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transfem who needs an elaborate lore in order to get horny but she’s also a quickshot so she ends up cumming within the framing narrative.

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Okay. Is it an adult cartoon or is it a familyguylike

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Being like. Post-suicidal is so strange. Like hiiiii everybody im new I spent a good chunk of my life languishing and have like 3 or 4 lived experiences. But now I'm ready to fuck and party or whatever. Can we be friends. Im so happy to be here. Can we be friends

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identifying political ideologies by vague statements 2024 edition

• "both sides have gotten a bit extreme lately": conservative

• "i'm not really into politics": conservative

• "it's good to accept different opinions": conservative

• "i'm a conservative": 100% hitler

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saw this cute post and now I'm not going on reddit for the rest of the day. quit while you're ahead

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to like, explain my gripes about Genderfuck Rep and Femboy Characters to a transmasculine person, like. i want you to think about the movie Mulan. i want you to imagine if the story was not focused on Mulan herself, but that the protagonist was Li Shang. i want you to imagine that the scene where he discovers Mulan's AGAB, the focus was not on the danger and shame Mulan feels, but on Li Shang's anger and disgust, with the assumption that you too should be angered and disgusted by an AFAB person trying to pass as male. imagine watching it as a child- would you maybe feel unsafe? threatened?

now i want you to imagine if the primary cultural impact of that movie, and of Mulan's character, was 1. jokes about how gross and surprising and taboo it woupd be to find out someone you thought was a guy "was actually a woman", 2. people drawing Mulan as a Tomboy Girlfriend Sex Object, and 3. the best you get, which is people affirming that Mulan is 100% definitely a woman and she's like her because shes such a woman who wants to wear pants. (or even trans women talking about how she has to hide her womanhood)

and imagine if there was like, one of these characters in every animated kids movie between 1980 and 2010, half of anime, and not to mention scenes like this explicitly about transmasculine people in every crime drama and all over horror film.

and hell, even then i think Mulan's relationship to transmasculinity is looser than most of these characters who are lauded as GNC Icons to transfeminity. and i really cant convey the experience of how constant and everywhere it all is.

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Ultimately, I really do believe that the whole “don’t try to be your friends’ therapist” mindset has done more harm than good. I understand and agree with the original premise behind it—codependency bad, enmeshment bad—but it has morphed into something godawful that I can barely even stomach to look at. Why the fuck are we encouraging people to outsource critical mental health support and genuine, vulnerable human connection to authority figures who don’t necessarily give a fuck about us as people, with whom we have a tenuous client/employee relationship that is ripe for abuse and held together only by the exchange of money??? If I have advice for my friends or am capable of helping them with their problems in other ways then why the fuck would I not just. Do it. Why are we limiting the boundaries of actual fucking human relationships by expecting that no one will ever ask anything of us and we should never ask anything of them in return!!!! Do you people not see how fucking miserable and lonely that is!?!?!?! How can you people say that you truly care about your friends when you care more about holding them at arms’ length and “encouraging them to seek help on their own” rather than actually fucking helping them yourself when they ask it of you!?!?!?!?!?!

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this is where I live btw

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been repeating this in my head all day

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(voice of a girl who's already weird about it) can i be weird about this

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i wouldn’t necessarily describe myself as a doggirl but if a trans woman called me a puppy i really doubt i’d have the resolve to deny the label.

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i was going to do a rant about this before seeing this tweet but imma just leave this here

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Something really powerful I saw someone say in a discussion around harm, conflict, and justice was that it's not our job to recreate the criminal justice system specifically in determining what happened between people. If someone is accused of causing harm and agrees they caused harm and has taken steps to be a safer person, that's really all an org or community space can ask for if the people they are in direct conflict with are not present. I thought this was really powerful, specifically this idea of not determining what happened between people. It doesn't matter unless you're a person involved or a mediator in a process between them. The rest is just social ostracisation as punishment.

The reason that there's a famous "anti-cancel culture" pivot from people who get "cancelled" is that the social technology of ostracisation sucks complete shit. It's torture by everyone's definition, actually. It's a punishment everyone who ever receives it agrees should never be done to anyone, even their worst enemies. Nobody who talks about this is able to adequately explain to the people who think that they aren't the bad guy in anyone's story and have never done anything wrong, so people just roll their eyes and say "here's the why I left the left pivot again", but yknow, sie wissen dass nicht aber sie tun es

We are facing impossible odds and need more robust community organising, having seen it from both sides multiple times it is very obvious that the desire to push and push until someone who hurt you ceases to exist is deeply unhealthy as well as being bad for everyone's ability to organise. People waste time in orgs that could be spent helping people trying to figure out what to do with someone that someone else read a post about.

Imagine a left wing movement in which there is a clear path to people embracing change and moving forward and get involved in helping people. It would snowball, it would be unstoppable. If we have made utopian bubbles for ourselves and our friends to enjoy all having the same politics together and we refuse to let that bubble burst and shatter and recoalesce and shatter again we never change the world around us towards our politics. The way conflict is so frequently handled in queer and leftist spaces is just policing the borders of the bubble

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just a heads up that if you choose to air community conflicts between trans people in public and it concerns someone well known, a bunch of kiwifarms 4chan incels will sent suicide encouragement to both "sides" of the conflict pretending to be supportive of the other, and this is another good reason to deal with things in person offline

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problematic typing speed gap