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Gratuitous selfie taken during my brother’s award ceremony. It looks like my going to a southern university has rubbed off on me.

Dress - Cato

Bangle - F21

Earrings - Deb Shops

Headband - Love Culture

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heading to boston!!

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Music

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What are you looking at?

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i’ve done nothing but post selfies, guys, please forgive me.

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Outtakes ♪

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Memory leak.

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I look cute right?? >3

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I don’t know if any of you have ever wondered what I look like, but here you go anyway. New jacket yeahhh.

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Love it when my hair behaves.

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Stayed home sick form school today, working on my research paper about anthrax. So, ya. Ya’ll should come talk to me. c:

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Whenever I get sad about my body I look at people with the same body type as mine and it makes me feel instantly better bc if someone else looks like me and is smokin hot that means i’m smokin hot too

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A girl that I know posted about how a girl that doesn’t have “the stomach” for a “stomach-showing shirt” should not be wearing said shirt.

I’ve seen a lot of posts like this recently, and hers just happened to be the post that I snapped at. Even though she claimed to be “joking,” she doesn’t understand that “jokes” don’t always translate and people still see that - joke or not.

I told my mom about this, and she asked, “Well, was she hurting you in any way by saying that?” as if I shouldn’t care that the girl posted what she did.

And here’s my answer to that:

Me, specifically? In a way, yes. I don’t have the greatest view of my body and I am overjoyed when I see someone who is completely comfortable with themselves to be able to wear what they want. When I see posts from girls (and guys) about how someone should dress, or look, or act, it causes me to get angry. I would like to be able to wear the stomach-showing shirts, and I definitely could because I’m not “fat” by any means, but I’m not the “skinny” that society declares as beautiful. Hurting me in a way that I won’t ever wear those shirts? No, probably not. It also goes along with who I spend my time with (majority of my time is spent with people 23-35ish) and they have a different view of the “perfect female body.” I also have found a sort of peace with my body and I actually love my curves - they need toning for my own personal gain, but still.

When I see posts like that, not only does it cause me discomfort for my own self, but I think about all of the people who see that post and feel even worse about themselves than I do about myself. I feel bad for the girl who will see that post, feeling confident in her body, and then having it all crushed by the numerous, superficial posts on social media.

No, you don’t need makeup to be beautiful, you don’t need to be “thin,” to be beautiful - you can wear whatever the fuck you want (assuming the private bits are covered in public, but even then…), whenever you want. You wanna wear that stomach-showing shirt, do it. Who gives a damn what you’re wearing? You’re the one wearing it - you just need to feel comfortable in whatever you’re wearing.

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I wore a crop top today for the first time in my life and it was such a liberating experience feeling like I didnt have to hide my tummy and “dress appropriately” for my shape, and I have to admit that being body positive is so absolutely hard to not think negative thoughts about myself, and training myself not to do so is gonna take much longer than I expected, but it is gonna be so worth it.

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My cats the only one who wants me