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things to fill your heart with

little flowers

mediterranean winds

coffee from foreign places

rain storms in italy

archaic languages

quiet pondwater

architecture and marble

grand cathedrals

bamboo forests

statues in the louvre

climbing fruit trees

parisian metro stations

tiny hummingbirds

thunderstorms

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things to fill your heart with

little flowers

mediterranean winds

coffee from foreign places

rain storms in italy

archaic languages

quiet pondwater

architecture and marble

grand cathedrals

bamboo forests

statues in the louvre

climbing fruit trees

parisian metro stations

tiny hummingbirds

thunderstorms

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ASTROLOGY: who are you attracted to?

Most people think attraction has to do with sun sign. Everyone’s heard: “If you’re an Aquarius, date a Gemini or a Libra!” This is due to the fact that mainstream astrology does not consider other factors besides your sun sign, and most people believe this. But actually, this is not true, because most of the time sun-sun compatibility has little importance - no more than giving a general vibe that the relationship would give off. Instead, we should really focus on connecting energies between two charts. Read my post here about how compatibility really works.

Here are some common connections that indicate attraction between two people. It says that they must be in the “same sign”, but note that if the two placements are conjunct the bond is even more powerful.

SUN/MOON - 1st person’s sun in the same sign as the 2nd person’s moon:

both people feel like they’ve found their other half

the moon person looks up to the sun person

the sun person helps the moon person shine

there is an ease with each other that is very natural

both people “make sense” to each other

both have a similar attitude towards life

SUN/ASCENDANT - 1st person’s sun in the same sign as the 2nd person’s ascendant:

the two people are very similar

there are many common interests

they both view life in a similar way

the sun person likes the energy that the ascendant person naturally gives off

the ascendant person feels like they can be themselves with the sun person

self-expression is easy and harmonious together

MOON/MOON - having the same moon sign: 

this is a powerful, soulmate-like relationship

both people feel a sense of security

the other person feels “familiar” somehow

sharing feelings is easy and natural

both are very sensitive to each other’s feelings and needs

there is an intense emotional bond, sometimes overwhelmingly powerful

one can read the other like a book

MOON/ASCENDANT - 1st person’s moon in the same sign as the 2nd person’s ascendant:

both people feel understood by each other

the moon person feels at ease expressing their feelings

the ascendant person feels understood by the moon person

there is a natural emotional connection

both are aware of and receptive to the other’s feelings

ASCENDANT/ASCENDANT - having the same ascendant sign:

both people feel very comfortable with each other

both people sense a similarity in the way that they project themselves to the world

both have many shared values and similar attitudes

both are attracted to the other’s self-expression

SUN/VENUS - 1st person’s sun in the same sign as the 2nd person’s venus: 

the sun person is the venus person’s “type”

the sun person feeds off of the venus person’s love

both people give and receive much affection

the venus person values everything the sun person represents

the sun person appreciates the venus person’s expression

MOON/VENUS - 1st person’s moon in the same sign as the 2nd person’s venus:

the venus person makes the moon person feel comfortable

both care a lot for each other

both share a lot of values when it comes to a relationship

ASCENDANT/VENUS - 1st person’s ascendant in the same sign as the 2nd person’s venus:

the ascendant person embodies what the venus person finds attractive

the ascendant person appreciates the love the venus person gives

both are sensitives to each other’s needs and want to please each other

VENUS/VENUS - having the same venus sign:

both people are magnetically drawn to each other

there is an appreciation for each other’s personal style/aesthetic

both sense a similarity in each other’s romantic expression

both naturally understand each other’s romantic needs and satisfy them

VENUS/MARS - 1st person’s venus in the same sign as the 2nd person’s mars:

there is a sense of romantic chemistry

the venus person is attracted to how the mars person asserts him/herself

the mars person is attracted to the venus person’s charm and style

These are not the only indicators of attraction (there are many more involving asteroids or other points), but they are the most common ones involving personal planets. And also, having any of these connections does not guarantee a relationship will work out - they just give an indication of a strong connection between two people. There are both good AND bad sides to each of these connections, but here I’m showing the more positive side (meaning the reasons WHY you would feel the attraction in the first place). Having too many of these could potentially make a relationship overwhelming, while having only one might not be enough to keep a relationship going. It’s all about balance. :)

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You've probably got a lot of questions rn but I'm gonna try my luck: how to introduce secondary characters? In my specific case: the friend group of the main character

Instead of going on a long tirade for this question, I decided to list a few tips that I’ve found helpful over the years and some things that are key when introducing secondary characters. I’ve also listed some helpful articles I’ve found from other blogs that elaborate more on this concept for your perusal. 

