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Dear me,

You’re not the same as yesterday. You’re growing and changing every day. Embrace the change and please make sure you grow into someone better. Please make sure you make peace of everything in your life; the good and the bad; because they’ll all led you into this wiser version of you that is trying every day to be the best you can be.

-@lipikkawrites

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Advice to myself.

Stop settling for mediocrity and push yourself to be better. 

Achievement is not a matter of luck and you’re not entitled to success. If you want it, fight for it. 

Quit procrastinating. The more you delay, the less you achieve. 

Time is your most valuable resource. Don’t waste it.  Make every second count.

Quit living in your head. Take action in the real world. 

Stop seeking shortcuts. There are none. And stop waiting for a sign. This is it.

Stop being a passenger in your own life. If you don’t like your circumstances, change them.

You’re not a child anymore. Start acting like an adult.

No more excuses. Either do it or don’t, but stop lying to yourself.

Quit dreaming and start doing; massive action is the key to unlocking your potential.

If you’re not progressing, you’re regressing.

Break free from self-imposed limitations.

Stay hungry for growth and never settle for mediocrity.

Your potential is limitless; never doubt what you can achieve.

Develop a growth mindset instead of a fixed mindset.

Life is a marathon, not a sprint; steady progress is what truly matters.

Don’t wallow in self-pity.  Quit whining and start doing.

Quit living in denial and face reality.

Nobody cares about your excuses. 

Life’s not fair. Accept it, adapt, and overcome.

You’re not a victim of your circumstances; you have the power to change them. Stop blaming others. Your life is your responsibility. 

Quit living in chaos. Create order and discipline in your life.

Be your own best friend. Be your own hero. Nobody else will save you.

Identify your strengths and use them to your advantage.

Own up to your mistakes and learn from them. Face your weaknesses head-on and work on improving them.

Your emotions must not control you. Master them and move forward.

Identify and eliminate self-sabotaging behaviors.

Take charge of your destiny. Nobody else will.

Be relentless in your pursuit of excellence.

If you want change, be the change. Don’t wait for others.

Hardships build character. Embrace them. Face adversity head-on. You’ll come out stronger.

You can’t control everything. Control what you can.

You can’t change the past, but you can shape your future.

It’s not about what happens to you. It’s about how you respond.

Break the cycle of negative self-talk. Replace it with positive affirmations.

Seek out new challenges and experiences to expand your knowledge and skills. Stay curious and never stop learning.

Embrace the unknown, for it is the birthplace of creativity, innovation, and growth.

When faced with short-term setbacks, stay focused on your long-term vision.

Don’t be a quitter. See things through to the end.

Don’t ask for it to be easy. Ask for the strength to endure.

Learn to embrace failure as a valuable learning experience.

Dare to dream big, and let your imagination run wild with possibilities.

Your potential is limitless; never doubt what you can achieve. Confidence comes from within.

Your worth is innate. Embrace it.

Embrace your uniqueness and let it be the source of your strength.

Action is the antidote to fear. 

Don’t let fear dictate your decisions. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable.

Get out of your comfort zone. Growth happens outside of it.

Develop the discipline to follow through on your commitments.

Make self-reflection a regular practice. It’s essential for personal growth.

Be aware of your emotional triggers and develop strategies to manage them. 

Develop the ability to remain calm and composed in stressful situations.

Learn to express your emotions in a healthy and constructive manner. 

Enough with the drama. Focus on what really matters.

Stop obsessing over the opinions of others. Opinions aren’t reality. Live for values, not validation. Validation won’t complete you. Pursue passion, not praise.

Ignore haters, trust yourself and your instincts. Discern truth.

Surround yourself with people who challenge and inspire you.

Be open to constructive criticism. It’s essential for growth.

