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sorry i can't accept compliments like a normal person ugghh 🤢 im gomna log off

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just because it's sometimes necessary for parents with strollers to use the larger accessible stall in bathrooms 1000% doesn't mean parents with strollers should have a get out jail out of free card for acting entitled or otherwise being weird towards disabled people with wheelchairs or who use other mobility aids that take up a large amount of space

one of my first times out using a wheelchair involved a mother with a stroller staring me down in a crowded bathroom like there is no way in hell she was going to let me get in the stall before she was, it was unsettling and humiliating at best, not to mention the fact there weren't any stalls actually big enough to fir my wheelchair in them in said restroom despite it being marked as accessible and how humiliating that was on its own, and there are plenty of experiences that are much worse than that

i don't care how much they also "need" the stall, people with strollers and kids can be just as shitty and ableist and weird towards us as anyone else, maybe we should be talking about the ableism and exclusion we experience involving a public space supposedly dedicated to us instead of centering the feelings of able-bodied people, or sometimes people who think visible disability or being a wheelchair-user is somehow magically a privilege

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anyway you should always remember that all those foreigners you see dying on the news are just as real people as you are who have just as much interiority as you do. there is nothing about you that makes you more important and it is by pure chance that you are not in their position. in fact, this holds for all of history. every person, no matter the horror of the fate that befell them, had just as much interiority as you do. i feel like some people haven't fully internalized this.

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a part of being proactive about how you communicate with all types of people is having the ability to realize when the person or people across from you don’t understand what you are telling them, and then having the ability to explain it differently, explain the wider cultural context they might be missing, or use simpler vocabulary

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my therapist said it's okay to talk about one's emotions and personal thoughts so i guess i am trying. it does make me physically sick still ugh

my name's yahya btw i don't think i ever mentioned it

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so many posts talking about the Sisyphean nature of dishes but nobody warned me about the meds! you blink and it's time to refill your prescription. hey you just picked up your prescription meds? wrong! go get more! don't pay attention for a week? you forgot to refill your meds. hey wanna know what time it is? contact your GP for a refill and maybe we'll find out

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same anon here don’t worry I also use a ridiculous amount of filler words

god i love filler words. like. honestly they're just so cosy. you understand

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sorry anon that "yeah" wasn't to say it's a stupid question. i don't believe in that shit i just love filler words bc like why not

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sorry if this is a stupid question but if im (invisibly) physically disabled, do i still get to call myself cripplepunk? I’ve asked around quite a bit and I’ve received mostly yeses, but I’d also like to get your take on it

yeah there's like nobody who said it was visibly physically disabled people only. as long as you're physically disabled, join in. i mean you'll probably run into people with different experiences than you, and even other physically disabled people who can't relate to you or you to them at all. but that's quite normal. in fact that's pretty good. there's a huge range of disabilities even if you limit it to conditions that causes physical disabilities alone. that variety is also part of disability because there's no one disabled experience. if you go in expecting to relate to everyone you'll be disappointed. but if you go in expecting to find a group of people who, like you, belong to a unique disabled class, that live and move in society in specific ways, in which we stand up for each other - you'll be grand.

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hey fellow disabled people! tell me something fun about yourself. reply, send and ask, whatever.

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god just saying this made me nauseous

my name's yahya btw i don't think i ever mentioned it

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anyway when i made my blog there was soooo much arguing about who gets to be in cripplepunk (it's physically disabled people) that i never really got to talk much about being multiply disabled. like i would either talk about the physical disabilities or the autism and co. but not like together. but i think it would be nice to talk about how there can not only be competing accessibility needs but outright clashing accessibility needs within the same person. that something which would help with one disability is unbearable because of another. and how actually that's really really common.

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my name's yahya btw i don't think i ever mentioned it

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i have to admit that i am the sort of autistic person who walks onto the road. without looking. i have almost been hit by vehicles dozens upon dozens of times. some pretty close calls! ironically having to use crutches made me a bit safer because I'm more visible and have to stop and pause and walk slower.

so pretty much all my friends and loved ones, like anyone who regularly went out with me had the "grab yahya" instinct next to roads (as i like to call it). them grabbing me saved my ass lots of times. but sometimes i don't like being grabbed! it annoys me. i know they can't read my intentions in advance and it's for my safety and has genuinely saved me but yknow. it's okay if things that are done objectively to help you still annoy you, as a disabled person. we're not robots, we can't automatically make ourselves feel only what is appropriate for the circumstances. like it's best to develop some coping mechanisms or workarounds or communication procedure if possible. but either way it's okay to get annoyed. you're not mean or ungrateful for getting annoyed at help you need. you're just human

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like because when you're physically disabled it doesn't mean you have no other disabilities. it doesn't mean you can't have problems with mental health either. a physically disabled person who's autistic or schizophrenic or traumatized aren't dealing with these issues separately. we're dealing with them concurrently. our ability to react and respond to issues caused by physical disability can be impaired by other things. so if someone grabs us to try and help stop us falling over or want to pick up something we dropped or. idk. the unfortunate thing is we can react very badly. when we're having these problems we won't react the same way a normally abled person who is physically limited for a while would. like if you just grabbed an autistic person in general they might scream or cry or try to bite you because like. you just grabbed them. but somehow when that person is also physically disabled, usually visibly physically disabled, people kinda see nothing other than the physical limitation. our complex humanity and individual circumstances and personalities get sidelined in favour of seeing us like a task, or an obstacle, or a good deed. like it always boils down to the fact that hey. do you know that we're people.

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it's a little complicated but i think physically disabled people have the right to struggle. to struggle visibly. to try and do something like put on their jacket, or climb up the stairs, or get out of their seat by themselves if they want to. the thing is naturally as a social animal we offer help to other people we see that need it. and that's not wrong. and sometimes disabled people who are struggling actually really need the help. so i'm not saying that it's wrong to offer disabled people help. but i think if that person decides they don't want that help and rejects it, you should respect that. even if it's annoying or scary to you to see someone struggle, as long as we have the capacity to fuck around and find out we should be allowed to as much as any other person

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*guy with an undiagnosed disability voice:* haha it’s kinda crazy how everyone just deals with the constant unending pain but we just thug it out like usual 💯💯💯