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How Insights Discovery Can Entail Your Self to Understand People Around You.

Have you ever lacked off when you met someone at the very first time ?

Or even have you ever thought why I cant get closer with the one who i want to?

Or why I and those persons cant be as good as I expected ?

Maybe this part presumably could change your self to understand people around you, and get a better understanding of your self and other around through the concept that I would like to share to you.

Insight Descovery is a fantastic tool that can help you understand your own behavior as well as that of others. Aside of extrovert & introvert, concepts that was being developed by Carl Jung, that focus on what we see people’s habit from the outside, insight discover are combining the concept extrovert & introvert with another side that we can barely see with our eyes, while this concept will give us the knowledge of 4 quadrants, red yellow green and blue. You need to fill like online test for several question about yourself.

Here are 4 quadrans :

1. Red People (the extravert thinkers)

Those with a lot of fiery red energy are very direct and to the point, they have a need to get things done and quickly! Their high standards can feel very demanding for those around them who don't have so much fiery red energy. Actions, results and tangible things are often what fiery red people use to measure success. When communicating with someone with fiery red energy my advice is to get to the point quickly: be brief, be bright, be gone.

To get the best out of those with fiery red energy do:

Be direct and to the point

Focus on results and objectives

Be brief, be bright, be gone

Often more importantly, don't:

Hesitate or waffle

Focus on feeling

Try to take control of the situation

2. Yellow people (The extravert feelers)

Compared to red people, they are more personally involved in the decisions they take and are good in motivating others. Their motto is: Let’s do it together, and on a good day they know how to motivate others with their enthusiasm. They are life's bubbly and sociable people who love to verbalise their thought processes. Those with a lot of sunshine yellow energy get a buzz by being around and working with others. When those with a lot of sunshine yellow energy are left out of the equation or to work in isolation for long periods is when you will see sunshine yellow demotivated.

To get the best out of those with sunshine yellow energy do:

Involve the individual in decision making

Be open and flexible

Be entertaining and fun in your approach

Often more importantly, don't:

Bore the individual with too many details

Tie me down to routine where I can use my creativity

Leave me out of the picture

3. Green people (introvert feelers)

They strive in an informal setting and they are the colleagues that make sure relationships between team members are ok. Their motto is: Let’s do it with care, and on a good day, they are patient, relaxed, encouraging and like to share information.

Those with earth green energy show up as caring, encouraging and patient individuals and make great team players and friends. Often the advice givers and sounding boards of this world because of their want to listen and help. However, on a bad day or asked to do something that you don't agree with, earth green energy can show up in a very indecisive and stubborn way. Values are so important to those with earth green energy and their moral compass is always pointing due north.

To get the best out of those with earth green energy do:

Be patient and supportive

Slow down and work at my pace

Ask my opinion and give me time to answer

Often more importantly, don't:

Take advantage of my good nature and pile the work on

Push me to make quick decisions

Throw me into an unexpected situation

4. Blue people (introverts thinkers)

They are strong in following processes and standards, and are usually strong in analytics, having an eye for the details. Their motto is: Let’s do it correct, and on a good day, blue people are formal, precise, careful and ask a lot of questions.

Blue people experience stress when they think bad work is going to be delivered, information is missing or when tasks are being rushed. They respond to this stress by keeping on asking more questions, what can lead to discussions about a lot of minor details. The help a blue person getting out of the stressful situation, it is important to ask him or her for advice, and offer emotional support.

To get the best out of those with cool blue energy do:

Be well prepared and thorough

Put things in writing (email follow up works great)

Let the individual consider the details of what you are saying

Often more importantly, don't:

Go off on a tangent

Invade my personal space, or hug me if you don't know me well

Dismiss important issues of the person because they aren't top of your agenda

The best thing about these four colors is that THERE IS NOT ONE COLOR BETTER THAN THE OTHER and the best teams even have all of the colors represented. Knowing what your preferred way of working is, and the preferred way of your colleagues, can help you improve your team work. More interestingly, most people are not 100% one color, as both axes can be seen as a spectrum on which you can move from completely left to completely right. However, most people do have one dominant preferred color.

