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On the subject about parents needing to control their child's reading and invade their privacy in order to "protect" them from "inappropriate material:

Until I was in....college? At least? The vast, vast majority of the books I read were either a) assigned by my school or b) (the vast majority of my reading) provided to me by my mother.

My mom is a librarian. She filled our rooms with books, picked especially for us. She pointed out books on the shelves in our home library (separate from our bedroom shelves) that she thought we would like. She bought us books for birthdays, Christmas, and just stacks of recommendations. She once paid me $10 to read one of the Cirque Du Freak books because she said I needed "to be exposed to bad literature."

She respected my privacy in room, didn't go through my belongings. She explicitly pointed out to us that she wouldn't know if we took a particular book of the shelf, as long as we returned it, if we didn't want her to know we were reading it. She purposely brought us books that she didn't care for herself, because she thought we might find them valuable or enjoyable.

And if we wanted to read something she thought might upset or disturb us, she would explain why. She wouldn't stop us from reading it - just ask us to check in with her, to talk through it.

And so when I read something that upset or disturbed me, I would go to her. She would listen and talk through it with me.

If she said she didn't think I would like something, or that a book might disturb me, or that she thought I should wait until I was older, I listened to her.

She didn't need restrictions or control to protect me. Because she proved I could trust her.

Controlling kids is never about "protecting" them. It's just about control.

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Liberal Jane ‘24

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I hate being sick. Why isn’t there be a fairy that comes and takes my illness away huh?

Noooooo I only got the faery that stole my she/her pronouns, now how the hell is that fair :( at least take the plague away too

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starting to think that some of you assume that because you are queer you are automatically "progressive" and can't be a bad person even when you are actively spouting fascist rhetoric

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From a state hearing in Texas

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The EU (still) wants to scan your private messages and photos

🚨 You WILL Be Impacted 🚨

Every photo, every message, every file you send will be automatically scanned—without your consent or suspicion.

If you live in the EU*, contact your MEPs NOW and tell them to vote NO! Go here to learn more & FIGHT BACK!

https://fightchatcontrol.eu/

*especially if you live in Germany - they have not yet decided, and their opposition is crucial!

Please reblog! If the EU passes this, it weakens online privacy worldwide.

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therapist told me I need to smoke more weed, fuck more trannies, and make more art

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Get yourself a fabric store that will light your fabric on fire for you

No but legit I asked what the fiber content of something was and the guy didn’t know so he cut a chunk off and lit it on fire and felt the ashes and was like. Yeah this is mostly cotton with a lil bit of silk. And that was the moment I knew. This is it. This is the fabric store for me. Also that guy is marriage material. Not for me but damn some person is gonna be so happy with him.

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Get. Onto. Your. Representatives.

(And romance fans / writers? THIS MEANS YOU.)

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There is still time by @/luvnotee

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some autistic people have a fight response to overstimulation, unfamiliar/unpredictable situations, breaks in routines or focus, loss of sentimental objects, interpersonal issues, etc.

this can involve physically harming themselves, other people, or objects. yelling and screaming. getting irritable or angry. reckless or impulsive behavior. being rude or saying mean things. you get the idea.

autistic people who do this should still be supported. we deserve people who will advocate for us, respect us, listen to us, care for us, include us, and fight for us.

and no, this does not mean autistic people are allowed to hurt others without consequence.

it means autistic people are people. we're not a monolith. autistic people who have fight responses are just as important as other autistics - especially when it comes to community and advocacy.

autistic people do not have to be palatable to have their human rights respected and upheld. autistic people are allowed to struggle, and that struggle looks different for everyone.

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Call me whatever names you wish, but I think this is a much better (and healthier) attitude than “anyone under 18 should never be allowed to see any sexual imagery ever”

(For reference: this was at the Tom of Finland exhibition, containing actual, queer, kinky af pornography. There were definitely some young people there, perhaps in their late teens. There was even a parent with their baby who was probably too young to understand anything at all. And guess what, all those people are probably going to be fine.)

[ID: a sign saying “Please note: there is no age limit, but the exhibition is not recommended for children due to the explicit sexual imagery it contains. Parental or guardian discretion is advised.”]