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Here’s your reminder that

It’s ok if your alters are similar

It’s ok if they don’t have noticeable accents or speech patterns

It’s ok if no one can identify when you switch

This is all a completely normal thing for some systems. You’re still valid <3

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Shout out to systems who share interests amongst alters! We see so many posts about how it’s okay to be different, but it’s also okay to be similar. :) You are your own, regardless of if you’re similar to another alter or not!

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Free Black History Library

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What a persecutor is: An alter that harms the system in one way or another. This may be to a specific alter, or to the entire system. This often stems from abuse and/or warped thinking they learned through years of an unhealthy environment.

What a persecutor does not have to be: Aggressive, angry, rude, or violent. Some do act this way, but it is not inherent. Persecutor and rude alter are not synonymous. Keep in mind that while it is very possible for them to act this way, a lot of this can come from being pushed away, insulted, or not listened to, or it may be an unhealthy coping mechanism.

What a persecutor is not: Evil, a parasite, a menace, something to repress, something to try to “lock up” or “get rid of”, the “dark side” of a system, someone who does not deserve to recover, or a lost cause.

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Information Sorter Directory

Welcome. This blog will contain links to official mental health resources, and to non-professional mental health resources. Anything which does not have a source linked to it, is my own personal experience/opinion. It is of utmost importance that you work with a mental health professional on these matters. - Important Information about this tumblr blog.

-  Links and resources.  - What is the one best resource I can offer you?

- Answers to FAQS.  - What are DID, OSDD1a, and OSDD1b? - What’s the difference between DID and OSDD? - What is the treatment for DID/OSDD? - How is DID/OSDD therapy different from trauma therapy? - What are comorbid disorders? - Integration VS Fusion - a definition. - End goals of therapy. - Functional Multiplicity as an end goal. - Final Fusion.

- How can I find a therapist? - Online therapy. - What to expect in therapy and how to act. - What if I can’t find a therapist? - What can I do without a therapist? - My therapist is forcing me towards fusion.

- How do I explain DID/OSDD to a little alter? - I have a distressed little/young alter.

- What is art therapy? - What is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy? - What is 3 stage work/ 3 phase therapy? - Meditation and mindfulness. - Grounding/Anchoring. - Learning & practicing life skills. - Relearning who you are. - Self care. - What is Inner-Child work?

Emotionally driven posts: - Am I being selfish by concentrating on myself? - I’m too scared to try new things. - I feel like it was my fault. Personal advice with little/no evidence or citations: - How do I deal with severe swings in mood/personality? - How do you live someone else’s life right after self-realization? - The spider bag. AKA How I fight fears with logic. ************************************************************* - What is the one best resource I can offer you?

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things i wish someone told me when i was first discussing having OSDD/DID:

you don’t need to have an inner world. Some systems (like myself) have aphantasia and can’t see things in their head. This means headspaces are impossible. You don’t need a headspace to be a system

it’s okay to be unaware of any tr***a. Sometimes that’s necessary and it’s okay. Overtime the information will be shared with you if the rest of the system thinks you can handle it

it’s okay to have only two alters (yourself and one other) in your system, especially at first! Sometimes alters don’t want to show themselves just yet. Also some systems need more alters than others and the number you have is what’s write for your system!

it is normal to be TERRIFIED of the idea that you’re faking. I know you’ll read this and say “but i’m still scared” but i’m being completely honest when i say that if you’re scared you’re faking, you’re not. If you’re questioning if you’re faking, you’re not. A person always KNOWS when their faking

not being able to tell alters apart is okay. Especially at first. Just do your best to learn about each one individually and don’t force them to be one way. Let them be themselves

wanting to keep your system a secret is okay. Wanting to share it with everyone is okay. Just make sure you’re being safe and everyone in your system is okay with your decision

you are valid. If you believe you are a system, try your best to talk to a therapist. If you can’t afford one, do as much research as possible. It’s okay to be undiagnosed, as long as you’re not spreading false information. ~clover

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Need to be mindful for our feathered friends!

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Everyone go home Greta wins

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pls include systems in your activism. systems deserve just as much respect as anyone else with a mental illness and trauma deserves. we r not dangerous and quite frankly i’m almost more scared of non-systems spreading wrong information and threatening to hurt systems than i feel u guys are of us. im tired of it and i’m tired of not feeling safe in communities that r meant to be helpful to people with mental illnesses

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goood morning

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DID be like

[old person name], [drowned Victorian child], [adjective], [animal], [twins with more old person names], [edgy demon name], and Steve

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Spread some love

from system to system ❤️❤️❤️

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Reblog if your page is a safe space for anyone of any nationality and ethnicity.

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another incorrect quote by @incorrectbungoustraydogs !! tried some new stuff this time and im really happy with how it turned out!!