The four personality colors described by Insights Discovery are a great first step in analyzing our personal preferences. It is however also possible to dive a level deeper. Each quadrant can be split into two smaller pieces, resulting in 8 different pieces all together. Red, for instance, can be split in a part that is more blue, and a part that is more yellow.

“So from overall explanation, look at people around you and try to understand what colors they are whether it is fiery red, blue, green, and what combinations they are, and hopefully it can help you to make it closer with the one you want, aiming to have good friends, and be aimable for people around you 😊”

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Cream Shrimp Fetuccini

A favorite europe menu #1

Bahan bahan

- Fetucini

- Susu Cair

- Udang

- Cangkang Udang

- Oregano

- Parsley

- Lada

- Knorr cheese powder

- Knorr chicken seasing powder (KCP)

- Bawang bombay

Lanjuut :

1. Tumis bawang bombay dengan margarin

2. Kukus cangkang udang, tiriskan cangkang ambil sarinya.

3. Masukkan fetucini bersama sari udang

4. Campur susu cair bersama fetucini (porsinya 2:1)

5. Campur knorr keju powder + tomat sauce

6. Masukkan oregano, lada

7. Masukin garam + KCP

8. Masukin udang

9. Adjust rasa

10. Platting deh :)

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ditaarcanggi · 4 years

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#BookReview (1 of 50) - Wonder RJ Palacio.

I have just finished a fantastic book.

I am so happy to be talking about Wonder by RJ Palacio,

It is technically children book, but it doesn’t really real like usual children book.

It will be pretty sure it is going to be spoiler but it is okay as long as you can take a learning from it.

This book follows a ten year old boy named August Pullman, who was born with very a rare genetic condition that cause him to have a major facial deformity, he had many different surgeries over the years, he said 27 different surgeries in the face and he is still left not looking like a normal little boy because of all of these different surgeries,

He hasn’t been able to go to the regular school and he has been homeschooled by his mom.

One day his mom realized that she should deliver him in a regular school and to make him adapted and having many friends, the question was why his mom was so confident because she knew her son was capable enough to adapt, but his mom realized it wasn’t easy.

His mom try to convince him that he should be okay!

Aside of that : August Pullman was

a) extremely smart

b) Like normal boy inside like any other regular 10 years old boy

a. He loves starwars

b. Playing video game

c. Like a little nerd

d. Really loves science

He realize he look so different, so people make all of these snap judgements.

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When the first day of the school he was very nervous all people were stared on him.

And guest what he felt on the first day school was.

He did get bullied a lot of time due to his face surgery ☹

He tried to get to see what he has to deal with day by today

n He had eaten in canteen alone

n He had studied alone

In this book, we let us know the point of view of all the family members from

Mother, Father , Sister and they are very supportive.

He believe if there are choices to be right and to be kind please choose kind.

When people get bullied him :

- he was still be a good student

- he was trying the best in every single subject that made him number one in the class

- he still kept smile whatever conditions went on.

He chose kind.

All those kindness extremely made him more popular. Almost everyone has at last warmed up to him and wants to be his friends. In the end of the year, Auggie wins a special award for courage and kindness. He realizes how far he has come since the beginning of school, and he now has a solid group of friends and feels comfortable with who he is.

The most important part of the novel was when the headmaster announce who will be getting the winner of Becheer Prep Schol for the courage and All the best winner already mentioned and all winners were Auggie friends

- Charlotte wons music

- Amos won in sports

- Ximena won the overall academic excellence

And Mr. Tushman’s speech was very meant

“Ladies and Gentlemen , I am very honored to present you this years Beecher Prep School scholastic Achievers, Congratulations to all of you! The final award this morning is the Henry Ward Beecher Medal to honor students who have been notable or exemplary in a certain areas through out the school year. Typically. This medal has been our way of acknowledging volunteerism or service to the school. Henry Ward Beecher was, of course, the nineteenth century abolotionist – fiery sermonizer for human rights- after whom this school was named, while reading up on his life in preparation for this award, I came upon a passage that he wrote that seemed particularly ruminating upon all year long.Not just the nature of kindness , but the nature of one’s kindness. The power of one’s friendship, the test of one’s character, the strength of one’s courage”

Mr Tushman’ voice cracked abit, like he got all choked up. He actually cleared his throat and took a big sip of water , and Augie started paying attention for real now to what he was saying

And Mr. Tushman continued his speech “ The strength of one’s courage, kindness, friendship, and character. These are the qualities that define us as human beings, and propel us , on occasion, to greatness. And this is what the Henry Ward Beecher Medal is about : recognizing greatness.

