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For the past 3 summers, I've worked part-time at a water park as a Lifeguard and Area Coordinator/Team Leader. The past 2 summers, I convinced some of my closest friends to come and work with me. Being an Area Coordinator/Team Leader meant that obviously I was in-charge of the aquatic staff of which my close friends were apart of.

Lets call one of the friends - "James"

Don't exactly need to worry about the others

Generally before summer starts I would train all the newbies on the attractions and get them ready for our opening days. Now James at the time was single, and during the times when I would train the newbies, James would text me asking "are any of them cute?"

(To quickly give a bit of context about James and his personality, he is extroverted, can be nice and caring, and can be a bit of a party animal).

I wouldn't really go out of my way to describe girls within the in-take to him, so I'd just reply something along the lines of "yeah man they're all 10s". However during this particular training session, a girl by the name of "Annie", stood out to me with an outgoing personality who was eager to learn everything she needed to.

(To quickly give a bit context about Annie and her personality, she is extroverted, very religious, extremely loud, comes off very strong).

It was quite comparable to James' personality in a way where they were both able to talk to everyone in the room as they had known each everyone forever. I texted him back ASAP suggesting that he might be really good friends with Annie as they, from what I could see were compatible in multiple ways.

Skip forward a couple weeks. I at the time was in Japan on holidays with my girlfriend and a couple other friends. James had put up a story on instagram, where he was taking selfies at work with, you guessed it, Annie. I immediately responded asking whether I was right about them being good friends? He responded saying that she was cool and that they're super alike.

Fast forward again a couple weeks, and I come back from Japan, head back to work within a couple days and find out that their friendship has gotten to the point of workplace gossip as to say "are they dating?" My job consisted of a lot of walking around and making sure people were focused on doing their job. The way the our break system worked was one where you would stay on station, in which you would later be rotated by someone else to relief you to go on break. A couple days into working after my holiday, I noticed that some peoples breaks were delayed by long periods of time. This is to say that one or two people failed to go to the correct position or someone is walking extremely slow. After investigating the time sheets it was either James or Annie's sheet that would be super slow, so I confronted both of them individually. This is where the issues began. James apologised to me saying that it wouldn't happen again as he admitted that both of them would slow down and walk with each other to kill time. However Annie on the other hand lied to me and suggested that it was someone else.

Over the coming weeks they would become closer and the same situations would occur. I would write them up, and have several meetings with them. They were both extremely good workers however they became too distracted by each other. So we would put them on opposite sides of the park. James was fine with it, however you could physically tell that Annie was annoyed about this.

Soon they would begin dating and to me, this wasn't as favorable as what I thought it could've been. And I completely get it, new relationship, cloud 9, that's cool. The events that followed were not so cool and has really been the reason for this post/posts.

James and I would hang out a lot before uni started back up and before he was dating Annie. I wouldn't expect anything less than not seeing him as much with such an intense schedule. However it got to the point where when I asked him if he was able to hang out, he would repeatedly lie to me and say "I've got class" and then an hour later Annie would upload an instagram story of them having lunch together. Generally I could care less if you've already got plans, I respect someone who gives me a yes/no format truthfully. James would never lie to me ever about being busy or hanging out and after he started dating Annie it was like he was someone different from what I could see.

Around 2 months ago James had a family emergency and he was asked to go to the Philippines with his parents. After being there for over a week he messaged me and asked me to pick him up from the airport early in the morning. I said I would. He asked me if I could bring Annie on the trip to pick him up and I said that's fine, then proceeded to ask him if he'd like to go for lunch after or hang out after I picked him up to which he told me that once again he had class and that this time it was "compulsory". I believed him lol. So I picked him up dropped them both off at his house and went home. The next day I messaged him, asking him how class was, genuinely being interested. He told me that he didn't go because Annie asleep on his bed and he couldn't leave.

To say that I was calm in that situation would be a lie. After that I didn't speak to him for weeks, at least not properly. He knew I was angry and didn't bother to ask me why because it would've been "Too awkward".

this is pretty long. its gonna need a part 2

prob do tomorrow

sorry