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Answer me this atheists

If God never existed, then whose heavenly staircase did I march up, whose heavenly host did I best in battle, and whose severed head do I keep stowed in my basement?

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There aren’t many moments in life better than coming home from school/work after a long day of excessive social interaction and finally being alone

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INTJs are sensitive to rejection

I know this has been going around for a while and I don’t deny the truth in it. But I hate how there is little to none understanding in the meaning of rejection in the context of INTJ. 

So let me broaden the definition for those who think the meaning of rejection is just, “No.” 

Written by: A female INTJ and would most likely apply to other female INTJs, too. Might be a pervasive problem in women. Might even not. 

1. Rejection also include nonreciprocal feelings, interest, behavior and attitude, such as:

• When they sound so enthusiastic explaining about MBTI and you’re just like… meh. You’re not even bothered to read what they share or find other sources to show to the INTJ that you’re as interested as they are. 

• When they’re planning for future dates and while making a complete schedule and a list, you leave it to the INTJ and aren’t bothered to brainstorm or help them plan for the dates together. 

• When INTJ is asked about their feelings and they try their best to explain, together with examples and experiences and probably links to articles that could help understand them. And when they ask about yours, you just say, “I’m okay.”

• When the INTJ is so interested in what’s going on your mind and has frequently asked that (honestly, take this as a huge compliment) and you’d reply with, “Nothing,” or just “I don’t know.”

2. There are so much examples to give but to simplify things rejection is as simple as follows: 

It’s when you don’t put the same amount of energy, effort or interest as the INTJ. > It makes the INTJ feel tremendously stupid.  > They’ll most likely won’t do it again to avoid getting hurt.

3. Why, you ask?

It’s fairly obvious that we try our best to make smart decisions, including the ones that have a high risk of causing us pain. We avoid pain. We were confident that the ones we initiate things with, are the ones who won’t let us down. So when we mess up, like the ones above, it’s like falling down from a 5th floor and instead of the tragedy ending there, a heavy object lands on our damn face. It’s a, “I thought you won’t hurt me,” followed by, “I’m so stupid.”

So if you hurt an INTJ with rejection, You’re also going to hurt them with their inner critic. 

4. You want to know how their inner critic sounds like? 

“YOU MADE A WRONG DECISION.” “YOU SHOULD HAVE THOUGHT MORE CAREFULLY.”  “IT’S NOT HIS FAULT. IT’S YOUR FAULT FOR INITIATING IT.” “DON’T DO IT NEXT TIME.”

5. How to avoid 

• When they’re planning, help them.  • When they’re talking about x, try to educate yourself about x and talk with them about it. • Avoid saying these three words: “I don’t know.” • Whatever they’re doing for you, do the same for them. • Put the same amount of energy, effort and interest as the INTJ. • Make your presence known and felt.

Good luck.

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reminder: you can start over at anytime. your day is not ruined. your world is not over. take a deep breath. start over.

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Me trying to make conversation with people.

Me: So…..

Person: …..

Me: Who’s your favourite serial killer?

Person: Wtf..

Me: …. I’ll go now.

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Trying to order a drink like

*rehearsing my line*I’ll have a chocolate milkshake I’ll have a chocolate milkshake I’ll have a chocolate milkshake

Hello *flashes trademark customer service smile* What would you like to have?

I’ll shake a milk chocolate…have

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180325 // This one’s for the social introverts out there (like me), who feel uneasy when entering a room full of people. Thoughts run through my head “What if they think I’m awkward? What should I say? Oh, I shouldn’t have said that, OMG I’m sweating, oh god, they surely noticed, HELP!!” Here are some tips for having conversations at parties or other events with people you don’t know. These helped me to overcome stressfull situations and I hope they’ll do so for you.

Here are my other advice post an self development, mental health, self care etc.

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Petal bath | somewhere_thelabel

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Shes probably committing crimes right now