But How do we do that? How do we measure something like greatness ? Again, there’s no yardstick for that kind of thing. How Do we even define it? Well Beecher actually had an answer for that.

Greatness => Lies not to being strong , but in the right using of strength, He is the greatest whose strength carries up the most hearts.

He is the greatest, whose strength carries up the most hearts by the attraction of this own, without further ado, this year I am very proud to award Henry ward beecher medal to the student whose quiet strength has carried up the most hearts. So will August Pulman please come up here to receive this award ?

In Conclusion, it does, send a great message about how powerful kindness can be in a person’s life, if you are just a little bit kind can really change somebody’s life, being kind isn’t enough. You should give one level up from that points, being kinder 😊

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#Netflix Corona Virus Explained Review (1 of 50)

In 2020, the world changed. This topical series examines the coronavirus pandemic, the efforts to combat it and ways to manage its mental health toll. Some of the discussion will focus on several things such as the origin of viruses, how to spread, and so on. There are also some views from several groups such as health workers, military, government people, to entrepreneurs like Bill Gates.Gates is one of the parties who donated money for handling COVID-19 for the World Health Organization (WHO).

But lately a lot of discussion about a kind of conspiracy alleged that Gates was the one who actually created the virus. so sad :(

The latest data from WHO notes that until April 22, 2020, more than 3 million with the total death is 100,000.

The outbreak of this virus also changed many elements of life in society, ranging from shaking culture to work patterns. Today, many companies, educational institutions, until religious rituals move at home or online.

aside from Corona virus, the most important thing is you should manage your mental health as well, maintain your self to be happy as always! you too

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ditaarcanggi · 4 years

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One of the greatest mentor said to me today --“If you can touch people into their heart, you would be able to get their head.” There are many several points to be pointed out in order to have and maintain your friends in the near future. I particularly agree on what people said about these words, i realize it at some of the points.

“As you grow older, they are harder to replace, as people's lives become full, with no time left for developing new friendships. If you move after a certain age, those you meet in your age group do not have time for new friends”.

But there is the most important thing rather than focusing on the limiting sides and suggested having better conversation on how to create friends instead. Here are the tips that should be my reminder to create wider connections until on my time limit of life.

1. Breaking down and Deep dive on your plans in 5 to 10 years and what people should be connected to us.

2. Targeted what friends you want being your surrounding

3. Find your same interests with your counter parts.

Maintain your connection with the same languages of interest might be very helpfull on your next journey.

4. Maintanance your tolerance You may know what it's like to be the friend who seems to put in more effort than the other person: you contact your friend more than they contact you, you initiate plans more, and you just feel that the friendship is unbalanced or one-sided.

As you can see, friendships evolve over time for all kinds of reasons. The important thing is to focus on the friends you do have and make sure the friendships are reciprocal, so no resentment builds on anyone's end. #SelfReminder

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What Needs to Have Mentally Strong and Its Concept of Life.

Meeting a powerful women that can make others people feels so strong, she transfers an energy to have better life in filling day to day. Just wondered how she can be a good leader and makes everyone absolutely love her as much as they love their self and coming back again with the question ” what makes her to be loved so deeply, and What makes the difference?”

maybe most of us will answer these questions by talking about the talent of top performers. He must be the smartest. She’s faster than everyone else on the team. He is a brilliant business strategist. but the answers are not closely on that above answers.

In fact, when you start looking into it, your talent and your intelligence don’t play nearly as big of a role as you might think. The research studies that I have found say that intelligence only accounts for 30% of your achievement — and that’s at the extreme upper end. What makes a bigger impact than talent or intelligence? Mental toughness.

