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hii what are signs of a toxic person?

hey there! here are the most common signs / red flags i know of. a person might be toxic if:

⌁ they get jealous easily → they don’t like you growing closer with others, and may want you to not have other friends and relations aside from them. this might be paired with the sabotage of your relationships by, for example, pitting you against people (in extreme cases).

⌁ they try to control you by guilt tripping you → “if you cared about me you would do this for me. if you loved me you’d listen to me. don’t i matter to you? doesn’t my opinion matter to you? don’t my feelings matter to you?” this is taking advantage of you. they’re trying to use your good will, caring nature and love for their own gain.

⌁ they elevate themselves by bringing you down → backhanded compliments, making jokes at the expense of you, putting a negative light on you when with other people; it’s all an effort to make themselves look and feel better next to you. they’re jealous of you and are unable to be proud of you. they always need to compare and do that by painting themselves as the good/funny/smart/nice one.

⌁ they victimize themselves and can’t admit their mistakes and faults → they like to share past experiences in which they were treated badly and cannot admit that something they did was wrong -- and if you point that out or try to reason with them, they’ll say you’re targeting them, too. they also won’t show much regret for hurting you or being distant, and they will never apologize sincerely for something you express has been uncomfortable for or hurtful to you.

⌁ they make you feel nervous (are unpredictable) → toxic people are often unpredictable. of course, nobody is predictable, but you should be able to trust they’ll express their emotions in safe and healthy ways. toxic people are unpredictable in the sense that they can yell at you over tiny things or completely shift their mood. you’re always on edge and unsure about how to approach them and act when they’re around, in fear of being shouted at or belittled.

calling someone a toxic person is a serious and pretty big accusation, but it’s also about the way you experience the relationship and are affected by it. toxic relationships: drain you mentally & bring you down instead of building you up. i’d say, the second you feel like you’re unsafe and unhappy, it’s a relationship you should walk away from. (and don’t be afraid to ask for help doing so from people you love and trust.)

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