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Wow you’re so right. 12 year old fujoshis think they’re going to look like twinks/chads on medically unnecessary HRT and don’t realize that their vaginas are going to painfully atrophy among many, MANY other things. Maybe that’s why children shouldn’t be allowed to transition. Thanks for pointing this out, blondie. You’re a real anti-trans icon.

How is this acceptable behavior? This has over 300k likes

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I don’t mean to downplay how traumatizing the body horror and health consequences of transitioning can be, but I think that she maybe just needs to start viewing her body more neutrally? There’s nothing wrong with being a girl with a deep voice. “For the first time in my life I’m happy to be a girl. And this is what I get.” “I feel like a circus freak.” There are women who are actually naturally mistaken for men for different ways they phenotypically present. That… doesn’t make them “circus freaks.”

This young girl transitioned for a month and then changed her mind (I’m presuming), but then she changed her mind again and started transitioning for three months, but then she changed her mind again and decided she wants her old voice back. Is she going to change her mind and transition again, and then change her mind again and again and again because she’s never happy with herself? I can understand crying about painful vaginal atrophy and heart problems and constant fatigue and pains. That tangibly affects your quality of life. But a male-sounding voice…? What’s wrong with that? Other women are just like you, and they didn’t willingly do that to themselves.

It’s just strange how trans people are never happy with themselves, but they don’t see that as the issue. It’s always something about their body that’s wrong. There is nothing wrong with your voice. I know this is harsh and belittling, but I am sorry to say that you are just shallowly obsessed with appearances. In my opinion.

This is what happens when people are allowed to transition with very little oversight. This girl is filled with regret and just wants her body to go back to the way it was.

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Something kind of funny is that I assumed “stacy” was referring to the far right-most person when he said “my sister (far right)”— which would be his sister’s husband. Clearly a male, but I thought that this was “stacy’s” trans “sister.” Maybe “she’s” “gender nonconforming” or maybe this is a photo of “her” before “she” “came out.” It wasn’t until I read past the first sentence that I realized he expected me to know that, since he said his “sister”, he expected me to assume he was talking about the woman on the far right— not just whoever is on the far right of the photo, be they female or male. Transgenders know that everyone can tell the difference between a woman and a male. They expect you to assume everyone’s gender based on their sex. Transgenders demand that women use incredibly neutral language where applicable to the point it obfuscates what they are trying to say, but they also expect women to be highly specific where applicable to the point that it is exhausting to try and say anything at all. This is an example of how transgenders refuse to do these things themselves, though they demand it from others but mostly just women. And this is an example of how, when you say “woman” or “mother” or “sister” etc, transgenders know exactly what you mean. You don’t have to say “person with a vagina” or “birthing person” or “AFAB sibling.” You can say “my sister (far right)” instead of “my sister (second person to the right).”

I saw this photo on my dash

And then this thread immediately under it

I think I know why those random lesbians and your family want nothing to do with you.

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Race is a social construct just as gender is. Women are people of the female sex— womanhood has nothing to do with gender— that is something that males imposed upon women. Sex is far more tangible than race is, but race is still tangible. Race can much more easily be called a spectrum than sex.

There are albino people of all races. They have white skin, so if race were defined by skin color, all albino people should be considered white. But you can tell if an albino person is black, white, Asian, Latino, etc. Same with vitiligo. People of all races can be born in Europe or Africa or Japan or Mexico or the United States etc. But a white person born in Brazil would still be recognized as white, not Latino. They might be passively referred to as European or even Anglo. So, race cannot be defined by nationality. A white person can get a dark tan and overline their lips and get lip fillers and perm their hair or wear a wig (Rachel Dolezal and Ariana Grande), but they’re still white. An Indian person can avoid the sun and bleach their skin and have a rhinoplasty, but they’re still Indian. Even if their surgeries and cosmetics are so effective that they actually “pass” as a different race, it’s all a lie, and they didn’t experience what it’s like to grow up like that. There are POC who are naturally “white passing,” and there are various demographics whose status as either POC or white people is constantly debated. Someone with both black and Asian heritage might be referred to as blasian, but someone with both black and white heritage is usually just referred to as.... black. A mixed raced POC with a fully white parent and a black parent might be referred to as a black person or a mixed race person but never a white person. There is some confusion over where people like Mariah Carrey and Logic fall. Very clearly white people like Elizabeth Warren will claim a minuscule amount of Native American ancestry, but, in this case, the one drop rule doesn’t apply.

