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Heavy on the “your perception of me says a lot more about you than it does about me”

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more phallo positive sketches for you all 💕💕

if you’ve appreciated my work, and are capable, please consider donating towards my top surgery! (august 15!!) I still need to raise $7,400 before my surgery! Thanks everyone!!

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the sequel: post metoidioplasty trans man ✌🏻

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Transmasculine punks are beautiful and I love them

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It is okay to not have bottom dysphoria. At all.

You are not less trans, you are not perverted, you are not your agab because of what's on your bottom half.

And it's also okay if you change your opinion on this later, but it's very valid if you don't, it's not a bad thing to be content with your bits.

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if you lose your hair you gain the absolutely dope opportunity to get all over head tattoos or subdermal horns or wear a new colorful wig every day and that's fucking sick

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in light of recent events, i want to take a moment to speak to all of the lovely people who are on t, want to be on t, or are considering going on t.

no matter what anyone tells you, please remember: t is not going to turn you into a monster. it’s not going to make you violent. it’s not going to make you hurt people. it’s not going to make you a bad person. it’s not going to make you someone people should be afraid of. it’s not going to make you lose control of yourself in some awful way.

i’m so much happier on t than i ever thought i could be. i went from having incredibly volatile and overwhelming emotions that could take over my entire life pre-t to being calmer, more in control of my emotions, and more frequently happy than i have been in years.

like any hormone, it affects everyone a bit differently. it might not change your emotions that much at all, and you might find that the physical effects are much more prominent for you. it might cause some mood swings for you, and you might have to adjust things to lessen them or find strategies to help you manage them. or, if you’re like me, you might find that it makes your emotions much more livable and makes your mind a much calmer, more pleasant place to be.

either way, i can promise you, it will not make you a monster. testosterone is not evil, it’s not poison, it’s not making good people into bad people or kind people into violent people. it’s just a hormone — morally neutral and totally natural to have in your body — and if you need to give yourself a bit more of it to live your happiest, fullest life? never let anyone make you feel ashamed of that.

i love testosterone. i love my fellow trans men and transmascs and every single trans person on t. i love how we find joy and peace in helping our bodies be more comfortable homes for us. i love you. i love us.

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i love you bears i love you butches i love you trans men i love you transmascs i love you drag kings i love you masc queers of all persuasions the world is so much better and brighter for the existence of queer masculinity

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Hey trans people I just want to remind you that your experience is your own and there is no wrong way to describe it.

If you feel like you were "born in the wrong body", that's fine.

If you feel like you "used to be X gender but now you're Y gender", that's fine.

If you feel like you "were an X gender who chose to be a Y gender", that's fine.

If you feel like you've "always been Y gender", that's fine.

If you look at things with your deadname on or pre-transition photos and feel a sense of connection or recognition, that's fine.

If you look at things with your deadname on or pre-transition photos and feel like it's a completely different person, that's fine.

If you feel like you "killed the X gender you used to be", that's fine.

If you feel like "the X gender you used to be is still here but they're Y gender now", that's fine

Personally, I like to say that the little girl is still around, she just lets me do the talking now.

It's your experience and you can describe it however you choose.

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i love being t4t I love gender nonconformity... i love girls who arent girls and women who are men and people with a million xenogenders and dykefags and femme trans men and butch trans girls. nothing is sexier than someone who spits in the face of the gender binary, and our very existence is not conforming to gender ideals

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I don't know who needs to hear this, but: If you're a man -whether you've been one all your life or just recently started to notice within yourself the need to become one- that's enough.

You don't have to pass a test, there is no quiz, you don't have to check a minimum amount of gender role boxes. No one can tell you HOW to be a man. It doesn't matter how you look or how your body looks, how you talk, how you act, how you behave, what your sexuality is. You don't even have to fit in with the other guys. If being a man feels right for you, you can say "This is me and I'm a man".

The gender police will never knock on your door. Your gender is your own business and no one else's. No one can tell you what a man can or can't do. There is no wrong way to be a man. Be the kind of man you want to be, the kind that sparks joy. You can do it, bro. I believe in you.

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If you can't bite back yet, you must protect yourself with reminders of who you really are. Wear a belt buckle that clings loudly, wear boxers and hold your legs open like there's something swinging in your drawers, whether you're packing or not.

No one can stop you from calling yourself a cowboy, or a gentleman, or a knight. No one can keep the perverse twinkle out of your eyes, take away the blood and dirt and sweat that you're composed of. Don't ever let them.

And if you hold on long enough, you might just find someone like you. You might see their jaw clenching to chew, the way they hide their body, and you can tell them how it ain't about hiding. How you were scared too, but it feels so good now that you can't believe it. They'll get that glint in their eye too, and you'll get to teach them all about how you became a man.

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you have to stay alive. you're going to be such a beautiful middle aged freak. young freaks will see you in the street and know that things can be okay.

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curse be damned my boy can still fag it up