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normal vs disordered: fatigue edition

normal: feeling tired at the end of a long day

not normal: feeling tired regardless of what you’ve done that day

normal: waking up tired every now and then due to stress or lack of sleep

not normal: waking up tired most mornings

normal: getting a little tired after standing for long periods of time

not normal: not being able to stand for very long without tiring out. being stood up drains your energy

normal: being tired more often during times of peak stress and lack of sleep, but otherwise fine

not normal: being tired/exhausted consistently for over 6 months

normal: melting into the sofa after a long day, and then struggling a little to get up

not normal: being too exhausted to move, to eat, to talk, or to do anything a person might be expected to do in an evening

normal: not liking to get out of bed in the morning

not normal: having mornings where you physically cannot get out of bed, or struggle greatly to get out of bed

the key thing is that it is not normal for you to spend most of your time being too tired to do daily tasks, and it is not normal to exist in a constant state of exhaustion. if possible, you should seek help if you’ve been experiencing fatigue for a while

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ADHD tips from a girlie who was diagnosed in her late twenties and has had little to no support since and is being so brave about it:

1) Make it easy, make it accessible, and make it appealing. If anything this is the most important thing, all tips going forward are based around this concept.

2) That thing you think would help you but you haven’t bought/done it yet because you’re technically surviving without it? Buy it, you need it. It doesn’t matter if people around you might think it’s wasteful or that you’re lazy, you’re not, just do it, trust me.

3) Expanding on tip #2, if you’re like me and eggs are your main source of protein because they’re quick and easy and feeding yourself is a near insurmountable task- buy yourself an electric egg cooker, make a bunch of hard boiled eggs and keep them in your fridge for quick and easy protein to add to any meal (handful of crackers, a hard boiled egg and a banana? 5 star meal right there. Or mash them up with some mayo for egg salad sandwiches). Other easy proteins include: potstickers (put them in instant ramen), edamame (they have microwaveable snack packs), chickpeas (put in salads!), beans (can of beans microwaved with shredded cheese and some tortilla chips), peanut butter (with crackers, apple and cheese, adult lunchable style), and tofu (cut into cubes, throw them into a ziplock with some seasoning and potato starch, shake that shit up and bake it until crispy).

4) Spend a little extra (if you are able) on daily use items that excite you, it will make you more likely to remember/want to do said daily task. For example: the only reason I remember to use sunscreen is because I bought some fancy japanese sunscreen that smells like roses so I get excited to use it, same for laundry detergent and body wash! there’s a gajillion different body wash scents out there, switch it up!

5) If there’s a task you continuously struggle with take a moment to think about which part of the task is making it difficult, it could be something even as small as “I don’t put my dirty clothes in the hamper because my hamper has a lid on it and lifting the lid is one step too many-”, sounds a little stupid huh? But trust your gut, it’s not stupid if it works. See tip #2 and BUY A HAMPER WITHOUT A LID.

6) If you are having trouble starting a task, break the task down further, sometimes the way I start a task is just by going “Ok step 1) stand up-“ and so forth. Don’t worry about the task as a whole just take it one step at a time.

7) If you’re halfway through a task and have to stop, leave it out. All this, “Put things away when you’re done with them.” is bullshit. you will be much more likely to finish the task if restarting it is easier because you left it out plus it’s a visual reminder. You can also create faux deadlines like “I gotta finish this project before my friend comes over on tuesday because after I finish it I can clean off the dinner table.” etc.

8) It’s okay to outsource tasks and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise, humans are designed to ask for, and to require help (what do babies do when they’re first born?? cry for help!!) ask for help and receive help without shame, if it makes your life better, you are WINNING.

9) If you have one big overwhelming task that you think you need to get done before anything else, but you feel motivated to do other tasks, do those other tasks first, it’s okay. Otherwise in all likelihood (at least in my case) you’ll put everything off until the last minute and then have to do said overwhelming task and those other tasks won’t get done at all. Doing those smaller tasks also lowers the mental load and you can use them as a motivation launch pad to tackle bigger things.

10) If you notice you tend to not put something away/forget to do something, perhaps consider moving and storing the item closer to where it ultimately ends up or where you are more likely to see it. For example, my makeup, pills, and mail are all stored on my desk because that’s where I tend to do my makeup, take my pills and deal with my mail. I used to store my pills in my bathroom medicine cabinet but all too often I would forget because they weren’t in my line of sight. Now that they’re on my desk, I have multiple chances per day to pass by them, go “oh I gotta take those.” and take them.