There is no way to define race perfectly. Race is often very ambiguous. But that doesn’t mean we don’t know what it is. So how come there’s so much confusion about sex, which is far more easily observed and far more clearly defined? There are many races but only two sexes. There are only two gametes needed for making a baby— there is no third gamete or beyond, so there is no third sex or beyond. There are only disorders of these two sexes. But even these are usually very obviously defined. A male with XXY chromosomes, for example, is very obviously male. This is a disorder which can even often go undetected, which TRA’s, for some reason, suggest supports their movement. “You can’t tell what someone’s sex is just by looking at them.” Yes you can, almost always. An XXY male is still a male. There are very few expressions of intersex disorders which are difficult to categorize as male or female. The right of these people to determine their identities has nothing to do with trans activism but intersex activism. But if we are to say that the existence of these disorders means that either sex isn’t real or sex is a spectrum or you can’t tell someone’s sex just by looking at them, then I see no reason why we couldn’t say the same for race which is much more commonly ambiguous and uncategorizable and unobservable than sex. Why can’t Elizabeth Warren obtain a scholarship based on her minuscule Native American ancestry that she actually has whereas transwomen— which aren’t even intersex— are allowed to take scholarships away from actual women?

Wanting to be part of another demographic really really badly doesn’t mean any of us have to accept you as part of it even if it hurts your feelings and even if you don’t mean any offense by it. It’s very common for white people to pull out of their asses that they’re Native American, for example. White kids in grade school especially always used to say they’re Native American because their great great grandparent was or something. They didn’t mean any harm. They just thought that Native Americans are very cool actually because of Spirit and Pocahontas and, personally, my grade school made crafts including a headband made out of paper which we then glued a single feather onto... This can be offensive at most, but, at the end of the day, these lil six to eight year olds didn’t mean any harm, as far as I can tell. But it becomes harmful when white people try to take resources from the marginalized community they’re claiming to be a part of, such as in the case of Elizabeth Warren. It becomes harmful when white people masquerade as black people online to weaponize their supposed identity against others and act as figures of authority on matters that do not and cannot affect them. It’s the same with transwomen. In the beginning, most TERFs felt offended by transwomen but eventually gave into them thinking they don’t mean harm and they just want to express themselves— just like children who don’t know any better. But it’s when transwomen started trying to take resources away from women and speak over women that most TERFs realized they can’t be tolerant of such mockery. It wasn’t right in the first place, but you could have gotten away with it if you hadn’t started trying to materially harm women.

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Wanting to be part of another demographic really really badly doesn’t mean any of us have to accept you as part of it even if it hurts your feelings and even if you don’t mean any offense by it. It’s very common for white people to pull out of their asses that they’re Native American, for example. White kids in grade school especially always used to say they’re Native American because their great great grandparent was or something. They didn’t mean any harm. They just thought that Native Americans are very cool actually because of Spirit and Pocahontas and, personally, my grade school made crafts including a headband made out of paper which we then glued a single feather onto... This can be offensive at most, but, at the end of the day, these lil six to eight year olds didn’t mean any harm, as far as I can tell. But it becomes harmful when white people try to take resources from the marginalized community they’re claiming to be a part of, such as in the case of Elizabeth Warren. It becomes harmful when white people masquerade as black people online to weaponize their supposed identity against others and act as figures of authority on matters that do not and cannot affect them. It’s the same with transwomen. In the beginning, most TERFs felt offended by transwomen but eventually gave into them thinking they don’t mean harm and they just want to express themselves— just like children who don’t know any better. But it’s when transwomen started trying to take resources away from women and speak over women that most TERFs realized they can’t be tolerant of such mockery. It wasn’t right in the first place, but you could have gotten away with it if you hadn’t started trying to materially harm women.

