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Wanting love but being scared of getting hurt looks like:

Being attracted to partners you know aren’t good for you

Pushing away the ones who are actually kind & consistent

Mistaking chaos with chemistry

Sabotaging healthy connections before they get too deep

Feeling anxious when someone gets too close

Creating distance just when things start to feel good

Seeking validation but rejecting genuine intimacy

Constantly testing people to see if they’ll leave

Telling yourself you’re better off alone but secretly craving closeness

Settling for “almost” relationships to avoid the risk of real ones

Believing love is always followed by loss

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You are a rare soul..

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i'm so tempted to respond to this with a history speech and the effects the victorian era had on on our parents (and their parents) and how it influenced and affects younger generations... but yes. It takes 3 generations for cultural shifts and just because a previous generation functioned a certain way (be with with little knowledge on health and being influenced by government changes) does not mean it is healthy or should continue

Adding to this that programming ourselves out of codependency and people pleasing (amongst other core main issues) makes it easier for us to evolve out of and experience less trauma caused by this

Like I said, I could give a SPEECH on this

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i love the last post. how do you fulfill yourself within? i definitely chase and keep bothering people who let me go because i look for people to complete me and i want to be enough

Personal fulfillment is personal. No one is going to fill that void for you… and I say that with so much love because I had to learn it the hard way too

We think if we could just be enough for someone that we will finally feel whole. Wholeness comes from within, how we talk to ourselves, how we show up for ourselves, how we soothe ourselves etc

Everything is a reflection of us

So how do you complete yourself, how do you feel enough…

Keep promises to yourself

Speak kindly to yourself

Spend time alone

Create for fun

Move your body

Set boundaries

Celebrate your wins

Let yourself feel

Connect spiritually

Basically fully focus on yourself. This sounds simple, because it is and that’s exactly how life should be

Funny how anyone can read this and be like “it’s too easy, that can’t work” (many such cases) because so many people are wired for survival and think things need to be complicated or have to suffer…. YOU DO NOT! 🤍