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→ journal out who you want to be in 2025:

1. What does she look like? (Physical appearance, style)
2. How does she dress on a typical day?
3. What does she like ?
4. What doesn't she like?
5. What is her behavior like in different situations?
6. (Social interactions, demeanor)
7. How does she prefer to be treated by others? (Expectations from relationships)
8. How does she treat people around her? (Interpersonal relationships, kindness)
9. What does her daily routine entail? (Activities, schedule)
10. At what time does she usually go to bed? (Sleeping habits)
11. When does she wake up in the morning? (Morning routine)
12. What are her hobbies and interests? (Leisure activities)
13. What is her profession or occupation? (Career, job responsibilities)
14. What are her long-term goals and aspirations? (Career ambitions, personal achievements)
15. How does she handle stress or challenges? (Coping mechanisms, problem-solving approach)
16. What type of books does she enjoy? (Cultural preferences)
17. How does she maintain her physical and mental well-being? (Health and self-care routines)
18. Does she have any specific dietary preferences or restrictions? (Food choices)
19. Who are her closest friends, and what are her relationships like with them?(Friendship dynamics)
20. How does she navigate conflicts or disagreements? (Communication style, conflict resolution)
21. What values and principles guide her decision-making? (Personal ethics)
22. How does she spend her leisure time on weekends? (Weekend activities, relaxation methods)
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8 Rules for Self-Respect


Keep your standards high. For yourself, your relationships, your career, and everything. Don't settle for less; know your worth. <3
Don't tolerate people who put you down, lie to you, or try to take advantage of you. The more you allow people to mistreat you, the less they will respect you. Stand up for yourself!!
Don't chase. What belongs to you will find you, and the people who care for you will stay by your side. So don't make a fool out of yourself by chasing something that's running away from you.
No more people pleasing. Learn to say "no". You don't have to apologise or explain yourself; saying no is completely fine.
Figure out which people in your circle make you feel good and who is draining your energy. Don't surround yourself with those who waste your energy.
Take care of yourself. How are you going to be confident and respect yourself if you don't care for yourself?? Invest time, energy, discipline, money and love into becoming the best version of yourself. <3
Be mindful and selective of who you trust. Don't take criticism from people who you wouldn't take advice from.
Your boundaries are non-negotiable. Boundaries are about how you respect yourself. If someone oversteps them, cut them off!
2025 is our year of self-growth, what better place to start than setting boundaries and learning to respect ourselves?
✩‧₊*:・love ya ・:*₊‧✩
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my pre ‘25; 1 month glow up ✶

SOCIAL
-Review your social relationship satisfaction.
-Spend time with people you love.
-Practice better communication & listening skills.
-Set boundaries to protect your mental health.
-Join a community in person or online to connect with like-minded people.
PRIORITIES
-What is of highest priority to you as of right now? Make a list of your priorities.
-What requires your focus?
FINANCIAL
-Review your Spending habits.
-Start budgeting. Use 50-30-20 budgeting rule.
-Start saving money to an emergency fund.
-Make a plan to pay off any debts.
DECLUTTER
-Clean up your living space so that your environment can bring you calm instead of chaos.
-Declutter areas that are needed.
-Declutter your social media feed.
-Unfollow those who don't bring any value or make you compare and feel bad about yourself.
IDENTIFY STRESSORS
-Make a list of what brings you the most stress?
-Identify your capacity/energy to deal with these stressors right now.
-Take responsibility, believe that you are one step at a time creating a life where you have it all together.
ROUTINES
-Routines help keep you focused. Create a morning and night routine to keep you in check.
-Check-in with yourself daily: How am I feeling? How does my body feel? What do I need right now?
SELF CARE
-Take care of your basic needs: hydration, enough food, enough sleep, and social connection.
-Develop a self-care activity list and pick and plan daily self-care activities in your calendar.
- Identify your needs and try your nest to meet them.
FIND BALANCE
-Focus on Gratitude.
-Focus on balancing your nervous system.
-Develop a daily or weekly spiritual practice.
-Practice meditation.
NEW DIRECTION
-Focus on the new direction your life is heading. Journal or script out your future as you would like it. What does it look like when you have your life together?
-Invest in learning new skills relevant to your career and interests.
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Start planning 2025
Make a list of all the emotions you want to feel at the end of 2025.
Now work backwards and write down all the tasks you need to do in order to feel that way.
Make a separate list of all the “gaps” - what do you currently not have in order to do those tasks to make you feel the way you want?
And lastly, write down how you can fill those gaps. Do you need a gym membership to become fit to feel good about your yourself? Do you need to learn how to cook better meals in order to feel healthy and energised? Do you need to start applying to jobs, in order to secure one, in order to feel financially safe? Do you need to buy an old school alarm clock that’s going to wake up your entire apartment building in order to wake up early? what do you need to DO?
also, make a list of all the things that worked out for you in 2024. Learn to celebrate and appreciate, even the smallest of wins.
For the next two months start the trial and error process of this program. Let’s say you decide that you want to work out 7 days a week in order to feel good about your body. Now halfway through November you realise that 7 days is probably too much, and 5 days would be better for your schedule. Or you decide to read 3 books a week, but realistically, maybe a chapter a day is better.
November and December are your trial months. By the time January starts, be ready with a program that is built for you, works for you, and can be completed by you.
Don’t forget about keeping a reward mechanism. If you complete your daily tasks for 1 month straight, buy that little purse you were eyeing, or take yourself to a spa. Reward yourself in ways you like so that :
a) you’re not in an endless cycle of never being satisfied
b) you don’t drop everything for a man or a friend who shows you the slightest bit of affection because you won’t show it to yourself
c) it encourages you to work harder for yourself.
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25 Questions for a Fresh Start
Reflect and take the next step toward your goals!