11) Open storage, open storage, OPEN STORAGE.

12) Motivation can look like all kinds of things. sometimes the only reason I get out of bed is because I remember I have a fun snack and I get to go eat it if I get up. It’s okay to lean into those simple “animal-brain” type motivators, you’ll eat because then you can use that fun new kitchen gadget you got a daiso? Neat. you’ll shower because then you can paint your nails that fun new color you got? Fantastic. You’ll go to the dmv and do that annoying thing because you’ll take yourself out for boba after? Superb. Lean-IN to those small motivators, they aren’t stupid or childish, they are VITAL.

13) Don’t buy into the cult of “if it’s worth doing, do it properly” it’s guaranteed to set you up for failure. If it’s worth doing, do it in whatever capacity you are able to. I put sunscreen on once a day because that’s fucking better than not doing it at all and I sure as all hell will fail at reapplying it multiple times a day. If it’s worth doing, do it half-assed babieeee.

Go forth and prosper!!! xoxo ✌️🩵

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*takes your face gently in my hands and looks sincerely into your eyes* listen. your home does not need to look like a showroom. homes are meant to be lived in, and that means a certain amount of mess. it's okay if there is clutter on your desk or if you don't remember the last time you cleaned your oven. mess is morally neutral. but at the same time, you deserve to live in an environment that is safe and comfortable, and that means someone has to clean sometimes. things like mold, spoiled food, and dirty litter boxes are genuine health hazards and need to be dealt with before they make someone sick. think of cleaning less as "my home needs to be completely spotless" and more as "I am an animal and I need a habitat that is free of hazardous material." it's okay. *kisses you on the forehead and tucks you into a blanket*

(and of course it is always acceptable and even good for you to ask someone else to help you with cleaning if it's physically or mentally difficult for you. even if you're paying them to do it.)

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My ADHD: I cannot clean it feels like putting my hand on a hot stove

My autism: Things aren't in order I feel like I'm going to explode I have to clean there has to be order

My ADHD: I feel like going to explode because I physically cannot clean my brain won't let me

Me: Guess we just feel horrible then

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“I’m not going to do the thing because I don’t view it as important.” ← Conscious decision made of your own free will.

“I want to do the thing because I view it as important, but trying to get myself to do the thing creates the same reaction as trying to put my hand on a hot stove would.” ← Executive dysfunction, a physical health problem that doesn’t answer to your own free will.

“Trying to get myself to do the thing creates the same reaction as trying to put my hand on a hot stove would. This must mean I don’t actually want to do the thing and I’m just tricking myself into thinking I do.” ← No, that’s still executive dysfunction, but you’re having brainworms about it.

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Apparently this needs to be said so

Forgetting things is morally neutral! Memory issues are morally neutral!

You're not a bad person if you...

forget things quickly

forget people

can't remember entire stages of your life

can't remember important things

can remember some things very well and forget other things all the time

can't remember things (or anything!) about your interests

forget to eat, sleep, go to the bathroom, etc

forget to reply to texts

remember things and immediately forget them again

can't remember birthdays, events, etc

frequently answer 'I forgot' to questions

can't retain new information

forget things you used to know

only remember things when it's too late

have vague, distorted and/or unreliable memories

depend on others to know how an event you were in played out

have other symptoms that are worsened by memory issues and vice versa

... and anything else I might have missed!

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this is your gentle reminder to stop fighting against your adhd and instead structure your life around it

buy a pack of chapsticks and put one in the pocket of all of your coats and jackets because you always forget to bring one and chapped lips is sensory hell

leave important things where you can see them. if they go in a box or a drawer you will forget they exist

put any appointments or deadlines in your phone calendar As Soon As you get them. set a reminder for a week before, a day before, an hour before, as many as you need as often as you need them.

when that little voice in your head says "i dont need to write that down, ill remember it" that is the devil talking!!! write it down anyway!!

plan for down time. have a few hours at the end of every day to just do fun stuff like engage in your hyperfixations. even if you didnt get all of your work done that day, have the rest anyway. you probably spent the whole day beating yourself up for not doing what you Should be doing, so you still need the break.

if you never eat vegetables because its too much effort to chop and cook them, get the frozen or canned shit. it doesnt go off for ages and you just have to microwave it. theres no point buying fresh vegetables if they just keep going off and being left to rot in the bottom of your fridge

if you struggle to decide what to have for dinner every day, take the decision out of it. choose a set of meals and eat those on rotation until you get sick of them, then choose some new ones and do it again.

its not stupid if it works! our brains literally have a chemical deficiency. you are allowed to accommodate yourself. go forth and stop making your life more difficult than it has to be because "this shouldn't be this hard". it is hard, so make it easier.

