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Something you should always remember about every single person you see on this site is that they are a tumblr user. They are the kind of person who uses tumblr

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I think we should call out women's misogyny more often. My mom was the most misogynistic person I had ever encountered growing up. At herself, at other people. like she's better now, but woman left me some deep scars.

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Day 32

It's official, the goat did not burn in 2024.

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I put the :3 in 3:33 AM

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One of my favourite parts about autistic people is how you can use other peoples' reflections of them like an echolocation bullshit detector. Like they personally do not need to do shit for this to work, they just passively emit their own autistic vibe that bounces off every surface around them, and you can assess another person's level of self-awareness by how they reflect it back.

"Autistic people do not understand social hierarchy" nope, they understand you're supposed to be an authority here, but they won't politely pretend to respect you if they think you're incompetent.

"Autistic people do not understand humour" nope, they just don't politely pretend to laugh to humour you, and you are simply not funny.

"Autistic people are rude" nope, they just don't think it's polite to lie to you, and don't care about trying to tell you what they think you want to hear instead of telling you what they think.

"Autistic people sometimes have emotional meltdowns for absolutely no reason" nope, you're just insufferable to be around and the person with the lowest tolerance of your shit is simply the canary in the coal mine who breaks first.

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Thought crimes don't exist.

when i say im pro para i mean im pro de-stigmatizing paraphilic disorders because it's so so important to do this with any disorders so there's less fear and shame in getting help. telling people to off themselves for thoughts and urges they can't control does nothing but make them worse. it took me so long to accept that i have these disorders and even longer to try to get help due to the fact i was convinced i'd be arrested for thoughts. also using fiction to let out those feelings is good and healthy, don't let anyone tell you otherwise. you aren't a bad person for your paras

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they won't tell you this in therapy but sometimes the best way to stop catastrophizing/anxiety is to interrupt your spiraling with "girl what the hell are you talking about"

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i got a mod that lets me control the size of bees LOOK HOW TINY THEY ARE

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Periodic rent-lowering-gunshots:

Fiction is not reality.

You can enjoy things in fiction that would be awful in the real world. Like playing a murderhobo in a game! In the real world, being or supporting a murderer-thief would be pretty damn awful, while in the game it's just good fun. Same with anything else you choose to do with the pixels on the screen, like kinks that don't affect anyone real, so they're okay in fiction, but would be pretty damn bad in real life.

No one else is responsible for your online experience. They are required not to harass you, but they are not and never will be obligated to not post about ships, kinks, or tropes you dislike just to avoid you seeing them. It's up to you to blacklist words or phrases, block tags, or even block users as needed to avoid seeing content that upsets you.

No one can force you to read anything against your consent. Any content you don't like seeing can be instantly avoided by closing out of the offending post/fic.

You are not owed an online experience free of discomfort.

Nothing that happens in your imagination can ever make you a bad person. Words you write or read about fictional characters will never make you a bad person.

The claim that media consumption influences real-life behavior is intellectually dishonest and serves only to excuse the behavior of real offenders.

Fiction is a safe way to explore horrifying or confusing concepts. Therapists agree that fiction, even (or especially) about taboo topics is a good coping mechanism, especially, but not exclusively, for trauma survivors. Fiction is to adults what play therapy is to children. This doesn't stop being true if the work in question is of a sexual nature.

Sex isn't an inherently worse or better motivation than anything else. A work written to create feelings of arousal isn't dirty, shameful, or in any way less pure than works written to entertain, provoke moral questions, or for other reasons. And worth noting is that multiple purposes can exist in the same story, especially fanfiction.

You aren't entitled to an explanation for why someone reads, writes, or otherwise enjoys certain works, kinks, tropes, ships, etc.

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And then it's even more doomed this time

“let’s run away together” trope fucks me up bc it’s almost always doomed. but what if it’s not this time.

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my blåhaj arrived!!!!! and my thigh highs!!!! I'm over here giggling like a fool this is stupidly euphoric :33333

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U can watch Star Wars so many times and it doesn’t prepare u for how dumb Star Wars is. For one thing I think we gloss over how kenobi (who has definitely been at the club. Please.) describes the mos eisley cantina as the worst most villainous place ever and then u get inside and it’s a pack of muppets vaping

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There is no "incorrect" way to depict hypersexuality or SA! Let victims depict it however they want! It's their personal experience. If it doesn't accurately explain your experience, it's because everyone can experience the same thing differently.

We shouldn't have to type out "SA bad" in every art depicting it, you should be able to know that.

We shouldn't have to clarify "hypersexuality is actually not fun" for you to figure that out.

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