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Fall and Winter are approaching!

Please remember to stay warm! Wear a big scarf and a coat please. 

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Apologies

I’ve been looking through this blog and realized that some of the answers I’ve given you have been pretty...rough and ignorant actually. 

For example, I had an anon come to me and ask about how to help her friend who’s dealing with anorexia and I told her to sit her friend down and talk to her friend and tell her friend that she’s worried and etc.  WHAT I DIDN’T MENTION was that anorexia is such a mental struggle and not only does it take a toll of one’s physical health but it also takes a huge toll on one’s mental health. I should’ve told her not to overwhelm her friend and I hope she didn��t immediately just sit her friend down and pour out all her worries on her friend. It’s not that easy and that can be very damaging if done in haste. 

I’m sorry if some of my replies may seem ignorant but I’ve grown a lot and still hope I can help and make a difference. 

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Hope you’ve all been doing well. It’s summer time basically so remember to wear sunscreen and enjoy the nice weather unless you live in Vancouver where the weather is unpredictable so bring an extra hoodie or jacket just in case! If you’re not comfortable wearing shorts or short clothing like tshirts or crop tops you don’t have to. And if you are but scared of being judged, don’t worry you’re beautiful and whoever decides to shame you for it is ignorant and do not think twice about their comments. Your body, your choices.

You’re are so loved. 

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Just A Reminder:

Remember to eat well! Add lots of veggies and leafy greens to your diet and exercise. That doesn’t mean run for 45 minutes, but take a walk around your neighbourhood or simple leg exercises at home. 

Please remember to take care of yourself. You are all so special to me. 

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Happy New Years

May this year be a time of revival or a continuation of a revival. I’m proud of all of you. 

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Merry Christmas

Merry Christmas to all of you. I hope you all had a wonderful holidays filled with loved ones, good food and lots of rest! 

Holidays are rough for some family and rougher for others. If so, I still hope you had an amazing day and that things will look up in the future.  Gifts are always easily replaceable with genuine and pure love. Money doesn’t buy happiness, I promise. 

And for some of you, I am so proud that you have made it this far. Please pull through to the next holiday. I love you and I’m here for you. It’s just another day and I’m proud of you for choosing to be here. And I hope you will continue to do so for the next day and the next day and the next and the next....until you are better. We will celebrate together you’re life and survival. That is my greatest wish and gift. 

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I hope the little pug on the side of my blog makes you smile because it makes me laugh. We should him him/her!  (I’m so lame I’m sorry) it’ll be our lil family dog. 

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It's always up to my mom to decide what i want, i don't even have a say in my own life. I've already graduated college and now she want me to go to Australia (lucky her, i got my visa) because she thinks that i'll have a better future there but i don't think that's what i want. Tbh, i still don't know what i want and i'm still trying to figure things out. I'm scared cause i don't know anyone there and it's my 1st time being on my own. I just want to decide on my own without any pressure.

Sorry I hope this reply isn’t late. 

I understand that you’re afraid of going against your mom but just remember that you’re at an age where you get to make your own decisions and it’s okay to move onto a new chapter in life. You’re allowed to write about how this chapter will go-not your mom anymore. I have a very close friend who’s mom dictated everything she did in life and she would have to obey. So after high school her mom wanted her to go straight to university but my friend wanted to take a gap year to figure out exactly what she wanted to know. Obviously her mom wasn’t happy with this and they two of them got into a huge argument that went on for months. Fast forward 2 years later, she’s working at a place she genuinely enjoys working at and didn’t waste thousands of dollars learning something she wasn’t even sure she wanted to get into. What I’m trying to get at here is that sometimes you have to make sacrifices. The journey of getting to where you’ll be will NEVER be an easy one, but it’s a possible one. And the end results will be extremely gratifying. And always remember that there’s a difference between making sacrifices and settling/being selfish. 

My love, first times are never easy. Whether it’s a first day at a new job, or a first day at a new school or the first day you’re living on your own. It’s a scary thing but we all need to conquer those “firsts” in order to not be afraid anymore right? And I know you can do it, you’ve been able to all along you just need to trust yourself and push through even if you’re unsure. And I will be here for you to help you and support you-because I believe in you. Remember that. 

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It’s getting colder here. To all my friends who live in areas that get a little chilly during the fall and winter time, please remember to stay warm and take good care of yourself. It’s flu season soon-actually some of my classmates are already sick.  So please please take care of yourself. And if you are stuck at home with the flu and have nothing to do, I’m always here.  Have a good one you guys, I’m still here. 

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Hi Ni. Anything that's got you happy lately? :)

Not really. Busy with work and school. How are you?

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Hey Ni. My closest friend is so distant to me lately and I feel like she just doesn't care about me anymore. We barely talk nowadays. What do I do? Should I approach her first or wait for her to come to me? Have you ever had the same experience? If so, what did you do?? Please help.

