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To reflect on the recent anon I got, and something I alluded to in my response, I have to caution that you can assume women who have seemingly obvious privileges are without reasons why they can't leave a situation. Which isn't to say there aren't women who have reasons to stay that fall outside some sort of tragedy rubric that can, I suppose, be critically examined, or that any woman who has successfully left an abusive relationship only could because of some easy solution and didn't have to work very hard and sacrifice. But I think if you see a woman, and she appears affluent, probably conservative, clearly white, etc. - that doesn't mean her assets are liquid, or that her husband hasn't made credible threats to her life and the lives of her children, or that she hasn't reached out to her community for help and her community made it very clear they won't support her. And if the argument is that she should have known better to even have become pregnant and married, then I'm not sure how that isn't victim blaming. Or if it's not marriage, if it's a boss sexually harassing her, and she doesn't have much saved, and she's dependent on an expensive medicine she gets through health care, like my hope is that she can find a way out, and I'm not sure why she owes it to me to figure it out sooner rather than later. So, the idea that there is a definite kind of woman who can be "held responsible" for whatever abuses she's experiencing from men, and you can just tell, is just a complicated way to put the blame of men's actions on women, even if you're willing to make caveats for "obvious" hypothetical situations.

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botox may still be a good fit for you! but my skin after no longer using botox took some time to move and behave normally at my forehead and temples again and the partial movement that it gives you back after the freeze was not always even or normal looking

How do I talk my friend out of getting fillers? She says she’s hesitant to do it because it would make her a “bad feminist” (which… well, yeah), but she’s still leaning towards it. Are there any radfems out there more familiar with fillers, who can give me other reasons to present to her to convince her not to do it? (E.g., it doesn’t look natural, it can go wrong, anything.) I know she’s gonna regret it if she gets them.

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the fact that "eco" and "ethical" are two separate concerns in the global north, and that "eco" is a much more popular concern, with many "eco" products being made in actual sweatshops, is a big part of why i am The Joker

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Also, as far as a bad feminist take... Fillers and Botox age you prematurely, like... Straight up they make you look older, and you can't really... stop going to maintenance appointments for Tox or Fillers and it's a never ending cycle of deformation. And I say this as someone who got PREEMPT protocol done from 18 to almost 20 with Botox to treat my migraines until COVID hit and my neurologist wasn't seeing patients in office anymore (and we found a different migraine treatment that was working better) But it did a number on my skin and facial movements for another 2-3 years and that was FOR migraines, which is smaller amounts of botox per injection site than cosmetics do.

How do I talk my friend out of getting fillers? She says she’s hesitant to do it because it would make her a “bad feminist” (which… well, yeah), but she’s still leaning towards it. Are there any radfems out there more familiar with fillers, who can give me other reasons to present to her to convince her not to do it? (E.g., it doesn’t look natural, it can go wrong, anything.) I know she’s gonna regret it if she gets them.

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Your trueself comes from accepting yourself, not modifying yourself into other people's ideals

Hate to break it to you, but your 'true self' won't come through consumption of products or surgery that changes your outward appearance.

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Do I prefer using the disabled stall when I have my service dog with me? Absolutely, but if someone has a bigger mobility aid *OR* a child that needs help to utilize the restroom or a disabled person with a caretaker/assistant that needs to go in with them, I will make him squeeze into a regular stall to accommodate that person above myself. I also don't use disabled stalls if I don't have my SD with me.

I don't really get why able bodied people, or people without wheelchairs or bulky mobility aids or carers or don't need the grab bars, etc. feel the need to use disabled stalls or bathrooms (unless it's the only bathroom)... I can get it if all other stalls are taken and you're seconds away from an accident or something. But like... imagine how many people who can only use the disabled stall or bathroom have to wait and almost (or actually do) have an accident because they're waiting for someone who DOES have other options?

I'm pretty much a full time crutch user, but I don't usually use disabled stalls because I don't really... need it? They aren't really mobility aids that require all that room for me. Like disabled or not, I feel like if it's an option and just as easy for you to use a regular stall, you should. Because there are many disabled people who don't have the privilege of even being able to make that choice.

EDIT: Added another reason people might need it (grab bars) as well as "Etc." because I didn't specify that I was just giving examples I could think of, not an exhaustive list. My bad on that, should have been more clear!

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Finally, another sexy catholic option for this country (let's hope they dont do him like JFK)

that 6’3 catholic freak might save us

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Meeting genuine adults that think legal = good, illegal = bad is so bizarre, like bro not even the law itself agrees that that is a good ethical framework

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and like. Dammit sometimes I just want to reblog the cute pink car I saw on my dashboard.

Considering having a substack AND a Tumblr, but Im already largely inactive here... but also I am constantly torn between wanting to reblog things here and only wanting to create original posts here like its a real blog... maybe the answer is in cross posting my substack stuff here AND reblogging fun cute things here?

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Like... because I want to post cutesy cat things, and maybe some churchy shit, but also like... entry level politics and feminism stuff here (I won't ever dive deep into my personal politics)

Considering having a substack AND a Tumblr, but Im already largely inactive here... but also I am constantly torn between wanting to reblog things here and only wanting to create original posts here like its a real blog... maybe the answer is in cross posting my substack stuff here AND reblogging fun cute things here?

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Considering having a substack AND a Tumblr, but Im already largely inactive here... but also I am constantly torn between wanting to reblog things here and only wanting to create original posts here like its a real blog... maybe the answer is in cross posting my substack stuff here AND reblogging fun cute things here?

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I'm out in LA with my Nana this week, and I miss curling up and cuddling with my boyfriend to fall asleep

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