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The more that I (trans dude) participate in "men's things" the funnier it is to me to realize so much of ostensible 'the way guys are' is shaped socioeconomically.

Men "care less about their appearance"? Men's clothing tends cheaper, sturdier, but also more boring and featureless. You have to work a lot harder to find interesting cuts or styles or vibrant colors. Shorter hair is far more forgiving to style- I can roll out of bed and examine myself in the mirror and think 'hey, that bedhead look is pretty solid and workable'. Cosmetics 'for men' tend packaged for bulk and convenience and seldom will tell you what their scents actually are so if you like smelling a certain way you have to work harder to think about it.

Even down to men's underwear has a much thicker waistband so it's more likely to show above your pants! I can dress the same way in the exact same pants with different underwear and one of them shows above the waistline and the other doesn't.

And sure we can argue the idea that this marketing exists because it's what men want (IMO, a bit naive considering how large and powerful corporations are / the very sorry state of the ostensible invisible hand) but then I can point to experience working at a daycare and tell you that every three year old boy wants ponytails and his nails painted and likes purple or pink, wants to be a princess, wants to wear costume skirts and dresses, because those things are exciting and pretty- and when those boys turn four or five and start to shy away from them, their response is not a refinement of taste nearly as often as it is one of anxiety and dread- that he has learned those things attract him unwanted attention or admonishment or scolding.

Boys are taught what is safe to want, what they 'should' want. And as a man who intends to enjoy being a man with exactly as much color and glitter as I please, the hollowness of the facade has never been more obvious. Nor more aggravating, considering how much genuine harm and misery comes from it. Manly dudes who really like being "conventionally masculine" aren't going to crumble into dust if walmart stops differentiating some shampoo brands as 'womanly' and some as 'manly'- and he might decide he really likes the way this fruity sparkle body wash makes him smell.

One of my still most-popular posts is about how gender of choice should be universal, and this is another chunk of it- social forces that, if we're being bluntly honest, are mostly after our money, have a vested interest in trying to tell us what to want. That men 'should' want this, and women 'should' want that, and the vast beautiful sphere of human experience is carved up haphazardly and each half flicked aside, here, this is for you, in casual ignorance that what we may literally need to survive wasn't in our allotted chunk. "Aberrant" men- men of color, disabled men, queer men- are forced to see this more and more dramatically, but it affects even the most normative socially accepted men. And this is men- the people who, in patriarchal, misogynist societies are getting ostensibly the better deal!

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you have to be able to defend people who are receiving unjust treatment even if they annoy you even if you personally find them extremely annoying you still have to be able to stand up and say "well thats fucked up"

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I think cis people should also be their gender of choice. Like, if you're a man, you should get to really enjoy being a man- have fun with it! If you're a woman, take the parts of womanhood that really deeply make you happy. If being a little androgynous or ambiguous or hidden is the part that really makes you happy, you don't have to be trans for that. If you wanna lean really hard into being femme or masc- do it! You have one life in your body, do what makes you happy. Ditch the stuff you don't like.

My sinister queer agenda is I think that everyone should be the gender they like in the way they like it.

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What the flock?! such smart names!

Science should let more cartoonists name things. That how we got the thagomizer and the Rube Goldberg machines. Anyways! SHERLOCK CROWMES!!!!!

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My mind went in SO many directions with this one….

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State of the world Rn = you not realizing the end of the world ain’t nigh anymore, it done gone and passed you faster than a German in an Audi on the autobahn. 😂😂😂

The Anti-Christ came and went, but no one noticed because he wasn’t worse than the current state of the world already is. The rapture followed, but no one went to Heaven, so we didn’t notice that either. We’ve been living in Hell for the last 5 years, and no one has noticed, yet.

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Err…ummm…confused as hell, but reblogging for reasons….

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I would so fall for whatever fae trap this is b/c those berries look yummy! 😋

William Mason Brown (1828-1898) "Raspberries in a Wooded Landscape" Oil on canvas Located in the Crystal Bridges Museum of American Art, Bentonville, Arkansas

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As of the evening of July 14, I have raised 296 dollars of my goal. I still need help to get my bank account out of the red and pay bills. I will be getting help turning my internet back on within a week thanks to family help but it's going to be a one time thing.

