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nevertheless, we ball

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Holy fuck

This will probably get flagged but OMG had to share!

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I’m sure that person has their reasons and I can’t overstate the importance of respecting boundaries. All the same, in my nearly 8 years here, you’ve always been one of the most friendly, easy-going, and supportive people in the community. I know you weren’t looking for validation or anything with this post, but I saw it and wanted to thank you for always being cool.

It's only happened a couple of times in my entire 8 years on this site, but I have to admit it's pretty jarring to try and like/reblog a post I really vibe with from a blog I've never seen before (much less interacted with), only to find out I can't because I'm blocked.

It feels like if you saw a stranger in public wearing merch for some really niche media that you also happened to like, so you walk over to say something about it but before you even get a word out they give you a dirty look and silently walk away.

Like okay... I'm not gonna go chase after them but what the hell was that about?

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If you focus on patiently building genuine friendships based on more than simply a shared kink before meeting anyone for real, the bad apples always out themselves soon - even if they think they’re being all clever and playing the long game.

It can be very telling to put a boundary in place and just observe/evaluate a person’s response. Do they become angry and petulant? Do they keep their cool, but try to negotiate in a way that they frame as reasonable and compromising, but is actually just a calm refusal to be told “no” about something that’s important to you?

Beware both of these people - but most of all, beware the second person. They’ve already decided that they’re smart enough to manipulate and gaslight you without you getting wise. Don’t validate their hubris. Watch especially for:

- a sudden increase in cutesy, non-threatening emojis employed as pacifiers

- a long succession of “how about this?” questions that they’ll say are asked for reasons of clarity and knowing where the line is, but are actually designed to weaken your resolve and incrementally shift the goalposts

- messages hinting at the threat of cancelling the whole idea altogether if they don’t get the exact thing they want, at which point their bluff should be called every single time

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Starbucks Chai Tea Latte

Recipe: https://30minutesmeals.com/starbucks-chai-tea-latte/

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Your purpose in life is not to love yourself but to love being yourself.

If you goal is to love yourself, then your focus is directed inward toward yourself, and you end up constantly watching yourself from the outside, disconnected, trying to summon the “correct” feelings towards yourself or fashion yourself into something you can approve of.

If your goal is to love being yourself, then your focus is directed outward towards life, on living and making decisions based on what brings you pleasure and fulfillment.

Be the subject, not the object. It doesn’t matter what you think of yourself. You are experiencing life. Life is not experiencing you.

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As someone with very ticklish shoulder blades, I share her pain 😫

I'm the underrated spots anon :) underrated spots are spots you normally wouldn't see done, like the back, arms, calves, shins ext

Hi again! :)

I do not have a lot of that but here is one with back and arms and the other one is with calves. Hope you enjoy

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This. This is what I want in life

Look at what I found on Reddit 🥺

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rb to give a flower to the person you rb this from

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succubus trying to seduce me: I can satisfy any kink or fetish you have. so, what tickles your fancy?

me, barely containing my excitement: funny you should say it like that,

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oh yeah heres my collection of 2021 headlines that i forgot to post when the year ended

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“The police don’t target black people,” says the white person.

“LGBTQ+ people have plenty of protection,” says the straight, cisgender person.

“Women don’t feel harassed at work,” says the man. 

“Poor people don’t need more government help,” says the rich person. 

“Immigrants feel welcome here,” says the natural-born citizen. 

Please stop invalidating the concerns of people who have problems that you’re not experiencing. Instead, listen to them, and learn what you can do to help. 

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Me, yesterday, getting an allergy test

Reblog if you can relate

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I need more large guys laughing at their own jokes please.

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i legally cannot let this sweet old woman down