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200 days into the genocide of Gaza. Here are some numbers:

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stop villanizing disabled people. stop assuming we're just being lazy. stop assuming we could be trying harder. stop assuming that we'll "feel better" in a few weeks. stop assuming that we have the same energy levels as everyone else. thanks for coming to my ted talk.

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My roommate and I are financially unstable while he does through a long, complicated diagnosis process that started as we stopped being homeless. I interviewed for a job and was told I got the job and then ghosted, but I've applied for a few others too.

Right now, we need help with bills. We got my laptop fixed, and we are fine on food, but my roommate also has an appointment coming up with his gastrointerologist. The goal below will cover bills and that appointment.

Dm me for proof or details

I dont mind. I have his medical records, proof of bills, etc. I will do art for any who gives $50+ and I also take commissions, just contact me at my art blog @theartistrans

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$25/$652

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My roommate and I are financially unstable while he does through a long, complicated diagnosis process that started as we stopped being homeless. I interviewed for a job and was told I got the job and then ghosted, but I've applied for a few others too.

Right now, we need help with bills. We got my laptop fixed, and we are fine on food, but my roommate also has an appointment coming up with his gastrointerologist. The goal below will cover bills and that appointment.

Dm me for proof or details

I dont mind. I have his medical records, proof of bills, etc. I will do art for any who gives $50+ and I also take commissions, just contact me at my art blog @theartistrans

Dm me for zelle

$creepiecrippl

V: tab-99

$25/$652

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Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

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My roommate and I are financially unstable while he does through a long, complicated diagnosis process that started as we stopped being homeless. I just interviewed for a job, we are starting to grow our own food. We currently need to cover our storage bill before we get a late fee, food, and one of his meds.

He also has a sleep study on Monday, which is going to be $500. No one expected them to work him in that soon, we aren't expecting to be able to cover it, but it desperately doesn't need to wait, so it's included in this goal. If Monday comes and we are nowhere near that goal, it'll be rescheduled, and I'll update accordingly.

Dm me for proof or details

I will do art for anyone who gives $50 just message me at my artblog @theartistrans I also take commissions there

$creepiecrippl

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$0/$800

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My roommate and I are struggling financially as he goes through a complicated diagnostic process that started as we stopped being homeless. Right now, we urgently need help with rent and getting my laptop fixed. Rent is $700, and the initial estimate for my laptop is $150. Rent is due the 1st, and we are particularly stressed because I use my laptop to make money.

Pls dm me for proof or details

I will do art for anyone who gives $50 towards this, and I also take commissions, just message me at my art blog @theartistrans

$creepiecrippl

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$35/$850

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My roommate and are getting financially wrecked by his current diagnostic process which started as we stopped being homeless. We have a free ride to town in a couple of days, and we need to get his meds, air purifier filters, food, and household goods like toothpaste and laundry detergent. We had a post up for this but made very little progress and had to reschedule going to town. This goal is raised from the previous post to cover my roommates upcoming appointment.

Dm me for proof or details

I will do art for anyone who gives $50+, just message me at my art blog @theartistrans

$creepiecrippl

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Dm me for zelle

$137/$712

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My roommate has been going through a complicated diagnosis process, which is costing us severely because we are fighting his parents for his legal documents. We had a previous post up to help with bills and meds, and I'm sorry, I need to make a new one for food, air purifier filters, and his other meds.

Pls dm me for proof or details

I have his prescription records, medical records, bills, neither of us mind. Also I will do art for anyone who gives $50+ just dm me at my art blog @theartistrans

$creepiecrippl

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Dm me for zelle

$0/$512

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My roommates and I have several bills due/overdue, and this past month has crushed us. Covid, several specialist appointments, new medications. A lot we can't afford and need to live. My roommate needs to pick up his new medication. He's been having severe medical issues with diagnosis in progress. He desperately needs food, on top of the bills. This goal is to catch us up on all of that. We need to meet this goal by the 15th in order to avoid more late fees and eat some.