Here are my tips:

Instead of introducing them all at once, phase them in using scenes that have a lot of revealing action and/or dialogue. This prevents info-dumping and allows you to focus on the more distinguishing characteristics of minor players so that the reader establishes them in their index for your story. 

Only spend time truly integrating characters into the scenes if they impact the main character and move the story along. If it’s an old man they pass by once that is more of a metaphor than anything else, don’t spend a paragraph describing them. This will mislead the reader and mess up the flow of the scene. 

Don’t forget to introduce the implications that come with supporting characters as well. If your main character’s mother-in-law lives with them, you’ll need to begin to describe how this impacts the character’s day-to-day life on top of just describing the supporting character’s appearance and general personality traits. Supporting characters make a main character more three-dimensional, but only if you can convince the reader that they’re people too, and not just accessories. 

Introduce minor characters in a manner that corresponds with their importance to the story. By this, I mean don’t have a really minor character enter the story in a way that brings a lot of questions into the reader’s mind and then never mention them again, or worse, lead them to believe answers will come in future scenes with the character and then never deliver. If a character will only be in 2-3 scenes, give the reader as much information or room for future knowledge as needed. Don’t create intrigue and leave the audience hanging. 

Other articles that I found interesting/helpful on this topic:

How to Introduce Secondary Characters

How to Write Effective Supporting Characters

How to Introduce Supporting Characters: Examples From Good Authors

I hope this was helpful. Happy writing!

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Calming masterpost:

crisis/urgent support lines and sites

hotlines/crisis lines for depression, domestic abuse, alcohol and drug abuse, teens, pregnancy, lgbt and more

mental support community - a forum where you can post that you are in a crisis right now and need peer support as soon as possible

imalive crisis chat - online one-on-one chat for if you’re in at risk of hurting yourself etc

self harm alternatives

si urges alternatives

relaxation/anxiety relief

do nothing for two minutes

interactive silk art

guided relaxation

watch a dream

100,000 stars

thisissand - create sandscapes on your screen with your mouse

calming gif

the quiet place project

the quiet place - find some quiet

the thoughts room - a super calm page to unburden yourself from bad thoughts

the comfort spot - a place for anonymous venting with out anybody judging you for who you are

the dawn room - my personal favourite, especially good for when you feel alone

know that it will be okay - when a moment is too hard for you - come here.

music and sounds

my anxiety relief playlist - on 8tracks

my positivity/recovery playlist - on 8tracks

‘stay strong’ playlists - on 8tracks

coffee shop sounds

rain sounds

calmsound - nature sounds

rainycafe

comfort food

one minute cookie in a mug

brownie in a mug

several cookie recipes

25 hot chocolate recipes

loads and loads of snacks - 533 quick and easy recipes for a range of snacks on studentrecipe

lots of different in-a-mug recipes

chocolate pudding in a mug - my personal fave (lil tip: add mini marshmallows for extra gooey yumminess)

advice and tips

how to be okay with yourself

25 resolutions

life hacks

more life hacks

a hella ton more life hacks - so many life hacks dude soon ur gonna never have a day-to-day stress again

school masterpost - school sucks so bad but hopefully this can help ease the stress

how to love yourself

how to bypass restricted wifi omg

alleviate menstrual cramps

boost your confidence

love yourself!

self help after anxiety

stop biting your nails

stop procrastinating

stop skipping breakfast

videos and movies

cure to sadness (video)

the movie blog - a blog dedicated to movie masterposts you will never be without a movie to watch again

cute roulette - THE BEST PLACE ON THE INTERNET ITS LITERALLY JUST A HUGE ROULETTE OF VIDEOS OF CUTE ANIMALS WHAT MORE COULD YOU WANT FROM LIFE

random acts of kindness caught on film

disney movies

movies for angsty teens

distractions etc

rice questions - answer simple questions and donate free rice to people in poverty!!

click to give - just click a button to donate (it costs nothing) food to animals shelters, people in poverty and homeless veterans; mammograms to fight breast cancer; therapy for people on the autism spectrum; alzheimer’s and diabetes research; a book to a child; protect wildlife habitat

break something - good for anger

loads of cute games

how to make a blanket nest

learn something new - a masterpost of hobbies

exercise like a superhero

nice words

things to do when your sad

slap a bald guy with an eel - this is ridiculously entertaining

watch a dog lick your screen - it loops, so you could literally watch for hours if you want

calmingmanatee

daily puppy

how to make a comfort box

download free books

extras

emergency compliment!

lots of compliments - they even include ur name aw

huge list of bloggers who have put themselves forward as willing to listen/chat without judgement

getting anon hate?

