dr s/o, but no one talks about pining for their dr friend group, so

DR friend group ideas:

group baking at someone's house

going to the mall

skipping school together

sneaking out to the aesthetic woods near the neighborhood and finding an old abandoned house behind a bunch of plants and turning it into a secret hideout

all wearing cool/cute outfits to school together you could never wear in your cr and no one can tease you over it cause all your friends got your back if they try anything

going to an abandoned park/playground at night together

sleepovers!!!!

going to pride parades together

going to some trashy fast food restaurant at the middle of the night as a group

those fun places you see on tiktok and want to go to but can't in your cr

being a team in a contest

getting revenge on anyone who messes with one of your friends, together

going to the movie theater

amusement parks

those places with obstacle courses and trampolines and those foam block pits

playing pranks on annoying teachers/classmates

having inside jokes

group cosplays

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i keep dreaming of my dr s/o im gonna cry and throw up I WAS LITERALLY HOLDING HIS ARM ☹️

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Hello me. No, you are not doing anything wrong. You shift constantly. You manifest effortlessly. Take a breath. You're fine.

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ngl i dont understand crushes with males in this reality especially when 99% of them are disappointing. and especially when you already shifting and you can simply...build/choose your dream man.....

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THIS DIVA

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meet me in the pale moonlight sounds so nostalgic to me now 😖

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go be “cringe” !!! u wanna be the main character of ur dr?? do it! u wanna be ridiculously overpowered??? go for it!! u want ppl to instantly think ur incredible and amazing and insanely attractive?? sure!!

if it’s up ur alley, go do it!!!!!! no shame if it’s not hurting anyone xoxo

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i do NOT support all shifters. some of y'all are weird as fuck.

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i’m confused.. what are you looking for?

YOU know that everything is consciousness (you btw), so why are you “looking” for some type of validation of what ego wants? that’s egos job. not yours.

aren’t you aware of the phone in your hand? aren’t you aware of the sun rays shining through your window? exactly. if YOU are aware of some*thing*, how could it not be you?? it came from YOU. ego is NOT separate. you have 10000% control over it. as well as EVERYTHING else it perceives.

say you thought of something funny that happened at school, or something that didn’t even happen yet, and you (ego) start laughing out of nowhere. THAT WAS AN INSTANT REFLECTION. This is why emotions DO NOT MATTER. You made up that entire script through consciousness, and the “3d” (which includes ego) instantly reflected. that’s its job. This proves that whatever you choose to perceive TIMELESSLY reflects.

ego will never have the same abilities as you do. whatever it wants has to solely come from the 5 senses in order for it to be true. but like i said countless times before, you are NOT THE EGO. YOU ARE JUST AWARE OF IT.

so back to my initial statement, if you KNOW that you are solely just AWARE of the ego, why are you looking to THEM, or ANY inanimate object for any type of validation… when you quite literally ARE the validation?

heavily inspired by my girl @manifestingitgurlll 💐 definitely the best blogs i’ve ever read on here that peacefully reassures my ego every mf timeee

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when you stop trying to finding the logic in it, shifting becomes so much more fun !!