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The cruelty of racist white men.

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This is just your regular free-of-charge reminder that when people argue that transandrophobia does not exist, or that its not important enough to talk about, they are explicitly saying they don't care about sexual assault victims or victims of suicide (among other things).

Over half of all AFAB nonbinary people and trans men are or will be the victims of sexual assault. These are the highest rates in the community.

About 9 out of every 10 trans men have seriously considered attempting suicide. This is the highest rate in the community.

About half of all trans men have or will attempt suicide. This is the highest rate in the community.

Addressing these issues means talking about them, and we need a word for what this is in order to do that.

This is what "transandrophobia" is for. This is why we need that word.

It's not about hurting or blaming trans women, it's not about saying cis men are oppressed for being men or that cis women aren't, it's not a "white issue" or an "MRA" thing- and the people who argue that it is, and that we shouldn't have the word because it is, are distracting from the real issues. They are taking attention away from, ignoring, and erasing those issues. They not only do not care about them- they want you not to care, too.

They want to remove the language we need in order to talk about these problems. They want us to stop taking about them. They want these problems to continue happening.

It's not a fucking game.

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That ostomate feeling when your skin is itchy underneath your bag and you can’t itch it (● ˃̶͈̀ロ˂̶͈́)੭ꠥ⁾⁾

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I forget how much of a progressive bubble I work in until I have to spend time with youth workers from other organisations and spend the entire time being patronised and treated like a small child on bring your child to work day instead of a fully grown professional.

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Kinda wild how most people generally recognize that the "too sick to go to school, too sick to watch tv/play games" mindset our parents had was bullshit but still impose essentially the exact same rules on disabled adults and scrutinize them for enjoying low-energy hobbies while being too fatigued or in pain to work a full time job (or any job at all)

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You're not immune to being the bully btw. You're not immune to being in the wrong

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I only hate certain types of fic the same way I hate mosquitos and ticks. Like get these nasty little buggers away from me but also I respect their place in the ecosystem.

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Are we really doing the bus arguments again? The vast majority of people who give wheelchair users grief over use of the wheelchair space are not doing so because they have a disability buggy. They’re doing it because they don’t think wheelchair users should have access to public transport if it means they have to spend a moment moving their child’s pram. Believe me, we can tell the difference.

I got on a bus once and asked a couple to please move their buggy to the other side of the bus so I could use the wheelchair space (the only space a wheelchair user can travel in, and with a huge yellow sticker explaining that it’s legally reserved for wheelchair users and anyone else will be asked to move is a wheelchair user needs the space).

I wasn’t even asking them to get off the bus, just to move their child a few feet to the space on the other side of the bus, that was also closer to where they were sitting. Somehow they felt that was unreasonable and yelled at me that I shouldn’t have boarded the bus, and couldn’t I see the space was taken, was I stupid blah blah blah

After that didn’t make me go away, they then tried to pretend like it was never actually their child and said I’d have to ask the “real parents” because they wouldn’t move a baby that “wasn’t theirs”.

Unsurprisingly no one else claims the child (who is very obviously travelling with the yelling couple), so the bus driver has to get involved and say he can’t move the bus with a wheelchair not in the wheelchair space and that if there’s an unaccompanied toddler on the bus then that’s a very serious situation. After the weirdest five minutes ever the couple eventually realise the bus driver is being very serious and no one is moving until this is sorted. So they have to admit that actually it was their child all along and move them to the other side of the bus which takes all of five seconds.

They would literally rather temporarily disown their own child than take five seconds to allow a wheelchair user access to the same public transport they take for granted.

Compare that to another time I got on the bus, went to ask the person in the wheelchair space to move their buggy only to see that the buggy is adapted to carry an oxygen tank (and probably other stuff) and has one of those “my child is disabled, please treat this buggy as a wheelchair” tag on it. I let the parent/ carer know that I didn’t realise it was a disability buggy and hope she has a good day before asking the driver to let me off because there’s already a wheelchair user on board and it’s first come first serve.

Just, please don’t use hypothetical disabled people to invalidate and talk over real disabled people talking about the real issues we face.

