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Hi Clea could I possibly get your email? I'm so sorry to hear how Chris DeMakes treated you. I also was sexually harassed/ assaulted by Chris DeMakes in 2016 as well! Would feel very empowering to speak to another victim/survivor/whatever xx

Hey I apologize for the late reply. Please email me at bewitched@linuxmail.org. I would love to chat with you about this. I only know of 2 other girls he has done things to.

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Dahvie Vanity and Ron Jeremy

I am beyond disgusted with these two men and their disgusting shitty behavior. Let’s start with Ron Jeremy.  When I first moved to LA and someone introduced me to him I didn’t really know anything about him other than hearing he used to do porn.  I’m nice to everyone so when I was introduced to him at a show and he asked for a photo with me I never really thought about it.  When we took the picture he reaches over and puts his hand down my shirt.  I was absolutely mortified and to this day have never shown the photo to anyone. I am so embarrassed.  I know I’m not the one who should feel like shit because I did nothing wrong.  Over the years friends of mine have told me he has done similar things to them like sneaking up behind them and putting his hand up their dresses, grabbing them and forcing his tongue down their throats, standing outside the women’s bathroom going “hey what’s up?” as they are coming out.  I’ve also witnessed him having underage girls sit in his lap which is beyond disgusting.  There are so many articles and complaints about him raping people and doing other vile things.  I’ve avoided him as best I could and I think he knows I don’t like him so he’s kept his distance for the most part. I was introduced to Dahvie Vanity (real name Jesus Torres) when his obnoxious band Blood On The Dance Floor toured with William Control and New Years Day. I immediately got really bad vibes from him.  He grabbed my hand to kiss it and it was followed by him licking my hand and being super creepy.  He was later banned from the venue for dropping his pants in and being inappropriate in front of a crowd that was mostly 12-16 years old.  So many people have spoken out about his disgusting behavior of bringing underage girls on the bus and taking advantage of them.  He’s physically assaulted friends of mine, made them cry and has made threats of violence and legal action for speaking out.  I believe Ash Costello and her merch guy 100% when they spoke out about his appalling behavior.  Ash would NEVER lie about something like this.  Dahvie makes empty legal threats and is a very manipulative person.  I know his young fans have him up on a pedestal and he claims to be anti-bullying and all about love but it’s all a farce.  All he cares about is being “famous” and getting rich off his “fans”.  He does not care who he hurts in the process which has been many people over the years.  

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Some words

Sorry I have been MIA lately. I still have more to share but first want to address a few things as I have been seeing hate coming from supporters of these men or men that think this is ok.  I stand with all the victims and we should stop shaming them for speaking out.  It’s not ok.  It’s never, ever ok to sexually assault, physically assault, sexually harass, or make women feel uncomfortable and scared.  How a woman is dressed does not mean she is asking for it.  We also should not slut shame women either. Just because she sleeps around does not give anyone permission to call them whores or to rape them.  Rape is NEVER ok in any situation.  Please respect one another and their boundaries.  And just because someone is somewhere hanging out or working and these things happen does not mean they are putting themselves in a situation that causes them to be harmed physically, sexually or mentally. Everyone deserves to be treated equally as a human being not a piece of meat.  Stop hiding behind your computers defending people who get off oh hurting others in one way or another.  It’s never ok!  Men are not better than women and women are not better than men.  We are all equal. If you disagree with anything I said or want to shame victims you can go fuck yourself.  Don’t be the next Ian Watkins, Brock Turner, Dahvie Vanity, Ron Jeremy, etc. 

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Best church sign of the week.

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I wish I had spoken up sooner about these men.

I made this blog because for many years I have remained silent on something because of how people treat victims of sexual assault and harassment. It is about time women are able to speak up but we are still in a time where the victim gets harassed and blamed.  I know none of this was my fault and if you have ever been in similar situations it is not your fault either. Thinking back now I wish I had said something sooner and I'm hoping that these people have not victimized other people.