I have. I’ve had my fair share of those, we all will. The only thing you can do right now and tell her how you feel and see what happens during that conversation. If she just doesn’t care or isn’t trying, it’s time to go and find new people. Trust me, I know its hard but these things are bound to happen. Doesn’t mean you should be upset, it just means that there are better friends out there and you’ll be a better friend to that person too. In a few years from now, who knows if your friend will turn around and understand how she made you feel. It’s not fair that you’re the only one fighting for this friendship. If she is fighting for it, then it’s not worth it. But if she considers what you’re telling her and is willing to work things out, then stick around a for a bit more. Just remember to take care of yourself first and that you tried your hardest. There’s nothing wrong with you and you are not at fault for everything okay?

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Are you missing anybody lately?

Of course. I miss a lot of people. People who I’ve lost connection with and people who I’m starting to lose connection with. 

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I started graduate school and i feel like i'm the underdog of our class. Im so intimidated by my classmates and all of them are currently working while i'm the only one who's not. I can't fully understand our lessons because i have no work experience yet, just graduated from college. We're given an academic paper to accomplish and i can't even understand what it is. I'm really trying to grasp the lessons but it's not working out. I'm so frustrated and stressed. I just want things to work out. 😔

I can relate to you. It’s always going to feel like that in the beginning. Always! Always always alway. You’re the “new kid”, so obviously you’re going to feel intimidated and scared and you’re going to compare yourself to your classmates. But here’s the cool thing: You really don’t have to. And I know that sounds extremely cheesy but just bear with me here for a bit okay?I just started a new job 2 weeks ago and in the beginning I felt so scared and I didn’t want to talk to anyone and I felt anxious all the time. I was scared I was going to screw up big time and every time I made a mistake I wanted to disappear. All my coworkers knew each other and were better at what they did because they had experience and had been there longer than me. But eventually when I really thought about it, they were in the exact same spot that I’m recently getting comfortable with. They were new and felt uncomfortable just like me. So just keep pushing on and I promise you’ll be alright. Eventually someone will be the “underdog” too and you’ll have more experience than him/her. That’s the excitement of it in a way. The scary excitement. And you don’t have to go through it alone. There are so many people out there to help you and WANT you to do well. Stop comparing yourself and beating yourself up and you’ll find your way around the class. Hey, beginning are always scary but that’s just the way it is. But I’m positive that you’re going a good job and I believe in you. If you’re still too uncomfortable you can always come back here and I’ll be happy to talk to you and give you a little more reassurance. 

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Just a reminder

I really do genuinely care about you. And would love to get to know each of you personally-anon or not. (Preferably not anon heh).  You are important and you matter so much. As long as you are alive and breathing right now, you deserve to be loved. 

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I feel like everyone else is doing something great expect me. Just graduated from college, most of my friends and acquaintances are off to start a job or to an amazing graduate school but i'm still here stuck figuring out what to do with my life. I know i should not compare but i really feel like i'm being left behind while they're on their way to a good start after college.

It’s inevitable to compare yourself to others. You’d be lying if you said you didn’t and I completely understand how you feel. But trust me when I say that you’re not in this alone. I know many people who still don’t know what to want to do yet but they have a long time to really figure things out. And I also know many people who, to others may seem really old, but just figured things out and are happier than ever. Right now it may seem scary because you think that time is running out, but it really is just getting started-if you want it to. If you’re on pause right now, that’s fine. But if you’ve been on pause for a while now, time to pick yourself up. Take that “pause” to explore. Find things you love to do, meet new people who inspire you to do things and try new things and see what happens. I always say this to others and I often tell myself this when I get a little scared:The world is so big and I’ve been stuck in this city for basically all my life. I still have to much to see, so much to do and so many people to meet. It takes hard work yes, but that’s the great journey of well, life. This moment right now will be so insignificant and maybe a year from now, you’ll be living the life.Maybe a year from now, I’ll be really happy doing whatever it is I’m doing. Maybe a year from now I’ll still be working the same job I am now and be loving it because of people or new opportunities it offers. 

Also remember that to feel like you’re accomplishing something and doing something with your life is feeling happy and content with how you’re living and who you are, not by how many figures you’re making. You’re not being left behind, you’re just about to get started.

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Right now it says that I have 7 messages but I see 0 messages. I’m really sorry if your message is one of them, tumblr is really messed up.  I’m still here. 

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I'm always afraid to be happy because something bad might happen afterwards. I just want to be happy without that heavy anxiety.

I really suggest seeking professional help because they are trained to help people who do suffer from anxiety even if it may seem minor. the only thing i am able to provide you with is comfort that tomorrow will always be a better day and you deserve to be happy. you are a human being after all, what did you do to deserve living with grief all the time?of course there will always be doubt in our mind but you can’t go on being unsure and scared all the time right love? sometimes you just have to go for it and face your biggest fears to achieve greatness and i’ll be here for you every step of the way. because i KNOW you deserve to be happy. life will always be full of disappointments, but the moments of pure bliss will always outweigh all those disappointments if you choose to fight it with positivity. if something bad happens, stand back up and think about how things can only get better from now on. the bad thing already happen, so lets make the best out of it now.  it seems hard and its easier said than done, but its not impossible. i know you can do it and now you have to believe in yourself too. and i will be here to help you understand?