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Roots of Shyness and How to Get Yourself Out There

Sometimes we tend to get shy when speaking to other people, who are not so close to us or we are not used to speaking with them. Do you ever feel that moment when sometimes you want to get close with a certain person but you are too shy or you don’t have the guts to speak to them? Have you ever felt like you’re just waiting for that new person to talk to you so you could respond to him/her even though you want too, so you could not be out of place?  Do you feel sometimes that you are being left out because you can’t move with the flow of conversation? Do you feel that if you speak and get the wrong words out of you they might not like you anymore? Which in result, you just listen to your friend’s conversation with that person and choose to be quiet and listen instead. BUT have you ever think that maybe you are not shy you are just lost sometimes still, l if you ever feel that way here are some tips to overcome them.:

 1. Accept your shyness- Do you sometimes hate yourself for being that kind of person? If you do, then that is wrong. How could people accept you if you can’t accept yourself? This can help you know things that are preventing you from not socializing and also will help you to find solutions.

 2. Know the source of your shyness – ask yourself why you are being shy. Think about it carefully. Is the reason that good to prevent you from speaking to a new person or are you just anti-social? Do you have a weak self image?  After knowing it, you should practice and find yourself.

3.Think before you speak- maybe apart from being out of place is that you’re afraid that if you speak something they might not get you or you feel that it might be an embarrassment to tell. If this is what worries you then you should think first. Think if what you’re going to say has sense. However, sometimes conversation among friends is just for the fun of it so why are you trying so hard? Just go with the flow and speak to them.

4. Stop comparing yourselves to others- If your reason of being shy is because you’re different, then that’s one heck of an unacceptable reason, always remember that each of us has their own personality, we all have unique features among ourselves physically, mentally and emotionally. Do not bother to think that you got to be like her or him for you to be liked by others. Move because you want to move. Love things because you really love them.

5. Start another conversation- For example they are talking about something you can’t relate on then you find yourself being left out, in this situations you have to think of a conversation that everyone can relate on so that no one could feel out of place and everyone can share their thoughts on a certain topic. Remember in this tip that even if they are the first one to left you out on some conversation it doesn’t mean that you have to do that to them to.

6. Be confident and approachable- Sometimes you feel that people don’t like you. Maybe you are thinking wrong. Maybe it is because people find you snob or unapproachable for some fact that you always hide your face on your hair, not looking straight at them; you always look at the floor for some reason and you tend to always hide your smile. I am not saying that you should defy tip number 4 but how could people know the real you if you are hiding? Just be confident about yourself but not too confident you can’t pull away your head on the sky like they say “keep your head in the stars but your feet on the ground”.

8. Don’t get caught on labels- Just because they’re popular and you’re not doesn’t mean that you don’t have the rights to speak for yourself. Remember that they also make mistake the way you make mistake too. No one is perfect.

7. Eliminate Fear of Rejection- You got to put yourself out there, Speak what’s on your mind. Do you sometimes feel like you want to answer or cut in a middle of a conversation but you’re afraid to be judged? Don’t! We have different perspectives in life. You are just basically sharing your ideas. There’s nothing wrong with that.  Say what you need to say.

 There’s no harm done being shy but sometimes you just need to get out of it because people might take you for granted . Remember you are not getting out of shyness because of others. Do it for the sake of yourself. You might regret it. If you don’t, there’s a possibility that everything can change.

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