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What’s in it for me? A common question when presented with an opportunity. Here’s the issue. Gaining something isn’t the always the ideal outcome of an opportunity. Losing may be what you’re actually looking to experience. For example, I meditate every day to reinforce my capacity for equanimity. I also do it to shed any tendency to emotionally react to things. When I became a parent I learned to let go of many things to stop driving myself crazy with self doubt and criticism. I invite you to share things you had to let go of to be a more effective parent: ✔️ Knowing everything - our heads are loaded with opinions supercharged by emotion. When the emotion is stirred we vomit opinions all over our kids in the least effective way. Virtually guaranteeing we’ll be dismissed as irrational by our kids. ✔️ Drama - Worst case scenarios are useful for helping you to see how out of hand a worry driven imagination can become. But when used to try and instill fear, e.g. “If you stay on this path you’re gonna end up blah, blah, blah.” These scenarios can seem unrealistic to a young kid with no point of reference to help them appreciate what you’re talking about. What is a good teacher is natural consequences. ✔️ Rescuing - I set myself up for a huge fall when I believed I could protect my boys from pain and suffering. You simply can’t protect your child from the human condition or naive, short sighted, often impulsive decisions kids make. Your adult brain functions at a different level of emotional maturity (hopefully) and self discipline than your child. You’ve achieved that in part due to simple biology. Which means, your child’s brain isn’t as developed as yours so don’t make the mistake of thinking your child can simply grow up, so to speak. ✔️ Being the Hero - I used to want to impress my boys and everyone else for that matter. That was my ego and insecurities talking. Nowadays I want to model how much more fully you can experience life by just being human. By letting go of the fear of taking risks and replacing it with a yearning for discovery and growth. Show your kids how to learn and grow instead of demanding it. I think you’ll https://www.instagram.com/p/Bzbi59mgMv2/?igshid=1uxhf06usrb2z

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Greatness is not born from one success. Greatness is born from persevering through the countless failed attempts that preceded. - Simon Sinek https://www.instagram.com/p/Bza6g8dgomw/?igshid=3ktxsuslklef

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At what age do you finally know everything? Is it the same age that you’re able to predict the future? You know, convince yourself you know how life is going to unfold for others because you know it unfolded for you. As parents it’s easy to get stuck in your own narrative and mistakenly thrown it on everything like an artist throwing paint on a canvas. The hardest thing to learn is when not to paint or intervene. Just like not every tree is a bonsai tree that can be bent to your will. There are parts of the tree which must be allowed to grow according to an unseen process of self discovery. As with my earlier post, you can’t rush this process and it takes tremendous discipline to step back and allow your child to learn. You haven’t failed as a parent because you can’t control their every decision. You fail when you make your love and support of them conditional. Never threaten to take away love in order to secure obedience. Trust in your ability to help them move forward from their mistakes versus panicking over the fact they’re going to make them. https://www.instagram.com/p/BzZZ8Afg7Zz/?igshid=1vmijrwd41kys

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#morninglaugh #funnyquotes https://www.instagram.com/p/BzX5bzBg0Z6/?igshid=187vy4zros2ie

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Sometimes it’s all there in front of you. Here’s what I mean. I decided to challenge myself today. I would drive the 45min each way to the Dispensary in 92° weather (alone). I had the A/C cranked in the car but still felt the intensity of the sun and was feeling foggy. I spent time chatting with a member of the dispensary staff about my tattoos after she remarked about one. Each of my 4 tats represents the commitment to or the celebration of overcoming something. Next I went to spend time with my folks who live a short distance from the dispensary. We reflected on life and how many opportunities are wasted when you choose to hold on to the past. My mother shared how upsetting it is to her to know how sick I’ve become with my various ailments. I’ll try and remember exactly what I said but it’s essentially this, I could’ve died from cancer when I was 18, but I survived. In the 30 years since I’ve been married, have 3 sons, written 5 books and help people around the world on an almost daily basis. So when you think about me suffering I want you to know how grateful I am for the life I may not have had the chance to live. I’ll take it, bring it on, because it’s still life with plenty to enjoy and witness with the awe it deserves. Finally, I decided to head home as alerts of an impending thunderstorm began beeping on my phone. I drove cautiously, driving to avoid fallen branches and following detours around downed power lines. Then it hit me. From telling the story of my tats, To explaining my mindset to my folks and finally navigating around the objects blown into my path by a storm. It’s all about how you meet the things that end up in your path throughout life. Over, around it or through it, but don’t be stopped. Sure some days are harder than others. But I’ll take hard days over no more days any day of the week. https://www.instagram.com/p/BzWOBH5gzxg/?igshid=1pdx9td7ju1sh

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I’m at a point in my life where I experience scooter envy. At Walmart today we ended up talking to a gentleman who had a tricked out scooter called a Titan. Should be called a Gremlin cause you’re not allowed to get it wet. The more fascinating part of the discussion was his health condition. His heart ventricles no longer work so he has a pump that creates a continuous flow through his heart. Since his heart isn’t doing the pumping he has no blood pressure or pulse. Amazing the tech we have these days. https://www.instagram.com/p/BzUMUd-gxPP/?igshid=rotvnj23r7ra

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Instead of trying to be better than others you can help them. Imagine what you’ll learn then. #ipreview via @preview.app https://www.instagram.com/p/BzTrkDwAlLZ/?igshid=auakmzzq8yx8

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Together https://www.instagram.com/p/BzMcpNkgcQX/?igshid=1ie8tri2ozyzm

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Then I realized forgiving her wasn't enough. Until I forgave myself as well I couldn't truly let go. Giving yourself permission to have a better life beyond the hurtful events is an important decision only you can make. https://www.instagram.com/p/BzIk6OGAreA/?igshid=1tp66uo03qk55

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Perfectionism isn’t really about trying to be perfect. It’s more a desire to quiet your demanding inner critic. https://www.instagram.com/p/BzEdfnsg2AC/?igshid=1uuvn235magby

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Not all scars show ... https://www.instagram.com/p/BzCafD9AA5j/?igshid=9026f1vdi1c8

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Sorry Timmy https://www.instagram.com/p/BzAtL8FAMyN/?igshid=5nmo1hu5ozd1