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I’ve never understood the obsession with excluding female reproductive organs such as wombs and vaginas from being the central part of womanhood from TRA’s considering that is what transwomen are trying to emulate when they transition and because ur literally doing the same thing as the people you call oppressors because it was always been males that told women we had to look/act a certain way and they said it was innate to women (female people) even though they had to force this upon us through violence and constant indoctrination throughout childhood but it still wouldn’t work because women are not what males say we are and we’re not a hivemind and we’re so variable so it’s actually very freeing to see womanhood as an observable, material condition (being female) that has no bearing on who we are or what we’re allowed to do but now here you guys are saying we’re not allowed to be called “women” we have to call ourselves dehumanizing terms like “females” or “AFABs” or “people with vaginas” etc and at best you say that “woman” is undefinable but at worst each one of you defines “woman” as being a different set of stereotypes that males said/say are innate to women. The identity forced upon us and the experience of being considered innately feminine or inferior by virtue of being a woman (being female) is so limiting and distressing but the experience of actually being a woman (being female) is so multifaceted and so much deeper than whatever gender roles and limitations u associate solely with this experience I just don’t understand it. Trans white males (white transwomen) especially want to be oppressed so bad

I’ve never understood the obsession with wombs n vaginas as the central part of womanhood from radfems because ur literally doing the same thing as the people you call oppressors and the identity and experience around being considered a woman in our society is so multifaceted and so much deeper than whatever biology u associate solely with the experience I just don’t understand it. Cis white women especially want to be oppressed so bad

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Transwomen face misdirected misogyny if they pass or if someone perhaps mistakes them for a woman for a few seconds. Even when transwomen are mistaken for women, transwomen do not face the most devastating types of misogyny such as vaginal rape with a possibility of pregnancy, being fed less in childhood from the moment they were born, medicine not being made for them, lack of representation for their sex in governments, et cetera. Transmen don’t face transmisogyny, as that is a made up word— it’s not actually referring to misogyny. Transmisogyny simply refers to transphobia towards transwomen. Transphobia is not misogyny and is usually specifically about the fact that males do not pass as women (and thus are not affected even by misdirected misogyny). When a transwoman is mistaken for a woman and is treated accordingly, that is [misdirected] misogyny— not transmisogyny.

Transmen do not face transmisogyny because transmisogyny is transphobia toward males. Transmen face misogyny because they are female. Transmen experience the full extent of misogyny— not just surface-level things that passing transwomen can sometimes experience. Transmen may reduce the amount of misogyny they experience by passing and not being “out,” but certain aspects of misogyny are inescapable. There is no need for a new word for this (I have seen “transmisandry”/“transandrophobia”).

The transman in this screenshot is referring to misogyny. If she wanted an equivalent for transmisogyny, it would have to refer to things such as transmen being misgendered, being the subject of offensive caricatures, et cetera. I was going to add also the fact that transmen don’t get the same praise as transwomen or positions of authority on trans matters (or anything) or encouragement to participate in sports/enter male-dominated/male-only fields/organizations, et cetera, but I realized, again, that‘s just misogyny. She is misogyny-affected and transmisogyny-exempt. She can put ma/tme in her bio instead of just tme.

There is definitely a specific brand of transphobia that only affects transmen, and the fact that there is no word for this is misogyny. Women’s issues will always be belittled and ignored no matter how severe women’s issues are in comparison to males’. It is no different in the trans community.

I think ftms / trans identified females are starting to get it...

What do you think about this?

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Honestly trying to have meaningful discussions about misogyny that women directly face irt our bodies (period shaming, abortions, etc) and tims diminishing it was what ultimately caused me to peak so yeah I think this user is gonna peak eventually

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Our mothers’ heartbeat was the first tempo we ever heard or felt.

Absolutely despise hearing men sing now lol... 100% they did not originate it first of all. The first mother's cooing that evolved into singing lullabies to her young to relax them is the mother of music. Men just mimicking women and doing it poorly once again.

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a man that dresses up as an offensive caricature of a woman also happens to be racist. surprise surprise. transgenderism isn’t exactly a progressive concept. any transgender individual is likely to be similarly regressive on concepts beyond just sexism.

