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by Olesya Nabieva

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SEX-ED GUIDE, VIDEO SELECTION

Because the popular one going around since 2014 that's got 630,000 notes is full of broken links

Educational videos with Sexplanations/Dr. Lindsey Doe (also on Tumblr @tumblingdoe ), and Watts the Safeword + a couple of other sources.

GENITALIA

The Penis

Does Size Matter?

Curved Penises

Testicles

Can a Penis Break?

Vulvas and Vaginas

Hymen

Vaginismus 101

The Clitoris

37 Clitoris' (YouTube video contains images of human genitals in an educational context)

Vaginal Orgasms?

Kegals

HYGIENE

Vagina and Vulva Hygiene

Does My Dentist Know if I've Given Head

Butthole Maintainance

NON SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED INFECTIONS

Bacterial Vaginosis 101

Yeast Infections 101

Urinary Tract Infections

SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED INFECTIONS

STIs (and puppy pictures)

HIV FAQ

PrEP

Lindsey Takes an HIV Test (no needles)

What is Herpes?

CONSENT

What is Consent

How to NOT Rape (consent 101/what is rape)

Saying No

Sexual Negotiation

Age of Consent

Consent and Kink - Watts the Safeword

DISABILITY AND SEXUALITY

Sex and Disabilities - Watts the Safeword

Disability and sex Dr. Doe

(Sex)abled: Disability Uncensored - Health Equity Institute

The Last Taboo: Sexuality and Disability Documentary

LGBTQIA+

Gender Affirming Surgeries

A Trans History

Questioning

Bisexual Erasure

Lesbian Flirting

Demisexuality

5 asexuality experiences

Polyamory, Asexuality, Nonbinary Journey: Interview

How Do I Know That I'm Intersex

RELATIONSHIPS

Monogamy with Hank Green

Polyamory

Polyam Lingo

Mismatched Sex Drives

Friends With Benefits

How to Date Long Distance

Finding a Partner

BARRIERS

Sex Shields

Condom Time - let's play

How to Put a Condom on an Intact Penis

More on Condoms

Internal Condoms

Boners vs Condoms - erection trouble?

CONTRACEPTION

Pregnancy Prevention

Choosing Birth Control

Emergency Contraception - Plan B, Morning After, Copper IUD

Does Pulling Out Work?

HAVING SEX

How to Get the Sex You Want

Sex and Autism

Orgasmic Sex Positions

First Time Tips

Fingering

Squirting

Anal Sex Prep

Anal Sex

Prostate Massage

Cunnilingus

Felatio

Analingus

Pegging

Transgender Sex

SEX TOYS

Toy Cleaning Experiment

Sex Toys 101

Vibrator Guide

DIY Sex Toys

DIY Dildos

DIY Fake Semen

Cock Rings

Clit Stimulators

KINK

Consent and Kink - Watts the Safeword

Aftercare - Watts The Safeword

Large Object Insertion

Kinky Red Flags - Watts the Safeword

Bondage 101

Trans and Kink - Watts the Safeword

Rubber Kink 101 - Watts the Safeword

Chastity for Beginners - Watts the Safeword

Pup Play for beginners - Watts the Safeword

Breathplay for Beginners - Watts the Safeword

Erotic Asphyxiation

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i keep seeing misinformation about this, so: queerplatonic relationships do not have a set definition. the name comes from the idea that it's "queering" the platonic relationship, tailoring it to the individual relationships' own desires. it isn't necessarily romance lite, but it also isn't necessarily whatever definition you want to impose on it. the point of queering the platonic relationship is to break away from strict allonormative views on friendship, romance, and sex, not to make a new categorical box to fit in.

the answer to "what is a qpr?" is "whatever you want it to be." sometimes that is romance lite. sometimes it's a deeply committed friendship. sometimes it's friends who have a sexual relationship. sometimes it's based on an entirely different mode of attraction. sometimes it's fluid and impossible to put into words. it's whatever you want it to be. it's queer.

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Your daily reminder that pan, ply, omni and bi are all good labels that can co-exist and no one gets to tell you which one to use, if any at all

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when I was 14 I wrote a paper about myself using male pronouns I’d never heard of a trans person but before I turned it in my parents made sure I remembered to make myself into a girl

matthew shepard had died only a handful of years before

a year ago I woke up to the news that a nightclub 32 minutes from my home had been destroyed and that 50 people were dead it was sunday and I had a queer date scheduled for later that afternoon neither of us wanted to go

people told us to stop politicizing it it could have happened anywhere

this weekend when I told my doctor I had been cut off from my family because I had told them I was trans

when I told her that they didn’t want me anymore that the nephew who I had held when he was born before anyone (even his mother) (the doctor passed him to me first) (bloody and screaming) couldn’t see me because doing so would damage him irreparably she said: ‘yeah, we hear this story a lot’

she had transitioned 20 years prior I could tell by looking at her face - she hadn’t just heard it

today, at 2pm my mom called me at work to tell me she knew why I had no money (it was because I’d used everything I had) (on the treatments that would turn me into a freak)

it wasn’t true but I pounded on the wall of the bathroom for five minutes straight after that wondering when she’d stopped loving me

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and they say queer people are angry.

(I say we’re not nearly angry enough)

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Still trying to come to terms with the fact I’ll never be a librarian who can speak a dead language and be recruited by a ruggish but handsome explorer for a quest to lift the curse and save the world

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and its free

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Just like Slughorn, Albus Dumbledore collects people. Only, instead of focusing on those with influence, he looks to the outcasts.

The expelled half-giant. The young werewolf. The repentant Death Eater.

He protects them and gives them a second chance. All he asks in return is their loyalty.

And, if on occasion he requests that they undertake a certain task, invoking their debt of gratitude - well, that is no more than he is owed.

He once thought to add a certain disowned Black to his collection, but quickly realised his mistake.

Sirius is not an outcast, but a rebel. He knowingly chose his path, and chooses what price he is willing to pay for it. He refuses to be used.

So Albus Dumbledore abandons him.

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ASIAAAA!!!! I saw this tiktok earlier and immediately thought of you I am crying!!! I hope you're well ily!

STOPPPP I AM LOSING IT 😭😭😭

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my entire life changed when my dentist told me that the only time my teeth should be touching is when i’m chewing. every single time my teeth are touching i have to separate them. and i noticed that i clench my teeth a LOT.

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