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A very special letter! ✨

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Know the difference between being patient or wasting your time

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hello! Are you comfortable with nsfw? I'd like to write the reaction about a character who was almost r*aped after a dinner date (by the person he/she went out on a date). So I'd like to ask you what could be the reaction of the victim (I mean once in a safe place, once at home)

{hi there love, of course! This one was quite hard to do since i have never experienced this, so i hope i approached this sensitively.}

{TW: mention of r*pe.}

please use with caution, readers discresion advised! thank you <3

Reaction of a character who was almost r*ped:

what they would say to others:

- 'no... i never thought they had those kind of intentions.' - 'please.. just don't touch me right now, please.' - 'i need to have a shower,' - 'i just want to be alone, please,' - 'its nothing against you, i've just had a long night...' - 'they touched me... they actually touched me...' - '...do i want to go to the police?...' - 'i never would have thought, i've known them for so long,' - 'just leave me alone, please.' - 'just go away!' - 'i dont want to be alone right now,' - 'dont leave me' - 'dont hurt me, please.' - 'what... of course im fine...'

how they would react:

- locking themselves in their bedroom - crying themselves to sleep - feeling numb for a while - not wanting to be touched - being paranoid over everyone - not wanting to go out with new people - if it was someone they trusted, they wouldn't know who to trust - they would keep to themselves - wouldn't tell people what happened - would feel like it was their fault though they did nothing wrong - wouldn't tell authorities of what happened/ nearly happened to them - if people thought something was wrong, they'd lie and say it was nothing - space out often - develop PTSD from the event - would never see the person the same anymore - the mention of their name scarred them - wouldn't go to social events - maybe write in a diary of the events in a way to vent - think they're becoming crazy - talking to themselves and reassuring themselves they're okay - washing, lots of washing their skin.

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When you mature you realize that relationships can work and actually be fixed in almost any situation. It just takes both of y’all wanting to make it work, putting in the effort and correcting what you’re doing that’s hurting your partner.

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Song lyrics as dialogues part 2

again, all of these are taylor swift lyrics :)

Part 1

"Please don't ever become a stranger whose laugh I could recognize anywhere."

"You keep his shirt, he keeps his word."

"And if my wishes came true, it would've been you."

"But I don't wanna dance if I'm not dancing with you."

"You're still all over me like a wine-stained dress I can't wear anymore."

"I'm fine with my spite and my tears, and my beers and my candles."

"You play stupid games, you win stupid prizes."

"I once believes love would be burning red. But it's golden."

"The monsters turned out to be just trees."

"The road not taken looks real good now."

"You held your pride like you should've held me."

"I'm still a believer but I don't know why."

"I can't say hello to you to risk another goodbye."

"The story of us looks a lot like a tragedy now."

"I lived in your chess game, but you changed the rules everyday."

"I'm not a princess, this ain't a fairy tale."

"You could write a book on how to ruin someone's perfect day."

"I should have slept with one eye open at night."

"Every smile you fake is so condescending."

"All love ever does is break and burn and end."

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Angst Prompts

none of these prompts are originally mine, i took these from different prompt lists

"Just please, don't leave me."

"When was the last time you said you loved me, and meant it?"

"Why does everyone always leave?

"I can't lose you again."

"It would be better if you stayed away from me."

"I'm a fool for believing you meant what you said."

"I trusted you."

"Don’t raise your fucking voice at me."

"Can't you listen for one second?"

"Can't you see how bad it is?"

"I don't think you're as okay as you say you are."

"I'm sorry i didn't tell you sooner."

"I love you, but you’re not mine."

"You don’t get to call me that."

"Don’t tell me to calm down!"

"I shouldn’t still be in love with you."

"Tell me. Do you still love me?"

"Leave me alone. That's what you're best at, anyway."

"It's okay. I understand."

"There's nothing you can do."

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Your journey is not the same as mine, and my journey, is not yours but if you meet me on a certain path, may we encourage each other.

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More Angst Prompts

"I thought you loved me." "I do." "Then why did you kiss him/her?"

"I'm just so tired of everything."

"We're more than just friends and you know it."

