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i love bisexuals who don’t conform to society’s view of gender!!! i love nonbinary and trans bisexuals and bisexuals on HRT or who’ve had top/bottom surgery! he/she bisexuals, she/they and he/they bisexuals, bisexuals who use all pronouns or neopronouns! butch/femme bisexuals and gender nonconforming ones!!! i love all of you!!!

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looking at my fridge. All my drinks atm are sour beers in pink cans . Maybe #bisexualfemmes can exist

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femmes of color, youre so lovely and ethereal. you deserve love and protection. youre the definition of beauty and femininity, everyone else needs to start taking notes

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💓💙blue haired butch and pink haired femme bisexual love !!! 💗💙

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i love bisexuals who don’t conform to society’s view of gender!!! i love nonbinary and trans bisexuals and bisexuals on HRT or who’ve had top/bottom surgery! he/she bisexuals, she/they and he/they bisexuals, bisexuals who use all pronouns or neopronouns! butch/femme bisexuals and gender nonconforming ones!!! i love all of you!!!

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Happy bi visibility day!!! 💜💗💙 proud 🙌🏽

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femme bisexualgender flag

a combo of two flags, both originally by @nbgender

(& a newer alt 2 this femme bisexualgender flag tha used his older femme flag)

[Image description:

A flag with 7 horizontal stripes. The center stripe is the thickest, then on either side of it is a thin stripe, then two medium stripes on either side of those.

The colors, from top to bottom, are dark blue, blue, light blue, light lavender-pink, light purple, purple, dark purple.

End description.]

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okay but femme bi/pan lesbians??? iconic 😍💞

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Thank you so much for tagging us! This is a wonderful thinkpiece 💕

Why Butch & Femme are not lesbian exclusive terms

Quick note: This is not including the term “stud,” as I found there is not enough research documenting its usage outside of black lesbian circles. That is not to be said it is lesbian exclusive necessarily, I just do not have an opinion.

Before writing this article, as a transgender lesbian myself, I was pretty on the fence about whether or not non-lesbians could use the terms femme/butch. 

The terms “butch” and “femme” are terms that describe an LGBT person’s relationship with their gender and/or presentation. Currently, it is a topic of heavy debate whether or not it is an exclusively lesbian term. I am here to show sources and evidence which suggest that it has been historically used to refer to any LGBT person, and not just lesbians.

“Stone Butch Blues” is a book that people like to quote a lot, which is fair, because it is an amazing book! This book does seem to use the term “femme” for both men and women, seen here. (pictures by @bisexualfemme​, Stone Butch Blues by Leslie Feinberg, p. 32 & p. 300) Leslie Feinberg grew up during the Stonewall period, which makes hir a primary source.

The LGBTQ+ zine “Femmes Unite!” from 2007 shows more usage of the terms “femme” and “butch” for non-lesbians, such as quotes like “My new friend was a fabulously femme fag… I learned so much about the kind of person I wanted to be from him.” and the poem titled “femmes love boys too” by Katrina Enyeart. It is also commonly used for LGBTQ+ ballroom terms, seen here, most notably the term “butch queen.” It is also found in this book about ballroom culture in Detroit.

Numerous modern sources have used the term “femme” to describe non-lesbians, such as this academic paper which states that “…femme is an identity that transgresses gender and sexuality and is not limited solely to cis gender lesbian and bisexual women.” GLAAD  also includes two-spirit and “masculine people” in their definition of butch seen here, and Queer Voices writes “…butch-femme identities are very stereotyped to the lesbian community. However, this can be seen throughout the queer community” on this article about femme and butch identities.

One woman wrote about her experience being a lesbian in the 1970s here, writing “Through my associating with lesbian feminists, I learned to regard bisexual women…as “fence sitters,”…untrustworthy because of their association with men.”

So why do most pages talking about butch and femme labels exclusively use it to mean lesbians? There are a few reasons for this, a big one being the lesbian separatist movement and political lesbianism, which later evolved into the TERF movement you see today. Taking an excerpt out of @star-anise‘s post here, ““Lesbian” used to be a word that simply meant a woman who loved other women. Lesbian groups turned against bisexual and pansexual women as a class in the 1970s and 80s, when radical feminists began to teach that to escape the Patriarchy’s evil influence, women needed to cut themselves off from men entirely.”

In summary, “butch” and “femme” are terms that can be used to describe any member of the LGBTQ+ community, and the notion that they can’t has ties to the lesbian separatist and TERF movements.

