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Hi I've been seeing a lot of posts with this weird tone so here's your friendly reminder that the RACK (risk aware consensual kink) kink framework doesn't actually mean "practice the safest possible kink at all times". It means there is ALWAYS risk and you should be aware of what those risks are before engaging.

A basic example is that I keep seeing that post with the safe impact zone chart going around being talked about as though it's the only way to do RACK impact. This is not true. The information is good and important to have, yes, but "safe impact zones" still have their risks, and there will always be people who want to be hit in "unsafe" ways. The correct RACK approach would be to properly research the risks of the type of impact you're planning to do, and make sure that you're comfortable with that level of risk before engaging in the activity, AND that you know what aftercare should be given. THIS is what risk-aware means. It does not mean "under no circumstances should anyone ever hit you in the wrong spot". That's kind of the antitheses of RACK.

RACK is about knowing the risks and consenting. It's informed consent. It's about doing what you want to do as safely as is reasonable. There is risk inherent in every type of kink. RACK says go ahead, have your fun, but just know what you're getting into first.

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being dominant about consent

“you will tell me if something makes you uncomfortable.”

“can I touch you here, sweetheart?”

“would you like me to think for you for a bit, smart girl?”

“i will always take care of you. you can put your trust in me.”

“tell me your color, or i will stop.”

“tell me with words, or i will stop”

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being dominant about consent

“you will tell me if something makes you uncomfortable.”

“can I touch you here, sweetheart?”

“would you like me to think for you for a bit, smart girl?”

“i will always take care of you. you can put your trust in me.”

“tell me your color, or i will stop.”

“tell me with words, or i will stop”

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I won't make you beg.

I will ask you what you want.

I will neither deny nor accept your answer.

I will ask you again: what is it that you want?

I will neither deny nor accept your answer.

I will ask you a third time: what do you want me to do to you?

Once you have said it three times, I will grant your wish.

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there's no agony like being a sadist with no victim in reach

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Really is nothing better then shoving a girl up against a wall. The gasp of surprise, the short moment of confusion, the kiss as she's pinned while still standing, and if her knees buckle I'll be holding her up. Any wall can be your cage with my limbs as the bars

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ive said it before but it can never be said too much: to all sadists and doms and assorted pervs who fantasize about hurting or abusing or raping your subs, i love u sosososo much, and there's nothing wrong w/ wanting to be the aggressor or the more powerful one in a scene, and i am kissing you on the mouth and face. please continue writing very sexy posts about what you're into. mwah

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I think every trans woman should be absolutely full of herself, just egotistical and goddamned bloated with self-assuredness, and I strive to achieve a world in which this is the case

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we have to appreciate sadistic women more. masochism is empty without the knowledge that it's bringing another girl pleasure to inflict pain upon me. that's what makes it feel so much better, so much more humiliating. to grovel and groan and feel so weak and defeated and know that this image of pathetic failure is getting the woman who put you in that state off. to be totally at her mercy and allow her to delight in it, to have her command total authority over you and be as irresponsible with it as she likes. to give yourself up to her and know that she will absolutely abuse that power you've given her. god…

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Unnecessary sexual cruelty is so fucking hot. Pushing it in so deep that it hurts. Slapping you just a little harder then you expected. Choking you until you almost can't handle it. Denying your orgasm and keeping you on the edge even though you did everything I wanted. Pinching and slapping and grabbing you while I use you. Hurting you more than I have to just because I can, and because you can't do anything to stop me.

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kinda fascinating how much f/m femdom will intend to create a world or scenario wherein the woman is the one with power and control, but the actual language of the story or art or video still ultimately frames her as a depersonalized object that exists to serve mens' pleasure.

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I think… one of the biggest services a Dominant can give to their submissive… is a safe space to talk about the hard stuff.

A safe space to explore and work through triggers.

A safe space to express when something in the dynamic doesn’t feel right (so it can be fixed).

A safe space to expose the brain weasels (so they can be tamed).

If every time a submissive brings up something hard, the dominant snaps or shames them or reacts in a negative way… the submissive is going to stop bringing things up, and will suffer in silence until the relationship breaks.

Even if the dominant doesn’t like what was shared… even if it’s hard or doesn’t feel good to hear… that communication is necessary for the relationship. And it is hard for a lot of us subby people to have those conversations.

Positively reinforce your partner bringing up hard things. You can say “hey, this is really hard for me to hear. But I’m glad you could tell me.”

It’s not black and white, both things can be true.

And one of the _best_ things you can do for your sub, is to be their safe space, even when things are hard. Especially when things are hard.

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Sorry but you're going to have to submit to the mortifying ordeal of telling the domme what you want

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I need to make it hurt while I tell you that you deserve this for making me wait so long to do this to you.

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autistic girl violence autistic girl knife

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as a stupid and ridiculous fetish-haver you will never catch me talking shit on what other people are into like whatever im into some embarrassing goofy shit and you probably are too if you did some self examination. peace and love forever

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one of the hottest things someone can be is a handsy and compulsive sadist