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I am obsessed with this

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Can we talk about how America Ferrera delivered this insanely beautiful and impactful monologue about the hardships of being a woman. One of which is the fact that women have to be accountable for men’s actions which she says herself is insane.

And yet.

Here we are. Having to explain to men that the Barbie movie is not anti-men or sexist or meant to make men hate themselves.

We have to, yet again, be accountable for what men feel, and explain that, oh no we don’t hate you! We didn’t mean to upset you! Because the whole point was lost on them.

And now instead of my dash being filled with the magnificence of Barbie and the discoveries she’s made or even just the fact that Ken starts taking control of his life, I am instead somehow subjected to discourse after discourse of people needing to break down the movie so men will stop complaining about it.

I just. Wow. Being a woman. It always comes back to this, doesn’t it. And I hate it. Because we deserve more honestly.

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why do parents think they know it all especially when they have no clue!? Like wdym hum bhi iss daur se guzre hai, bro aapka aur mera daur mai bohot difference aagya hai.

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As their daughter, I love them.

As their child, I love them.

As a woman, I hate them.

As a human, I hate them.

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Mum just said "it's better to die than to have a child like you". If only i had a choice....

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idk if this is an adhd thing but I never truly rebelled against my parents because it turns out that everything I wanted to do was exactly what my parents wanted me to do, i.e. staying at home and reading in my room, and they still somehow found like a crapload of reasons just to shout at me anyway

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I dont understand why have we romanticized desi parents' way of upbringing. I hope we dont forget that no matter how sadistically humorous we make it sound, but at the end of the day its problematic.

Sometimes I feel we, the children of desi parents, have made peace with the problematic upbringing, We have accepted bottling up our emotions and all those visceral wounds which suppurate hatred and callousness.

Its wrong. We dont deserve this!

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A shoutout to all the Indian kids who were seen as "gifted" and burdened by their parents' expectations to continue progress in the next years but failed to do so.

You're not alone <3

And you're not a failure. Regardless of what your parents tell you. And if you were beaten up for it. You didn't deserve that either. Remember that

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is it really a home when your daughter takes every chance she gets to run away from it ?

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Desi culture is all about being forced to choose engineering, medical field, law field or business field by your parents.

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U think staying in a physically abusive household is hard?? Try staying in a verbally abusive household then

They fk ur brain up….. and u have no idea how to tell ppl y ur mental health is declining

LIKE what do u even tell ppl ?? The ppl u stay w discourage u on a daily basis and that’s y u think ur not capable of shit ??

Ukw nvm . Gud day

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Girls be like I won't settle for bare minimum and then will go settle for the bare minimum chosen by their parents

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It's the fact that they're not even taking a minute to reflect if they said something harmful while I'm here crying that terrifies me. They're so convinced to do the right thing.

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TRIGGERING SUBJECT MATTER: toxic parents

Dear Desi Parents:

You did NOT do us a favour by giving BIRTH to us, and that is not something we are obligated to you for, heck if someone had given ME a choice, I would not have been born at all.

Doing the bare minimum for us is not something to be proud of. It is EXACTLY what it sounds like, THE BARE MINIMUM. AND IF YOU THINK THAT DOING THE BARE MINIMUM FOR SOMEONE YOU FORCED INTO THIS WORLD, IS SOMETHING TO BE PROUD OF, well ,maybe you did not deserve kids!

The fact that you gave birth to us, and that you do the bare minimum for us like feeding . clothing and sending us to school, is not something for you to hold over our heads, as though we were bonded labourers of the olden days , to be held under a non-existent debt without free will or agency.

We are not burdens who have been dumped on you. You chose to bring us into your lives willingly. We are not your puppets. We are people with agency, to grow into whatever our inner hearts and The Universe decree us to be.

And if you haven’t already had kids, and if you disagree with what I have said here, if you believe that kids must be indebted to your every wish because you merely ejected a bunch of cells, that formed this vessel a consciousness will be forced to inhabit, then perhaps reconsider your decision. Trust me , it will be better not only for your mental health, and prevent the being yet unconceived of, from a lot of horror.

TRIGGERING SUBJECT MATTER