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1. Oh, I know. So many well-meaning gender folks call me he/him and they/them when they first meet me. You all think that since I’m gnc, I must hate being a woman. The more obnoxious gender folks continue to they/them me after I tell them that “my pronouns” are she/her (while they continue to call more feminine women she/her). It’s really hard for you guys to believe that I’m not trans. Maybe one day you will be expected to accommodate others’ beliefs and “identities” as much as everyone else accommodates yours.

2. I’m not cis. I don’t remember when I called myself cis for the first time, but I know I spent years doing it, despite it never sitting right with me, in order to accommodate others.

3. I don’t “feel” like a girl. Granted, I’m not a girl. I’m a woman. But I don’t “feel” like a woman either. You’re very close to getting the point. It is only my body that makes me a woman, just like it is only my hair that makes me a brunette. There is no “feeling” like a blonde. I’m not a blonde even if I put on a blonde wig. I’m a brunette even when my hair is shaved down to the skin…. I’m also still a woman even when my hair is shaved down to the skin. I can’t believe I have to spell that out for you guys (it’s so funny how you all treat me like a woman even when you pretend to think I’m not one, though!).

4. Yes. Is this really a question you’ve gotten? Strange, considering you never will have one. Why would someone even ask you this? Please don’t refer to any rancid thing you have surgically-created as a “vagina.”

5. 5th grade. It was an unfortunate time. I had to start wearing a tight, constricting training bra. You will never understand what it’s like to be sexualized and to be socially expected to forgo so much physical comfort all day from such a young age.

6. Once again, I am not a cisgender woman. But, yes, thanks to your sex, this world is dangerous for real women— whether they identify as “cis” or not. It is remarkable that women are such good people and have achieved so much after being tortured and actively sabotaged for so long. I can see why you want to be one, but it is an insult to women that you call yourself one. You are unremarkable. If you’re a “woman,” then “women” aren’t remarkable anymore. 🤷‍♀️ You can change the definition of the word, “woman.” You can’t become what it actually means. If we cede to your definition of the word, “woman,” and we find another word to describe what we are, you will just want that word to include you, too. It’s not about the word, is it? It’s not about the obsessive validation and inclusion. You want to be one of us, but you never will be. You will never be satisfied with any accommodations. You will always be reaching for something more. I am not a cis woman. I am not trans, either. I am a woman. I am a woman even if you don’t call me one. You are not a woman even if everyone calls you one. You know this.

If these were the most “invasive,” “private” questions I ever received from your sex…. well, I would feel a lot safer and happier. This reversal has no shock value for me because there is nothing more shocking than being treated like an actual woman.

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If transgenders were really oppressed, wouldn’t liberals be SCARED to put transwomen in women’s prisons?? Like, imagine throwing only 3 vulnerable people in with HUNDREDS of people who hate them and don’t want them to be there. What do you think would happen? Those three people would get the SHIT beaten out of them!!! Liberals say that real women make transwomen ~so unsafe~ but we know that’s not the reality because you want to send transwomen to women’s prisons where they’ll be vastly outnumbered lmao. If women make transwomen feel unsafe, why don’t transwomen want their own, separate space?

The reality is, transwomen will be safe in women’s prisons even though most of the women don’t want them there. Of course transwomen are unbothered by the notion of being outnumbered. Everyone knows that males are depraved and make women unsafe regardless of how they identify. Everyone knows that women are overall just better people. Women don’t pose a danger simply because they’re not fucking evil. Liberals are willing to put transwomen in women’s prisons because they are so incredibly privileged in that they will never imagine themselves being a woman trapped in a women's prison. There are the male liberals that obviously don't care about women's safety because they’re not women, and there are the female liberals who are so well off that they don't think they'll ever go to prison, and they're probably right. They get woke points for being willing to sacrifice and traumatize the most vulnerable and marginalized women in our society. They will never pay the price for the policies they support.

Don’t reblog, please, because I don’t want this account getting attention. I just want to vent to my fellow women— I don’t need brain rot in my notifs. But feel free to screenshot and repost or plagiarize or write in your own words on your own blog lol.

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Male nurse, of course, who blamed witnesses for what he did and continues to be employed despite lack of insight. 

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"no matter who I kiss, it’s gay."

being gay is just a fun club. it doesn't mean anything. no matter what you do, you're gay. 🙃

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It's such a crime against humanity that males are allowed to be employed at women's prisons.