Let us start with Chris DeMakes lead singer of the ska band Less Than Jake.   I started going to their shows after high school and they all seemed like really nice guys so I continued to go to their shows.  One time when everyone was drunk Chris touched my breasts when I was chatting with him outside which was super awkward.  I know now I should not have let that go and should not have continued attending their shows after this. Fast forward to 2011 where he started making comments towards me making me sound much older in front of everyone during their set.  Thought maybe he is just being stupid and let it go.  Later that summer at Warped Tour I attended the BBQ and a very intoxicated Chris comes up to me and says something along the lines of "I'm getting really desperate here, will you blow me?" and my response was of absolute shock.  I said "Excuse me?!" and he stumbled off but not before picking up a couple girls who did not look legal and bringing them on his bus.  Years later they would be on Warped Tour again and after one of the shows I had gone to the bar to meet some friends. After walking around the bar Chris spots me and makes his way over to me acting like we are really good friends and that he is excited to see me. I did not want to talk to him but I was trying to be nice about it.  I do not really remember most of the conversation although I did not say much and probably was not worth remembering.  He did make a comment about wanting to have "unprotected butt sex" with me which made me want to run away from him as fast as I could. Since the sexual harassment started I have tried to avoid him at all costs and have since sold all my Less Than Jake cds and other merchandise I got over the years.

Next we will move on to Dave Miller, former guitarist of Senses Fail.  From my understanding he had been thrown out of the band in 2004 or 2005 (I forget what year) for being inappropriate with women, cocaine use and general douchery (friends words, not mine or the bands).  My story started out with a girl who was 16 or 17 at the time giving out his cell phone number to me and several other girls at a show.  My friends and I texted him (nothing sexual), we just liked his band and probably hoping to be friends.  He found my MySpace page not long after this and started talking.  In 2004 I went to one of his shows and he text me to come hang out so I did.  He ended up locking me in the back lounge of the bus, dropping his pants and asking me to give him oral.  I refused and he kept begging. I left and just acted like everything was fine.  After he was kicked out he started to pursue me again. One day he decided to turn his webcam on and jerk off at work in the middle of the men's restroom.  It was pretty awkward and I laughed cause I did not know what to do.  I was really hoping his boss would walk in on him.  A few years later he was in town without his girlfriend and he was trying get me to meet at a hotel to do coke and watch porn.  I refused but he kept asking and was getting really aggressive about it.  I ended up blocking him on everything cause he would not leave me alone.  He is now married (to the same girl) and has a kid.  She probably does not know and it would not surprise me if he went after other girls after I blocked him.  Funny part is he now supposedly runs a sober living house when I do not doubt he still uses.  He was able to get nudes from the girl that gave me his number when she was only 15 years old.

Another one I need to talk about is Michael Money, former guitarist of Escape The Fate.  I do not even know how I met this guy, probably through mutual friends or something.  One night I was hanging out with him, a friend of mine and some other people who ended up disappearing.  Michael tried to force drinks down my throat which I refused to drink.  I just thought he was being a dumb drunk or something but after that stopped he actaully tried to force himself on me and would not let me leave.  He is a pretty big man and strong but because he was drunk I was able to fight him off. After he passed out about 10 minutes later I had left and never spoke to him again.  A red flag I should have picked up on prior to this was him sending me dick pictures for Christmas.  I did not ask for and did not appreciate seeing those.

And one that is not as bad as the above but probably worth mentioning since I have heard he has asked underage girls for nudes in Twitter direct messages is Ronnie Radke.  He somehow was able to get ahold of my number on more than one occasion.  First time he was texting me at 2am asking me to come over from a Nevada number.  I said no and asked who he was.  I blocked his number after he responded.  About a year later I had changed my number and once again I got a text asking for photos from an LA number.  I asked "who's this?' and when he responded I yet again blocked him.  I have never met this guy and found it super creepy that he was texting me asking for photos and for me to come over at 2am.

I hope with me speaking out this will help others speak up about what has happened to them.  It is horrible that men still think it is ok to sexually assualt or harass any women and when the women speak up they are blamed and shamed for something that is not their fault or asked for. -Clea