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happy tdov to transmasc femmes and transfem butches and all other trans lesbians who don’t often feel very visible bc theyre made to constantly negotiate their identities in order to win community 💋 you are epic and i love u

[bisexualfemme]

i love bisexuals who don’t conform to society’s view of gender!!! i love nonbinary and trans bisexuals and bisexuals on HRT or who’ve had top/bottom surgery! he/she bisexuals, she/they and he/they bisexuals, bisexuals who use all pronouns or neopronouns! butch/femme bisexuals and gender nonconforming ones!!! i love all of you!!!

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ABOUT 🌈

Hello there! This blog is an archive of all things queer & creative–we showcase pride merch and original art made by LGBTQ+ content creators in hopes of signal boosting small queer businesses. 

Our end goal is to uplift the voices of intersectionally marginalized people in our community (e.g. Black/Indigenous/otherwise nonwhite, disabled, neurodivergent, impoverished, Muslim, Jewish, etc. artists) and we’re happy to use our blog as a platform for helping said LGBTQ+ content creators reach a bigger (and more receptive) audience. Anyone can follow regardless of gender identity and/or orientation as long as they’re not bigoted.

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Thank you for taking the time out of your day to read this post, it’s much appreciated!  🖤🤎❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

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Reference card to my butch/femme posts

Probably my best rebuttal of “Butch/femme are lesbian exclusive!” to date: A brief debunking and then the real question: Why is this lie being perpetuated on Tumblr, and not in other LGBTQ+ spaces?

Why LGBTQ+ people get agitated about “queer is a slur” and “butch/femme are lesbian exclusive”: It’s not just that you’re denying people the tools to say who they are; it’s that these phrases in particular have been used to perpetuate real nastiness in the LGBTQ+ community. If you don’t like the word “queer”, filter it or use New XKit.

The history of the terms “butch” and “femme”: They originated in straight culture (”femme” is literally French for “woman”; “butch” originally applied to very masculine cis men), became prominent in the 1930s-50s with lesbians and bisexual women, and then migrated into African-American and Latine ball culture and drag scenes, which include people of all genders and orientations, and have spread widely through every spectrum the LGBTQ+ community as well as retaining their meanings for heterosexual cis people.

Other people using “butch” and “femme” does not actually erase lesbian usage: If a lesbian has her birthday on October 15, other people also having their birthdays on October 15 does not erase her birthday.

Is using “stag” or “doe” as identity terms racist? “Stag” and “Doe”, as gendered terms for deer, are closely related to “Buck”, which is HELLA racist and was used to describe African-American slaves in 19th century newspaper advertisements. Some people might be personally comfortable identifying with them, but they should NOT be forced onto other people.

Yes, we know queer is a slur. That’s why we use it. Those of us who call ourselves “queer” are taking something horrible that’s been used to assault us and wearing it as a badge of honour. Instead of saying, “No! We’re totally normal!” we’re saying, “We’re different, and being different is not a bad thing.” And no, it’s not synonymous with LGBT or LGBT exclusive either. It’s a movement, not a demographic.

What’s the Alternative to Radical Feminism? A brief survey of feminist movements from 1960 to present, including how Radfem vs Libfem is so 1980s, and the rest of us have moved on to better things.

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(Image description: four images with black and white backgrounds and black text inside white boxes; 1) "Support butch trans women" on a background of triangle shapes, 2) "Support femme trans men" on a background of snowy trees, 3) "Support butch nonbinary people" over a photo of a cloudy sky, 4) Support femme nonbinary people" over a photo of a building.)

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happy tdov to transmasc femmes and transfem butches and all other trans lesbians who don’t often feel very visible bc theyre made to constantly negotiate their identities in order to win community 💋 you are epic and i love u

[bisexualfemme]

i love bisexuals who don’t conform to society’s view of gender!!! i love nonbinary and trans bisexuals and bisexuals on HRT or who’ve had top/bottom surgery! he/she bisexuals, she/they and he/they bisexuals, bisexuals who use all pronouns or neopronouns! butch/femme bisexuals and gender nonconforming ones!!! i love all of you!!!

[bisexualfemme]

do you know if there's any blogs like this for butches? it's so hard to find butch blogs that aren't centered around lesbianism, of which isn't ideal for me as someone who's not even wlw. it's ok if not though! i still like your blog a lot :)

I'll try my best to help you out, here's a list of blog recs off the top of my head (anyone is welcome to add on!)

@bisexualbutch

@xenobutch

@possum-butch

@tenderheartbutch

@bisexualpositivity

@femmebis