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This had me cackling in my school library 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

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SHARPAY EVANS in HIGH SCHOOL MUSICAL 2 (2007) Costume Design by Tom McKinley

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Hi hon, could you talk more about finding my own ‘dream girl archetype’ & creating ‘my personal manifesto’ as you mentioned in this post? 💌🌹

Gladly! Some notes on creating your own dream girl archetype and personal manifesto are below. Lmk if you need anything else x

How To Build Your Own Dream Girl Archetype: 

Reflect on your role models: These can be TV characters, celebrities, public figures, or, even better, those you look up to in real life. What qualities and characteristics about them do you admire and want to emulate? Is it their poise, work ethic, their personal strength, confidence, style, general aesthetic, lifestyle, cultural affiliations, career, and hobbies? Make a list of these people or characters with bullet points under each one. If you find a lot of commonalities and find certain qualities on multiple lists, place them on a separate list – this list will become the framework for your dream girl archetype.

Get introspective: After gaining some inspiration from those you admire, it’s essential to look inside yourself to acknowledge the characteristics and personality traits you like about yourself, your natural talents, skillset, and your motivation for wanting to become your dream girl – this desire for self-growth and perseverance should make it onto the list if you’re still reading this! Think about the compliments you receive, especially those that you regularly get from different people who don’t know each other. I find that these types of comments help us learn the most about how we’re perceived in the world. Add all of these characteristics, personality traits, talents, skillsets, etc. to your list. 

Acknowledge your dark side: Get comfortable with your shadow self. If you have certain traits or habits holding you back from being your ideal self (i.e. people pleasing, self-sabotage, procrastinating, etc.), become curious and reflect on why you engage in these behaviors or uphold this mindset. Strategize ways to unlearn these characteristics and ways you move through the world that no longer serves you. Create a plan to dig yourself out of these self-destructive thought patterns and actions. Read books, speak with a therapist (if you can), and start journaling to come up with creative solutions to make changes in your daily life to prioritize yourself. Set up your environment in ways to help you win. Own your indulgent side - it makes you human. The sooner you align with your guilty pleasures, the better you get at indulging in them strategically. Have a small sweet treat every day if needed. Keep emotional distance from toxic loved ones. Make your feelings about your current hot hookup self-referential. Block out time to watch your favorite show.

Assert an active role in your life: Create healthy habits to make you feel good. Stop craving others’ approval – no one can be as happy for you as you are for yourself when you succeed. It’s okay to remind yourself we’re all a bit narcissistic – it’s human nature. 

Construct your higher self: Once you’ve acknowledged the qualities you need to internalize to become your ideal self, discover the external qualities and habits you need to cultivate to build your dream girl. What does she wear, what’s her career, how does she speak, work through issues, engage in conversation? What are her habits like? Her morning and night routine? What does she read, watch, and listen to? What’s her social life like? How does she spend her leisure time? What does her space look like, her beauty, diet, and self-care routine? What quotes does she live by? Does she know other languages or about certain topics? How do others speak about her? Create as many inspiration boards and lists, journal entries, etc. as you need until you unlock all of these answers. You will know when some new characteristic, routine, or aesthetic resonates. 

How To Write Your Personal Manifesto: 

Essentially, this document (can be a journal entry, notes app entry, Google doc, etc.) is an amalgamation of your values, principles, habits, and boundaries. It’s a written reminder to yourself of who you truly are, decide to be, and promise to yourself to stick by your values no matter who tries to tear you down. 

Create a mission statement of your ideal self and the qualities that validate this narrative. Essentially, practice the law of assumption by creating a series of personally-tailored affirmations that describe your self-concept and the woman you choose to be. 

Write out all of the qualities listed above that you admire about yourself and emulate in your daily life. Affirm this self-concept. Feel free to use specific personal affirmations and attach related behaviors to your self-affirming characteristics (i.e. I make it my mission to show up with class and confidence in every area of my life. I’m mindful of how I speak to others, choose my words carefully – in person or in writing – and consider the feelings of the other person when engaging in conversation. I take my appearance seriously and aim to embody a seductive and alluring presence. I maintain a healthy diet, make almost all of my meals from fresh ingredients, go on long walks daily to take care of my body, tailor my closet with streamlined clothes made of high-quality fabrics that fit my body well, indulge in my makeup and beauty routines daily alongside wearing my signature scent. I’m an intellectual whose dedicated to learning more about the world every day – I read at least 10 pages of psychology, personal development, or a business-related book daily, etc.). 

List out your boundaries and non-negotiables with yourself. Feel free to get specific with your boundaries to include all aspects of your life – with your work, family, friends, intimate relationships, dating, food, style, self-care habits, etc. Validate your needs. Add your ‘why’ to each of these boundaries and priorities to help you internalize them and to motivate yourself to uphold these standards despite any self-doubt or external criticisms. 

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Therefore, it stands to reason, does it not, sisters dear? That we must find the book, brew the potion, and suck the lives out of the children of Salem before sunrise. Otherwise, it’s curtains. We evaporate! We cease to exist! Dost thou comprehend? HOCUS POCUS (1993), dir. Kenny Ortega

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Light and Dark Feminine energy

If you've been on the internet in the past month or so, you've probably come across the terms light and dark femininity. You asked for it so let's talk about it! <3

Feminine energy is about behaviour but also about how you present yourself. While we all have both energies, most people have one that's more dominant than the other. I'm going to list some traits of both, so you get a general idea.

Light feminine energy:

Angelic

Forgiving

gentle

Compassionate

Intuitive

Dark feminine energy:

Seductive

Magnetic

Passionate

Powerful

Mysterious

Divine feminine energy:

Okay, so what's divine femininity? As stated above, most people have one dominant energy; this does not apply to everyone!! You have to view femininity as a spectrum, divine femininity is the perfect balance between both light and dark energy.

Creative

sensual

communicative

wise

accepting

Masculine energy

To get in touch with your feminine energy, you first need to let go of the masculine energy. In today's age, masculine energy is praised, spending most of our time working hard, chasing things, avoiding emotions, and fixating on accomplishments.

But Malu, what's the point of all of this?? Let me tell you, being in touch with whatever feminine energy works best for you will help you become the best version of yourself, feel more confident, and manifest quicker. However, getting in touch with your feminine energy is a longer prosses; you have to get to know yourself better, visualize your goals and the person you want to become and work towards that.

Signs that your NOT in touch with your feminine energy:

You are insecure

You chase validation from others

You have no set boundaries

You avoided strong emotions

You constantly try to please others

You are bad at making decisions

The beauty of femininity:

The beauty of this all is that it can be expressed in many different ways. You can decide who you want to be; soft, kind, loving but also strong, seductive and confident. Celebrating femininity and working on your energy can give you purpose and strength to reach whatever goal you have set for yourself.

In my next post, we will discuss HOW to get in touch with your feminine energy so stay tuned for that <3

As always, feel free to add something positive in the comments, but if you don't have anything nice to say, please keep it to yourself. I hope you have a beautiful day! :)

✩‧₊*:・love ya ･:*₊‧✩

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Thee beautiful Holly Madison

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hey yall 🥥💕🎀

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head of the hoochies

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i’m in lovvevevevevev with duck nails,cute right!?!

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i think i wanna become a rich ass mortician

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