Dm me for proof or details

I don't mind. Also I will do art for any who gives $50+ just message me at my art blog @theartistrans I take commissions there

$creepiecrippl

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Dm me for zelle

$261/$581

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My roommates and I need help with bills and food. Right now, our power and phone bill are due, and our storage bill is overdue. The storage bill is super urgent, but we need to meet this goal by the 15th. We are getting his legal documents this month and should be able to get aid once that comes in, but we've been drowning in his medical costs, and I've been barely eating so he has food. We both have multiple food allergies, so food alone is so expensive until our garden is producing.

I will do art for anyone who gives $50+ just message me at my art blog @theartistrans

Dm me for proof or details

$creepiecrippl

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Dm me for zelle

$0/$519

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Stevie/Jess, 23, he/she/they, queer

this is my main blog- check rbs for sideblogs!

i almost solely use mobile so don't have access to shinigami eyes. if i rb from a terf or smth pls dm me!

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My roommate needs a long overdue cancer screening and basic reproductive care. He is intersex and having major health issues that make the cancer screening in particular very urgent. He has an appointment set for the 5th. I had to go to a similar appointment a few months ago, and it ended up costing about $500 total. I am begging his adopted parents to help, but I'm also making a post to fund it because they openly don't care about him. This post is made with his permission and knowledge.

Dm me for proof or details

I will do art for anyone who gives $50+ just message my at my art blog @theartistrans

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$creepiecrippl

Dm me for zelle

$0/$500

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My roommates and I have 4 days to get rent, and we are absolutely screwed if we can't get help with it. We were getting stable before we got covid, stayed severely sick for 2 weeks, and had an emergency costing us $214. Now things are dire. We need help with food too, we are currently underweight bc we were sick, and our allergy friendly food is expensive.

I will do art for anyone who gives $50+ just message me at my art blog @theartistrans

Dm me for proof or details

$creepiecrippl

V: tab-99

$0/$752

[crippledasinfuckyou]

My roommates and I have 4 days to get rent, and we are absolutely screwed if we can't get help with it. We were getting stable before we got covid, stayed severely sick for 2 weeks, and had an emergency costing us $214. Now things are dire. We need help with food too, we are currently underweight bc we were sick, and our allergy friendly food is expensive.

I will do art for anyone who gives $50+ just message me at my art blog @theartistrans

Dm me for proof or details

$creepiecrippl

V: tab-99

$0/$752

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Doctor prescribing antidepressants: so this medication can cause side effects such as memory loss, seizures, eating disorders, stomach issues, rashes, fatigue, and could actually make you want to kill yourself even more. This is perfect for you

Doctor prescribing pain meds: Are you sure you don't want to try diet and exercise first? These pills are so bad for you. Yeah technically the list of side effects for this pain medication is a lot shorter than it is for your other medications, but the thing is, they might make you TOO happy. And we hate addicts. I just think destroying your stomach lining and liver with 2000mg acetaminophen and 1600mg ibuprofen per day would be a lot safer, because you definitely don't want "happiness" as a side effect of medication. Not being in pain and being happy is just too addictive and addiction is bad.

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'can't' is not a bad word.

i think a lot of the pushback to believing disabled people about our own bodies and ability stems from the fact that we inherently don't possess a 'can-do' attitude. because we cannot do things. because that's the fucking definition of being disabled.

we're 'negative nancies' that need to go through some character growth or training like the movies do so we can emerge positive with a growth mindset because we can accomplish anything! yasss! and of course you are our lovely wise guiding mentor that just gave us the kick we needed to realise The Truth About Life, which is that You Can Do Anything, As Long As You Put Your Mind To It.

but the actual truth, one that you can see if you look past your nose, is that a '''growth mindset'' can't going to fix this. a "can-do attitude' can't un-traumatic injury my brain.

'can't' is not a bad word.