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being in a public restroom and hearing someone shitting really loud

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People Are Far Too Attached To Gender

I've seen so many parents mourn the "loss" of their child after they come out as trans. I've had friends start crying because they thought my transition would somehow change our relationship. I have family who despite being supportive have been grieving since I announced that I'm a man.

To be completley, bluntly honest, I don't understand any of it.

I don't understand why it's a struggle for friends and family as if they, too, are being forced to transition. Maybe that's callous. I supppse in a way everyone in our orbit does go through some form of transition with us.

But here's the thing; and I'm so grateful for the people in my life who see it the way I do:

There is no loss. I did not die, I'm not gone, I have always been this person. The only thing that's changing is the packaging I come in. At the core of who I am nothing has truly changed and I am only building myself the packaging that makes me the most comfortable and happy to live in. If I want my body to have x attribute instead of y, why is it so scary that I alter it?

Why does calling me by a different name put an ache in your chest? Why do you stumble over the word "he" instead of "she" and why do people act like these things come at a great cost when really, it's so simple?

I will admit to not being a parent but if I were I can't imagine being invested in the chromosomes my child was born with. They don't dictate one's personality or interests. I can't imagine caring what clothes my child chose to present themselves in. What body their soul travels in, as long as they're happy.

I guess what it boils down to is... Nothing really matters! Gender, presentation, it's all arbitrary! In the grand scheme of things there is no consequence to deciding you're not satisfied with the gender you were handed and saying, "Nope! It's not for me." It costs nothing for people to use the name and pronouns you've chosen for yourself.

It is not sad to change those things at any point in your life.

My parents still have a child.

My husband still has a spouse who loves him.

My friends still have a loyal companion who will laugh with them and validate their rants and answer late night phone calls.

I look different and I sound different but... the packaging I came in wasn't the reason anyone loved me to begin with. Changing my packaging because I love myself too and I deserve to be happy doesn't take me away from you.

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Listen up. There is literally an app that can help you avoid self harm and I don’t know why we aren’t talking about it.

Calm Harm can be tailored to your needs and will provide strategies to help you get past those crucial moments of wanting to harm.

It’s also totally FREE.

once again, it’s called CALM HARM

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what is the truth

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i was playing Animal Crossing w/ my Girlfriend a few days back and… let’s just say she’s still getting used to this game

i found 5 dead trees in her town

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If your family doesn’t accept your sexuality or gender identity, I am now your family and I love you.

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It’s all fun and gay until you get a crush on her

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Get yourself a girl who

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the gays win this years e3

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Theo James in WAR ON EVERYONE

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He surely doesn’t

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don’t feel guilty for not being able to handle everything, for needing a break. you need to look after yourself, too. self care is not selfish.