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a page from my comic signals, which is available now :)

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do you ever start writing a comment on the internet and then think “oh what the fuck am i going on about” and delete it

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LOVE AND PEACE FOR IT/ITS PRONOUNS

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"having a post get popular is a bad thing on tumblr" counterpoint: i can edit my 72k note post to anything i want

72k note singular grape png

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GIRLY JUST FOUND OUT ABOUT CYERCE ELEGANS

If Cyerce nigricans is a butterfly, then this is a fairy... Cyerce nigricans for comparison:

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I really want to see more low/no empathy characters (NOT antagonists/villains) in books. Especially as protagonists, rather than side characters. I want to see characters who react with practicality after a tragedy. While everyone else is mourning, they're immediately thinking "how can we fix this / how can we make sure it doesn't happen again." Or alternatively characters who don't even react "reasonably". Who see tragedy and their first thought is "Well, at least we don't have to worry about X anymore." Or who sigh in relief that "at least it wasn't worse" while looking at the worst thing that's ever happened in their life.

I want to see characters who don't know how to react when their companions are experiencing strong emotions. Who try their best, but sometimes their best is a really awkward pat on the back or thumbs up. Or alternatively characters who avoid people who are experiencing strong emotion because the awkwardness and uselessness they experience is so uncomfortable for them.

I want to see characters who misread the room and crack a joke too soon, or try to offer a distraction when people don't want to be distracted. Characters who mean well, but act outside the "norm".

And I want to see characters who aren't villainized for it. I want to see characters whose friends say "It's okay, I know you're not good with this stuff." Or who make sure that their low-empathy friend has an important job to do to keep their mind busy, because just because they don't have empathy doesn't mean they can't be traumatized.

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if anyone needs help identifying things that can become moral scrupulosity OCD obsessions/compulsions, heres a list of some i've experienced:

rereading your posts/texts over and over

checking your notes and/or followers list frequently to "make sure" bad actors aren't interacting with you

checking OP's blog before interacting with posts

compulsively opening a social media tab to look at your notifs and then closing it, over and over

fearing ways that things you say/do (or don't do) could be taken in bad faith. being anxious that your words/actions will be misconstrued as morally wrong, bigoted, rude, or aggressive

feeling guilty or obsessing over whether you should or shouldn't have reblogged a post

feeling like you aren't "allowed" to disengage from online discourse or unfollow people who post it

fearing you're being stalked, talked about, or called out behind your back. fearing you'll never be forgiven and that people might even celebrate your disappearance or death, even though you havent done anything wrong

searching your own name/username to see if anyone is actually talking about you

imagining defenses you would make against nonexistent heinous accusations or arguments against you, to prove that you didnt do it

feeling like you have to roll over and become a doormat when others are cruel to you, because it could cause strife if you do anything other than grovel or apologize

having trouble enforcing your own boundaries out of fear that they are somehow "wrong" or unethical

ending up surrounded by people who have all the "right opinions" but are super mean and unpleasant, and make you feel like you have to walk on eggshells

fearing that just HAVING moral ocd makes you a bad person somehow (for example, i often fear that having moral ocd is somehow pushing a 'stranger danger' or misanthropist agenda, even though i actually have a lot of faith in my fellow humans)

some of these bullet points are not inherently bad on their own, but if you find yourself having this kind of anxiety very often, that's not normal, and it's time to get offline or even seek professional help if it's impacting your life

this list is catered to how online culture influences moral scrupulosity, it is not indicative of how everybody's moral scrupulosity functions, and it is not exhaustive

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It is much more important that you develop tools to communicate your emotions than that you shove them down or get thicker skin. Some of us are always going to be more sensitive people. The solution to that is not to erase our nature but to learn how to thrive with it.

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*gives you a little piece of my heart* GET LOVED

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brace for the worst, but hope for the best!! hope for the best!!

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forgive the people who deserve it—not the people who give false apologies, not the people who don’t change their ways, and not the people who show no remorse

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reminder: there’s no expiration date on getting over something. you don’t have to have moved on after a certain point.

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if you’re reading this, i’m wishing for the universe to be kind to you

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sometimes you gotta trust that part of yourself you deny. sometimes you gotta listen to the part of you that you worry could be wrong.

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the right person will be as “clingy” as you are. they will be as excited to see you as you are to them. they will smile just because you exist. they won’t think of you as too much or not enough but instead just right.

(can apply platonically too)

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there’s nothing wrong with having days where you feel pessimistic, grumpy, angry, sad, etc. just try not to let it consume you. feel it, but don’t let it take over all your actions.