I would like to raise enough money so I can at least pay my upcoming internet and phone bills and the two loan payments that I have due. Priority right now is getting my bank account into the black and then raising enough money so I can pay my over due loan payment.

If you can donate please do so. If you are unable to donate, please reblog. The more my post gets reblogged, the more chances there are that it might get seen by the right people.

I know everyone is hurting a lot, but even small amounts can build up. Thank you.

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sorry if i'm gonna be quiet for a while. my country recently introduced laws that make it so that in order to use social media to the fullest (not being able to view ns/fw content and in a few cases, not even having access to dms), i HAVE to give the sites my id/face scan.

it goes into effect july 25th. it'll probably effect here too, since this place allows mature content (tho not full on ns/fw)

i'm very distressed about it bc i might end up not even being able to talk to my internet friends. i don't really have any irl ones

if i have to disappear on most socials by then, you know why.

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Some please reblog this after me, for me.

You’re not depressed. You just need $250,000 in your bank account.

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*Dead media (assassinated)

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Just doing all of these to save myself the trouble:

01: Do you have a good relationship with your parents? Yes

02: Who did you last say “I love you” to? My bestie

03: Do you regret anything? Not spending more time with my old people while I was younger

04: Are you insecure? Not anymore

05: What is your relationship status? Perpetually single

06: How do you want to die? Hopefully in my sleep, when I’m old af, mentally still fit and physically only a little less so

07: What did you last eat? Sushi, followed by three bites of a ham-and-cheese croissant, and Nutella on a spoon (it’s one of those days…)

08: Played any sports? In a team: handball, for kicks: football/soccer during school break with the guys

09: Do you bite your nails? No, never saw the appeal

10: When was your last physical fight? Probably some time when I was like 12-13 yo

11: Do you like someone? Ish

12: Have you ever stayed up 48 hours? No

13: Do you hate anyone at the moment? No

14: Do you miss someone? Yeah my dad. He passed over a decade ago

15: Have any pets? Sadly no

16: How exactly are you feeling at the moment? In that weird energy where I wanna do something but not sure what, so I just lie around instead.

17: Ever made out in the bathroom? Yes

18: Are you scared of spiders? Only the huge ones and anything that I can’t immediately identify as a common house spider

19: Would you go back in time if you were given the chance? Mmmm….would be cool to live through the 90s and early 2000s as a real adult again, yea

20: Where was the last place you snogged someone? In a bedroom

21: What are your plans for this weekend? None - and I’m loving it!

22: Do you want to have kids? How many? I always wanted 2. Don’t think I’ll be having any anymore tho.

23: Do you have piercings? How many? 2 - one in each earlobe 😁

24: What is/are/were your best subject(s)? Languages, especially Latin

25: Do you miss anyone from your past? Yes, my dad. See above

26: What are you craving right now? Adventure

27: Have you ever broken someone’s heart? Probably yes

28: Have you ever been cheated on? Not that I know

29: Have you made a boyfriend/girlfriend cry? I don’t think so

30: What’s irritating you right now? Having adult obligations - laundry, vacuuming, that crap

31: Does somebody love you? I hope so - I got tons of family and friends

32: What is your favourite color? Green and teal

33: Do you have trust issues? Hmmm….not sure. I used to. I don’t think I do anymore.

34: Who/what was your last dream about? A friend

35: Who was the last person you cried in front of? Not sure. Either a friend or my therapist

36: Do you give out second chances too easily? Ish. Usually not at all, but I have in the past and it wasn’t that easily

37: Is it easier to forgive or forget? Forgive. I never forget how someone made me feel

38: Is this year the best year of your life? Not sure, but it is pretty damn good so far

39: How old were you when you had your first kiss? 15

40: Have you ever walked outside completely naked? Almost. Was at a nudist camp, got stared at for wearing underwear (had my period)

51: Favourite food? Sushi

52: Do you believe everything happens for a reason? Yes

53: What is the last thing you did before you went to bed last night? Did some tarot

54: Is cheating ever okay? No

55: Are you mean? I can be. Gods help you if I you manage to bring that side of me out.

