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I love what people associate with me ❤️

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Boys only want one thing and it’s fucking disgusting (to be called pretty and told that they’re enough)

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You can’t make people love you as much as you love them just by wanting it hard enough

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Never forget that no matter how many times you get your heart broken there is so so so much love in the world and when you’re not staring at one particular location looking for it, you start find it literally all around you ❤️

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The hardest thing about being an unapologetic hopeless romantic is that everyone you care for, you fall in love with a little bit, and 99% of the time that means this person that you’ve come to find every aspect of unimaginably beautiful is gonna break your heart

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Have you been playing with my pussy without asking?

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Don’t worry baby, you don’t need to think, just laying there and feeling the warmth between your legs leaking down your thighs is enough 🖤

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Nothing feels better then digging your fingers into her hips to pull her further and further back onto you during doggy

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At what body count number do you think the amount starts get concerning

I don’t really think there is one. The only thing that would ever be concerning to me about someone’s sex life is if they’re putting themselves in unsafe situations. Unfortunately, you can have sex once and immediately have a really bad experience, or you can have sex a hundred times and be completely comfortable with each partner, and oftentimes the less experienced you are sexually, the less skill you have when it comes to choosing partners who are gonna be safe and respectful with you. I definitely don’t think that a higher number is cause for any type of concern, and I also don’t think that a lower number indicates any type of virtue for the person that has it. 

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Shirley Jackson, “We Have Always Lived in the Castle” 1962

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Do you think polyamory is a natural human desire?

I don’t think it’s more or less natural than monogamy is, I think it just kind of works for certain people. I will say, even for people who are in long-term monogamous relationships, there’s always going to be curiosities and attractions and crushes that pop up from time to time as life goes on, and I do think that if we could break down a lot of the societal norms that prohibit people from exploring those things within the boundaries of their existing relationship, we would have wayyy less of a problem of people going behind each other’s backs to explore those things without the consent of their partners, which would save a ton of heartache and betrayals and breaking of trust.

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What’s the smallest bra size you’d consider attractive?

Tits are like ice cream, there are no bad flavors, and even if you have a favorite, every kind you see, you immediately want to put in your mouth 🖤

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Oh and forgot to answer the most important question, we are very solid, like I said we’ve been together almost 6 years at this point we’re just trying everything to see what we like, we’re very kinky individuals and I also happen to work at a sex toy shop, so we have our fun for sure but we’re very in love with eachother

It sounds like you guys are definitely in a safe place to start experimenting then, and the knowledge of the kink space from your job will definitely help you with the safety and ethics side of things!

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Me again, my boyfriend was thrilled about the idea, I think it has been a fantasy of his that he just hasn’t told me about, according to him he was waiting for me to bring it up, and he was very into the idea of it , as of whether or not we’re just looking for sex or a intimate relationship, I mean we can be like friends or whatever but that’s where I’m not 100% comfortable with like him getting to close to another women, emotionally that is, which he is completely okay with but it makes it harder to find someone in my opinion, but to answer it, just looking for a third in the bedroom, nothing like a relationship, I mean they may get brought on a date or two get birthday presents ect, if it continues, more or less looking for someone open to letting us try it and if we don’t like it then that’s the end of it ya know? Which I know sounds bad (atleast in my head) I’m trying to do it in a way that we’re not just tossing someone to the side, but truthfully I think we’ll both like it and it will be an ongoing thing until we start trying for like kids n stuff, as to where, I’m in ohio so it’s a pretty good mix of liberal to like republican,( atleast in my town) so yeah I hope this helps you help me😅🤣

It’s definitely good that you guys had a conversations first about what the boundaries are going to be, and that puts you in a good place to keep having conversations about boundaries as things develop, because the boundaries tend to evolve as the situation does. It might be more difficult to find consistent “unicorn” partners than it would be to find a “third” partner, but definitely not impossible! I would advise you guys to always be up front with your intentions to any play partners just so that they don’t have any unrealistic expectations about where the relationship might go. Do either of you have any friends that might be interested? I’ve found that it’s often easier with someone who you already have some type of a rapport or even intimacy with in another area of your life. Also, I would definitely check online on places like Facebook, Reddit, and other social media platforms to see if there’s any local polyamory groups that you could kind of shop around or advertise yourselves in.

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How many bodies do you have?

I don’t have an exact number but somewhere in the ballpark of 20-25 sounds right to me?

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Do you have any good names to call a nonbinary sub since one of your partners is nonbinary? (asking for a friend ☺️)

Good question! A condescending “poor thing” always works, “good toy/pet” applies to anyone regardless of gender, and a lot of classic degradation terms like “slut/whore/cum dump” really don’t have to be gender exclusive either!

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Hi so idk you just seem like you might know more things than I, or atleast have a bigger following than me😅

I’m 24 and I’m bisexual (female) my boyfriend and I have been together almost 6 years and I’ve expressed that I want to bring a girl in just to try it and see if it’s something we could maybe do regularly,

just wanted to give you backstory anyways,

where would I possibly find someone 😭??

Im like super shy and nervous so idk and we’re looking for something rather specific (in my opinion) so idk where to start 🥺

could you point me in the right direction ??

Could anyoneee point me in the right direction ??

Hey, how’s it going? Couple of follow ups to give you a good answer? How did your boyfriend seem about the idea? It’s important for everyone involved to be enthusiastic about polyamory for it to work. How solid is the foundation of your relationship right now? It’s important for you guys to be really grounded and communicate strongly before complicating any dynamics. Are you interested in bringing another partner in just for occasional sex or for an additional relationship?

As for finding someone, it can really depend on where you live. My triad is located in a very liberal city, so we actually had some poly friends before opening our initial relationship and were aware of a pretty prominent poly-community locally, and we actually met our third partner organically through a friend. Additionally, there’s a handful of Facebook poly-dating groups that are specific to our area, so depending on where you’re located you might also be able to find something along those lines, although I personally feel like it’s easier and has better long term results meeting people in person. Hope this helps and that I can give you some more specific advice after I get more info!