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you have got to stay alive.

you're going to be such a wonderful middle aged or even elderly plural, system.

young plurals and systems will see you and be in awe. they know that they can make it too.

show the world that we're not doomed to be young and tragic. please, stay alive.

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you should write rpf about your headmates

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"Dissociation" as a term is kind of in a weird position compared to a lot of other medical terms that slowly enter public knowledge, because people expect it to be misused like OCD and delusions and so on; they assume people are using it for situations where it doesn't apply, that they are "watering down" an important concept. But the thing with dissociation is no, all these people who are using the term "dissociation" lightly are also using it correctly.

Zoning out is a form of dissociation. Daydreaming is a form of dissociation. Dissociation covers a lot of different things, from complex disorders to everyday behavior. People aren't "misusing a serious term" when they describe these experiences as dissociation, and they aren't hurting anyone who experiences more severe forms of dissociation by doing so. I'm not offended when people without DID describe their daydreams as dissociation, I'm happy that they can recognize there are healthy and everyday forms of dissociation, and so when they encounter dissociation in the context of trauma or a disorder, it hopefully won't be as scary to them.

This is a "yes and" situation, not a "no but" situation. Yes, zoning out is a form of dissociation! And this is how I experience "zoning out" as someone with a dissociative disorder! I'm glad you now have a better understanding of medical terminology and will hopefully be able to better understand any medical texts you come across in the future

If you're looking for people misusing "dissociation", I assure you there are still plenty of people who associate any mention of it with senseless violence. How about we tackle that first before deciding the word for a spectrum can only be used to describe the most extreme forms of it

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plural joy is waking up to a plain wrap just kinda. there. on our side table. and upon further questioning it was a very confused headmate fronting at night and, in their distress, decided it'd be a good idea to leave us food for the morning. like awh that's weird but sweet .. I love these idiots

This one made me giggle so hard.. one ☝️ wrap. My gift to you. That is actually very sweet of them though

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plural system who keeps splitting into more deer alters: I feel like a million bucks

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Think systems with a high number of fictional introjects are a new phenomena? Kluft's paper on polyfragmented/extremely complex DID from 1988 includes a patient with LOTR introjects, and another based off of Shakespear's Tempest. Fictional introjects have been a thing for a very long time!

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Okay but can your system play Bad Apple!! ? Can your system run doom?

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Plurality is so weird because half the time I don't even realize and just go "huh weird, suddenly I'm feeling a huge disconnect between current me and me from 2 days ago and my whole gender and identity have became something else and I feel a strong need to change what name I'm called and how I present myself almost like I became I whole new person within such a short time span. I wonder why that is. I must just be really fluid or was simply wrong about what I am the entire time before or something," and then five days later I go "huh weird, I have gone back to my previous state after this odd and peculiar phase so to speak and now I feel a strong disconnect from the me from five days ago like I just temporarily became a whole new person within such a short time span. I wonder why that is. Must have been just a phase, now I feel stupid for feeling that way so strongly then just changing my mind back," and despite having lived as a(n aware) plural system/collective/little kitty cat clowder for nearly a year now it still does not ever cross my mind that perhaps, maybe, just maybe, that was literally just a whole ass new guy that I split (as I do. Because I'm plural. Because that's what it does. Very often, mind you. Because I know that I'm plural and what being plural does) up until it's like, well after the fact. Despite it being so incredibly embarrassingly blatantly obvious the entire time. Anyway you won't ever guess what just happened

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plural culture is having a pluralkit and/or a simplyplural and forgetting to use it or update it....

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Always funky how some system members can take days and days to form, and even then still not be fully solid, but others will snap into place almost instantly. Not even different origins either, both traumagenic - it's interesting to observe the variation even within a singular system

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Just a few more hours

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hey, small psa:

fictives are just people. you wouldn't walk up to a person you saw on the news once while they're having dinner and say "holy shit guys it's Jimothy Cumwomble, great job on stopping that armed robbery, sorry your brother died in the process". that would be completely socially unacceptable - you'd be butting in on their life, overstepping not just their boundaries but basic social decency, and bringing up potentially traumatic life events. it's rude, infantilizing, and potentially directly harmful. so why would you do the same to a fictive just because you know, or think you know, their source?

and that's not to say "never bring up a fictive's source to them", plenty of fictives enjoy talking about their sources! but there's a little thing called tact. you can ask whether they're okay with talking about it, or join in on a conversation where they already are, even just a "hey if you don't mind could we chat about your source" would go a long way. but suddenly changing the topic to their source not just without warning but by singling them out as "weird" or "interesting" and saying things about their source that would never be appropriate to say to a singlet about their past is not cool.

TLDR, a fictive existing in a public space is not an excuse to single them out, put a spotlight on them, and bring up potentially traumatic parts of their history just because you think their source is neat. have a little common sense about timing and approach, or just let them exist in peace.

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im no expert but this is how it works to me i think

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my biggest advice for (especially but not exclusively new(ly discovered)) systems is... to take everyones advice with a grain of salt. whats good for one system is catestrophically bad for another. a lot of posts frame their advice as perfect and infallible (which i doubt is intentional on the posters part), but it really isnt. just do what works best for your system.

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dude we are just like twins except we were born at two completely different times and we are not related and we look nothing alike too

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"I think I'd notice if you were a system, I've never seen you switch or any signs saying you would be one"

Because people don't notice until they look for it. Singlets just assume we're having a weird day. Or we're sick. Or we're tired. Or we got a headache all of a sudden. Even though we're fairly covert from an outsiders perspective IRL, or if we're trying to mask, the people who care can usually tell that something is different.

People who actually know and understand and believe that we're a system will learn. They'll be able to see things change, at least some of the time, even if those signs are so so tiny. If singlets are supportive, they can notice the signs that are there pretty surprisingly quick, down to being able to guess who's fronting for us on occasion.

People who are sceptical from the beginning won't be actually paying attention. People that fakeclaim others tend to be looking for reasons to not believe you. Obviously systems vary in how they present and not every system has to present in a way that's noticeable, which absolutely doesn't make any of them fake. But if you do think your system is noticeable and people are saying you must be faking because they could never tell, then it's very likely they're ignoring the signs in favour of their own agenda. If their mind is closed, their eyes might as well be too. Don't let that break your confidence.