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do you like to give to a woman? or receive? because if you judge men who go to findommes; you're definitely the submissive receiver in your relationship

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in a world where men usually only give to women in order to take something afterwards; dominatrix work completely flips the script

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The Surprising Similarities Between a Nun and a Dominatrix

At first glance, a nun and a dominatrix may seem like total opposites; one cloaked in chastity and devotion, the other in leather and power. But underneath their aesthetics lie profound parallels: both are women who have renounced traditional roles, embody a sense of sacred authority, and live lives rooted in discipline, ritual, and command over others without offering physical intimacy.

Both nuns and dominatrixes operate within strict boundaries. The nun is untouchable by spiritual vow; the dominatrix is untouchable by choice. Both embody archetypes that intimidate and fascinate, the Divine Virgin and the Dark Goddess, and both carry a kind of erotic charge in the imagination of others, despite (or because of) their inaccessibility. One leads the soul closer to God, the other leads the psyche deeper into shadow. Both require submission.

And perhaps most provocatively: neither woman is here to please a man. She’s here to serve something higher; whether that’s the divine, or the deep feminine power within herself.

Xoxo, A

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Why Men May Have a Girlfriend and Still Go to a Findom

Because the needs a findom meets aren’t always physical or romantic; they're psychological, symbolic, and ritualistic.

Many men in relationships still seek out a financial dominatrix not because they’re dissatisfied sexually, but because they’re craving something they can’t ask for at home: power reversal, erotic surrender, structure, or feminine authority. In traditional relationships, men are often expected to lead, provide, initiate, and stay emotionally contained. It’s exhausting. But with a findom, they get to stop performing. They get to give without expectation, serve without manipulation, and experience submission in a clean, controlled container.

A girlfriend may offer love, affection, and sex; but she may not understand or feel comfortable embodying dominance. Most relationships aren’t built to hold power exchange, especially one where the man willingly becomes the giver, the pleaser, the one offering devotion and money not for access; but for approval.

Findom is also fantasy made real. It allows a man to serve a woman on a pedestal, to feel humbled, tamed, and used in a way that feels meaningful. It’s not cheating in the traditional sense, it’s ritual. It’s worship. It’s therapy, in high heels. And often, the girlfriend can’t even tell it’s missing, because it never existed in the first place.

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men love to virtue signal

Virtue Signaling as Mating Strategy — How Men Bypass Nature’s Protocols

In nature, mating protocols are primal and instinctual: strength, stability, protection, and proven leadership win the mate. Across species, males display their fitness through action, territory, or provision. But in modern society; where masculinity is no longer measured by real-world contribution; many men have learned to bypass this ancient protocol with something far more performative: virtue signaling. Instead of showing up as protectors, providers, or emotionally safe partners, they present as woke, empathetic, feminist allies, not because they live these values, but because they know these traits can grant them quick access to women’s trust, bodies, and attention.

This strategy works best on younger women; those still learning to decode behavior from intention. A man who parrots the “right” opinions can easily be mistaken for someone emotionally available, evolved, or loyal. But women in their 30s and 40s have seen enough to recognize the pattern: he’s not a feminist, he just doesn’t want to pay for dinner. He’s not emotionally intelligent, he’s just mastered therapy-speak. These women no longer fall for performance. They know that true character is shown through follow-through, consistency, and how a man behaves when no one’s watching. Virtue signaling is not virtue, it’s often just camouflage. And once a woman sees it, she can never unsee it again.

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misandry in astrology lives in the rage of lilith, the disillusionment of neptune, and the cold clarity of saturn after betrayal. it’s chiron in the 7th house, venus square mars, or a heavily pluto-aspected moon; women who’ve seen too much, felt too deeply, and learned that patriarchy often wears a smile. this isn’t about hating men; it’s about naming the pain, reclaiming the narrative, and refusing to shrink. astrology doesn’t judge; it reveals: misandry is sometimes the scar tissue of survival.

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If I were a multi-billionaire, I would never go on another date with a man again; because I’d never need to. The entire ritual would become obsolete. No more sitting across from someone trying to impress me with surface-level charm while I monitor my smile, angle my posture, subtly adjust my hair, and measure every word so I don’t come off as too much, too loud, too opinionated. The truth is, those coffee chats and dinner dates are auditions.

They are unpaid performances where women constantly self-edit, hoping to be chosen. But when you hold everything, the power, the wealth, the freedom; you stop auditioning. You become the chooser. A man doesn’t get your time anymore just because he asked politely. He must offer something rare: presence, purpose, depth, worship. Otherwise, you already have everything you could ever want, why settle for small talk and emotional labor in a dress you bought yourself?

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A findomme doesn’t chase. She creates gravity. Her energy pulls what’s meant to serve her into orbit, and lets the rest drift into the void.

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True submission isn’t always physical. Sometimes, it’s digital. A man wires his power to her, not to own her; but to worship her.

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The Dominatrix and the Misconception of Sex Work

The dominatrix is often misunderstood; misfiled in society’s imagination under the broad umbrella of sex work, simply because her realm is erotic. But eroticism does not equal sex, and domination does not require intimacy of the physical kind. A dominatrix’s power lies not in what she does with her body, but in what she evokes with her presence. Her realm is psychological, symbolic, energetic. She commands with her voice, her rules, her rituals; not with nudity or touch. And because her offerings involve no sexual contact unless she chooses otherwise, what she practices is not traditional sex work. It’s power work.

The misconception that domination is inherently sexual is deeply rooted in the male gaze; society assumes that if a woman is commanding attention and being paid for it, sex must be the currency. But the dominatrix subverts this entirely. She does not offer her body as a reward. In fact, her refusal to offer sex is what amplifies her mystique. She becomes a fantasy, not a transaction. The submissive pays not to have her, but to be seen by her, trained by her, brought into a higher awareness of service and structure. It’s a sacred exchange rooted in consent, control, and energetic polarity. And that, by definition, exists far outside the boundaries of sex work.

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It’s not about the money. It’s about what the money symbolizes; devotion, recognition, surrender. In findom, every tribute whispers: 'I see your worth, and I honor it.'

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