"So are we just gonna pretend that last night didn't happen?"

"I can't do this."

"What the hell is wrong with you?"

"How could you do this?"

"I don't love you."

"Don't tell me you're fine when you know you're not."

"I don't need you."

"Just leave."

"I can't even look at you."

"But you promised."

"You can't play with my feelings just because you're unsure about yours."

"Wow. You actually thought I cared about you?"

"You don't understand."

"Stop yelling!"

"You can't do everything you do just because you feel sorry for me."

"Just shut up!"

"You're making me feel fucking stupid. Like I'm actually crazy or something."

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Sad things you can do in a book other than killing of a character

Character death is sad, but it also has huge consequences on your plot that can’t be reversed. Not to mention, depending on your genre, character deaths are often reserved for later in the series as a way of telling the reader that things are getting serious. 

So, until that moment, here’s a quick list of things you can do to tug at your readers emotions: 

1.- Destruction of an item of value. For this to work you’re going to have to set this up early on, it could be a childhood toy they need to sleep at night, a necklace they swear gives them good luck, and old family trinket or any number of things. The important thing is you show just how important it is to the character, make them happy and excited just to talk about it. Later on your character will feel loss and so will the audience. 

2.- Arguing. Two characters with a strong bond arguing can be heartbreaking, even if you know the argument is going to resolve itself eventually, going from cuddles and banter to cold looks and the silent treatment, can easily hurt the audience just as much as the characters. 

3.- Betrayal. When well done, it’s worst than character death. When you as a reader fall head over heels in love with a character, only for them to betray the rest, it’s heartbreaking, especially if when you read back the foreshadowing was there. It was so obvious yet you were all so blind! As blind as the other characters. Also, unlike character death, they’re still there, there to taunt you with their mere existence. 

4.- Failure. We have probably all felt that emptiness, that feeling as the world crumbles around us, haplessness, when we failed an exam in school or just couldn’t get the house clean in time for that visit. Take that feeling and reflect it into your characters, it doesn’t have to be an exam, it can be anything, a task they’re parents asked them to do and they tried their best, a mission, anything. Just let them fail and feel the world crumble. 

5.- Being forced to stay behind. Following from point four, if a character is not good enough they can be left behind, perhaps it comes from a place of love, an attempt to protect them from enemies too strong, yet it still hurts. Perhaps they haven’t failed, perhaps they are left behind for another reason, because they are “too valuable”, or because they’ll be more useful back home. Either way, watching those close to you go of to fight for what you believe in, without you, can be painful. 

6.- Finding out something they believed in was a lie. It can be something relatively insignificant, an assumption they never bothered to question. Or something world shattering. Allow me to offer up an example with an unimportant spoiler from my second book (it’s not even out yet but oh well): in this book, while talking about some law, Henry realises his daughter believes he and her mother were married. This is an assumption Itazu made and never questioned. It affects nothing, nothing changes, yet finding out her mother and her father were not the happy married couple she’d always pictured, it’s painful. 

This could also be something huge, finding out you’re adopted for example. 

7.- History. Oh, history, how depressing it can be. And if you have a fantasy world you have many opportunities to go into this. From slaughters to slavery, finding out how society got to where it is, the base on which it is built. Well, it’s pretty depressing. Obviously be careful how much inspiration you take from real world history and always be respectful and do your research! 

8.- Scarring. An injury can be painful, it can be scary. And depending on what caused it, leave you with traumatising memories. Now add to that a physical visible reminder on your skin you can never remove. Well, that can be pretty horrible. Imagine the scar came from a battle the protagonist longs to forget, but can’t because every night before going to sleep they can’t help but glance at their arm where the nasty scars forever lies. 

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This another post I could probably do a part two on someday. Can you think of any books where any of these are done effectively? Do any of these happen in your owns book? Please tell me! I love hearing from you all. 

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“You don’t always need a plan. Sometimes you just need to breathe, trust, let go, and see what happens.”

— Mandy Hale