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Waiting for internet spaces to normalize hating men as a group and all religions again.

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The idea that radical feminism is just for white women and that all radical feminists talk about is white women is so laughable to me. I hate to break it to these people but equating the idea of a fight for gender equality with white western culture and labelling the misogynistic elements of non western cultures as progressive and based is actually so harmful. I care about all women, I’m not going to turn a blind eye to women of colour being oppressed by their own cultures out of fear of being labelled a racist sorry.

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there's nothing a woman or girl can do or say to deserve rape. anyone who disagrees is outing themselves and should be shot on sight.

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no clue what causes pcos. no clue what causes endometriosis. 2 year waiting lists to see a gynecologist. you'd think female bodies only started existing 50 years ago

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the reason why both leftists and conservatives hate radfems is because both sides are controlled by men who hate women that oppose their authority

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sex is not supposed to be about what you can tolerate!!!!! sex is supposed to be about what you genuinely want and enjoy!!!!! and if you’re traumatized and/or not straight, believe me, I know it’s not that simple to figure out what it is that you actually want and enjoy.

you’re not a bad person if you do something that you don’t particularly enjoy because, for example, it makes your partner happy, but always remember: you have no obligation to engage in sexual activities that you don’t fully like and enjoy. 

and you don’t ever, ever need to justify that - if your partner has an issue with “It makes me kind of uncomfortable” or “I don’t really like it”, then that person does not deserve a moment of your time, in or outside of the bedroom. you don’t have to prove yourself to anyone; you don’t have to meet anyone’s standards of acceptable vs. unacceptable activity (or lack thereof); you don’t have to force yourself to be comfortable with something because of any perceived political connotations of performing or refusing that act.

saying yes because you feel guilty about saying no is not consent. saying yes because you’re scared of what will happen if you say no is not consent. saying yes because you figure you might as well just endure it is not consent. sex ed on here and elsewhere doesn’t give a single shit about traumatized people and I wish someone had told me all of this a lot sooner. 

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How being a femme and genuinely not giving a single fuck about my body hair and bush feels like

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Me and my s/o when we get old:

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Hi, white women. This is a message for us!

We cannot keep using Black women’s pain as a teaching moment, or expecting them to carry the emotional weight of every “learning opportunity.

So this is your call-in:

Stop tone-policing Black women.

Stop centering your discomfort when racism is named.

Stop showing up only when you get credit.

And stop acting like solidarity is a badge and not a duty.

💡 Understand the Difference Between Allyship and Saviorism

Allyship is solidarity based on shared values and political goals, even if lived experiences differ.

White saviorism centers yourself and makes the oppressed group a backdrop for your own virtue.

🖤 1. Uplift, Don’t Override

Radical Black feminists aren’t new to the movement they are the movement. So:

Share Black radfem work directly: quote them, link to them, let them lead the thought.

If you're asked to speak, ask yourself: “Am I the right voice here?”

Example: Instead of “let me explain this issue Black women face,” say “here’s what [name] said, and she says it best.”

🤐 2. Sit With Being Uncomfortable

White feminists are often taught to center feelings over truth which leads to defensiveness when criticized:

Instead of “but I didn’t mean to,” try “you’re right, I didn’t see that, and I’ll reflect.”

Don’t interpret critique as attack. Interpret it as careful redirection.

Being called in is a gift. Saviorism reacts emotionally. Allyship listens and adjusts.

🧹 3. Do the Work in White Spaces

One of the most important things you can do is clean your own house:

Call out racist language, assumptions, or tokenization among other white feminists.

Don’t wait for Black women to “educate” step in and educate your peers.

Allyship isn’t just in mixed spaces it’s in all-white rooms, especially.

🤝 4. Follow, Don’t Lead

You’re not the protagonist. You’re the comrade. That means:

Let Black radfems define the priorities, the tone, the pace.

If you’re asked to help, say yes but ask how, don’t assume.

Do the tedious stuff too. Organizing, boosting, support roles not just the podium work.

🕊 5. Remember Your Role Is Temporary, Their Liberation Is Not

If your allyship disappears when it’s inconvenient? That was just performative.

Keep showing up when it’s boring, thankless, or not trendy.

Accept that you won’t always be seen as “one of the good ones” and that’s okay.

Liberation isn’t about you feeling good it’s about them being free.

TL;DR Version: Listen, uplift, de-center yourself, do the work in your own community, and stick around when no one’s watching.

If your allyship is just a pre-loaded “I’m not racist” get-out-of-jail-free card, then it’s not allyship at all it’s image maintenance. It’s:

🙃 Performance over substance

🤢 Guilt cosplay

😐 Weaponizing proximity to marginalized people as social capital

That kind of behavior isn’t neutral, it’s harmful. It makes genuine solidarity impossible, because it turns justice into a selfish defense mechanism.

We are not above this conversation. We are the reason it keeps needing to happen.

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I spent so many years trying to reconcile being trans with collectivism and came out of it with no other recourse than concluding that there is nothing more hyper-individualistic and solely self serving than the trans movement. cannot imagine the cognitive dissonance going on with all the TRAs that still believe they're somehow communists/anarchists or fighting individualism and capitalism or whatever

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hate how almost every portrayal of a lesbian on mainstream tv is like literally just a straight woman who dates women. the writers clearly don’t care to take Any considerations into lesbian/lgbt culture or what our lives/dating is rly like. like even apart from them all being pretty feminine conventionally attractive white women in their thirties, they are literally always the straightest women you could possibly imagine. what’s the opposite of dykery. The utter dykelessness of these women

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The trans movement: black women are seen as men/male adjacent 1.Enslaved black women were wet nurses to white babes (side note: do people know how hungry and drained breastfeeding makes you? A child is literally sucking the calories out of you on top of the fact that your body has to exert energy making the milk) 2.Were repeatedly raped and impregnated against their will to give birth to more slaves- aka their female reproductive labor specifically exploited and pimped to directly financially profit slave masters. 3.Were raped and used as sex toys by both black men and white slave masters. 4.Were forced to do traditionally feminine roles like childcare, cooking, cleaning IN ADDITON to all the back- breaking, hard labor the men had to do. 5.In the founding of gynecology- enslaved black women had their guts cut open and wombs and uteri taken out and experimented on. Had their breasts, vaginas and buttocks, all sex organs, pickled in jars and shown in museums. In other words, our female ancestors experienced the absolute worst assaults on their SEXED bodies. Experienced horrors and mechanisms of torture designed for and exclusive to THE FEMALE SEX. And you people let transfemmes say we're seen as males. Unchecked. I'll never forgive or forget this. I'll never forgive. I'll never forget.

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I'm so sick of this fucking world where women publicly degrade themselves and belittle their own humanity for men's sexual fantasy and we're all supposed to accept it as normal or else we're prudish PTA moms who need to stop clutching our pearls.

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