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To reiterate

Not enough of you know about the Birds Head Haggadah, and that

is a damn

shame

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The real gender validation that we all need 

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EVERYBODY DO THE WENIS 🕺 THE WENIS IS A DANCE 💃 EVERYBODY IS A GENIUS 🧠 WHO KNOWS IT IN ADVANCE 👯

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love when a mutual in law becomes a mutual. like yaaaay :) it's like the godfather but if they all said yaaaay :))))

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The FAST skill is useful for working to communicate in a way that preserves relationships while also maintaining one’s own self-respect.

be Fair - Validate your own emotions as well as the person you are communicating with.

Listen to others’ needs but also do not avoid voicing your own needs. Another person’s wants and needs are important. So are yours. Try to keep both people in mind, and try to be open to compromise, but do not allow your desires to be ignored. Compromise may allow both of you to get what you need.

don’t Apologize unnecessarily - Many people over-apologize, or apologize when they haven’t actually done anything wrong. They may apologize for having an opinion or for disagreeing, or to calm conflict or soothe anger.

This can lead to undermining one’s own self-respect, and may also make you seem insincere when you have good reason to apologize, and you are really sorry. If you apologize for everything, it may be hard to tell when you actually mean it.

Stick to your values - Don’t do things that go against what you are sure is right for you. Don’t go along with things just to impress a new friend or please a new partner, if they are against your values.

If they push you to give up your values, maybe that relationship isn’t right for you.

be Truthful - Don’t tell lies. Don’t stretch the truth, or exaggerate, or make up excuses.

Making a habit of being untruthful often has a way of coming back to bite you, and of harming relationships. It’s better to avoid it completely.

Disclaimer: This advice is meant to be used for relationships that you want or need to preserve. It is also not meant to be used in a situation that you feel may be unsafe.

Read about other DBT skills here.

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Pride isn’t a “queer-friendly space”, pride IS queer space.

Kink doesn’t “belong” at pride, kink IS pride.

To say that these things are just-kind-of-also-included is such a diluted view of what these things actually are. These spaces have been mentally purified for so many people as things that are “also-okay-for-gays!”–

No!!

These spaces ARE OURS. Not just “friendly to us”. Not just “inclusive to us”. They ARE us. We don’t just “belong”… We’re the reason it exists in the first place!

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newbie fic authors, shooting themselves in the foot: This fic is bad haha I suck at writing lol I am being mean to myself in the hopes that you will be nice to me but actually am dissuading anyone from even clicking on my fic because all I have done to advertise it is tell you why you shouldn't read it

me: I am King Big Dick of Fanfic Mountain and I have arrived in your fandom with the Express Intention of writing my Very Favorite Fics, which I will generously allow you to read. You're welcome.

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Hyper-realistic packers are OUT packers that look like these things are IN

Yes the fish are included, they live in the balls

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Kind of hilarious to me how poorly the title "Mob Psycho 100" localized to English-speaking areas. To someone whose first language is English, it scans as:

Mob (Yakuza, Mafia)

Psycho (violent person with "crazy" behaviors)

Thus: a particularly violent member of organized crime.

But in Japanese it scans as:

Mob (background characters in crowd scenes in manga or anime)

Psycho (short for psychic)

Thus: a psychic who looks/acts like someone you'd never pick out of a crowd scene in a comic.

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are certain lubes better suited for vaginal or anal sex? or are they all the same?

hi anon,

water-based, oil-based, and silicone-based lube are all suitable for either vaginal or anal sex. many people prefer silicone-based lubricants for anal sex because it's so long-lasting and durable, which is helpful when you're working with an orifice that won't naturally lubricate itself. oil-based lubricants are also a no-go with latex condoms, which is relevant for both vaginal and anal sex. beyond that it's all a matter of personal preference!

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hey so like

hi, you. yeah im talking to you. You like my stuff from time to time and reblog once and a while, and I always recognize you in my notes. we’ve never talked, maybe you dont like to say much or you’re nervous or something. it’s okay, whatever it is. 

I see you. you mean a lot to me. sometimes when I’m having a hard day, I’ll notice your name once again in my notifs and it makes me smile. im not kidding.

I don’t care if you’re a “ghost” follower or you send me asks all the time. i see you and I love you so much, genuinely and truly. you are really important to me. 

thank you. thank you for being there. <3

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Blue flag does many subtle things remarkably well, but one of my favorite is that Taichi is a pretty average looking protagonist, but every once in a while the camera/POV switches to the perspective of someone who's in love with him and suddenly he's gorgeous. Nothing about him changes- he's drawn with the exact same features as always- but it's instantly obvious why they love him. We see him through their eyes instead of through Taichi's own, and he becomes the most beautiful person in the world and he doesn't even realize it.

Taichi looks up at Touma with doe eyes and food stuck to his face and suddenly he's heart achingly cute. He gives a full body laugh and it's so rare and genuine that Futaba/we through Futaba's eyes stare in lovestruck awe.

It's just. It's so subtle and deftly conveys so, so much without uttering a single word. But it also strengthens the fact that the camera POV is tied to the characters. So when Taichi/the default POV does the same to the others, every time it oogles Touma or makes Futaba glow, that's Taichi. That's his feelings, his love, his attraction that he doesn't even realize he's feeling yet. And you reach that final reveal in the final pages of the story and then you go back to the beginning and you the reader have the fanfic oh. moment. Because it's been there all along.

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In 1944 a kitten named George (short for General Electric) was saved from drowning by a U.S. Navy crew member. George was then photographed and given a liberty card and detailed health record. Source.

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do you ever hear people talking about something and you’re like. fuck. let me be real for a second. i’m too much of a commie to have this conversation

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I genuinely feel like I’m going insane sometimes