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Sure they won the battle (the 4chan-tumblr “war” of 2014) but they lost the war (tumblr being the last one standing).

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does anyone have any records/evidence of nonverbal being a term for a permanent state then getting co-opted by people experiencing verbal shutdowns? i realized i've never seen a source

i'm completely on board with it being a permanent thing for the record, i just struggle to follow rules without a good reason/evidence, and i figure it would also just be good to have on hand to link to people who use the term "going nonverbal" (i'm verbal myself and probably not the best person to explain)

sorry if this is worded disrespectfully, let me know if there's anything i've said wrong and i'll fix it

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Sure they won the battle (the 4chan-tumblr “war” of 2014) but they lost the war (tumblr being the last one standing).

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dear autistics who

white

low support needs

not need 24/7 support

can work independently

can pay taxes

language privileged

intellectual & cognitive privileged

who can fit in societal definition of useful & productive (yes, even if hard)

when fight back against eugenics & ableism, you NEED to fight alongside, fight with, n fight for autistics who

radicalized & POC

from places of world where there critically lack autism knowledge n support

visibly autistic

higher support needs

need 24/7 care

can’t work independently or even work at all

can’t pay taxes

nonverbal, nonspeaking, minimally verbal, without functional communication, or cannot communicate via language at all even AAC

w intellectual disability or cognitive disabilities

who cannot fit into society definition of useful n productive, no matter how hard we try

because we always are & always will be primary target.

because we most vulnerable most marginalized within our, OUR community, which you belong in.

because once they finish us off you won’t be spared.

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some low support needs level 1 autistic will throw higher support needs level 2&3 or nonverbal nonspeaking autistic under bus if in their mind there even 0.01% chance they maybe perhaps get rights. or more accurately, get be oppressor class. n it shows

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Medical Binder

You need a three ring binder. And sheet protectors. And tabs. “Why?”

‘Cause you need a medical binder.

What is a medical binder? A place that you store your medical information paperwork. All of it.

Why should I have this? Documentation. Insurance and medical care are all about documentation. If it’s not in writing, it didn’t happen and doesn’t exist. Why can’t you do it electronically? Because the internet can be compromised. No one can hack a piece of paper from a thousand miles away. Having a copy of your medical records means you have easy access to talk to a new doctor and get them up to speed.

For my fellow chronic illness people, this is what keeps you from going batsh*t insane if you see a new doctor or need to go to the hospital.

What should go in it?

Medical Records: This is a copy of whatever records you have from whatever appointments/visits you go to. Have a check-up? Get a printed copy. Have lab work run? Get a printed copy of records. ER visit? Printed copy. Surgery? Printed copy. Vaccine? Printed copy. I recommend having documentation going back at least five years. Include lists of any medications you’ve taken, along with start/stop dates. This is ideally a catch-all of everything you would want to tell a brand new doctor so they can immediately pick up where your last doctor left off. If you have chronic illnesses, this is where you want to include a history of it. Diagnosis, medications and treatments that have worked and not worked, and all symptoms/progressions you’ve noticed.

Medical Bills: Did you pay a bill? Print a copy of the receipt? Did you get a bill? Save it and then add the receipt after you pay it. Collections notice? Financial Hardship paperwork? Payment plan agreements? Print and add here.

Insurance Paperwork A copy of your ID card, a copy of your summary plan document, and any copies of your claims. Print it and save it.

Misc. Anything else related to your healthcare/bills that you could need. If you think in five years there is the remote possibility you could need this specific piece of paper, print it and save it.

These documents are important to have. If you're in an accident and you have everything on hand (or can have someone bring you everything), you're already ten steps ahead. Otherwise, your new doctor has to have you sign a HIPAA form for every single doctor you've ever seen so they can send your records to be reviewed blah blah blah. The main point is that process is time consuming and frustrating. Save everyone (and yourself) the headache.

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4chan got hacked so I guess tumblr won the war - didn't foresee that tbh

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Just saying, if you're looking for a line at which to accept our "checks and balances" system is not checking nor balancing anything,

"Government admits to trafficking an innocent man to foreign prison camp, then refuses to get him back" is about as clear cut a line as it gets.

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I’m my girlfriends puppy boy :3