1. What are my top three priorities for 2025?
2. What is one habit I want to create this year?
3. What personal qualities do I want to develop?
4. What will success look like for me in 2025?
5. What is one bold goal I've been hesitant to pursue?
6. How will I take care of my mental and physical health this year?
7. What do I need to let go of to move forward?
8. Who in my life supports my growth and goals?
9. How can I add more joy and fun to my daily life?
10. What financial goal do I want to achieve by the end of the year?
I1. What new skill will I commit to learning in 2025?
12. How will I organize my time to stay productive and balanced?
14. How will i track my progress and celebrate small wins?
15. What does my ideal work-life balance look like?
16. What experiences or adventures do I want to have in 2025?
17. How can I be more present and mindful in my daily routine?
18. What will I stop doing that no longer serves me?
19. What is one relationship I want to improve this year?
20. How can I contribute more to my community or causes I care about?
21. What are three books I want to read for self-growth?
22. What limiting belief do I need to challenge and overcome in 2025?
23. How will I make time for rest and self-care throughout the year?
24. What is one risk I'm willing to take for personal growth?
25. What legacy do I want to build or continue this year?
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Back
No long stories or things to share about my absence. Simply back :)
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Can you give me the run down on where i can find a guy to pay for my plastic surgery and how can I ask, Sunday I’m going to this Greek event thing and I have no idea how to pick the men out what should I do?
This is a bit of a low effort question. What are you doing to become the best version of yourself?
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I was really out here cussing the girls out for dumb behavior
So about SA and these dumb little girls…
I decided this lovely Monday morning to make a Daddy profile and see what people are putting on their profiles and up as pictures and let me tell you… I don’t feel bad for you bitches anymore. Like if you get taken advantage of, of fucking well, because veterans are literally TELLING you how to cultivate a proper profile and interact with these men!!!
Why are you posting pictures in your dorm rooms with your ass hanging out? Why are you talking about some “online arrangements only”? Why are you having a minimal budget and saying in your profile that you’re new at this? And if I see another girl talk about “oh I’m platonic I’m gonna lose my mind.” THIS SHIT IS SEX WORK. Giving a blowjob, a handjob, penetration of any sort IS SEX. You aren’t going to get the amounts of money we get by just sitting there looking pretty and talking about your dog Rocko.
You little girls put up these profiles thinking you’re going to meet some rich man with a bunch of bullshit on your profile, and then wonder why you’re getting scammed? And why men are draining YOUR accounts and having FREE SEX with you? Then you have the audacity to whine about it on anon talking about “oh I don’t know what happened he seemed so real”.
You all are really some dummies and need to stop trying to sugar. It really isn’t for everyone.
#spoiled heaux#askdls#black sugar baby#brown sugar bowl#sugar bowl#black tumblr#melanin poppin#black luxury#black girl beauty
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