Research is starting to reveal that your mental toughness — or “grit” as they call it — plays a more important role than anything else for achieving your goals in health, business, and life. That’s good news because you can’t do much about the genes you were born with, but you can do a lot to develop mental toughness.

Why is mental toughness so important? And how can you develop more of it?

Let’s talk about that now.

Mental Toughness and The United States Military

Each year, approximately 1,300 cadets join the entering class at the United States Military Academy, West Point. During their first summer on campus, cadets are required to complete a series of brutal tests. This summer initiation program is known internally as “Beast Barracks.”

In the words of researchers who have studied West Point cadets, “Beast Barracks is deliberately engineered to test the very limits of cadets’ physical, emotional, and mental capacities.”

You might imagine that the cadets who successfully complete Beast Barracks are bigger, stronger, or more intelligent than their peers. But Angela Duckworth, a researcher at the University of Pennsylvania, found something different when she began tracking the cadets.

Duckworth studies achievement, and more specifically, how your mental toughness, perseverance, and passion impact your ability to achieve goals. At West Point, she tracked a total of 2,441 cadets spread across two entering classes. She recorded their high school rank, SAT scores, Leadership Potential Score (which reflects participation in extracurricular activities), Physical Aptitude Exam (a standardized physical exercise evaluation), and Grit Scale (which measures perseverance and passion for long–term goals).

Here’s what she found out…

It wasn’t strength or smarts or leadership potential that accurately predicted whether or not a cadet would finish Beast Barracks. Instead, it was grit — the perseverance and passion to achieve long–term goals — that made the difference.

In fact, cadets who were one standard deviation higher on the Grit Scale were 60% more likely to finish Beast Barracks than their peers. It was mental toughness that predicted whether or not a cadet would be successful, not their talent, intelligence, or genetics.

When Is Mental Toughness Useful?

Duckworth’s research has revealed the importance of mental toughness in a variety of fields.

In addition to the West Point study, she discovered that…

Ivy League undergraduate students who had more grit also had higher GPAs than their peers — even though they had lower SAT scores and weren’t as “smart.”

When comparing two people who are the same age but have different levels of education, grit (and not intelligence) more accurately predicts which one will be better educated.

Competitors in the National Spelling Bee outperform their peers not because of IQ, but because of their grit and commitment to more consistent practice.

And it’s not just education where mental toughness and grit are useful. Duckworth and her colleagues heard similar stories when they started interviewing top performers in all fields…

Our hypothesis that grit is essential to high achievement evolved during interviews with professionals in investment banking, painting, journalism, academia, medicine, and law. Asked what quality distinguishes star performers in their respective fields, these individuals cited grit or a close synonym as often as talent. In fact, many were awed by the achievements of peers who did not at first seem as gifted as others but whose sustained commitment to their ambitions was exceptional. Likewise, many noted with surprise that prodigiously gifted peers did not end up in the upper echelons of their field.

—Angela Duckworth

You have probably seen evidence of this in your own experiences. Remember your friend who squandered their talent? How about that person on your team who squeezed the most out of their potential? Have you known someone who was set on accomplishing a goal, no matter how long it took?

You can read the whole research study here, but this is the bottom line:

In every area of life — from your education to your work to your health — it is your amount of grit, mental toughness, and perseverance that predicts your level of success more than any other factor we can find.

In other words, talent is overrated.

What Makes Someone Mentally Tough?

It’s great to talk about mental toughness, grit, and perseverance … but what do those things actually look like in the real world?

In a word, toughness and grit equal consistency.

Mentally tough athletes are more consistent than others. They don’t miss workouts. They don’t miss assignments. They always have their teammates back.

Mentally tough leaders are more consistent than their peers. They have a clear goal that they work towards each day. They don’t let short–term profits, negative feedback, or hectic schedules prevent them from continuing the march towards their vision. They make a habit of building up the people around them — not just once, but over and over and over again.