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reblog this if you support gay marriage

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The Sasha White situation rly blows my mind.

You can’t fire Christians for their beliefs— no matter how horrifying. The Bible says that women were punished with the pain of childbirth for defying the Christian god. The Bible says that a woman is the property of either her father or her husband. The Bible says that a woman who doesn’t fight or scream enough while being raped should be stoned to death. In that same verse, it says that the rapist should be stoned to death ONLY because he “violated another man’s wife.” At the very beginning of the Bible, Lot meets two angels. A mob demands they be brought out so they can rape the angels. Instead, Lot offers his two virgin daughters to be raped, and he is considered a Good Man™️ for that. The Bible says that Ham’s descendants were cursed with black skin and condemned to servitude for his sin. Say all you want about mistranslations of the Bible, but many Christians at least interpret the Bible as saying that marriage is between a male and a woman ONLY and that gay sex is a sin.

Christians can believe all of this shit. They can believe that women are inferior and meant to serve, they can believe that black skin is a condemnation to slavery, they can believe that homosexuality is wrong— even disgusting. They can put Bible verses in their social media bios and walk around saying “God bless you.” Even though Christianity cannot be separate from misogyny, racism, and homophobia, you still cannot fire a Christian for holding these beliefs. You can only fire a Christian if they are explicitly racist or sexist to a colleague— enough so to defend the termination in court. You cannot fire them for anything they say about the role of women or Black people within society. You cannot fire them for expressing their views about homosexuality on their OWN, personal social media. No matter how uncomfortable it is for me to work with someone that considers me inferior— unworthy of basic human rights— you cannot fire someone for their personal beliefs.

How fucking dare anyone fire a woman for not believing a male’s idea of what a woman is? How fucking dare anyone fire a woman for not respecting they/them pronouns on her OWN, personal time?? How come Christians get to waltz around, believing the most bigoted shit? Why isn’t a belief in gender considered just as optional as a belief in the Bible? Why isn’t a disbelief in gender just as protected as atheism?

The absolute audacity of transgenders to think that they are oppressed because not everyone believes in their precious, little ~gender identities~ and pronouns. I don’t get to force others to believe that the rape of a woman who was too scared to/couldn’t scream is wrong. I don’t get to force others to think that rape MATTERS. I don’t get to force others to believe that I’m a person. I don’t get to force others to believe that I don’t exist to serve males. I don’t get to force others to believe that women aren’t inferior. I don’t get to force others to believe that women should have the right to bodily autonomy. I live in a pretty conservative town, so I have to constantly deal with the fact that a lot of folks around me think that I’m worthless in some way. I have to deal with the fact that my colleagues see me as inherently weak and less competent. That’s a HELL of a lot worse than simply not having my damn ~gender~ respected.

It’s one thing if someone is threatening violence against transgenders (that is not a protected form of speech), but simply not believing that a male is a woman?? holy shit. I theorize that all of this is a byproduct of internet culture. You spend all of your time online where you write “TERFS & TRUSCUM DNI” in your bios. You think that it’s your human right to never have to meet anyone who doesn’t believe in gender or anyone who believes that you need dysphoria in order to be trans. When you have to work with someone who expresses opinions you don’t like when you aren’t even at work, you think that your god-given right to “boundaries” has been violated. It’s just proof that most of you have no real problems.

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Here’s a little convo I had on a post I made about how a disbelief in gender should be just as protected by the law as a belief in gender, just like atheism should be just as protected as Christianity. Like Christians, gender-believers shouldn’t be able to make laws based on their belief because these laws would affect nonbelievers, too. Like Christians, gender-believers shouldn’t have the right to discriminate against nonbelievers when it comes to things like employment.

The conversation didn’t go anywhere because they didn’t respond after that (I'm def not going to complain bc this account is for me to vent-- not discourse or debate), but I just think it’s nice to showcase a productive conversation. Radfem tumblr is full of screenshots of the worst of the worst TRA’s, and the TRA’s tweeting about Sasha White rn are completely menacing and dishonest. It’s refreshing to see even a short-lived conversation in which each side had clearly set (and respected) boundaries. :/