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This is what happens when white guys listen to Indian music

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Twitter deleted her thread. Reblog to save it. #Love it!

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sure, not all men, but a lot of men, and we have no way of knowing which ones

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Realizing it’s not romance that I hate but overdone straight relationships with zero chemistry built on a slew of misogynistic tropes was like a huge revelation for me

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sometimes you say or do bad things while you’re in an awful mental place. sometimes you say things that are rude or uncalled for or manipulative. and i’m not going to hold that against you. mental illness is hard, and no one is perfect. but once you’re through that episode, you need to take steps to make amends. you need to apologize.

“i couldn’t help it, i was having a bad episode” is a justification, not an apology.

“i’m so fucking sorry, i fucked up, i don’t deserve to live, i should stop talking to anyone ever, i should die” is a second breakdown and a guilt trip. it is not an apology.

when you apologize, the focus should be on the person you hurt. “i’m sorry. i did something that was hurtful to you. even if i was having a rough time, you didn’t deserve to hear that,” is a better apology. if it was a small thing, you can leave it at that.

if you caused significant distress to the other person, this is a good time to talk about how you can minimize damage in the future. and again, even if it is tempting to say you should self-isolate and/or die, that is not a helpful suggestion. it will result in the person you’re talking to trying to talk you out of doing that, which makes your guilt the focus of the conversation instead of their hurt.

you deserve friendship, and you deserve support. but a supportive friend is not an emotional punching bag, and mental illness does not absolve you of responsibility for your actions. what you say during a mental breakdown doesn’t define you. how you deal with the aftermath though, says a lot.

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Mental illness is global.

America has a very unique problem with guns, violence, and toxic white men.

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Butt Pregnancy (2005)

This sketch only aired live once before being replaced in reruns by the dress rehearsal sketch “I Love Pie”. No reason was really ever given as to why the sketch was replaced, but most likely network executives felt “uncomfortable” over the content of this sketch.

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오늘 정오 국회의사당 앞에서 트럼프의 방한 반대를 외치는 청년들의 기습시위가 있었습니다.

In front of the National Assembly of Korea today, South Korean students protested Donald Trump’s upcoming visit.

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I say this every time I argue for raising the minimum wage. I never hear anyone else say it and I’m glad I found this.

If you build your business and your bonus on the backs of others who you don’t pay a living wage you don’t deserve to be in business.

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Look at those numbers running. Money makes time. It used to be the other way around. Clock time accelerated the rise of capitalism. People stopped thinking about eternity. They began to concentrate on hours, measurable hours, man-hours, using labor more efficiently.

Don DeLillo, Cosmopolis (via quotespile)

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Feminist Resources

Audre Lorde’s The Master’s Tools Will Never Dismantle the Master’s House

Audre Lorde’s Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power

Aurora Levins Morales’s Radical Pleasure: Sex and the End of Victimhood 

bell hooks’ Cultural Criticism & Transformation

Chandra Talpade Mohanty’s Under Western Eyes: Feminist Scholarship and Colonial Discourses

Combahee River Collective Statement

Dorothy Allison’s A Question of Class

Judith Butler documentary

Leslie Feinberg’s We Are All Works in Progress

Paula Gunn Allen’s Who is Your Mother?: Red Roots of White Feminism

R.W. Connell’s The Social Organization of Masculinity

Sandra Lee Bartky’s Foucault, Femininity, and the Modernization of Patriarchal Power

Sandra Cisneros’s Guadalupe the Sex Goddess

Sojourner Truth’s Ain’t I a Woman? 

Susan Bordo’s The Body and the Reproduction of Femininity

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I don’t get it when people act tough, I don’t understand it. To me, when you act tough you’re just saying, “Hey! I’ve been though a lot of horrible stuff in my life. And I survived it, and now I’m ready to attack anybody, like a Pit Bull.” — I want a demeanor that says, “I’ve never been through anything at all, and I’m just a Pug, riding a decorative pillow. Where will I go today, who knows? But, I shall be carried.”