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I think the best advice I ever got to stop myself from getting in my head over issues i was having with a partner/friend was “Are you deciding on ultimatums in your relationship without the other persons knowledge or consent? Are you having conversations in your head where the other party is a projection you supply the responses for? If so; you have done this person a huge disservice in not allowing them to answer on their own terms. You have done so much architecture around this problem in your mind that is impenetrable for anyone who was not there when it was being built.”

That shit really changed my life and honestly? I think made me a nicer person to be around.

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do you wanna hang out tonight my curse was finally lifted

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I really cannot emphasize enough the mental health benefits of abandoning the idea that you're special.

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always vaguely feeling like im in trouble for something but idk what

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You can't change the past, so focus on making a great future.

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What's wrong with you?

Depends on the day

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I always choose to understand, even if it hurts.

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People always say: "Not everyone is gonna like you, and that's ok, nothing to take personally, it doesn't matter" yet it still sucks. It sucks when it's your teacher, it sucks when it's your boss or co-worker or family member. It even sucks when it's a friends friend or someone we barely know. It hurts. And you do not have to gaslight yourself into thinking that it doesn't hurt when it does. You're allowed to be upset when life is hard. You're allowed to feel an emotion, even more when it makes perfect logical sense. We talk to a friend about our feelings, journal, reflect, use coping skills. We find peace after a while, that's a more realistic solution. You got this. It will be ok.

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truly do not understand how people just slip into relationships and jobs and opportunities and friend groups and lifestyles. to me there are a million obstacles to navigate in a single basic conversation

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Some men's childhoods are permitted to last forever, but women are so often reminded that there is work to be done.

— Taylor Jenkins Reid, Carrie Soto Is Back

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Healthy relationships are created, not found

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if there’s one thing about me it’s that i love trinkets. give me a rock? i’ll keep it forever. little charm? i’m wearing it every day

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Trail cam catching a deer fawn with the zoomies

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