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fallcollector / autumncollector - someone who collects fall/autumn related genders.

[image ID: a rectangular flag with 9 horizontal stripes. the colours, from top to bottom, are: almost-black dark red, dark red-brown, brown, medium gold-brown, gold-orange, medium gold-brown, brown, dark red-brown, almost-black dark red. in the center of the flag is a gold circle with 3 maple leaves in the circle. the maple leaves are the colours: muted medium red, muted medium green, muted orange. end ID.]

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This is directly copypasted, term is coined by the Rainbow Roll System! I'm just helping to send it here ^^

i propose a new headmate role/label/term

pronoun collector/pronoun holder

literally the person in sys with the most pronouns

and usually the type of person who sees almost every set of pronouns and goes "hehe mine"

you could also say pronoun thief honestly

Thank you for sharing the term anon!

And thank you for coining it Rainbow Roll System, I'm sure there are many who will find it useful!

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day 13 of @noxwithoutstars 's coining event

corvids

《 magshinic 》

[(mag)pie + (shin)y ]

✮⋙ gender related to loving shiny things, magpies, collecting stuff, and having wings. may be related to an ever-increasing gender hoard.

indigo says :

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reminders :

- drink water !

- eat enough food today !

- take any meds you need !

- you are super super cool !

- ily so much /p !!!!!!!!!

thanks for reading !! ⍢

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XEOID / VOID COLLECTOR : A term for those who collect xenogenders related to concepts the user likes / connects to on some level to fill the void in ones identity .

Tags —— @rwuffles @floraeth

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HEAVENHOARDER !! ~✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ:

Heavenhoarder! ~✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ:･✧~ " a subcategory of genderhoarder related to hoarding heavenly, divine, or otherwise angelic or holy xenogenders! " (coined by me! srry if thiz haz been done already, i'm new to thiz community!!)

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🌼sylnotteic!🌼

sylnotteic-

a genderhoarder term for night related genders; someone who mostly or exclusively hoards/collects/identifies with genders related to nighttime/night sky/stars/galaxies/planets/etc.

[Image ID: A flag with two columns of nine equally-sized horizontal stripes separated by a deep purple vertical stripe. From top to bottom on the left column the colors are deep purple, yellow, lime yellow, green, teal, mid blue, navy blue, black, and deep purple. The colors in the right column are the same but in a reversed order. End ID.]

term and flag by me, requested by anon, and inspired by the critter system terms by @pupyzu​ 

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Aeldritchlector

Aeldritchlector is when you collect a lot of genders related to eldritch beings, being eldritch/ an eldritch being etc. to understand yourself better and try to fill the lack of gender that you also feel, sometimes getting instantly interrupting your eldritch genders with the emptiness of gender, making you confused and adding more. It is a version of Axencollector[link]

Requested by @chronicallyqueerillegally

Flag based on axenlector flag and eldritchgender flag[link]

Here are refernce links for some grafics I used:

halo png vectors by lovepik.com [link]

starry sky png vectors by lovepik.com [link]

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pastelhoard

A hoarding term for those who hoard / collect pastel-themed identities and genders ! they may feel like their entire identity is based off of all of the pastel terms they hoard.

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Angellapine

Pronunciation: (AYN-juhl-luh-peen)

Definition: Angellapine is a xenogender that feels connected to the soft, gentle, and ethereal qualities of both angels and bunnies.

It may be experienced as a gender that is fluffy, divine, innocent, protective, or celestial in nature—like a bunny with angel wings or a being of light with the spirit of a rabbit.

Individuals who identify with Angellapine may feel their gender is best expressed through a blend of cute, heavenly, and delicate energies, often evoking purity, comfort, and a mystical sense of safety.