Mentally tough artists, writers, and employees deliver on a more consistent basis than most. They work on a schedule, not just when they feel motivated. They approach their work like a pro, not an amateur. They do the most important thing first and don’t shirk responsibilities.

The good news is that grit and perseverance can become your defining traits, regardless of the talent you were born with. You can become more consistent. You can develop superhuman levels of mental toughness.

How?

In my experience, these 3 strategies work well in the real world…

1. Define what mental toughness means for you.

For the West Point army cadets being mentally tough meant finishing an entire summer of Beast Barracks.

For you, it might be…

going one month without missing a workout

going one week without eating processed or packaged food

delivering your work ahead of schedule for two days in a row

meditating every morning this week

grinding out one extra rep on each set at the gym today

calling one friend to catch up every Saturday this month

spending one hour doing something creative every evening this week

Whatever it is, be clear about what you’re going after. Mental toughness is an abstract quality, but in the real world it’s tied to concrete actions. You can’t magically think your way to becoming mentally tough, you prove it to yourself by doing something in real life.

Which brings me to my second point…

2. Mental toughness is built through small physical wins.

You can’t become committed or consistent with a weak mind. How many workouts have you missed because your mind, not your body, told you you were tired? How many reps have you missed out on because your mind said, “Nine reps is enough. Don’t worry about the tenth.” Probably thousands for most people, including myself. And 99% are due to weakness of the mind, not the body.

—Drew Shamrock

So often we think that mental toughness is about how we respond to extreme situations. How did you perform in the championship game? Can you keep your life together while grieving the death of a family member? Did you bounce back after your business went bankrupt?

There’s no doubt that extreme situations test our courage, perseverance, and mental toughness … but what about everyday circumstances?

Mental toughness is like a muscle. It needs to be worked to grow and develop. If you haven’t pushed yourself in thousands of small ways, of course you’ll wilt when things get really difficult.

But it doesn’t have to be that way.

Choose to do the tenth rep when it would be easier to just do nine. Choose to create when it would be easier to consume. Choose to ask the extra question when it would be easier to accept. Prove to yourself — in a thousand tiny ways — that you have enough guts to get in the ring and do battle with life.

Mental toughness is built through small wins. It’s the individual choices that we make on a daily basis that build our “mental toughness muscle.” We all want mental strength, but you can’t think your way to it. It’s your physical actions that prove your mental fortitude.

3. Mental toughness is about your habits, not your motivation.

Motivation is fickle. Willpower comes and goes.

Mental toughness isn’t about getting an incredible dose of inspiration or courage. It’s about building the daily habits that allow you to stick to a schedule and overcome challenges and distractions over and over and over again.

Mentally tough people don’t have to be more courageous, more talented, or more intelligent — just more consistent. Mentally tough people develop systems that help them focus on the important stuff regardless of how many obstacles life puts in front of them. It’s their habits that form the foundation of their mental beliefs and ultimately set them apart.

I’ve written about this many times before. Here are the basic steps for building a new habit and links to further information on doing each step.

Start by building your identity.

Focus on small behaviors, not life–changing transformations.

Develop a routine that gets you going regardless of how motivated you feel.

Stick to the schedule and forget about the results.

When you slip up, get back on track as quickly as possible.

Mental toughness comes down to your habits. It’s about doing the things you know you’re supposed to do on a more consistent basis. It’s about your dedication to daily practice and your ability to stick to a schedule.

How Have You Developed Mental Toughness?

Our mission as a community is clear: we are looking to live healthy lives and make a difference in the world.

To that end, I see it as my responsibility to equip you with the best information, ideas, and strategies for living healthier, becoming happier, and making a bigger impact with your life and work.

But no matter what strategies we discuss, no matter what goals we set our sights on, no matter what vision we have for ourselves and the people around us … none of it can become a reality without mental toughness, perseverance, and grit.

When things get tough for most people, they find something easier to work on. When things get difficult for mentally tough people, they find a way to stay on schedule.

There will always be extreme moments that require incredible bouts of courage, resiliency, and grit … but for 95% of the circumstances in life, toughness simply comes down to being more consistent than most people

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