56: How many people have you fist fought? Oh quite a few as a kid

57: Do you believe in true love? Yes

58: Favourite weather? 25 degree C, but with a breeze, sunny, somewhere close to a coastline but with trees around me

59: Do you like the snow? Yes, if it’s real snow not just the mud often present in cities these days

60: Do you wanna get married? I think I still do

61: Is it cute when a boy/girl calls you baby? Babe is ok; baby not really

62: What makes you happy? Hugs, a good book, chocolate

63: Would you change your name? No

64: Would it be hard to kiss the last person you kissed? As in, do I want to again? No. It wasn’t a serious thing

65: Your best friend of the opposite sex likes you, what do you do? Finally marry the fucker. 😂😂😂

66: Do you have a friend of the opposite sex who you can act your complete self around? Yes.

67: Who was the last person of the opposite sex you talked to? Other than the random cashier at the store…two of my three closest guy friends

68: Who’s the last person you had a deep conversation with? Probably my closest guy friends mentioned above

69: Do you believe in soulmates? Yes, and they don’t have to be romantic

70: Is there anyone you would die for? Yes

70 horrible questions ... Fuck it

01: Do you have a good relationship with your parents? 02: Who did you last say “I love you” to? 03: Do you regret anything? 04: Are you insecure? 05: What is your relationship status? 06: How do you want to die? 07: What did you last eat? 08: Played any sports? 09: Do you bite your nails? 10: When was your last physical fight? 11: Do you like someone? 12: Have you ever stayed up 48 hours? 13: Do you hate anyone at the moment? 14: Do you miss someone? 15: Have any pets? 16: How exactly are you feeling at the moment? 17: Ever made out in the bathroom? 18: Are you scared of spiders? 19: Would you go back in time if you were given the chance? 20: Where was the last place you snogged someone? 21: What are your plans for this weekend? 22: Do you want to have kids? How many? 23: Do you have piercings? How many? 24: What is/are/were your best subject(s)? 25: Do you miss anyone from your past? 26: What are you craving right now? 27: Have you ever broken someone’s heart? 28: Have you ever been cheated on? 29: Have you made a boyfriend/girlfriend cry? 30: What’s irritating you right now? 31: Does somebody love you? 32: What is your favourite color? 33: Do you have trust issues? 34: Who/what was your last dream about? 35: Who was the last person you cried in front of? 36: Do you give out second chances too easily? 37: Is it easier to forgive or forget? 38: Is this year the best year of your life? 39: How old were you when you had your first kiss? 40: Have you ever walked outside completely naked? 51: Favourite food? 52: Do you believe everything happens for a reason? 53: What is the last thing you did before you went to bed last night? 54: Is cheating ever okay? 55: Are you mean? 56: How many people have you fist fought? 57: Do you believe in true love? 58: Favourite weather? 59: Do you like the snow? 60: Do you wanna get married? 61: Is it cute when a boy/girl calls you baby? 62: What makes you happy? 63: Would you change your name? 64: Would it be hard to kiss the last person you kissed? 65: Your best friend of the opposite sex likes you, what do you do? 66: Do you have a friend of the opposite sex who you can act your complete self around? 67: Who was the last person of the opposite sex you talked to? 68: Who’s the last person you had a deep conversation with? 69: Do you believe in soulmates? 70: Is there anyone you would die for?

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Genies can only grant wishes that are things that an ordinary person could do, just better and faster. The jinn are the creations of a divine being, and so they are part of the divine plan and cannot defy the natural order of things; a wish granted by a jinni can’t turn the day into night or the sea into yogurt, but if you wish for a temple to be built, a jinni will build it by hand, the way men do, and have it done in a day.

If you need a wish granted that defies the natural order you gotta catch a leprechaun, because no god was involved in their creation whatsoever. They just kinda showed up one day in the nineteenth century. The Aos Sí have no idea what their deal is