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I think that it's really important for people to realize that being disabled is traumatic. genuinely. your body and brain feel like they are breaking down and wrong. you are in constant heavy stress from stuff like chronic pain. most disabled people i know have a somewhat regular emotional break down from the trauma of it all. and we are expected to just smile through it by society, to not be in the way, to not be an issue.

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Shout out to the autistic who’s abilities have regressed as they’ve gotten older.

“You didn’t used to be like this when you were a kid.” I know please don’t remind me

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hello to my fellow cluster b folks! happy disability pride month to narcissists, borderlines, histrionics and antisocials! your struggles are real and i see you. i wish you a month of hope and healing and wellness.

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Anyway this disability pride month I would like to shoutout disabled folks whose creativity has suffered because of their condition. I’m talking people with hand tremors and pain that stop them from drawing, knitting, and playing instruments. People whose thinking has become so disorganized that nothing they write makes sense to other people. People with chronic pain who can no longer dance. People so over medicated in a fruitless attempt to maintain stability that the wells of their imagination have run dry.

I see you and I love you. You are more than your creative output. You are not a shell of what you used to be. You are a whole, complete person, regardless of what your creativity has been, is now, or will be in the future.

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Like "go exercise, you'll feel so much better once you move your body" doesn't apply to a lot of physically disabled people. And "just force yourself to socialize, you will have fun once you're there" doesn't apply to a lot of autistic people. And "your intuition will always tell you the truth" doesn't apply to a lot of psychotic people. And so on. And I'm not saying that this means that you can't or shouldn't promote these things, but they aren't universal solutions for everyone

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If you tell someone directly "that behavior makes me uncomfortable, please stop doing that to/around me" and the person keeps doing it and anyone tries to excuse it with "they're autistic, they can't help that they're bad at social clues", know that it's bullshit. Once you have verbally articulated a boundary directly to someone's face it is no longer a complex social clue, it's a direct request. And you don't get to ignore direct communication of boundaries because you're autistic.

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healing involves a lot more grieving than you’d expect. progress hurts. you’re moving on from things that happened but also things you wished would happen and never did. mourning does not mean you are not getting better.

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If you are super duper tired and need rest, but don’t know why, I’m here to tell you that it can be really good to know why, but you don’t need to know why in order to listen to what your body needs. Please rest and go easy on yourself. 🌸

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Too mentally ill to be “normal,” too good at faking functionality for people to take my issues seriously.

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Just because you gained weight doesn't mean you've lost value. Just because you're disabled doesn't mean you've lost value. We're all perfect how we are, and just need to learn how to accept ourselves.

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A drawing of a person from the side, they are taking their fingers through their hair, wearing a green bra, underwear, and socks; the bra having a green sheer fabric that covers up their stomach and back, but it's still possible to see the person's belly fat and back rolls. There is text that says "sometimes we gain weight because of our disabilities" above the person, and "and that's okay" below them.

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It can be scary for some of us to feel angry at someone because some of our trauma came from other people’s anger. This is a reminder that you aren’t the people who hurt you. And you aren’t a bad person if you feel angry.

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‘how do you expect people who have been abused by someone with NPD to refer to their abuse then?’

by calling it what it is: emotional abuse.

it’s not difficult.

slapping the word ‘narcissistic’ on the front of abuse is blindly assigning blame and associating the abusive behaviours with NPD, despite the fact that nowhere in the criteria does it state any abusive behaviours as a symptom.

i understand that people who are severely mentally unwell are more prone to abusing others, however to point the blame at a disorder (and therefore at everyone with the disorder) is ableist, irresponsible and grossly misinformed.

to put it into perspective as to how bad the stigma surrounding NPD is, i have been diagnosed with NPD and have been told i should be killed because of it, that i will inevitably abuse my partners i have had, i’ve had partners in the past be harassed by people saying that it’s ‘just a matter of time’ before i abuse them without any of these people ever even knowing me. i see endless amounts of things online calling all narcissists evil, as well as having my own experiences with abuse disregarded because they do not believe someone with NPD could be anything other than a perpetrator, despite the fact NPD is induced by trauma. the list goes on.

your choice of wording does matter and it does damage people with NPD.

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hey btw u arent a mental health advocate if you use the term narcissist to describe people who were mean to you.

can narcs be abusers? yes.

can their symptoms be a driving force in their abusive behaviors? yes.

however it is absolutely unnacceptable and stigmatizing to further push the association that a TRAUMA disorder is inherently abusive.

i have worked so hard, and i am working so hard, to cope with my npd. i have improved a lot, and healed a lot, and still have a long way to go.

it hurts more than anything to hear my own friends call bad people narcissists solely because they're bad people.

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Extra love today to Autistic people who:

Can't drive

Struggle with shopping

Struggle with cleaning

Need help with simple tasks sometimes (or frequently)

Cannot follow directions that are simple for others

Noticeably lack motor skills

Have interests or hobbies associated with children

Stim in noticeably out of the ordinary ways and can't mask it

Have learning disabilities.