:) tag - all the posts that i’ve tagged for making me happy

7cupsoftea - free, anonymous, confidential talks with trained listeners

get a hug

Calming songs, playlists and instrumentals:

Sing Me to Sleep

The Boulevard of Broken Dreams

Boost your Mood (peppier and happy songs)

The Driving Mixtape

Study

Summer Nights

It’s Going to be Fine

Calm & Collected

Once Upon a December - Piano (song)

Clair de Lune (song)

The Moon is a Harsh Mistress (song)

Calming/distracting Websites

The Quiet Place

Rainymood.com

Calm.com

Soundrown.com - calming sounds to mix and match

A website to distract yourself

A recovery masterpost

A post of interesting things

Ungruntle yourself

Press a magic button and fix everything

Play cute games

Almost every movie your little heart desires (i suggest you use with adblocker)

How to love yourself

A website that compliments you

Crafts and activities, easy and fun DYI projects

Glitter calm jars

A list of things to do to curb anxiety

Make a blanket nest

Silky summer legs

Lots of food recipes; mostly desserts  

For bad days masterpost

Make some microwave snacks

Five minute fudge

Make a phone case

A bunch of hobbies!

Self care list!

Pretty gold-dipped feathers (for decorating or anything)

What to do when:

You’ve been triggered

You’re having an anxiety attack

You’re having a panic attack

Your face is red and puffy after crying

You just had a fight

You hate yourself

You want to avoid being stressed

You want to get over your ex

Meditation and breathing

Guided Meditations

Do Nothing for 2 Minutes

Calm Down

Meditation Tips

90 second relaxation exercise

Simple things

Pretty Tree

When You Feel You Have Lost Everything

See Some BLOOD

Press a Button to Make Everything OK

Calming Manatee

Calming Gif

Make Something!

Jump into a Sofa Fort!

Make a Comfort Box

Glitter Jar Or This One

Other Nice Things

A Page To Help You Recover!!!

Coping Skills & Distractions

The Quiet Place. Shhhhh

For When You’re Upset

The Nicest Place on the Internet

Player 2

10 Most Relaxing Online Games

Talk To Someone That Will Listen

Not Having a Good Day?

How-to Love Yourself

Ground Yourself X X  X

Mood Chart

Do Nothing For Two Minutes

Rainymood

The Comfort Spot

Weave Silk

Seed Plant Breeder

This Is Sand

C.A.L.M

Calming/Relaxing Music:

Soft Piano: x, x, x, x, x

The Sound of Waves: x

The Sound of a Storm + Waves: x

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man tumblr loves to joke about how english lit analysis of symbolism is meaningless but like, when i took film class (from a filmmaker), my teacher told us,

there is no neutral or innocent choice in art

that is to say, as a writer or artist or filmmaker, you should be considering the meaning of everything you choose to include or exclude.  is there a water glass in the foreground of your shot? why?  you are creating a story from scratch, which means you are defining it by every choice you make, not just the major plot points.

especially in fiction writing or poetry, the author chose to write every single word.  nothing is there “on accident”.  if an author uses a color, they had to choose the color – and they had to choose to tell you the color at all, because they weren’t required to!  when i describe a color of something in my writing, i always think about the choice.  it’s never “just red”.

can analysis sometimes yield things the author didn’t intend? sure.  but (a) the point isn’t about trying to read the author’s mind, so who cares what they intended? and (b) sometimes the author actually does subconsciously weave symbolism into things.

i mean hell i had a fanfic commenter point out something that i hadn’t actually done intentionally and i was like, “wow, yes.  500% valid.”  if a reader can find resonance or symbolism in something, it’s not wrong or stupid or bad.

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Farewell online privacy

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Hehehehehe yeah fix the economy to "stop the gay"

Oh fuck yes Twitter is bringing back the 1970’s Maoist approach to gayness

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are you a philosopher

boy im dumb as shit

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do my dark circles and deteriorating health make me look hot

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I dont get it 🥺

"[S]ocialism is [...] c [...] a [...] t[...] girls"

- Karl Marx

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Anemic bitches RISE!!! But not too fast

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RIP to the opportunities we missed because of shyness and low self esteem.

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The fact the uncanny valley exists is terrifying. Being scared by things that look almost human but aren’t. Other animals do not have this. That means that at some point in our evolution, running away from things that looked almost human was advantageous enough to be imprinted on our genetics.

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“Good fiction’s job is to comfort the disturbed and disturb the comfortable.”

— David Foster Wallace