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[bora-jin]

I hate when a tiny stupid thing pushes you over the edge and makes you freak the fuck out because it makes you look like a completely irrational tar pit of a human being. Like no I promise this is warranted just maybe not about that specifically I swear I'm well adjusted. Come closer stick your fingers in my cage

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"are they lovers?"

worse. it's a sports anime

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*looks at books* too tired for you *looks at films* too tired for you *looks at art supplies* too tired for you *eyes fall on tumblr* oho ho

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For most people, life doesn’t truly begin until they’re 26-30 or older. The way we romanticize and obsess over youth is super harmful. Your life is not over at 21, I promise you. It’s just beginning

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the worst part about ocd and ocd-like tendencies is that you think hyper-analyzing your thoughts and constantly psychoanalyzing yourself will fix you but that's actually part of the disorder. it's the disorder. disordering.

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getting petted all over while i could hide my face away in a pillow would probably fix part of what is wrong with me

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do you guys also ruin every good thing in your life or is that just me

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How was your day?

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Reblog this if you are literally suprised when people find you attractive.

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It's okay to express non-sexual submissiveness as a dominant.

You can be a dominant in the bedroom and still want to be spoiled. Just because you're the dominant during scenes does not mean that you always have to take the lead outside of your sex life. It's okay for your submissive to pay for dinners and to do most of the socializing during hangouts. It's okay to go to your submissive for words of wisdom, comfort, or reassurance when you need it. And it's alright if that is often. It's okay if you're a dominant who stays home and takes care of the house while they're at work. It's okay to seek ways to express that freedom and enter a hazey headspace in other aspects of your life. It's valid that if playing submissive roles in all other areas of your life is why you seek to express dominance in the bedroom. You do not need to erase your shyness, introvertedness, and non-sexual submissiveness in order to be a good dominant during scenes.

It's okay to express non-sexual dominance as a submissive.

You can be a submissive in the bedroom and still want to allow yourself room to express dominance in non-sexual ways. It's perfectly okay if you prefer to be the big spoon, if you want to keep your dom/me on the other side of you when walking besides a road, and if you like being able to buy them clothes and buy the toys you use during scenes. It's okay to seek ways to express control and dominance in other aspects of your life. It's valid that if being dominant in all other areas of your life is why you seek to express submission in the bedroom. You do not need to erase your assertive skills, craving for control, and non-sexual dominance in order to be a good submissive during scenes.

Just because you're 100% dominant or 100% submissive in the bedroom does not mean you need to conform to those roles outside of your sex lives.

Now, don't be shy to ask your dominant if you can be the big spoon tonight, and don't be shy to ask your sub to hold your hand and keep you safe when you're out and about.

Mwah <333

[bora-jin]

I want to be held while we watch something stupid on tv that neither of us are paying attention to I want to feel their grip tightening when I shift because they don’t want me to leave i want to be wanted in a soft tender way

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Oh to be laid in bed with him while it’s raining outside and listening to the thunder while we cuddle in soft blankets with fairy lights and gentle music