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6yo ADHD child's father: did Mum give you a tablet [adhd medication] this morning?

Child: *sad head shaking*

Father: Do you want one today?

Child: *nodding so enthusiastically her whole body shakes*

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nobody say a fucking word about tumblr we can’t remind these billionaires we exist

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Stoned af and made the best tweet of my life.

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being paranoid and socially anxious in the sense that you're aware that deviation from the norm will likely get you punished or at least ostracised really is a winning combination because whenever i start worrying that i'm being followed or watched or threatened or posing a threat i don't want to say anything in case people think i am too weird and dangerous and should be monitored and potentially abused to keep them safe. so i just sit on the bus, Afraid.

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gaining followers pretty fast and that should not be happening i think. tumblr have some restraint. youre embarassing us

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Things that work in fiction but not real life

torture getting reliable information out of people

knocking someone out to harmlessly incapacitate them for like an hour

jumping into water from staggering heights and surviving the fall completely intact

calling the police to deescalate a situation

rafting your way off a desert island

correctly profiling total strangers based on vibes

effectively operating every computer by typing and nothing else

ripping an IV out of your arm without consequences

heterosexual cowboy

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Reminder that TERF rhetoric doesn't start with "we have a raging and irrational hatred for half the human population based on biochemical characteristics, just like literal fascists," it starts with more rational sounding statements that place you in the role of victimhood and gain your sympathy.

"Testosterone causes dominance and aggression."

"Not all men, but we can't tell which men so we must assume all men are predators."

"Even men you know could secretly be predators."

"We don't want men in women's restrooms."

"It's unfair for AMAB people to compete in women's sports, they have a physical advantage."

These are all relatively accepted points among central and even liberal circles of women. They sound like they are logically sound and only concerned with protecting women from harm.

Until...

Testosterone does not cause aggression. That's bioessentialism, which is bad science.

Fear mongering works to separate you and "others" into groups; us vs them, you're put on the defensive. Assumptions about gender essentialism are shown to widen the gap in so-called gender-based behaviors. Not only that, they actively increase hostility towards trans individuals.

Men are not slaves to their biochemistry or gender identities. Studies show that young boys given education on relationships and consent don't go on to be perpetrators of DV and sexual assault.

Additionally, intimate partner violence is reciprocal far more often than reported due to the fact that men are unlikely to report abuse. DV is not a problem of gender--it is a learned behavior.

Arguments about "men" in women's spaces is not about cis men--it is a dogwhistle for transphobia.

Trans feminine individuals on HRT experience a decrease in Hgb/HCT levels to equal that of cisgender women, as well as lose muscle mass, which steadily declines beyond 3 years on HRT. They also show no difference in V02 peak to cis women.

Additionally, there is no rationale behind using trans people as a whipping dog in discussions of gender.

"Almost half of all transgender people have been discriminated against in hiring or firing decisions and more than 40 percent have experienced workplace harassment because they are transgender." This is comparable to rates of sexism that cis women experience in the workplace.

Trans women were paid 60 cents for every $1 earned by the average American worker, compared to the 84 cents earned by cis women.

Trans people face significant barriers to accessing sexual, reproductive, and general healthcare.

Trans people face 4x the rate of violent crime as cis people (including cis women).

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“At my old job in public education, my office mate invented the concept of the 8 Weeks of Doom. This was defined as the period between New Year’s and Spring Break where it was dark and gray, there were few holidays, and everyone’s seasonal depression hit an all-time high. To combat the 8 Weeks of Doom, she started a tradition of making me a Doom Calendar, which is an advent calendar but for fighting the Doom. She’d include small fidgets, snacks, stickers, and fun tea, which I’d open whenever the Doom felt very high on a particular day. Eventually this turned into a standing tradition of us making each other Doom Calendars, and the concept spread to our whole department. We would eventually just start our department meetings checking in about how everyone was managing the Doom, and did anyone want to open a Doom Calendar door for a quick pick me up? Even though we’re not longer office mates, I still exchange a Doom Calendar with this friend every year anyway. It really does help with the Doom!”

— Ask a Manager

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Alexandre-François Desportes

(1661–1743), French.

Still Life with Cat (1705)

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when dogs are scary smart

over the last several months, we have been implementing a protocol to eliminate karybelle the sheltie’s barking surrounding her mealtimes. we have accomplished this by initially introducing an alternate activity during prep time (stuffed kong) and religiously giving her a time out gated in the yard if she stops that activity to bark, thus delaying her dinner until she’s quiet. this has been extremely successful; she’s gone from barking literally 100+ times during meal prep to barking 0 times, and only occasionally slips up. the behavior she has chosen to replace her meal-prep-screaming (after all, that energy has to go somewhere) is frantically - but silently - running circles around the coffee table to finally slam into a perfect down-stay as her bowl is set down.

this evening as the food was coming out, karybelle seamlessly slipped into her silent circling routine. except after a couple of reps, she abruptly changed course, yeeted herself out the dog door, barked once, and immediately jumped back in to resume her circling.

if that isn’t a demonstration of crystal clear understanding of criteria, i…don’t know what is lmao

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My plan to create a perfectly flat and level Kansas by moving 5,501 cubic miles of earth from west to east. It’s the ideal Kansas. Still some details to work out about rivers, roads, etc. Watch out for the 900-foot cliff bisecting Kansas City.

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